The Narcissist Borderline Does NOT Have Friends, Here's Why!

hi everyone today I'm going to talk about friends I'm going to talk about toxic people and why they don't have any it's sad it is um their mental illness their behaviors means they know no relationships are functional whether they last long or not I don't know but we seek Comfort humans seek comfort more than anything not happiness like you many of you think just Comfort that's it right I just want peace right I just want to be comfortable relationships offer the biggest source of that comfort so they're never comfortable it's sad and they don't know that they don't know why they think they have friends but they don't they don't get it they don't realize it they don't know um now not all right I'm sure there's going to be some people that are narcissist or Port Alliance chimed down below and say I have great friends and stuff like this okay the problem with your mental illness is you lack self- awor is you don't know um but I can't say all don't have friends sure some have friends some truly believe they have friends and they're not they talk bad about them they accuse them of things they didn't do they bait them try to control them they're not there for them they don't have much to offer do they surface examples I've I've there's and I'm not going to single out anybody but there's someone on YouTube She's a diagnosed sociopath makes lots of videos I've watched some and she goes on and on about how great a friend she has and she's a great friend to them and when I see them interact she's just completely narcissistic it's just all about her it's gross your friends are total losers your your friends have no conscious self it's just all there for you they have contacts they have Associates potential targets victims they don't have friends they don't they have no idea how to be a friend Psychopaths and most manipulative exploitive people can be charming and fun and exciting polite and nice and sharing and open can't they we must have higher standards but this is only at first see the typical n like extreme narcissist psychopath they'll go through high school they might be popular they might be the president things like this and and and they they move into different groups it's it's real common for psychopaths to move around a lot literally from like City to city and they'll drain and exploit everyone they can and move right on to the next and everybody likes at first they're gravitating yay fun and it's usually about two or three months or they're not so popular anymore people are just they're done with them the popularity soon dies people leave besides that they get feelings of of like off-putting is the best one I can use uncomfortable obnoxious things like this there's nothing deep it's shallow it can't last long shallow personalities no goals aspirations interests desire s or they're just pipe dreams fantasies Grandeur don't make sense it's just about being rich goodlooking famous fake never follows through total entitlement I can I should be famous and Rich for what what have you done nothing why they're unstable this makes them impulsive they stop and start relationships suddenly they look for immediate gratification shortterm relationships cuz they go too fast but the biggest is never ever emotional connection people who lack massive self-awareness don't care who you are let me be very clear with that someone that does not know who they are doesn't care who you are they don't even care who they are they don't want to know they neglect and they deny and they try to just ignore how they feel everything about them themselves they don't care who you are there's no commitment they lack commitment commitment requires investment what has a toxic narcissist borderline how do they invest in your relationship I would love to know can anyone out there tell me how they invest in your relationship what did they do nothing take take take exploit extract use suck yeah I don't mean that kind of suck like suck your energy right out of you they have no moral value or Compass I know they say they do that's what lacking self-awareness means they don't value honesty Integrity respect self-respect loyalty compassion Integrity or I said that remorse empathy none of this they don't care but it sounds good relationships are never equal they're never equal they seek power and control only a small percentage will fall for this even the ones that do though that's not a friendship if you need deep emotional connection don't settle not that not that don't settle don't don't don't don't say oh yeah I'm going to spend the rest of my life with somebody and never have an emotional connection this video is inspired by the comments you guys left in my video yesterday yesterday's video was 12 ways or 12 signs they don't love you and some of the comments down there they're great but I wanted to make this video so you would understand there's no deep emotional connection you are telling me in those comments that you need it and you're telling me that you spent time and had a relationship and you're committed to someone who never did it borderlines and narcissists don't emotionally connect to people they never have emotional connection is a dire emotional need for most of us and why because we emotionally connected with someone growing up in our childhood it could have been Mom it could have been dad it could have been Grandma Grandpa Uncle Aunt sister brother friends friends parents teachers babysitters someone who looks you in the eye and treat you like a human not a child not a pain but a human and once you have that you need it forever desperately but if you're going to spend your life with someone who's never emotionally connected they're never going to emotionally connect with you they don't need it they don't want it they're avoid it they push you away they feel vulnerable don't like it too close too smothering friend what's your definition of a friend can you guys just tell me or just tell me some key factors some points uh I I read and I don't remember it's probably AI a person we know where we Bond and have mutual affection that's one definition I looked up I need from my friends mandatory or you're not my friend unless you love me unconditional unless your care for me is unconditional that you can forgive me it's okay if I fail you love me when I'm down and I'm up you celebrate with me and you cry with me it feels good they always have my back and I always have theirs we're friends forever we have shared values all of them and a deep emotional connection that makes us equal building an architecture of a relationship with meaning and purpose you think you got that with your borderline narcissist no never and we might think we did we're not sure maybe we had someone that did emotionally connect with us in childhood but we also had parents that did not so we need it but we're used to not having it it's a condition right and so we seek this emotional connection we need it but we're used to people that don't Supply it people who are not emotionally available like that and we're used to that we keep trying and trying and trying not accepting that they don't do it let me know what you guys think what a friend is give me some examples how you know that they're not they weren't your friend that they can't be friends a borderline narcissist will have people in their phone and they need something every day from you because they're not self-reliant they exploit you and they will text five of you and whoever replies first that's it screw the other four of you don't care don't need you right now I'll need you tomorrow and they don't reciprocate a damn thing that's how they gain power over us and control over us so let me know what you guys think a friend is some some things that it requires for you yeah let me know some examples if you can I'd appreciate that but always love yourself first guys okay appreciate a thumbs up subscribe to the channel you want coaching with me you can 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