Borderline, Narcissist, Histrionic Bullying/Smearing/Accusing

hi everybody my name is David thanks for joining me for this video it's about bowling I've made other videos about this this is a little bit more information specifically by people that are borderline narcissist histrionic sociopaths I made a petition I really appreciate you guys supporting thank you for those of you who have supported it signed it and shared it it's called stop narcissistic online bullying it's at change.org SL stop bullies the links will be right down below comment section description box it's Global I would hope that you would follow it sign it say yes maybe even share it with someone thank you very much these are people with severe mental illness okay now when we go back to children they may not have severe mental illness yet I don't know there might be some that just haven't developed empathy yet and they still will some Even After High school but personality disorders people with these can't form and maintain healthy relationships with people this causes depression most people in cluster bees are all depressed okay we are just absolute social creatures and we need Society we need people we need relationships period without them we're depressed the further I always say the further we get away from society the more depressed we are the more extreme are so they can't do this at all and they're depressed they're also high conflict personality types they don't get along with people very well they seek attention and adoration and control over others and may want to destroy you for Revenge you think that you did something to them you rejected them there's different reasons people do it it's not all those main thing is control I believe bullying online is personal online or personal is about the bully and Obsession the victim may be prone to this may be neglected at home too but it really depends on how you react it really matters how we react to this okay so someone that might be neglected and abused at home and doesn't have support they may feel like they need to fight this on their own and defend themselves so no relationships with people means no life okay I don't care what you're doing for a job I don't care what you like to do by yourself on your own time but you can have relationship of people you're depressed and you obsess you idealize at least child bullies have been bullied at home at least neglected and abused they're taking it out of another kid they lost their power things like this adult bullies are very antisocial I'm not saying they all have antisocial personality disorder that's different they're antisocial they're going against the grain of society attacking members in it they don't care about rules and laws they don't care about human rights just peace and life and make a living stuff like this they don't care they may be a sadist they may enjoy hurting you watching you hurt they may even be a member of the dark Triad High in psychopathy narcissism and melanism what do we do when we're bullied smeared falsely accused a common reaction that we may all have is emotional we get upset might get angry that's the most common reaction to being falsely accuse accuse of something we have not done is to be angry be careful how you express anger you must express it but be careful how we express anger it's one of the biggest emotions we need to be very aware and very careful of how we express this but in this situation we tend to defend this is what they want this is what gets the whole cycle going do not defend against F false accusations something you didn't do by someone that doesn't know you very well the number one cause of self-inflicted death I don't want to say the word for young people is this so it's a huge problem I don't understand people's uh uh reaction to hearing things like this isn't that big of a deal they don't support my petition and stuff like this it's beyond me I don't know must not understand it very well or the severity of it maybe if you lost a child you would for young people and no support neglectful family neglectful schools and irresponsible online platforms is why this happens there's a case the most highly publicized youth taking their own life is a 15-year-old named Nate brunstein went to Chicago prep school he falsely accused of being unvaccinated remember what that did to all of us divided us and attacked each other he was falsely accused of being unvaccinated and he was he was he was vaccinated but the students became hostile and he took his own life another case is in Newport High School in Washington state exgirl Fang claimed that he was physically abusive he wasn't there's no proof of this no measure of this and the other students joined in on this and called them names and tacked him and he took his own life but these are nothing compared to what's really going on out there nothing schools are following programs they aren't just being like whatever don't care they're following a program developed by the field of bowling psychology about 23 years ago it started kind of almost pre- online Psychology today is where I got this article from says that it's making bullying worse why defense there's a very false idea about bowling especially with children is that the child is unable to defend their self they can't the bullly is bigger stuff like this that's flawed extremely flawed so here's the process what a bully does the bully makes the false accusation the victim is upset and defends their s this encourages the bully to do more and then others join in called useful idiots the defense position is the weaker one in turn the bully keeps attacking can you see that false accusation no I didn't no I didn't no I didn't no I didn't makes them weaker and weaker and weaker and looks weaker to everybody else and this makes people take the side of a stronger looking person see that sad I mean we have a Judicial System here don't know how great and strong and not flawed that is but it's amazing that we will ruin someone's life just over someone saying something especially today we know people make false accusations all the time I mean they're public people in our personal life your relationships the borderline narcissist sociopath histrionic psychopath that you knew that would bully you the biggest way they did it was false accusations this is all about control how do we control someone we control their feelings their emotions what their body is doing inside we can control someone by controlling that one of the biggest ways is fear right if I accuse you of something that's goes against Society you might fear of losing Society losing relationships that's the big one I mean I people can do it with your job they can do it with all kind of things in your life but I can control You by controlling your emotional reactions making you scared making you angry right the baiting The Narcissist borderline baiting you poking you proding you falsely accusing you this puts you in defense mode weak so this Instinct that we have to get upset and angry and defend ourselves served us really well in prehistoric times it was about our physical needs right my home my food stuff like this so you defend those things yes but social rules are different the magical response this is bology today I didn't get the author I'm sorry the magical response is do you believe that do you believe it from the victim to the bully or to other people supporting it it turns the table on the bully and forces them to defend theirself doesn't it can you see that someone accuses me of something no I didn't no I didn't I would never do that no I didn't no I didn't no I didn't or just oh do you believe that you do oh okay well you have the right to keep believing that if you want okay and that's it they don't get the emotional reaction that they want now I know I've never said that but I know not arguing not getting angry not going back and forth and attacking them and stuff like this works took me seven years to get someone doing this to me to stop and they'll probably start again they're completely obsessed but they went on to another victim and then a few other victims now and they're reacting and they're fighting back and they're doing all this it's really sad we cannot control others opinions right we can't control people we definitely can't control their opinions of us all right people tend to believe the things they hear first when they don't know you but let's try to only value the opinions of people who we have relationships with that we value the relationships okay my best friend my wife my child I care about their opinions right but movie review RS restaurant reviews you guys ever ordered like you know online delivery and you try to look at these different restaurants and the reviews and there's good and bad ones in every single place almost every single place has like what four and a half stars out of five it's like yeah you go on Amazon find a product is it good you can find six products that are the same with different names different companies every single one has got bad reviews good reviews it's the best one the worst one the best one the worst one the best one the worst one we determine who we are and we don't let people change us we don't let people change that and nobody knows us better than us so just show who you are you don't need to defend yourself against this stuff I think this works good because really someone making accusation stuff it's just their opinion just their opinion that's why it can't be proven that's why they need to make up false try to make up false evidence to prove it I am very sorry for anybody and everybody who's going through something like this who's gone through this kind of bullying smearing attacking false accusations I know a lot of you have even been to jail over false accusation that is awful if you can somehow show that that never happened you can sue the hell out of him just let you know that might be the only fight that you have if you want to fight go the legal route go the legal which be criminal and civil criminal charges civil repercussions okay but we have to stand together and not destroy people's lives we think are bad or someone tells us that are bad we have to keep public attacks and accusations out of our Lives all right okay if somebody wants to accuse somebody of something they have every right to take it to the authorities or Sue that person but just doing on public forums online stuff like this is disgusting you're a gross person that does that and I know some of you watching this video are gross and do that you're disgusting yeah all you have to do is just get your own life all you have to do is get a couple friends a friend maybe just need a job I don't know but yeah severe mental illness if you're doing this and you know it you have no control over your life you want to control other people it's disgusting this will not get worse it may get a little worse before it gets better but this will start changing soon I know it will I feel it I feel it it's it's it's affecting enough people now to make a change we have enough publicized cases changes need to be brought uh we need changes for this stuff um I'll put that article in Psychology today uh down in the description box if you guys want to read it and it'll tell you who wrote it I don't know the author I'd really appreciate it if you could support my petition it's grown slow I even had some problems with it but we need to be here for each other and that doesn't mean attack who we think is bad that means just treat each other like human beings civil that's it yes some personal problem with someone don't he it wouldn't that just solve it all instead of wondering who's telling the truth and who's guilty and who's bad who's good how about the people just yelling this [ __ ] out in public be silenced shut up no one listen to them no one react to it it's the useful idiots that make it happen and make people take their own lives young people number one cause that's it guys anybody have questions about this stuff if you think I can help you please ask me down below I got a weekly Q&A video you can ask there too okay and i' appreciate it thumbs up support the channel by subscribing sharing the video If you believe that this is helpful to you or someone else anybody that wants to coaching you can find me at David dear.com and most of all love yourself first guys okay thank you bye-bye