What Happens When BPD is Untreated?

hi everyone thanks for joining me for this video today it's going to be about what happens to people with borderline personality disorder if they don't get treatment if they don't get help untreated BPD what happens now this isn't for all this isn't for everyone with borderline personality disorder I've been researching and studying this disorder for many years and there is a ton of uh misunderstanding and stigmas about this disorder that I have I believe I've been able to work around and find truth to this disorder I'm not a doctor I'm only a certified professional coach I've had lots of Lifetime experiences with people with this disorder I've had tons of years of experience helping people that have had people with this disorder in their life and like I said I've studied and researched this talked to tons and tons of mental health professionals about this disorder so I think I have a pretty good understanding anybody wants to tell me I'm wrong please tell me but you have to tell me where or how um all I usually get is people saying that I don't do this or you're you're all wrong tell me where I want to know I want to I want to be correct I'm doing this to help people not so much with this disorder but people that have people with this disorder in their life that's what these videos are for this is a very serious mental illness but it doesn't have to be permanent doesn't have to be for everybody um I hear that I've heard haven't seen doesn't mean it it's not true I just I've heard that some people can simply grow out of this disorder I've heard many people say that God will cure this disorder for you I don't know about that typically what I've learned is it could take up to 10 years of therapy dialectical behavioral therapy for this to go into remission it can often return and age is a big factor I'll get into the three four most important factors in a minute this is a personality disorder this is not who they are it's not just a fault or something in their personality this is mental illness this is developed and we hope because it's developed it can be changed uh borderline personality disorder is a disorder that is on a spectrum and I think two important factors are spectrum and functionality people can be high and low Spectrum in this disorder and also high and low functioning what are they together helps determine where they are and odds of getting better uh the clients that come to me uh and and what my videos are about when I'm talking about this disorder I'm talking about higher SP Spectrum or lower functioning or both higher Spectrum lower functioning this is what I'm talking about this is why I discuss people with this disorder and their behaviors toxic behaviors abuse exploitation stuff like this and and then there's people I'm sure that have borderline personality disorder that don't abuse and exploit people I would never say that there aren't I would bet that there are but I'm talking about extreme cases that that's why I'm doing these videos that's why people come to me for help um higher Spectrum lower functioning typically means more DPT therapy maybe less chances for remission I think the most important factor is age big time your brain stops growing at about 25 26 maybe different for male and female and your person personality begins to develop as you enter adulthood our brain makes us better at what we do you create neuro Pathways and a neuro architecture by what you're doing by your behaviors the choices you make your brain's trying to make you better at it better and better and better building neurop Pathways as you keep doing these behaviors it's like um once you start lying it gets easier and easier to lie you become less aware of it it's not as big of a deal they say don't drink on the job the first times course you may keep doing it um so I think the the first factor is where are they in the Spectrum and functionality second factor is age as you get older it's harder to change you can talk to any mental health professional it's not just me telling you but as clients get higher in age they're less likely to change Le likely to take your suggestions less likely to cure something major make major bigger changes in your life maybe just a couple few small ones third biggest Factor are they able to understand the problems they're having what the problems are are they able to see that the problem is theirs theirs to own and theirs to change and are they willing to do anything and everything to get better because that's what it takes when you're talking about bad behaviors and I was I was just talking about them a minute ago and how difficult they can be to change and because they're so difficult to change they can't just change behaviors they have to understand and learn what the correct responses behaviors are like a drug addict who can't make themselves feel better or function without drugs like a crutch you can't just take the crutch away without teaching them how to cope how to manage things like this cope learn communicate regulate yourself and so let me be very clear about something that borderline personality disorder doesn't do these three things they don't borderline personality disorder doesn't exploit people they don't it doesn't abuse people and it doesn't dehumanize people people do people are doing this the person not the disorder oh I have BPD great and oh oh that's a reason you're doing it no doesn't work right self-awareness self-reliance is what's lacking when they exploit you they're lacking the self-awareness of who they are and the ability to rely on themselves and care for themselves you would have to stop if you want someone to get better if someone has to get better stop abusing people stop lashing out projecting and gaslighting and controlling and threatening and lying and cheating dehumanizing people objectifying them sexual objectification Financial objectification emotional objectif physical objectification believing a person is an object has anybody out there done that that that as far as you know doesn't have borderline or if you do whatever I mean I've never dehumanized someone to a sheer object um they they say sex almost almost all sex is in a way deing I kind of think of it as like if I want to stop dehumanizing people it would be the same as finding the human in my microwave no connection no relating what's really important is people that lack empathy and compassion and remorse something to look at someone that might have this disorder or someone something to look at yourself if you might have this disorder do you lack empathy compassion and remorse does the person in your life with this disorder lack empathy compassion and remorse they may not vow some of the things you value one simple respect right do they respect your human rights the right to live and have a job and make an income and right to peace right to privacy I don't know if you can teach that in DBT I don't know I've never taken it I haven't heard no one's told me if they teach these things in dialectical behavioral thir when untreated think of this disorder and stress kind of going hand inand childhood stress and Trauma creating this disorder developing this disorder and if it's going to be untreated typically it means more stress low functionality means I can't keep form and maintain healthy relationships I may not be able to keep a job live in one place higher spectrum means means I may not be able to you or I feel so anxious and so depressed and overwhelmed all the time stress stress this kinds of stress untreated borderline can lead to self Haring behavior taking your own life Tendencies negative thoughts and feelings violin Behavior I have to talk in code on YouTube plus more mental illness disorders diagnosis anxiety disorders depression disorders addiction disorders obsessive compulsive disorders dissociative identity disorder it can lead to antisocial personality disorder social path 40% of people diagnosed with borderline are also diagnosed or also have narcissistic personality disorder worse symptoms higher spectrum is what that means if you think you have borderline or you do or if you think you have you want to know get a professional diagnosis don't diagnose yourself don't come ask me uh and get professional help get professional help no matter what we can all become better versions of ourself yeah and everyone can heal from trauma so if you have the disorder or you don't regardless you can become a better version of yourself and you can heal from your trauma the other parts dehumanizing and stuff like this abusing I don't know about that part if you're a victim if you have someone in your life with this disorder if you have a relationship someone you believe might have this disorder you might need to step outside this relationship and tell somebody else and ask for help talk to somebody who knows what they're doing okay I'd appreciate it thumbs up subscribe to the channel you can find me 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