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The older you get, the more humiliated you feel.
The closer you get to your old age, the weaker you become.
You become weak both physically and mentally.
Loneliness and the threats of the disease,
the fear of death,
are the three major things that old people face.
But it's a very natural state of mind.
Because the older you get, the more lonely you feel.
Nowadays, more and more parents have to live alone,
without children to talk to and take care of.
Many people feel lonely even when they have children by their side.
Because they live close by, in the same house,
but they don't receive the care and understanding
from the children they give birth to and raise.
Let's listen to the following stories together.
The first story.
Sitting in a villa, missing the warmth.
Sitting in a three-story luxury villa,
lying behind a green lawn,
on Le Thanh Ton Street, Quang Ngai City,
is the home of an old married couple.
They are Mr. Bui Thi and Mrs. Nguyen Thi Lai.
This year, the couple is also over 80 years old.
Under a large stove,
the air is suffocating.
Mrs. Lai pours rice into the pot,
then puts it in the rice cooker,
preparing for lunch.
In a large mansion,
there are only two old married couples.
The couple has four children,
three boys and one girl.
The children have all grown up,
and are working in Saigon.
One of them opens an office,
establishes his own company for business,
and develops his own business.
Her only daughter works abroad,
and is lucky enough to get a rich husband,
establish a business,
give birth to a child,
and settle down there.
Every 2-3 months,
her children from Saigon or abroad
send money,
send boxes of milk to their hometowns
for tens of millions of VND.
She says,
how much is the retirement age?
Just the pension of the household,
the monthly medical bills,
is enough for her to cover
the cost of living in the countryside.
All the money her children send home,
she saves it
in case she gets sick
or gives it to her children later.
The couple is poor,
has a lot of debts,
and sometimes feels sad
when she tells them
that her husband built this three-story mansion
with the money he earned from selling the land
so that his children could live there.
But people are not as good as God.
Her children are far away from home,
and no one wants to go home.
On New Year's Day,
some go home,
some don't.
On New Year's Day,
most of them don't go home
because they are too busy
doing business,
cooking,
going out,
traveling,
and resting on New Year's Day.
Because of that,
her children only send money
and send gifts to their hometowns
to show them
the blessings of their children.
A few years ago,
every time she missed her children,
her husband and wife
would go to the bus station
to go to Saigon to visit their children.
But these two years,
her health was weak,
her arms were aching,
and it was difficult to walk.
Fortunately,
her husband had dementia,
so she could not go far,
or go to Saigon to visit
and stay with her children
for 10 days and half a month.
Nearly a decade ago,
her children from Saigon came back to Italy
and asked her husband
to sell all the houses,
gardens,
land,
and then live there
and stay with her children
for convenient care.
However,
her husband did not agree
because his hometown
was a place
where they hid their money
and even buried their ancestors.
So,
the two old women
became more and more lonely
in the vast houses
that lacked the laughter
of their children.
The old woman's eyes
were full of worries.
She said
she was only afraid
that the old woman
would live in a cage.
At night,
if something happened,
or if she was sick,
she would not have her children
by her side.
She just hoped
God would bless her
with the peace
of her old age.
If God called her to come back,
she would ask her husband
to go with her gently,
not to make her suffer
and blame her children.
Ladies and gentlemen,
many parents in their hometown
gave birth to children
when they were young.
They never thought
they would live in peace,
happiness,
and be with their children.
However,
in reality,
many couples
have to live in solitude
in their own house,
where their children
used to be
a warm,
lively,
and smiling home.
Because their children
have their own problems,
their own joys,
and no one cares
about their parents
who are far away
from their hometown.
At an old age,
they are worried
about how their children
are doing,
if they are doing well,
if they are healthy,
if they have a good job.
Besides,
there are many children
who live far away
from their family
and often have the idea
that if they do not have
the conditions to live
with their parents
or do not visit their parents
regularly,
they can report
by sending money
to their hometown
every month.
This is also a way
to divide the report
and be responsible
for their parents
to be satisfied.
Besides,
two generations
are too far apart
in terms of life
and opinions.
Even if they meet,
they do not know
what to say.
The gap between
the two generations
is getting bigger
every 5 months.
However,
some people
know
and understand
the loneliness
of their parents,
especially of the elderly
when they are far away
from home.
In fact,
the elderly
look at their children
as mature,
successful
and happy.
The elderly
always need their children
by their side.
They need a family atmosphere
that is more meaningful
than money
being sent
every month.
The elderly parents
need to see their children
get together
in the Tet holidays.
That is the joy,
the happiness,
the bond,
the love
and the care
of the elderly
when they are sick.
The second story
is about a man
who thought
he was warm
and caring
but turned out
to be lonely.
My ex-neighbor
had a very weak
old man.
He lived alone
in a small house
which was
dozens of square meters.
His wife
had to live
with her daughter
because she was pregnant.
Her son
had to live
with his wife
sometimes.
Every day,
he rode his bike
to the park
to exercise.
Three meals a day.
Sometimes,
his daughter
would cook
for him
to eat.
He lived alone
like that
but when he met anyone
he would
smile,
greet
and be happy.
But he didn't know
if his smile
hid any sadness
or sadness.
He couldn't do
any heavy work
but he was
a man
who didn't like
to complain
so he proposed
to his wife
to protect him
in a boarding school
near his house.
Of course,
his son
didn't agree
and said
he would
just rest
and his family
wouldn't be poorer
or richer
with the money
he earned.
His daughter
thought
not letting him
do anything
was the best
for him
because
he was
enjoying
his old age.
One day,
his daughter
came home
to pick him up
so that his parents
could be close
to each other
and his children.
It was a small apartment
with a narrow living room.
The children
were grown up
and went to school
so everyday
they had nothing
to do
except for eating
and drinking.
His son
was supposed
to be close to his parents
but maybe
he didn't come
all week
because
he went to work
from morning
to evening
and came back
late
to pick him up
and take him
to school
here and there.
They were so busy
that they didn't
have time
to visit
the old lady
who was
blind
and slow
and didn't dare
to go anywhere
and didn't know
where to go
to be healthy.
When people
looked at him,
they saw
that he had
a very
luxurious
life
and his old age
was close
to his children
and his children
was also
influenced
by his old age
but for these things
he was not
really happy
and thought
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