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6 things that can help you live a more meaningful life. Ladies and gentlemen, wrong and right are determined by people and society. We know a lot of things that are right and we follow them. But no one has ever taught us what is wrong. Therefore, sometimes we make mistakes that we don't even know about. We only do what we like, what we want, and we think that we don't need to affect anyone. But when that affects your life, you start to resent. As if you didn't do that. Below are 6 things that can help you live a more meaningful life so you don't have to look back and regret. Let's listen and think about life together. First, treat strangers well, but treat your loved ones badly. At the weekend, the bar is noisy, people are laughing, drunk people are screaming. There is a phone ringing somewhere. Why do you call so many times? I will be home very late. A man with a loud voice, he must have a lot of wives. After talking, he turned to his wife. Drink this, guys. I invited you to dinner. It's been a long time since we last met. Your friends call you the most playful, kindest friend. And your wife, she must be bored. It's annoying to call your husband to dinner. This is just one of the many situations we can encounter in our daily lives. We often make mistakes easily. We are respectful to strangers, but too harsh to our loved ones. We often show our worst temper in front of our loved ones. Because when we are not in a good mood, we get angry at our brothers and sisters, even our parents. When we hear our parents complain, we don't stop blaming them. Even the words we say lack some respect. What is it? My parents talk too much, I can't stand it anymore. What is it? Just let me do what I want. My parents talk too much, I can't stand it anymore. The words we say accidentally make our parents sad, but also make us guilty. Our biggest mistake is showing our worst temper in front of our loved ones, but showing patience and tolerance to strangers. Why can't we be patient with our loved ones? It's because we think the closest person will never leave us. Even if we make a mistake, even if we make them angry, they will never blame us. But, just like a stove, if you want it to burn evenly, you have to burn it regularly. There is no stove that can burn year after year. I believe in the idea of the old saying, If you treat people around you badly, even if they are close to you, you will realize that you are nothing. Because true love is fragile, whether it is personal love, friendship, love, or marriage, they are all fragile and fragile. Don't wait until there is a crack before you start to be patient. Because once there is a crack, no matter what you do, it's hard to restore the original shape. Even the closest people, if we accidentally say or act disrespectfully, it will easily hurt them. So, no matter what, be delicate, careful in your words and actions to take care of their love more. This is not just a way to show respect for a loved one, but also a way to treat an adult with dignity. Second, we all live our lives regretting the past, but we have never lived in harmony with the present. Each of us has experienced unforgettable moments, difficult memories, it could be the past of joys or sorrows. The truth is, pain makes you forget quickly, even a small wound can cause pain. If you can't influence the present and future, it's not worth it. Because if you always feel sad for the past, you will miss a lot of opportunities that are waiting for you. In the past, if you have met many failures, many sorrows, don't let those failures make you think that you should learn to forget the past, to live in harmony with the present. That is the best choice and leads us to good things in the future. Time never comes back. What happened you wanted can't change. But what is now or in the future can change. The more mature you are, the brighter your life and future will be. Be brave to face reality. Be determined to change for the future. You will easily forget the unhappy things of yesterday. With the determination to change the past, you will feel more comfortable because you will not be afraid of the future. You will see opportunities in every difficulty. Everything you wish can become reality. Remember that the future is created by today's effort. The door of success will be wide open for those who know how to live meaningful and valuable. Don't miss the opportunity. Don't waste time in the present. Because maybe just a second later, what just happened has become the past. Then you can only immerse in the memory and think about it but can't get it back. Thirdly, a day in prison may not be the end. But a long day may bring many disasters. You can't undo what you have done. So before you do anything, you should think carefully about your words and decisions. Because there are consequences you can use time to fix. But there are also things you can't use time to make up and it's the pain you have to bear all your life. How many times have you said that? It's a pity that even if you say it hundreds or thousands of times, time can't go back. So don't ever regret the past. Because no matter how regretful it is, time can't go back to fix the mistakes. So no matter what happens, no matter how bad the past is, smile through it. Your job is to live well for the present and try for the future. Always remind yourself that a long day may not bring many consequences. But a long day may bring many disasters. Speak and act in a wise way so you don't have to regret later. No matter how much sincerity is not enough, a little deception is enough. There is an old saying which means the importance of keeping the promise is to keep the word and sincerity for all your words and actions. Once you say it, you have to do it. If you can't do it, don't say it to not affect the trust of people around you. The word in life is not only respect for others but also trust. Once you don't have faith, you don't have trust. Without faith, your words and actions become unimportant and difficult to gain trust from others. Speaking of trust, people can't help mentioning the billionaire Ly Gia Thanh. His faith is not only in his career In 1996, the Hong Kong billionaire had a big trouble when his son, Ly Chach Cu, was caught by a group of criminals asking for ransom money. They told him not to report to the police or they would immediately deal with the news. Ly Gia Thanh agreed. The day the kidnappers came, they were all over the place because they suspected there were police hiding around. He said, his entire business was nothing more than words in his speech. Then he let the kidnappers search the house and open all the rooms to check if there were any police around. Now, the kidnappers want 2 billion Hong Kong dollars as ransom money. Ly Gia Thanh can only give the other half to them after 2 days. At first, the kidnappers were still suspicious. But the truth later proved that even though the son had returned, the Hong Kong billionaire still kept his promise and gave them the remaining 1 billion dollars. When asked why he did that, Ly Gia Thanh affirmed that the word was the second disease. When the money was gone, no matter how much I worked, I couldn't get it back. So, I did what I could to do my best. That was the will to help this man build his family and his business. Fifth, the more you fear death, the harder it is to enjoy life. Birth, aging, death So, death is a natural fact. It's human. No one has to die since ancient times. Everyone has a different way of perceiving death and everyone tries to avoid it. But in the end, we still have to face it. The dream of a thousand lives is to be immortal. In fact, people try everything to avoid death and live a long life. But if people always worry about the future, about death, they don't have the will to enjoy the present life. In the end, what's scary is not death but life without faith and hope. When you let your worries about death overwhelm you, your life is meaningless. So, from now on, love yourself more and enjoy the present life. Don't let the fear of death become a common nightmare that prevents you from enjoying your life. 6. The more choices you have, the harder it is to be satisfied. A classic study in 2000 called When you choose, you are tempted. In it, researchers tested whether when choosing, consumers felt more comfortable buying more goods or not. They went into a grocery store and displayed one kind every day. One day, they would display 24 kinds of jams. The next day, they would only display 6 kinds of jams. Who tasted it would get a discount for any kind of jam. What was the result? 30% of consumers bought one kind of jam while only 3% of consumers bought all kinds of jams. Ladies and gentlemen, there are some things that we think are better than always, such as freedom of choice. There are many clothes, shoes, books, houses, but the most important thing is that we can only choose one or a few. But is this always right? Psychologist Perry Trouart said that when confronted with too many choices, we tend to be more stressed about our mind. In a way, having too many choices is not only bad, but it also makes you lose the feeling of happiness and makes you less satisfied with your decisions. In other words, if we choose less, our chances of happiness will be higher. Therefore, accepting and respecting good enough rules will help us simplify the decision-making process and be more satisfied, making us happier. Ladies and gentlemen, time and experience may be the best teachers when you learn lessons from past mistakes. Experience can come from what goes on in your life, how you understand, and the mistakes you have fixed. It can also come from the pain, sadness, and challenges you have experienced. I hope the things that life psychology teaches us today will help us avoid the mistakes we shouldn't have to have a happy and successful life. At the end of today's video, let's listen to the story of a wise and experienced teacher who wanted to teach his students how to live a happy and prosperous life. The teacher decided to go to a poor village in the countryside. As soon as he arrived, he asked his students to find the poorest family in the area. That's where they stayed for the night. After walking for a while, they went out to the village and found two people standing in front of the poorest little tent they had ever seen. The owner came out and greeted them warmly. Hello, dear friend. Hello, teacher. Would you be so kind to let these two lazy people stay here for the night? It's very cramped here, but if you don't mind, we'd like to invite you. When the two teachers stepped inside, they were really shocked when they saw a tiny, 15-square-meter tent for eight people, including their parents, four children, and two elderly people trying their best to give each person a little space in this cramped tent. The shabby and painful figures along with the undergarments are clear evidence of their daily living conditions. The guests couldn't look around and wonder if there was anything valuable in this cramped place, but there was nothing. However, when they stepped outside, they realized they were wrong. It was really shocking because this family didn't have anything valuable, but their daily activities seemed to revolve around this animal. Feed the cow. Don't leave it dry. Tie it tight. Don't forget to take it out to eat. Milk the cow. You can see that the cow plays an important role in this family, although the little milk it provides is enough However, the cow seems to serve a greater purpose. It is the only thing that keeps them from falling into the same trap. In a place where everything is scarce, owning such a valuable property has brought them admiration, if not jealousy, from the neighbors. The next morning, the old man went out to look for the cow. The old man didn't bother anyone else. However, before he went out, the old man thought, it's time to let me know what brought us to this miserable place. The old man slowly walked towards the cow that he brought with him. The student felt confused. When the old man raised his hand, he was like a madman when he realized what his teacher was going to do. He almost couldn't believe his own eyes when the old man took a knife and stabbed the cow's neck with a sharp knife, causing the animal to fall. The old man asked the old man how could he kill such a poor animal just because he was afraid to wake everyone up? What kind of lesson could make that family fall into a complete disaster? This is all they have. What will happen to them? The student's painful attitude made the old man confused. The old man left and looked back at the tragedy that would happen to that family when they lost the cow. The student followed with tears in his eyes and continued on his way. During the following days, the student was overwhelmed by the terrible thought that the whole family would starve to death if they didn't have a cow. One afternoon, the old man advised the student to go back to the village to see what had happened to that family. Once again, the student was overwhelmed by the thought of that poor family and what had happened to them. Did they survive that disaster? Did they start a new life? Despite the confusion, the student reluctantly accepted the advice and reluctantly joined the journey. After many days, the two went to the old village to look for the old tent in hopelessness. The surroundings looked the same as before, but there was no sign of the place where they had spent the night. They stopped and looked around to make sure that they had come to the right place. The student knocked on the door of the house and waited. In a moment, a cheerful man stepped out of the house. He said he didn't recognize him, but he couldn't hide that he was the one who let them sleep in the tent last year. Of course, he was the same person, but there was something very strange about this man. He wore clean clothes and his hair was neat. He had a smile on his lips and a smile in his eyes. Obviously, something significant had happened in his life. The young man almost couldn't believe his eyes. How could that be? What could happen in just one year? The man asked the young man and asked him about the luck that had come to his family. It was nothing to do with the fact that these two people were the ones who killed the calf. The young man invited them to his house and began to tell the strange story of his family. I don't know which ungrateful person was jealous of the rare property of his family and decided to cut off that poor animal. I have to admit that the young man said that our first reaction was extremely desperate and painful. For a long time, the milk of that calf was our only source of living. Moreover, it was the only property that gave us a sense of security and brought us admiration from our neighbors. Not long after that tragic day, we realized that if we didn't do anything, we could only fall into a worse situation. We were at the bottom of our lives when we lost that animal. We also need to eat and raise our children. And then we dug a piece of land behind our house and picked up some fruit seeds. That's how we lived for the first few months. After a while, we realized that that field provided more food than we needed. If we could sell it to the people around us, we could buy more seeds. Not long after that, we could even sell it at the market. And then it happened. Mr. Ho said that it was the first time that we had money to buy food and clothes, and we saw hope in a new life, a life that we never imagined could come true. We built this small house last month. It seems like the loss of the calf has opened our eyes to a more promising life. Mr. Ho, who has been silent since then, still wonders what he has heard and seen. Do you think their family can achieve what they have achieved in the past year if they still have that calf? Maybe not. The scholar replied with tears of relief. So now do you understand? The calf that they cherish like a treasure is the rope that binds their life to that extreme poverty. They kept whining that the calf helped them get out of misery. But they had to wait until the safety of the calf was lost before they were forced to believe that what little they had was enough. It was just that heavy rope that stopped them from looking for better things. The relief began to destroy their life. They accepted their circumstances even though it was not enough to find a way to do something with it. Do you see how sad it is? Just like a calf, that attitude always haunts you. If you don't get rid of it, you will never see anything but what you have known for a long time. You will become a middleman of the limits and you will have to close your eyes and pray for victory. We all have cows in our lives. We are burdened with false beliefs, lies, fears, and prejudices. Instead, all the limits that we have imposed on ourselves have forced us to live a normal life. The student said and thought about his cows. On the way home, he carefully considered all the limits that he imposed on himself in his life and he decided to get rid of all the beliefs that forced him to live a normal life as well as preventing him from showing his true potential. This is the beginning of a new life, a life without cows. Thank you for listening. Goodbye and see you again.