STOP PLAYING MIND GAMES WITH YOUR FAMILY #npd #narcissisticabuse #narcissist

Y'all spiritual whistleblower here. I am chilling in Harlem right now and I'm just sitting in the park admiring the beauty of nature. It's peaceful. It's quiet. Watching the squirrels and stuff. I enjoy stuff like this. I love my solitude and peace. But y'all 2024 is almost behind us. I can't wait. I just want the whole holiday season to be gone. It's such a stressful time. You could feel the energy in the air. You know, I just can't wait till January 1st gets here bye-bye 2024 it was a good year for me but it's just energetically I can feel other people's negative energy somehow I can pick it up and you know I don't know y'all feel me on that I'm just hyper sensitive to picking up other people's energy this video is about standing on your boundaries with toxic family members and I wanted to do this video because this week i've been i want to say thank y'all y'all have been taking advantage of my one-on-one phone coaching because i right now i'm running a holiday special 50% off my original price for phone coaching take advantage and y'all have y'all have been booking me all week so i love you guys thank you because i know this is a very tough time of the year for a lot of y'all a lot of y'all is struggling with cutting family off and you know i need to do this video I I really do a lot of y'all need to hear this ******* video because y'all are playing y'all are seriously playing with ******* fire when it comes to your abusive family members okay um I want to say this some of y'all don't know how to properly cut off family now I'm not saying you know it's not uh it's a difficult process the time leading up to permanently cutting off mom dad grandparents it's a process nobody ever just cuts off their parents overnight like they black out and say i'm done it usually takes years and years of on again off again on again off again you know trying to repair things with mom and dad and then they **** up and do something to push you away. You let some time go go by. You try again. Let me try again with mom and dad. I know we fell out the last time, but I don't want to give up on mom and dad. Every time you try to go back to repair the relationship, they do something to ******* push you away. And over the years, it mentally drains you it destroys you emotionally it drains you mentally and also a lot of y'all you know a lot of my clients have health issues behind this type of abuse a lot of y'all have lupus sickle cell flare-ups autoimmune disease fibroids narcissistic abuse breaks down the body and yes you will develop cancer. Why do you think the breast cancer rate is so high in the United States? Because so many women are being abused in their marriages, but they want to protect their husband's image. Next thing you hear the woman and died of breast cancer. No, she was suffering in her marriage for a long time and nobody knew about it. That's why she developed breast cancer because she was living with an abuser. Same thing. A lot of, a lot of y'all will not cut off family. you keep you you keep staying attached and then out the blue you go to the doctor you got thyroid issues you got ovarian cancer fibroids hair falling out autoimmune diseases irritable bowel syndrome yeah the abuse the emotional abuse that you're tolerating off your mother and father and family members baby baby it is breaking your body down it's not worth it but you scared to cut family off now when you do get to the point of wanting to cut family off and you've had enough um what somebody's trying to call me and i'm not going to interrupt my my video um what i hear a lot of people say and do is well I cut my family off but they still texting me and the first thing I said why why are you allowing them why are you allowing them to have ******* access to you this ---- burns me up with people I try not to get mad with people but this ---- be don't call me up and tell me you're done with your family but they're still allowed to text you they still have some type of access to you. That means you're not done with your family. And what people don't understand, they make excuses. Well, I can just ignore their calls. No, no, sweetie, it don't work like that. If you have suffered a lifelong battle of child abuse, emotional abuse, years and years, and you know you got to get your ass in therapy because you're traumatized, you're going to start learning that different things trigger you regarding your parents you could be like I'm sitting here in this park right now I'm sitting here at peace but I could look I could look at a tree and that particular tree will remind me of something from childhood and trigger a bad thought about my parents triggers come and go so another trigger is a text message if you're actively trying to avoid your family and they know you're trying to stay away from them they can **** with you through text messages they can say they can text you right now say you know we love you don't be like that you need to come on back you know family is all you have they can send you something like that or they can send you a text message gaslighting you i don't know why you acting like that you need to really cut it out mom told us what you said so you need to work things out with mom they'll send you text messages to **** with you and gaslight you and that text even though you're actively physically staying away from family they are still able to emotionally abuse you through text messages you understand where i'm going with this so the sight of the text message and then you read it is going to trigger and **** with you you're actually being abused via text message. And this is why I stress to people, blocking does not work. If you block their numbers, they will get around the blocking. They'll just call you from a different number or they'll hit up your third and fourth cousin. You don't usually talk to your third or fourth cousins. They'll hit up a distant family member, a distant family member, and they'll give you a phone number to this distant family member. And then they're calling you. You're like, what the ****? I haven't heard from this person in 10 years. How did they get my number? Oh yeah. Your family put this person up to calling you because you will not change your number. Blocking does not work. Why are you toying and playing these games with your family? Why aren't you standing on business? When you disconnect from them, it has to be across the board, honey. What I usually advise people to do, I said, before you change your phone number, send a text message to your mama, your daddy, whoever you're cutting off. You need to send a text message short and to the point. listen, I've decided I do not want a relationship with you ever again. I am advising you to leave me alone. Do not contact me. Stay away from my house. Stay away from my children. If you come near me and my children, I will pursue charges for stalking and harassment. You've been warned. Then you change your phone number because that text message is a documented proof that you gave them a warning in case you have to go to the police in the future because they're stalking or they're popping up to your house you now have documented evidence that you warned them ahead of time you take that to the police and you go file charges for stalking harassment and you obtain a restraining order when your family members disrespect you and pop up to your house after you'd have told them to stay the **** away but you got to change your number after you send that text message so they cannot have further contact and then a lot of you **** up and you give the new phone number away to mutual friends you give your phone number away to people that know your family so they turn around and they give your new phone number to the people you're you cut off you're you're doing ---- dysfunctional this is backwards when you change your number nobody gets your phone number your children and your job mutual friends your mutual friends have to be in a position where they don't know your family they don't they've never met your family they don't know your mother's phone number but you you dealing with mutual friends and people that are still connected to the toxic people in your family they're gonna give your number away stop ******* playing y'all stop playing you put one foot in and one foot out instead of severing ties all the way down then when they find a way to contact you down the line you're triggered as ******* you're upset and you go back to square one you got to start over with your healing process that's because you didn't stand on business with your ******* boundaries don't take this video personal it's tough love but i get tired of hearing the same ---- over and over again because A lot of y'all are scared to stand on your ******* boundaries with your family and put fear in them and make them motherfucking respect you. I don't play with my family. I used to be the sweetest person in the world. I wouldn't hurt a fly on the wall, but they have pushed me to the point of no return. That's why I made a public video. I told my mother, should you? And I'm speaking in the context of self-defense. Bitch, should you ever knock at my door? Approach me in the streets. Approach my child. I'm a knock you the **** out, bitch. And I did that deliberately because I knew as much as my mother has a big mouth. That's one gossiping, messy ******* bitch. I knew she would tell the rest of the family that I threatened her. And I specifically used her as a pawn to spread the message to the rest of the family members. It was a very calculated move on my part, but it worked beautifully to my advantage because it put fear in the other toxic family members. they said oh ---- if she's if she's willing to knock her ******* mother out you know I'm not gonna **** with her either she ain't scared of her mama oh ---- well I ain't about to call her and **** with her either I ain't about to pass no messages you know if her mama tell me to pass the message I'm gonna say no no ma'am that that's between you and Chanel keep me out of it she ain't playing with us no more I used my mother as a pawn to spread the message not to **** with me I don't care tell family I'm crazy tell family I'm violent but it got the job done it got y'all motherfuckers to respect my boundaries and to show y'all i'm not bullshitting with nobody you **** with me you're either gonna go to jail i'm gonna knock you clean the **** out and this is coming from a very sweet person a non-violent person my family both sides know i'm a very sweet person i'm non-violent my mother pushed me to the point of no ******* return she tried to run to court and get a restraining order judge threw it out had everybody thinking that she was scared of me bitch i ain't been in your house in over 10 years bitch i don't go to family functions i don't communicate with family members you have no evidence you have nothing on me but a YouTube video because you're stalking and the judge said stop stalking get off your daughter's YouTube and get on with life because she obviously stays the **** physically she does not come around you hasn't been around you in several years bitch you tried it you tried to weaponize the court system you falsified a police report and weaponized the court system to try to get a restraining order to silence you tried to bully and coercively control your daughter to get her to be silent so she wouldn't talk about her childhood on her YouTube channel. Nice try, but it backfired. But it did work to my advantage because I'm sure she told the whole family, oh my God, I'm terrified of my daughter. I'm scared of her. Well, good, because I utilized the ringleader to spread the message across the board. If you watch the movie Godfather, the Godfather did the same thing. You can send a message through your enemies you murder your enemy and send a message what was the what was the scene it was several scenes in the Godfather when they uh uh delivered that that dead fish to Sonny y'all remember i'm talking about Godfather the first Godfather or was it the second one when they delivered um the dead fish and sonny sonny opened up the box he saw the fish there and it says uh who who someone sleeps with the fishes it was just an indirect message from their enemy saying you know so-and-so sleeps with the fishes they were indirectly letting them know this individual is going to end up dead and if you **** with me you're going to end up dead too so that's all I did I used my mother to I knew she's going to run her big mouth because that's all she do is ******* run her mouth she spread the message on my behalf that I was crazy and violent so now good all my family members are scared to ******* have a conversation they're scared to contact me and that's exactly how I want it leave me alone bitch no don't pass no messages trying to guilt trip me to talk to my mother again the bitch married a pedophile knew he molested me still stayed married to him no he has cheated on her still stay with him I'm walking around all my life with a disability undiagnosed she still bullied and and abused me my entire life fat shamed me, constantly compared me to my sister to create these insecurities in me and destroy my self-esteem. All she does and has done is judge me and put me down. Don't ******* try to pass a message to guilt trip me to have a relationship with that piece of trash. She's not a mother. She gave birth to me. That's all. And that's it. **** that bitch. I'm waiting for her to die. Now, if you don't want to get cussed out or knock the **** out, leave me alone. And that's the message that I have conveyed to the rest of my family so I don't have no problems no more everything's peachy over here everything's peaceful and quiet they may lurk and cyber stalk me but they know not to **** with me so this is what I say to y'all y'all stop playing with your family you can't have one foot in one foot out you can't call yourself cutting your family off but they're still allowed to text message you and pass you messages to **** with your head no you cut them off stand on business a lot of y'all need to relocate some of y'all are living with your your abusive mama you need to move out her house move into a shelter i've lived in several homeless shelters i didn't like it but i did what i had to do until i got my own place a lot of y'all make ******* excuses get the **** out the house with your abusive mama she's bullying you charging you a rent and make you pay all the ******* bills because you don't have a ******* backbone start planning your exit strategy if you got to move into a shelter move in silence start over peace of mind peace and quiet is better than living with a ******* abuser some of y'all is so scared to cut family off some of y'all are addicted to abuse some of y'all have all the information you watch these videos you get all this help and everything and you still go against the advice in the videos you guys got to keep going back in the fire to get burnt so i wanted to say this even with your children wait wait wait wait i can't leave this out even with your children y'all will give your children's cell phone numbers to your abusive parents because you want to you want your children to have a close relationship with your parents even though your parents shitting on you you trying to get your children to bond with their grandparents baby your parents will groom your ******* children right behind your back they'll be texting your children on their phone and turning your children against you at the same time. And then out the blue, when your children become teenagers and they start disrespecting you, you're going to act like, where did this behavior come from? Where did I go wrong? You let your parents access and groom your children behind your back. You allowed your abusive parents to babysit your children. They groomed your children when they were babysitting them. No, your children have cell phones. Every last person that abused you should not have access to your children y'all got to smarten the **** up I keep saying this over and over again and I don't mean to sound mean but it's like why are you playing these tit-for-tat games with family if you're going to cut them off and stop ******* with them cut them the **** off change your phone number deactivate your social media relocate get the **** away or you will forever be targeted hunted down and you're going to you're going to subject yourself to being hurt over and over again then you turn into a professional victim that's crying and complaining about the ---- you had control over you have the power to shut the abuse down once and for all now if they're able to text you messages and **** with you and pull you into the group chat that means your boundaries are not strong enough you're not standing on business let's talk about it in the comment section y'all have a beautiful day i got some errands to run i'm gonna have a fabulous day okay this is some tough love in this video stop ******* playing with your family and stand on your ******* boundaries zero communication they should have zero access you are to treat them like that abusive ex-boyfriend the ************ that put his hands on you the ************ that put his side chick over you does he have access to you is he still able to text you is his family still able to text and call you no they're not why because you're standing on boundaries you're not going to give him a second chance. You don't want him no more. You let the side chick have him. You changed your phone number. So that same energy that you had with your abusive ex, treat your mother and father, your family the same way. They get the same treatment. I've spoken. Y'all have a blessed day.