YOUR NARCISSISTIC FAMILY IS STALKING YOU ON SOCIAL MEDIA #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #narcissism

hey y'all spiritual whistleblower here with another holiday video as you know tomorrow is thanksgiving with christmas holiday season following and like i've stated several times before this is the time of year where abusive family members really turn up the bullshit if you in fact decide to go to visit them on the holidays let's just say you're going to thanksgiving dinner if you are truly the scapegoat of the family you can be expected to be um what's the word interrogated um they want to be in your personal business they want to know who you're sleeping with how much money you make you know they want to be in your kids business your baby father's business you know they're sizing you up you know to see if you've gained any weight you've lost any weight um it's like you're under a microscope okay and um the energy is weird like it's almost like you can walk into the room and you can feel like you can feel the energy from them talking about you like they were talking about you before you walked into the room and that negative energy is lingering um it's definitely been like that for me on both sides of my family I've witnessed personally the gossiping and as a real woman I can sit here and say I've participated in that gossip before I became self-aware about this whole narcissism thing I can sit here and hold myself accountable I was toxic because my family taught me those toxic behaviors a lot of you guys will ask yourselves well am I the narcissist since I you know attract narcissists no no honey let me let me make you understand something if your mother father grandparents are narcissists you had no choice you were born into it I can assure you you were taught toxic ways toxic behaviors you were taught to gossip you were taught to normalize triangulation, you know I participated in triangulation, I acted like I was my daddy's favorite child because when my brother, my baby brother played basketball in other countries. So my brother is primarily my father's favorite child. When the favorite child is not around, the favorite child is missing, then your parent will seek a temporary golden child. So I filled in the shoes of my brother while he was away in another country playing basketball. You know, him and my father were not in communication. I sat in and I was the golden child, that golden child role, that golden child position is interchangeable. Absolutely. Um, so there were many times I acted as my father's gossiping partner. My father would talk about my mother. He cannot get through a conversation without talking about my mother. He was obsessed. And if your parents are truly narcissists, they are obsessive over each other. They will bash, gossip and smear each other. But the moment that you turn against them and cut them off, they will put their differences aside and they will team up together to come against you. Yeah. But many years I acted as my father's golden child. I was his gossiping partner, you know, and that's where my father, I started learning how feminine acting and misogynistic my father was because he behaved like a woman on the telephone gossiping. He ran his mouth like a woman and me not knowing any better, thinking that I was the favorite child. And, you know, my father would talk about this one and that one. He talked about my sister because my sister is just like my mother. You know, he talked about everybody, you know. But I found out that he would talk about me behind my back. You know, he started some mess with my cousin and my sisters. We were all beefing. And that's because we're up here up north, New York and New Jersey. He's all the way in Florida. So he can sit on the phone and gossip with this one and that one and that one and this one. And when some ---- goes down, he could disappear. He don't have to answer his phone because he's all the way in Florida. He can hide. But that's what he was, messy. My father's very messy. He's very zesty. You know, he's in the closet. I feel he's in the closet and he needs to come out. He's a messy, uh, you know, man acting like a woman always has. I, I actually sat up and gossip and I'm not proud of that behavior. I own the fact that I participated in gossip, you know, against family members, you know, sitting up with my father and I'm ashamed of myself. And, and, um, I don't ever want to do that ever again. That was a learned behavior. One of the toxic things. So, you know, I need y'all to understand if you were born into this type of family system where your family is messy, dysfunctional, toxic, narcissistic, you're going to pick up those traits. Now, whether or not you become a full blown narcissist, you know, as you become an adult, it depends on a lot of factors. You're going to have narcissistic traits. Having traits is different than having the full blown disorder. This is where people get, you know, the traits mixed up with the full blown disorder. We all have narcissistic traits. If you take a bunch of selfies and post it on social media, you are behaving narcissistically. It doesn't make you a narcissist, but you know, that's narcissistic behavior to post, you know, multiple photos of yourself a bunch of selfies okay but it doesn't mean that you're a bad person you're a master manipulator like the actual narcissist with the full-blown disorder is okay so you have to know the difference you grew up in a family with a bunch of people who actually have the full-blown disorder your mother your father your grandparents they have the full-blown disorder because they've been abusing and manipulating for decades you're a child being you know raised up in it you're going to pick up those behaviors. That's what we like to call as narcissistic fleas. Now, when you become an adult, that's where you're going to make the determination. You know, you're going to look in the mirror and say, why do these bad things keep happening? Why does this keep happening? I don't like the fact that I just sat up in gossip. I don't want to be a part of gossip. I don't want to do what my family taught me. I don't want to go to, you know, family functions, it doesn't feel right. Your spirit is going to tell you that your family is not right. Now, then you're going to, then you're going to eventually cut your family off and start cleaning up your act. You're going to get your act together. You'll get your life together. You're going to stop doing the things that you learned that were toxic. You know, all the toxic programming, you're going to unlearn everything that your family taught you. And you're going to clean house. You're going to get your life together. You're going to be in therapy now for those in your family that have the actual full personality disorder they're not going to change when they become adults they're going to continue the cycle of abuse and they're just going to jump through life manipulating everybody so um i made this video to get you to open up your eyes um you're going to get fed up of the gossip the triangulation the mess the dysfunction. You know, you know, there's pedophiles in your family and you see how your family protects the pedophile. You know, there's abusers in your family and your family will cover up and protect these abusers. Your family is quick to run to church every Sunday, behaving, trying to behave like Christians, but the rest of the week, they are the total opposite and it doesn't sit well with your soul. So, you know, when you step away and cut your family off because you're sick and tired of their trifling ways they're going to stalk you they're going to uh that's why i really made this video i want to explain to you why they're attempting to go so hard to get you to break no contact they're trying really hard to suck you back in they want you to come back to family and they're going to guilt trip and gaslight you only have one family at the end of the day that's still your mother you only have one mother one father the bible says honor thy mother honor thy father so the days will be long yeah they cherry pick bible verses and use it against you but they overlook the bible scripture that says do not provoke your children to anger see they they pick and choose which bible verses uh they can use against you they weaponize the bible to guilt trip you into being submissive and returning back to that toxic family structure that you refuse to be a part of the Bible. What is it? Ephesians do not provoke your children to wrath and do not provoke your children to anger. There's consequences for that. And that is where the narcissistic mother, the narcissistic father, the narcissistic grandparents, they don't want the smoke. They don't want to admit that they're the reason that they've caused you to become enraged in anger they'll get mad at you and they'll they'll gaslight you for being angry for the things they've done to you why don't you just get over it why are you holding on to the past this is what they'll say dad you still holding on to the past why don't you get over it dad we all that we you know come on now we ought to have been through some ---- you you still holding on to that why don't you just forgive you need to get over it at the end of the day that's still your mother. The Bible says, honor thy mother, honor thy father. They're going to hit you with all types of stuff. They get, they're trying to get you to break no contact. They're trying to get you to go back to being dysfunctional like they are. So you got to understand they love dysfunction. They're like a bunch of pigs rolling in the mud. You ever go to a farmhouse and you see a group of pigs waddling in the mud. They're swimming in the mud and feces and vomit and they're nasty. They stink. They love it. Your family is in a cesspool of dysfunction and drama and they normalized it. That dysfunction is normal to them and they don't like the fact that you stepped away. You got the courage to break free from it and you refuse to go back into it that's why they cyber stalk you on social media it's not just one family member it's a bunch of them it's multiple family members cyber stalking this is what we call gang stalking they're monitoring you they're orbiting you orbiting your facebook orbiting your instagram orbiting your tiktok just watching you waiting for a weak moment to strike they want to contact you so bad and guilt trip you to try to get you to come back more importantly they're assisting the the ringleader and who is the ringleader the ringleader is the dominant narcissist of the family it may be your father in my case it's my mother and my nana, my nana is my father's mother both women are malignant narcissists, they're both sociopaths, they're both extremely masculine dominant, they both have nasty mouths, both of them use extreme profanity, yet when I get on my social media platform and I use profanity they want to get mad and upset and bothered, bitch, where did I learn the ******* profanity, the apple don't fall far from the tree so that makes them both ******* hypocrites, don't talk about my mouth and what comes out my mouth, y'all were piss poor, um, um, you know you set piss poor examples as adults, you cussed in front of the children, you cussed like ******* sailors, now shut up and sit down and don't worry about what comes out of my mouth, hypocrites, yeah that's how I talk to them now because I'm fed up of the dysfunction so I don't even allow them the opportunity to gaslight me, you say something to me to gaslight or trigger me or deny my reality deny my pain deny anything that's happened to me I dare you so I can cuss you the **** out they don't want the smoke with me, it's a new day if they won't cut out their bullshit, I'm gonna show them how the **** it's done and I'm gonna stand on business and they can watch, they're going to stalk because they don't know how to break out of their own dysfunction and they're sitting up wondering and watching you, how did she do it, how is she so successful, dag, did it really take her breaking free from the family to level up, if she's leveling up then it means we need to look in the mirror and work on ourselves too. They don't want to look in the mirror. You leveling up and pulling away and cutting them off. it forces them into an uncomfortable position where they have to look at their, their, their selves in the mirror. It's real uncomfortable. You're, you're shining a mirror on their flaws. You're shining a mirror on their dysfunction. You're just shining a mirror on the cesspool of dysfunction and it's real uncomfortable for them, they don't like it, listen, the attempt to suck you back into the the family dysfunction is, is going to be so strong, you are going to have to change your number some of y'all are going to have to pack up and relocate um a lot of y'all some of your parents is paying your bills that needs to stop you need to be 100 percent financially independent they don't need to pay your bills they shouldn't have a joint bank account with you nothing should be in their name and their name should not be on anything of yours do not allow them to move in with you don't if you're living with them you should be working on an exit strategy to move out of their home and far away somebody needed to hear this video and i'm gonna tell you something i could be homeless tomorrow if i were to become homeless tomorrow i would never bother my family i'd rather sleep on the streets in a cardboard box than to go backwards to that bullshit and dysfunction they can have it I am so at peace with this life. I'm so glad I got out of the family dysfunction. I'm so listen, the peace and joy that I have. My health has improved. My stress levels gone. My money, my finances have have increased. They know what they've done to you. They hate that you've called out their toxic behaviors and they know they cannot they cannot pin it on you and if they're trying to pin it on you you've made it so that they can't even reach you they can't even call you up on the phone or hold a conversation to accuse you or gaslight you because you're standing on motherfucking boundaries it's a new day be strong y'all it's holiday time they're going to, you know, they might even use, you know, somebody's going to be in the hospital or end up in a nursing home or hospice. They try to pull on your heartstrings. Don't call me for nothing. I don't care who, listen, if I end up in a hospital, I'll call my friends before I call my family. Yeah. It's that real. I, it gets to a point and you don't even want them around you. If you're in the, in the hospital, why would you want these demons praying over you or praying for you you don't you you're not going to want nothing to do with them that's how toxic and demonic they are your own family members so stand on business this holiday season if you don't have my book uh hold on let me get a copy of my book it's called my family can kiss my ass hold on here y'all don't have the book it's on amazon i will post i will post a link down below there you go my family can kiss my ass all right have a safe blessed holiday and um stay narcissistic free