YOUR NARCISSISTIC MOTHER IS A PROFESSIONAL GASLIGHTER!! #npd #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

Oh, happy holidays. Spiritual whistleblower here. Like I said, I promised to give y'all toxic family videos all this week because it's the holidays. Listen, whatever you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, what have you. Happy ******* holidays to you. But I'm going to be doing what I do best. And it's calling out these ******* demons called narcissists. Okay. so um I feel like wearing my petty boots in this video and um you know I'm gonna talk about y'all family members and you know I know I told y'all to leave your family alone during the holidays and to have a peaceful holiday but I know some of y'all is going to go around y'all family members any damn way so this video is really for y'all if you're going to be around your family I challenge you to blast this ******* video around your family I want to know what the reaction of your family members is going to be blast it loud so they can hear my big ******* mouth because I'm gonna go in on this video now what do I want to talk about and by the way yes I'm doing one-on-one coaching I do 15 minute phone sessions 30 minute and one hour so if you need any advice anything I'm offering a 50 percent discount just for the holidays up until December 31st 50 percent off of my original rates that's right that's my gift to you my email address is pinned down in the comment section if you need a phone session for anything any advice mother your mother father sister baby daddy whoever the **** is getting on your nerves on this holiday season you hit me up and we can schedule it during this week okay I will even work on Christmas day okay so I want to talk about specifically in this damn video um how your family let me just get on your parents whether you have a narcissistic mother a narcissistic father, in my case both of my goddamn parents are narcissists, both sets of my grandparents are narcissists, both sides of my family incredibly dysfunctional and toxic, they can't stand that i ******* talk about the ---- and i don't give a ****, they know not to bother me, they can't do ---- to me, can't nobody sue me for ----, you know i got receipts, um i'm exercising my first amendment right, i haven't threatened nobody's safety so they better get the **** on, but we all know they're not gonna get the **** on because they stay motherfucking stalking me and this is what we call monitoring spirits your your bitch ass don't ******* like me, you've sat up and talked ---- about me talking about how fat I am, I can't keep a man, I'm this, I'm that I'm mentally ill, I need help, you motherfuckers talk a whole lot of ---- about me but it's so funny that you keep up with every ******* thing I do you watch me like a ******* hawk and personally I, you know I gotta speak for myself, I don't stalk people I don't ******* like I don't keep up with people I don't ******* like I don't monitor and stalk people I deem as crazy, why if I don't ******* like you, why would I have any interest in what the **** you're doing but when you come from a narcissistic family, that demon inside of them that listen, they're monitoring spirits and and and the reason why they're so obsessed with cyber stalking you, they're all over your social media pages after they didn't talk so much ---- about you and spread ******* smear campaigns about you, it's because they know you're not seeking their ******* validation anymore, they see now that you've cut them off, that you're doing so much better, you're thriving, your skin is glowing your body's looking good you're flourishing you have a ******* life. You're vacationing. You don't ******* need their ******* attention. You don't need their ******* approval. You don't need their goddamn validation. You don't want to be invited to the cookout. You don't want to be invited to the ******* family reunion. You ain't going to no ******* funerals. You want nothing to do with these people. Yes, your blood relatives because now that you realize that you are somebody special and always has been, even though they've downplayed you and ******* talked about you like a dog bullied you over the years. They didn't want you to see your self-worth, honey. They don't want you to, to, to build your self-esteem up. They want your self-esteem to stay low in the ground. They don't want you to be confident. They want you to chase for their validation. They want you to be on the phone begging. Can I please come to the family reunion? Why ain't nobody called and told me nothing. Y'all always leaving me out of the conversation why they want you to beg and chase and now that they see that you're not interested like you're actually ******* disgusted to be a part of the family you're disgusted that you're even related to these toxic motherfuckers you want nothing to do with them now they're gonna ******* obsessively gang stalk and cyber stalk they all over your Facebook they all over your ******* TikTok and your Instagram I cannot tell you I got cousins I have cousins All over all my pages, trying to get my attention. Yeah, because motherfuckers is finding out the truth that ain't nothing wrong with me. Ain't wasn't wasn't nothing never wrong with me. I was raised by two fucked up human beings and the truth is coming to the light. The chickens are coming home to roost. I was never jealous or envious of my ******* airheaded sister. She's a dummy with a pretty face and that pretty face ain't facing no more. because guess what? It's a whole lot of pretty bitches out here that got degrees and businesses and they bossed up and they don't live off their ******* mommy. They're not sucking their mother's titty and looking for handouts. They're totally independent of their ******* mommy and daddy's boss bitches. I can never say that about my sister. My sister needs my mother. My sister is codependent on my mother. My sister has a deeply enmeshed relationship with my mama because she needs my mama's handouts so that pretty face ---- you know my mother has always taught her how to be a gold digger and you know you ain't ---- without a man that's a goddamn lie that advice worked back in the 80s see my mother landed her a ******* drug dealer and married him back in the day the niggas broke now he's busted dusted ugly dirty ass pedophile and cheater so she don't even want one i guarantee my mother don't even want to sleep with him let alone i doubt they even ******* live together but she won't divorce the nigga knowing the nigga molested her child knowing that the nigga slept with one of her girlfriends she wants to cling to her married title so bad because that married title makes her feel validated as a woman my mother has low self-esteem she's a goddamn pick me and she's passed down that teaching to my sister put on her engagement ring oh look I'm better than everybody else because I got an engagement ring I got a man yeah bitch I guarantee the niggas are narcissists like your father when you grow up with narcissistic parents you're going to attract a narcissistic man and if you don't cut off your motherfucking narcissistic mother and father you're going to continue to make the same ******* mistakes year after year after year after year and you're going to allow your narcissistic mother and father to control you and keep you in this childlike position where they can control you with money and gifts to deny you of your independence and you're too ******* dumb to see it so you're just as a motherfucking narcissist as mommy and daddy is that's my dumb ass airheaded sister my brother's the same way with my father I'm the only one smart enough to break free from both them toxic motherfuckers and that's why I'm doing well now that's why I look ******* good I'm successful I'm bossed up and can't nobody tell me nothing because I know who the **** I am I done been to the therapist I got my paperwork and my diagnosis ain't no ain't no crazy here I'm ******* woke and self-aware so **** all them but anyway i strayed away from the the conversation here let's talk about how your ******* parents will gaslight you uh when you call out their poor parenting what i think is so hilarious now between my generation gen x and the millennials and some of gen z we're cutting off these toxic baby boomer parents and the baby boomer parents are having a ******* hissy fit i mean they got facebook groups they got these private facebook groups where the parents the baby boomer parents are in there complaining my child know what why my child won't speak to me i don't know i don't know where i went wrong with raising my child i did the best i could my child still is giving me a hard time they all in these facebook groups complaining that they're adult children and cut them off in ******* denial they're all delusional I said oh bitch you got cut off because you don't treat your adult children like ******* adults you don't respect them as adults you treat them like ******* children you try to bully and control them you want to be in their financial business you want to control their ******* relationships that's why you got cut the **** off and when your adult children try to get you to sit down and hear them out you ain't trying to listen you don't want to be accountable for the fucked up ---- you did all throughout childhood so yeah you're gonna get cut the **** off go to your little facebook group with the with the other toxic ass baby boomer parents and all y'all motherfuckers can sit up and complain as listen y'all stay in that ******* group chat and just talk your ******* ears off because your adult children are tired baby we are tired we don't give a **** no more a lot of y'all old asses is gonna rot in that ******* nursing home and your adult children is not coming through baby a lot of us ain't coming to the funeral a lot of us don't care about nothing we want you gone that's how motherfucking fed up us adult children are we done tried a hundred times to get through to you mom and dad you're toxic motherfuckers you're like a hamster on a goddamn hamster wheel or just keep repeating the same ******* dysfunction you're nice and then you're nasty and we're just tired of giving chances you you you your mother you motherfuckers are narcissists you won't sit your ass down in therapy and get a diagnosis but you talk ---- about your children all your children is going to end up in therapy for the damage you've caused them siren this is what i wanted to say y'all there's something that my mother does she gaslights all the time you talk about lack of ******* accountability she finds so many ways to excuse her abusive behavior tries to wiggle up out of being held accountable for being a ******* abuser and the one line that she said she just said a lot of ---- but this is the one thing that she says to me that irks my ******* soul her favorite line is chanel you know there was no handbook on motherhood there's no handbook on motherhood what the what the **** is that supposed to mean? Are we talking about all the times you abused me? You need a ******* handbook on how to teach you on how to not abuse a child. Is that I'm trying to comprehend what the **** do you mean? There's no handbook on motherhood. So you need a handbook to teach you how not to ******* abuse a child. That's my understanding. And it's gaslighting because it's a bunch of bullshit and it's a cop out. No, you know, and there actually are several handbooks on how to parent there are handbooks uh back in the 70s and 80s absolutely absolutely i pulled a couple of them i posted some books on tiktok books that were out when i was a baby libraries were available your local neighborhood library was full of information on parenting if we want to get ******* technical but you my mother and father lazy motherfuckers they were too preoccupied with fighting and, you know, we were moving in and out of motels all over New Jersey. So they didn't have the time to go to the library or take parenting classes, but that that's neither here nor there. Let's get on the abuse. Why do you need a handbook to teach you on how not to abuse a child? Riddle me this. And I'm a single mother. I know several single mothers and I can absolutely say none of us are perfect. I'm sure I say to myself all the time, there are so many things that I could have done better as a single mother, you know, looking back at my history with my daughter. Absolutely. If I could do certain things all over again or redo them to be a better mother, absolutely I would, but I would never justify abusing my child. Never. And that's what my mother and many other narcissistic parents do. They find a way to justify abusing their children. oh we did the best we could oh there's no handbook on on parenting there's no handbook on motherhood that's cop-outs it's a bunch of ******* bullshit let me tell you something our lord and savior jesus christ he did not need a handbook to show empathy and love and kindness you either have it inside of you or you don't love is a natural thing god is love we serve a god of love and if you don't feel a a connection a empathetic connection to your child then bitch it means you're a ******* empty ass vessel you don't love yourself you don't know what the **** love is and just because your parents didn't teach you love that's not a reason for you to give birth to a child and and treat and ---- on your child and treat your child the same ******* way and you you talk about your adult children need help no bitch you need help because if your parents neglected you and treated you like ---- when you were a child I want to know why would you turn around and do your own children the same ******* way when you know how painful that ******* felt you know what it ******* feels like to be ******* neglected and unloved by your mother and father so the first thing when you had a baby your first thing should have been I don't want to do nothing like my mother and father did I'm going to love my child I'm going to nurture my child and that don't mean spending money love cannot be bought no my mother repeated her abusive behavior that's what narcissistic parents do and then they try to justify their abusive behavior towards their children well there was no handbook on motherhood no no honey you should not need a handbook to teach you or how to not abuse a child and you definitely don't need a handbook to teach you how to love a child it's natural either you have it inside of you or you ******* don't and bitch you don't bitch you don't because you're a ******* narcissist a ******* sociopath our parents the baby boomers they only had children to keep up with appearances the only reason they had children is because they was being pressured by their ******* families my nana pressured my mother and father to have a ******* baby knowing both the motherfuckers were not ready they were too immature they did not have the resources they were broke they were young they were way too young but they fell victim to the pressure of my nana and both of them were both severely broken you know having children like you haven't worked on yourself but you're gonna bring a child into this world unprepared and then when y'all get together and and and and um start living together and realize that this ---- takes actual work and then y'all realize y'all are not even ******* compatible now y'all are making each other miserable now y'all are fist fighting now y'all are are ******* frustrated and guess what you take your anger and rage and frustration out on your innocent babies that's the whole baby boomer generation they had kids for the wrong fucked up reasons they had babies to trap their partner but they were totally emotionally disconnected from the child that's all and that's it so when my mother says there was no handbook on motherhood no what you mean is you needed a handbook or some tutorial to teach you or how not to ******* abuse your children do you know how fucked up that sounds basically that's you admitting to you being a ******* abuser and instead of you acknowledging that you need psychological help because you come from a fucked up background from two parents that emotionally neglected you and abandoned you you rather just brush it off and say there's no handbook there there was no handbook on motherhood that's gaslighting honey and i'm gonna tell y'all one last thing before i wrap this video up me being a single mother to a child with with a developmental disability my baby first started showing signs of ADHD when she was in daycare she was still wearing diapers she was 18 months old and I would go to work I worked for the state government in Albany New York and her daycare would call me every day miss Clark uh your baby uh caress you know she's she's punching and hitting the babies she's punching her teachers she's frustrated and and we we think she needs to be evaluated i would have to come i would have to leave my job early every day to go um pick my baby up because she was attacking me these are babies they're still wearing they're toddlers they're all wearing diapers they're so sweet they're like little people and i'm like i wanted to cry in daycare because i said what's wrong with my baby you know i don't want her hitting i don't hit you know I don't I don't she doesn't see me hit anybody you know she doesn't see me fighting with no man her father is not around so like where why is she hitting babies and hitting her teachers and she's still wearing a diaper she's a little toddler oh my god so the director sat me down they said we think she needs to be evaluated we see that she's frustrated and um something else could be going on so they gave me some numbers to call and immediately without blinking I got her the help she needed I put my ego to the side is this is not about me I don't give a **** what anyone thinks about me or my child um nobody has to know you know you know I'm a this is my first time being a mother this is all new to me but instinctively in my heart I knew I didn't want my baby to suffer I needed to know immediately what was wrong when I got her evaluated immediately I did not play no games I didn't waste no time I got my child evaluated and sure enough they said she needs to be placed in a specialized school she needs recreational therapy occupational therapy and um speech therapy because she could not what it was she was hitting the children and and physically assaulting her teachers because she could not verbally express herself she couldn't talk she was delayed in her talking in her speech and the only way she could express herself was with her hands she was so frustrated so they said the state will pay for all her schooling they'll pay for transportation which is a huge help for me because daycare was bleeding my pockets as a single mother so the state paid for everything transportation free they came to the house picked her up every day on the school bus. The school was paid. The program was amazing. She went to a special school called Clover Patch School. It was a school for children with developmental disabilities. Children were in there with cerebral palsy and all types of stuff. But her classroom, there was probably six, very small classroom. They said she needs to be in a classroom where it's a little small group of children, not a large classroom where she can be overwhelmed and overstimulated. So a small group of children and there were four adults. So she had a main teacher. I think there were like two therapists in the room and maybe a teacher aid. There was four adults constantly monitoring the small group of children to give the children the attention. My daughter had, they could tell she had ADHD when she was only 18 months old. They knew it immediately. But in that specialized school, she got all the therapy. She developed, you know, her speech her you know she could talk it was an amazing program shout out to miss joan um they loved her dearly she graduated and everything from that program i say all this to say as a first time mother i didn't have a handbook either but i had a heart and instead of putting my pride and worried about what others think and my reputation i said no i want i don't want my baby to suffer i don't want my baby to go through life suffering. I need to get her some help immediately, put her in therapy ASAP. And I compare that with my mother. And at that time, that was the same time my mother prank called child protective services to try to get me in trouble and lie and say that my daughter doesn't have no food and I'm a bad mother. And like I said, child protective services investigated what my mother did not know is that my daughter was in a specialized school for teachers in a classroom. If my daughter was being abused, trust me, all four teachers would have noticed it and reported me first. But see, this is how God works. When that social worker came to interview her teachers about me, all four teachers across the board, amazing mother caresses is a beautiful little girl. She's dressed beautifully every day. Her hair, my daughter's hair was down her back. She was two years old and she had beautiful hair, hair, pretty pigtails every day. Well-dressed, clean huge big old fat pot belly she loved to eat she was always stuffing her face so she's not underfed her teachers gave me such amazing reviews so um then you know the social worker came to my house to inspect my house I had a small little studio what would I need a big apartment for when it's just me and my baby and she sleeps in a bed with me she said this is a cute little apartment I said yeah my sister I let my sister spend the weekend here and my sister ran back to Delaware where my mother lives and told my mother I lived in a fucked up apartment and that's what happened my mother prank called child protect my mother hasn't stepped foot in the apartment to see it for herself just being ******* hateful and prank calling them so you know like I said in the story the social worker said listen I'm gonna close this case in two weeks it was it was obviously a prank call but we still have to investigate even if it's a prank call and she said wait a minute don't I know you she said you go to my church and I said do we go to the same church Sure enough, we go to the same church. She recognized my face. She said, you gonna be all right, girl. Close my case. No abuse found. It was a **** you to my mother. So I look back and I compare me to my mother. My mother had no empathy. She can make all the ******* excuses she want. Oh, there's no handbook. I did the best I could. No, you didn't do the best. No, you didn't. You and my father failed. Y'all were ******* horrible. You both lacked empathy. you both did not have an emotional connection to your children all you can ******* say is we made sure you had a roof over your head and food to eat and that that's not love that's financial obligation if you don't take care of your children you go to ******* jail and your children go to foster care you only took care of us financially because by law you have to or you'll be penalized you'll be exposed for being piece of ---- parents and we all know you're so worried about your reputation you cannot let people think that you're not feeding and clothing your children and you can't keep a roof over your head. That's all about you and your reputation. So that's not love. That's what we call financial obligation. But see, your baby boomer parents will convince you that that's love. It's not love. The only reason they provided for us financially is because by law they had to. You bring a child into this world, if you don't take care of it, you can go to jail for neglect and your child can go into foster care. So when the narcissist has to face consequences legally, they tend to straighten up. But all that love stuff, reading your child a bedtime story and hugs and kisses. My mother was not affectionate. She had no empathy. She was emotionally disconnected. OK, so I say all this to say either you have it in you to love your child naturally. That's something that cannot be taught. It's something you don't learn out of goddamn handbook. You know, you don't need a handbook on how to love a child. period and I'm so over the gaslighting what that translates to me when I hear my mother or any other toxic trifling woman say oh there's no handbook on motherhood what they really mean is there's no handbook on how to teach you how not to abuse a child let that marinate y'all have a happy holiday let's talk about it in the comments section I know I was all over the place in this video but I can't ******* stand toxic parents toxic family members that co-sign your parents bullshit they're all anybody that ******* supports my mother at this point knowing she's married to a pedophile knowing she ******* abused me knowing she allowed me to walk around my entire childhood undiagnosed with a disability and still ******* bullying and abuse me anyone that supports my mother at this point can eat a dick **** you too bitch happy holidays