His money is my money modern slavery

I'm Dr. Orion Teraban, and this is Psych Hack's Better Living Through Psychology, and the topic for today's short talk is, his money is my money. This is a not-uncommon phrase that you will occasionally hear in the mouths of women, namely, my money is my money, and his money is my money. That is, the money that I, the woman, earn through my own effort and labor is my own, and no man has a right to determine to what uses it is spent, but because I'm in a relationship with a given man, I am justified in assuming that at least part of the money that he earns ought to be deployed in the service of my own care, comfort, and well-being. This is a proper and expected use of his resources. Now, this is entitlement in the most literal sense, in that such women believe they are enacting a natural right, and that nothing could be more reasonable and just, and I'm here to argue that this is not, in fact, a fair or reasonable expectation at all, and today, I'm going to help people, men and women, understand why this is the case. I don't think you've heard this argument before. It goes well beyond a simple question of female delusion. To begin with, let me ask women a complementary question. Do you believe that your body belongs to your man? Like, do you believe that your man is entitled to your body to use it whenever he wants, wherever he wants, however he wants? This is, after all, a portion of the traditional marriage vow, you know, the flesh of my flesh part, and was long used as an argument for why marital rape literally was impossible, as you couldn't rape yourself. I'm willing to bet that most women today would find such an attitude horrific. Of course my body doesn't belong to a man. It's my body. I have a right to my body. It belongs to me. So I give it if, and when, and how, and to whom I choose, and any man who thinks differently is a toxic sociopath, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. In any case, we're not talking about a man's body, Orion. We're talking about his money. A body is far more precious, far more valuable than money. Money is just money. All right, well, let's talk about money, shall we? People often say that time is money, but that isn't really true. It's much truer to say that money is time. Though all the money in the world can't buy another minute of life, it's also true that money can and does buy access to better health care, which is a form of buying time, and that money can and does expedite things, which is another form of buying time, et cetera, et cetera. However, money is time in an even more fundamental way. It is the transfiguration of time spent in labor. That is the meaning of money for the majority of people. It is disembodied labor, and labor is always spent in the application of the body. This is true whether you are a brick layer, or a brain surgeon, or a graphic designer. Your labor requires that your body perform certain tasks over a duration of time. I want you to understand that money is the abstraction of a particular form of physicality, namely the physicality of the laboring body. What does that mean? It means that believing you are entitled to another person's money is essentially believing that you are entitled to the labor that earned that money. Since labor always involves the application of the body, this is tantamount to believing that you are entitled to use that body according to your desires. Oh, ----. Now, if your right means and requires the labor of another person to realize, then guess what? It's not a ******* right. It is not, and it cannot be a just and reasonable entitlement. Stay with me now. I'm not sure how you define things, but there is an institution on this planet that is founded on the belief that one person is entitled to another person's labor. It begins with S and rhymes with blavery. I'll say this as plainly as I can. Anyone who feels entitled to another person's money is a slaver with a couple extra steps. This is because, as previously discussed, money ties back to the body just as surely and inevitably as sexuality does. Introducing my innovative first novel, Starry Night. Step into the world of painter Vincent Van Gogh, genius, sinner, prophet, madman. Relive the final 10 weeks of his life in this breathtaking tale of art, love, loss, and meaning, and challenge what you think you know about life and relationships. Once you see through Vincent's eyes, the world will never look the same again. Starry Night, now available in ebook, audiobook, and paperback formats. The links are in the Now, this isn't one of your average double standards. This is a big and scary one. Just as we collectively believe, correctly, in my opinion, that men are not entitled to use the bodies of women without their consent, even if the bodies in question belong to their wives, we must collectively stamp out the belief that women are entitled to the resources of men, even if they are their husbands, simply because they are in a sexual relationship with them. Both ideas presume ownership over another person's body for a specific purpose. This is dangerous because the desire to control another person's resources always, always, always masks a desire to strip them of their freedom. Money and freedom are very closely related to each other in more ways than one. Most of the rights and civil liberties that people enjoy today really came into being during the Enlightenment in the 18th century, which, whoa, wow, what a strange coincidence, just happened to coincide with the Industrial Revolution and the global birth of capitalism. Capitalism and liberal democracy are really two sides of the same coin. The one preserves the other, and it's actually pretty easy to demonstrate why this is the case. You've heard of **** you money, right? **** you money is possessing enough money that you feel free to walk away from any situation or relationship that doesn't serve you anymore. You don't need any given job or relationship. If they piss you off or do you dirty, you can tell them to just **** the ride off. Now, what happens if I take away some of that money? Now, you're still free in an existential sense to walk away, but your freedom in a real practical sense has been compromised. You can still walk away from a bad situation, but you might not be able to pay your bills or put food on the table, so you will likely put up with worse treatment and poorer conditions than someone with greater financial means. You are much easier to control and much less likely to fight back. Now, imagine what would happen if we take away your entirely, like unpopular opinion, but individual freedom is actually predicated on the existence of private property. Any person's practical freedom depends directly on his capacity to enact that freedom in a meaningful way. Remove the means to enact that freedom, and you can control the person as effectively as if he were in chains. This is what I want you to understand. When a woman feels entitled to a man's money, she's laying claim to a lot more than just his money. She's laying claim to his time, to his labor, to his physicality for a specific purpose, and in a real practical sense, to his freedom. This is no small thing. A woman who talks like this and who talks like this with impunity is like a modern-day Marie Antoinette. She's so out of touch with reality, and she feels so removed from the consequences that her beliefs naturally produce that she is functionally from another ******* planet. 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