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>> I'm calling about the question. My
in-laws want us to pay them back for the
money they spent on my wife's unfinished
college semester.
>> One semester.
>> Uh, yes.
>> Why? Uh well
well
I don't really know where to start with
this but um I started dating I we got we
got married a couple months ago. When I
started dating her she was in college
for engineering and I pretty quickly
found out that she absolutely hated it.
Uh she was miserable and it also made me
miserable. Uh she also has a heart
condition inappropriate planocardia and
it was making that way worse. Uh she
also got really sick in the spring
semester of 25. She came down with
double pneumonia and was just unable to
keep up with classes. So um she dropped
she dropped the semester and currently
she's a ball and dance teacher. She
doesn't have plans to go back. Uh we've
got married since then. Her college up
until that point has been paid for by a
fund left by her grandfather, but her
parents say that they were unable to get
the money for that. And um from what I
am told, that's about $6,000 that they
want us to pay them back. Um and it's
not a lot of money, but it's a lot of
money for us.
>> No.
>> Why?
>> Are they are they are they objectively
not good people or do they not like her
marrying you?
>> They're really not happy that you got
married.
>> They Correct. Correct. Um this first
came up actually as a way to stop us
from getting married.
>> Yeah. Uh, and the main reason that they
were against us getting married is they
for since she was like 10, they really
pushed her to go to engineering. And
when I was talking to them to get
permission to propose,
um, I her mom specifically asked me that
I need to tell her that her degree is
the most important thing in the world to
me and I couldn't do that. Um, I got
permission from her dad, but not her mom
and her mom really doesn't like me. Um,
and I we haven't heard anything about
this since we got married.
>> How long you been married? Did you say
>> finishing up before then?
>> We've been married since August the
second.
>> And how old are you?
>> 21.
>> Okay. All right. Honey, this is not
going to go well.
>> Yeah. Sorry, man.
>> Yeah, I know.
>> Yeah.
>> I just I I want I want to do everything
I can.
>> This is not This is not about tuition.
This is about control.
>> Yeah. I
>> I know.
>> This is a flex.
the ultimate flex. And so you just you
just have to look at them and smile and
say, you know, I'm sorry, we can't do
that.
>> Or really, her their daughter needs to
do that.
>> Yeah. Just tell mom, sorry, we can't do
that. Well, what? I'm sorry, we can't do
that. Don't don't get into an argument.
Don't try to explain it. Don't try to
get into some kind of moral construct
because there's not one. This has
nothing to do with moral constructs. And
by the way, is is her are her parents um
the in charge of this money from this
fund or could your wife go back to
school in 5 years if she wants to go be
a therapist or something?
>> So her aunt is managing the fund. Um I
don't know how much money there is left
in it to be honest. They recently told
my brother-in-law that he has to stop
going to the school he's currently going
to and go to the community college near
them because they there isn't enough
money for him to go there.
>> Okay.
>> Um
>> that's what that's why they didn't get
their $6,000 because there's not any
money in there.
>> Let me say this as blunt as I can. The
relationship that you think you're
trying to preserve for your wife is
already gone has never been there.
Yeah.
>> Yeah. If you repay this, these are still
two very unhappy parents.
>> Yes.
>> And then there'll be another flex and
another
>> anything at all or
just kick the can down the road. It will
come up when you have your first kid or
it will come up in another.
>> There's nothing to do.
>> No. And you don't have $6,000. That's
what's even
>> I'm sorry we can't do that. Yeah. I
would not say why.
>> I would not say when. I would not put
terms to it. It's a simple closedended
one-s sentence reaction. Mom, I know
you'd like for us to do this. I'm sorry
we can't.
That's it. It's over. And it's not going
to go well, dude. These guys are going
to go off like rockets cuz this is a
flex. It's a It's a boundaryless power
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