Landmark study shows what makes a successful relationship

Dude, I'm ready to delete the apps. All the people I'm meeting, they just don't have compatible personalities. Stop right there, Bestie. A landmark study published in Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences argues otherwise. Samantha Joel, the study's lead author, and her team did an analysis of 11,196 couples from 43 studies. What they found was that the person you choose is not nearly as important as the relationship that you build. What? No way. That can't be real. Tis true. They found that your partner's personality So what, then? You just ignore their personality completely? I mean, just don't focus so much on whether they fit your type or check your boxes. And instead, think about how you're engaging with each other and if the relationship leaves you feeling satisfied. Interesting. Okay, so then they're saying, like, it doesn't matter if he's, like, into hiking and I'm not. Ew, he wants to leave the house? Throw him away. You just said— Okay, fine. Yes. A great relationship was less about finding the perfect partner or changing your current one, but building the relationship itself. Setting up conditions that allow it to flourish. The grass is greener where you water it. Exactly. Grass is outside. You need sunlight, you know. Okay, so the next date I'm on, I should focus less on if we have shared intros or even, like, compatible lifestyles, but what kind of relationship we seem to naturally lean into. I mean, yeah, like, if there's deal-breaker incompatibilities, like, you want kids and she doesn't, then, like, obvi, don't pursue it. But otherwise, apparently, how you feel now can be somewhat diagnostic for how you'll feel later on. Your perception of the relationship's satisfaction and dynamic is what mattered most, according to science. According to science. But who knows? Science changes all the time. It's constantly evolving. I mean, the first doctor who suggested that we wash our hands before surgery was ridiculed to the point of a mental breakdown and put in an asylum. That's crazy. So many people died. Science is scary. Terrifying. Have fun in your day. Thanks. Yeah, I'm gonna go... just do that. Actually, no, I don't think I am. No, I'm kind of... No, I'll stay inside with you, actually. You're really rubbing off on me. This video is brought to you by Squarespace. So, Daddy Squarespace makes it easy to create a beautiful website, engage with your audience, and sell anything from products to content to time. With Squarespace Blueprint, you can choose from professionally curated layout Easily launch your website and quickly get discovered with optimized SEO tools. If you don't know internet lingo, that basically means you show up more often to more people and can grow the way that you want. They also have flexible payments, which makes checkout for your customers super simple because they can select whatever works best for them, whether it's credit cards, PayPal, Apple Pay, and more. And if you're a video creator like myself, you can upload your video content, organize your library, and sell access to your catalog by adding a paywall to your content. From helpful AI tools to client invoicing, streamlining your workflow has never been easier than with my daddy. Go to squarespace.com for a free trial. And whenever you're ready to launch, go to squarespace.com slash Anna to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.