The Best Psychology Class Comes From Talking To Strangers

scientists say men want to get rich subconsciously because they know it improves their love life so we never are trained social skills so I'm going to show you the I'd say the biggest return I'll give you an example I went to a birkshire haway meeting years ago my first one and I sat way up high because it was hard to get seats and I remember I always had mentors that told me to be social and I didn't who here is just sometimes you don't feel social you just want to be a vegie veggie I can see some of you just vegging out okay and I was at this 8 Hour thing it starts you get there at like 5: in the morning you run has anybody ever been to birkshire hathway it's the biggest investor Meetup in the world you run through the thing to get it's all these like you know adult men wooing whooing and ha over waren Buffett's talk so I was tired it ends around 3 o00 I was like 2:45 and I was like and I'd been sitting next to this older dude and um I just some in me I was like always be social the asymmetrical return means you do this much energy and you make that much return on your investment so I was like Ty you sat next to this dude talk to him I don't remember what I said but I started talking and it was in right when I had launched my I launched my brand on book of the day it was before here in my garage it was in 2013 I launched a newsletter and at the time I bccd 20 friends I said I'm going to read a book a day and I'm going to summar Miz it for you and I put 20 emails of just buddies of mine and then I said if you like this forward this to a friend it started to grow from 20 bcc's to about 150 200 people and I would send an email every day it was a lot of work I'd spend three hours a day reading a book and writing out a cool summary fast forward six months into it I'm at this meeting I don't feel like being social I'm sitting next to this dude now I still know him to this day start talking to him turns out I'm like and we were high up so I didn't think there would be like good people high up cuz like all the billionaires were sitting down you could see them all around Warren buffin and he goes uh and I told him about my book of the day I'm like yeah I do book summary he's like oh I love books and I was like you want to be I used to have on my phone my website I'm like you want to sign up I don't want to spam you but if you put your so he went on his website put it in no it's way before mentro Box about three years before that so I leave sending out my daily emails a month later I get an email a reply and it was like Hey I was the guy who sat next to you okay and I could see like his name was also the domain okay it turned out it's one of the richest guys in the world he's like the number one entrepre he's I'm not sure if he's a bil multibillionaire but he's almost the richest guy in Germany he was a German guy had a thick accent sends me I Google them I'm like holy [ __ ] I'm sitting then I told some friends who go to birkshire halfway like oh you were sitting by Warren Buffett's friend I'm like what I'm like typing keep sending my emails out two weeks later hey man I want you to come to Germany I have 14 CEOs I'm G to fly them all in and I want you to give a talk and I flew and I Remember by the way some people I've talked about this don't be a p with traveling it's we're now sitting in a luxury chair in the sky and people like I don't know I go the airport and wait I'm like bro what planet are you on people used to go I just read the book about the guys that had to go from England under uh Argentina and come back it was one of the biggest scandals in the 1800s like 400 men went like four came back took them 12 years years to get back they all died they were eating each other all this [ __ ] we can now go to London you know and be back the same day almost 24 hours so I remember telling Maya who's my coo now but back then she was just like my right hand and I was like I have to be somewhere on Wednesday and he invited me to speak in Monday on Monday in bond Germany and I I remember my mentors were tough guys they like don't be a [ __ ] I said my I'm going to try experiment I leave Sunday land Monday speak at night fly back Tuesday for my Wednesday thing I was like I'm going to try experiment what happens if you just do a quick thing it was a glorious meeting I'm still friends with this guy it's a powerful person two lessons talk to strangers and don't be afraid to travel I read books on the way never think about travel my next door neighbor in Beverly Hills one of the richest guys in in America he told I was like what's your secret he built a big CL clothing brand sold it to JC Penney rich guy owns a lot of Beverly Hills most expensive real estate in the world and I asked him he's in his 6 I was like what's your secret what was your daily habit he said well I'll tell you my weekly habit Sunday he's like I had eight kids Sunday I would get on an airplane at LAX I'd fly to mil Milan Italy um I would look at the Styles and I would come back on Tuesday or Wednesday and then I could be with my kids Thursday Friday Saturday and all of the morning Sunday before I flew again I was like well that sounds like a tough trip how often you do it he goes oh every week I said how many years you do that I said oh my whole career 20 years he said nobody was willing to do it and I was like I just figured out fun stuff to do on the plane I met people I read and he's probably worth I don't know 500 million to5 billion dollar tough people make the money you're never going to beat a tough dude or a tough woman some people I was like you want to come to Vegas there was people like you're too busy I'm like we'll fly and come back to next next day so two lessons talk to strangers and do not be afraid to get on a plane at any moment it's the safest travel the last time someone's died in american commercial traffic death was like 2013 nobody dies they're safe as hell your way safer than driving here so social skills I'll give you one thing and then we'll go practice it tonight we'll talk more on social skills and this directly makes you money in fact Jim Collins you ever heard of him good to great he wrote he's the kind of the most he's the new drer uh I I I had him Mentor me once I had a little session with him and he wrote the bestselling business books of modern time good to Great built to last he has in there the luckiest thing that will ever happen to you for making money is not a business idea it's not catching a TR a trend it's who you will accidentally meet at some point in your life and the richest guy I've ever had dinner with Steve balmer's like you know most of my success is like I happen to be in the same dorm as this kid named Bill Gates the best money Story by the way somebody like money what's the best investment of all time huh buying the Copper Pot yeah the Coca-Cola recipe okay who's the person that did it let's do modern the last 50 years greatest investment Apple Amazon no one luck event kid was at a dorm at Harvard met another kid said I not Zuckerberg he said I'll give Zuckerberg like eight 10 grand to run the servers in exchange for a large chunk of the company it was Eduardo San he gave Mark Zuckerberg it wasn't Mark Zuckerberg Eduardo San made I nobody knows the number he left America IRS changed the tax law because of one kid he worked approximately one hour and made between eight to18 billion dollar you know how much money that is for one hour of work he smoked everybody what was it he talked to strangers there was other kids in there in the dorm with Mark Zuckerberg that didn't talk to him there was other Steve Bal your shyness has already robbed you for sure of seven maybe eight possibly nine figures let me repeat that the shyness the social anxiety the oh I'm an introvert I have to recharge my batteries who believes that's good psychology you think that's real science of introversion this is let me give you a prime example of how stupidity spreads on social media who here has heard that an introvert needs to recharge their batteries that's the defin who made that up know but who's who studies psychology it's the most common [ __ ] lie that gets spread around social media that allows introverts to have excuses for not overcoming what's more likely anxiety you don't believe me who invented the word introversion an extrovert Carl Young read his book he defines it in the [ __ ] book it's on iBooks and Amazon nobody reads the sources anymore that's why you all are lied to you listen to influencers who regurgitate stuff but they didn't read it either I go to the source Carl Young said that's not what an introvert or extrovert is an extrovert processes the world through his exterior senses the introvert processes it through inner thinking Stephen Hawking maybe was an introvert he was paralyzed he thought about the universe in his head that's kind of introverted energy extrovert is me I learn by actually talking with you all I'm glad you all are here I'm not just doing you a favor to be here you're doing me a favor as I talk and interact I learn so who here is bought into I'm an introvert so I'm just not the kind of person who talks to people strangers be honest it should be half the hands who here has missed an opportunity because they haven't talked to a stranger who here has ever seen the man or woman of their dreams but you're too much of a [ __ ] to talk to them why strangers you can't be embarrassed by Str because they'll never see you again men are funny what do men say red pill men women shouldn't be president because they're more what more emotional oh the most emotional people if you define it by elogical is men men go to war for a cause they don't believe to die for rich men when they're in the they're from the ghetto if men were logical all the all the people in America would like I ain't going to [ __ ] go into Vietnam you know who told got big argu with my my grandfather who was pro- Vietnam War Domino Theory run by all people in America presidents my grandma I thought women weren't logical my grandma said why are you fighting in a war that we don't even know what's going on there leave it alone so men on a lot local basis see women that they're attracted women don't fall in love as quickly just by looks men do and Men puss out the most so if you were logical wouldn't you be a robot and say I am a robot there is a woman I am very attracted to I am in a setting where if I am rejected no one will ever notice but you still are a [ __ ] therefore you're equally illogical or more so than women don't go down that deep red pill red pill is 80% true and 20% massive garbage and you don't know which 20 is correct and what's the truth women are more emotional but not more illogical and God help you if you ever meet a dude who tells you about his PhD or his engineering degree you have met an emotional [ __ ] trust me you how emotional [ __ ] hey video game kid hey porn Watcher why don't you go meet a hot girl that looks like the girl on porn he's afraid because he's dominated by emotions so in my third pillar for both men and women but especially men it's harder for me to speak to the experience of a woman because I'm not a woman I try to give my insight to women but I can't tell you the Deep experience of a woman but I can tell you the experience of a man and that is put on your big boy pants talk to strangers a lot so I have this thing in 40 moves you talk to 40 people strangers in the next 40 days and once you do that and you put a little thick skin you then talk to 40 people a week and then you do 40 people in one day and when you get to that level now you're at a black belt level all things in your life that suck begin to go away one chess move you meet somebody like I met by the way when I flew to Germany to meet that German guy you know what he told me Ty I'm in onl he owns a lot of the magazines print magazines he said but I think this business is dying I think a good business is to sell educational stuff online this is me in 2013 so I think this is something let me show you some tricks on how I became a publisher of information do you think that was helpful meeting for me did I make any money in selling publishing information online I think I may be the most in human history of revenue from selling online education from a individual person Grant Cardone maybe has I've stopped for three years kind of who's going to try 40 strangers in 40 days don't just make it all about women I was just with mystery he's the most famous pickup artist he's a true genius I've gotten to know him I've read his books for years but he's great at just talking to people including men including men it's a big mistake that men conserve all their energy and only talk to women in fact what mystery one of the surprising things he pretty much only likes to talk to women when they're with men he said all hot women are protected by men so he knows how to disarm he does he's like my favorite is a five set two girls and three guys he's like I walk in there and control the whole thing and he's like I can walk out with both the girls and the dudes are like yeah take them they're so mesmerized he's like a magician so all men here now women I also highly recommend that you learn the skill women just have to be careful of talking to strange men because men can Mis interpret it there's a famous study where women were told as cashiers at a grocery store to smile and be friendly to every dude who came strangers the amount of stalkers went so high they had to shut down the study because men if women so that's why women use resting [ __ ] face to protect themselves so women have to learn how to talk to other women because women are very catty to each other even right here right now I can tell a body language not all the women have talked to each other here's how women do that dress kind of short she's a [ __ ] I don't want to know her women men don't do that I rarely see a dude like braah [ __ ] got shorts on I'm not women do a different level women have their own illogical behaviors women don't bring your cultural standards into things go talk to women who even look [ __ ] once in a while you're talking to the next Rihanna who I've met Rihanna is probably people ask me the greatest celebrity I've ever met that made the biggest impression would be Rihanna she's like a you know women say they're a queen you know like I'm a queen I'm like I met a queen before you meet Rihanna you're like this is like she has like a aura even stronger than any dude I've met so but if you met Rihanna when she was doing one of her performances she might have on something that you're like oh she's [ __ ] so women have a different set of women bring cultural biases to interpersonal relationships with other women go meet a woman and befriend someone who's a [ __ ] you may learn something that helps you in your own marriage but it doesn't mean you have to become your best friend where you spend every waking moment with them but when you bring your cultural biases and this is men and women to social settings you judge things that you know not of so that's why I said it's better to be a robot I when I I was helping some guys get better with women I was in Finland a couple months ago and there was a guy I wanted to say to him you ever seen where Simon cow goes you're the worst voice I've ever heard you ever seen those where Simon used to say that I want to say this dude you are the worst man on Earth with women you you have won the award I've never met a human that like for example mystery would like teach he teaches guys how to be playful with women so he'll be walking this famous pickup artist guy he'll be walking and if there's women behind him he'll turn and be like oh are you guys stalking me and just like open the conversation but they're just walking behind this dude would do it like this are stop stalking me and they would leave and I was like delivery buddy delivery he was saying are you stalking me and I was like so this guy was the worst guy I've ever met with women but what I told him is let's do there's an old rule turn right uh sorry first on the right or first on the left you walk into a building first person on the right talk to so he was like that won't work I'm super picky I only want to talk to the pretty women I was like watch this so we were in Helsinki Finland there's a May F it's called the May is it May 1st or May 5th I was I was there for week May 5th it's called it's like their fourth of July so there's a million people out in the city and we're on this Hillside and I go I'm gonna talk to every single group that walks by so I'll talk to one I talk to them the second they leave the next group goes he's like I don't believe it was a weird guy he was from French French people are always [ __ ] pessimistic right most mental illness of any Western country is France so new study just came out so so I just said okay so I talked to this guy nothing came of it walks I remember this dude comes by was like four guys and four girls and he had like complete tattoos over his body but they were kind of cool like four guys four girls but the D Finnish guys are pretty [ __ ] tall I couldn't tell there was this one pretty girl cuz they were in front so I turn to the guy and I remember when you do this rapid fire which is great to do you just say anything so I was just like you don't cuz you can get into pickup and conversational social game where you're like memorizing routine and that's also good to do I have opening they call them like openings you can stack on top of each other but I just turned this guy I was like I've always wanted to get a tattoo where'd you get that and obviously the dude loved his tattoos because they put him on his face so he stopped and he was kind of like oh yeah like I got it and he named something in Finish it's not an easy language it's like Street and there was this girl that was way shorter than gu was probably like 66 and she comes out and and I I saw her finally and so I said it's like what did he say and she's like oh and she spoke she was super exotic I actually posted her on my Snapchat people were like who is this woman she was half Finnish half Spanish she looked like the Catwoman like Hal Berry but like no contact she had like green eyes with it was it's a wild look anything mixed with like Swedish so she was like super beautiful and I I go can you can you DM it to me because I'm never going to find that street so she's like DM me the address like a week later I like went out to dinner with her it's not like somebody I fell in love with but that guy was blown away I was like talk to anybody I didn't go well I'm only going to make the income of the five men that I spend the most time around this guy's a face tattoo therefore culturally he's probably not that good of business and [ __ ] that rapid fire machine gun if any of you were extra skilled by the time this two days is over you would have probed every person in this room you can't do it by looks that's where women mess up women are wacky judgmental on looks men in general aren't going like oh the guy's better looking I'll talk to him women they call that the halo effect so if you're a woman try the rapid fire thing talk to every woman at this thing give everybody a chance you never know and if you're a dude turn right so when we go to the foundation room just walk around and your friend tap you on the shoulder turn right who's ever there talk to them and your goal is for women to not yet find you attractive it should take 67 days to build any level of like Street game so you're going in with the intention tonight of people thinking you're a tad bit weird it's okay that's the another thing that freaks men out women going ew dude the best guy I've ever seen in the world this guy Drago who worked for me he was I asked him once because he I've never seen a dude that talented even M Mysteries not like Drago because Drago is a 10 in looks he was like Chris Hemsworth with the ultimate social game but he told me I once like how often you get rejected I thought he was going to say like 5% of time he's like oh like at least 50% of the time and when I realized that the best looking dude in the world with the most social skills he helped me build a whole nightclub 40 to 100 women a night came to my club because he was the doorman he was a magn it was like made me money there was before only fans I had my doorman when I took over that club I fired everybody because it was an old kind of hostile Colombian group that owned the nightclubs but Georgio told me whatever you do don't fire Drago and I was like what he's like trust me wait till the first night he'd wear a tuxedo be out front it was like having like Brad Pit or it's like having he looked kind of like Johnny Depp in his prime it's like having DiCaprio as your doorman Prime Titanic DiCaprio and you own a nightclub for 20-y old women it's like but that guy still is at a 50% rejection rate so this is where men go wrong they have a with women you have a misconception of what a talented dude will do you can be the best looking guy in the world with the most social skill and a billion dollars sometimes wi women do you ever just get sick of men it ain't a day where you want to talk to a guy anybody be honest women have those moments they're not like men men are like always like I'll me a pretty girl like you could have like lost your arm and like a pretty girl like I'll talk to you right now like I'll talk to you before I go to the hospital women are more selective so men tonight when you go into it if there's a woman there at the Foundation Room you should be at like 5% right now so you should need to approach 20 women before one of them's remotely interested in you and that's if you're a decent looking guy in decent shape if you ain't good-looking and you let your body run down you can be out 1% but just do it anyway because it also motivates you in the gym I motivate some of my friends I told them put a picture on the fridge of the woman you find the most attractive that has you in the friend zone and well before you grab a twinky before you grab ice cream he's like the massive men lead lives of quiet desperation what we call resignation is confirmed desperation uh what we call desperation is confirmed so I said you open that you eat the Twinkies and the cookies and the ice cream you confirm the friend zone buddy don't ever think women aren't visual the good news is you can have an ugly face and make up for and other things so get your body right but today you should be at a 1 to 5% unless remember tonight I was with a friend we went gambling remember the two guys talking to the girl that thought they were n .9 there's hookers in La I mean in Vegas these two dudes Mindy went to the bathroom and I was like I should film these guys but I don't want to because they don't know they're talking to a hooker and she was like a nine and he D like a five and boy you let a man have confidence they were spitting every R line they knew and I was thinking bro I wanted to go up to him and be like you don't even need to talk why you talking these guys were talking game for like 30 minutes to this girl I was like she just wants your money just get it over with man so tonight if you meet a woman and normally nines don't approach you and talk to you for a long period of time it's a hooker so you can practice on that but don't get too excited don't get too excited I want you to walk up to a resting [ __ ] woman I'm going to give you one line write this down this is for men women do not have the problem women get too much attention from men any women here ever feel you get too much attention from men men anyone here any man feel you getting too much attention from women you're like my damn Instagram DM I just can't handle the volume everywhere I go I just want to go to the gym and work out and like these beautiful women man raise your hand if your life is impaired by approaches from women are you being approached too many times women have you ever been bothered by approaches from men too much okay so this is why we're talking the Sexes are different gender I'm not going to talk about but we'll talk about the Sexes so men here's a good opening line I'm going to give you a good and bad is my opinion um and I do think all men you should be able to approach an attractive woman even if you're married not to cheat but beautiful women also are often attached to the most powerful businessmen that is a great even if you don't care about if you're a gay man approach beautiful women because often the most powerful businessman in that hotel is going to soon be coming up to her so here's a couple horrible lines with women in my opinion now a lot of the guys teach and pickup on social media are so against what I'm about to say but I've done okay with women in my day I'll call [ __ ] on these guys so I don't think you should do anything sexual or romantic at the beginning at all where did I get that well my life experience but also who's the most famous per man in human history with women we call men who are good with women a certain name we say they're a casan NOA Whoever has ever gone to the source of kasanova he's so well known he was born in the 1600s we still talk about him 450 years later but yet there's some new dude with 17,000 social media followers some dude who you don't can't verify does well at all with women and you're listening to his advice what did Casanova say be chameleon one be the FL be the mo be the flame not the moth but another thing he said I didn't like Bas it's a long paragraph you should read it it's the Memoirs of Gian Koo Casanova I've read it I read it like once a year he he said show women more than tell them if you like a woman show it by your actions spend time with them but I think it's a big mistake to walk up to a woman one of you today at Vegas and say I just wanted to say I saw you across the room I just you know you're really beautiful and I just wanted to introduce myself I don't know who's teaching this on Instagram but I would love to go film them in a double blind scientific and just watch their numbers be decimated versus what I'm going to tell you so I I just think it's wrong first off beautiful women are inundated how you going to stand out by just saying he's beautiful number two you're projecting low value to yourself number three you're not engaging her mind which puts you in the category of every dude on planet Earth so a good one that I like is some when you're close to somebody first off I don't think a man should direct approach right up beline to a woman that's a sign of aggression in any primate you you don't go stra men are often times who who's a man here who weighs over 220 lbs raise your hand okay you I to female next to you how much do you weigh I think 105 okay 105 so you're roughly over 1X 2x what she weighs correct okay how would you feel of a beline 460 lb dude how tall are you uh five five foot how tall are you six foot okay okay so you're she's 56 of you so how Jack of the mountain who weighs about 450 the guy from The Game of Thrones and he's about 6'8 6' n he just beline approaches you I saw you across the room I wanted to know I found you pretty attractive and I needed to introduce myself you know what this is actually called Dr bus is doing new scientific studies it's actually called mind reading some people call it empathy there's other words for it to be good social you have to get in the mind of a 5 foot woman who weighs 105 pounds men are that's where men are oblivious to a you're a grizzly bear coming up to a sheep and you're like why are you running so much better today try to position yourself in a natural position to wear something somebody is preferably you're with a group of people so you're high status men are around other people want to be with them so subliminally don't just move this is even worse you're you're 450 PB dude okay women notice people at the club men are oblivious women have already staked out so you're a 450 lb 6'8 dude who's been standing alone like this the whole time no friends nothing and then you beline and it's horrible you put a cortisol spikes through the roof so better is to position yourself with a group of people can be men or women preferably not a ton of dudes or now you have gang Warfare what's even worse is if the mountain and his six buddies approached you found you pretty attractive over there we just all need to come talk to you there like a prison scene here okay so you Walk Up Walk position where you can speak over the shoulder there less a aggressive and say something like me and my friend we were just talking earlier we had a little bit of an argument do you mind uh settling it is it better to be wanted or needed and why pause now you're showing I'm interested if you're a smart person she knows you're talking to her because you find her attractive why do you need to State it that's like Elon Musk walks up and you're like Elon I wanted you to know that I admire you as a business guy and that's why I want he already knows know that's why you're talking to him he doesn't think it's because you know his name's Elon so just get to the point but elicit so that's a good one it's it better to be wanted or needed but then shut up Let the woman say what she going to say and from there you can mounce around so those are I call those intellectual openers I think it's better I think I we'll talk about this tomorrow in my 13th thesis I think women seek five things from a man one one is archetypes one's the surfer archetype that's your body lean muscle like a surfer Brad Pit has that in Chris Hemsworth Australian was a surfer that you guys rate rated a 10 so that phenotype body type should be Surfer number two women like Clark Kent nerd by Day nerd by day intellectual smart women have you ever met a guy who was very attractive but eventually he was too stupid for you yeah so you need to have an intellectual side third a man should have uh the James Bond Vibe it's not wealthy men that do well it's James Bond so your apartment doesn't have to be the richest most expensive your car doesn't have to be the nicest but it needs to be classy so at night you need to have a be able to switch like at a dinner party into a classy mode that's like a king Vibe James Bond but you don't have to be a billionaire then the fourth Vibe archetype of man should be anybody who else does well with women yes you oh you just raised your hand as if it was no behind you you were saying you do well with women now I saying an archetype I like your confidence I was like what other archetypes do well me you are the archetype no the other one is a local celebrity so it's good to go to the same restaurant and go to the same nightclub where you know the bouncers you don't have to be a f and it's good to throw House Parties cuz then you're the celebrity then lastly is the spiritual artist women are attracted to somebody who has depth too spir or musicians have a different depth it's not just logical and they do very well so tonight when you're meeting strangers whether it's male or female but if it is a female you want to show you have all five archetypes you don't want to be too nerdy because women eventually don't want a total nerd you don't want a total rock star dude who's like at a club partying all the time so this opening line one other opening line that I think can work well too um it's simpler talk to the guy it's way better 80% of the time the guy if it's a group of guys is not actually dating her men women who are single a lot of times love to go out in groups because it keeps men off of them so approaching women in groups is often better and what not here's the good news if she is dating somebody let's say you approach there's a they call this a mix set Owen I'm going to pretend you're a female wayin you're a male so I approach the guy the guy's not afraid of you right he now knows you're not trying to hit on his girl because he may be in the friend zone and secretly like her or may be dating her if she's beautiful it's and he and she has way Linn Owen's beautiful he's probably a higher status man who may become a business Ally you talked away Lynn for a while I don't like but not too long because then sometimes the girl leaves and it's like oh my friend's been occupied then you say this how do you two know each other then you'll find out the truth if he says we're married or something I'm not a big fan of TR I don't think you should try to steal people's girls I think it's weird and you can get every one in 100 times you do that you get shot in the face it's not a good Napoleon's main General one of the main generals that Napoleon was the first trillionaire he got shot in the face for he he was sleeping with too many wives finally someone's like this guy's got to die he's sleeping with our wives pow so I talk to you if you're dating or in a relationship then I just talk to both of you and make an ally and a friend for the future if I find out it's friend zone you can talk a little bit more to her it's a you can't lose you can't lose in that scenario and if they're both boring you move on in 5 minutes and you've honed your skills like bodybuilding reps you need let's say you need 15,000 reps to really be strong in this world you've repped out five minutes of it