Forget Habits. Change Your Instincts.

so I'm traveling the world in Thailand on the way to Sydney Australia and I'm reminded that what's being taught is not quite right you shouldn't change your habits you should change your instincts now along the way to changing your life you have to change your habits but that's only a bridge to changing instincts a dog doesn't have to remind itself to have a good habit of liking meat a dog is born with the instinct to like meat if you want to be healthy wealthy happy and wise you're going to have to change your instincts habits is the bridge of transitionary period to new instincts the Daly Lama said there's three levels of learning and I see this all the time I've had thousands of people work from me more more and guess what the hardest thing is not even to change habits it's to change instincts this is probably why it's the semi- autistic people that are running the world because for example they have a different set of instincts they're highly conscientious and organized they're a little bit OCD I mean I hire people and people it's like pulling Nails people work for me 10 years they're still not used to thinking with checklists for example organize you know like I'm traveling I'm like yo before you get in the taxi to go to the Bangkok Airport check I have I wear special pants that have pocket sweatpants so left pocket always has my passport right pocket always has my wallet and then I got a bag with my different phones I got phones for different countries I live in so guess what that's Instinct well I try to get on the in the van today I'm like I ain't get in that van until I see step by step military style OCD style I know I got my passport in the left bucket I know I got wall in the right where's my bag with my phones where's my laptop bag where's my personal bag and then have we counted methodically we took a picture before we got to vancock when we got in the airport in Copenhagen seven bags or whatever the number was I can't remember and then my team traveling should match the photos when you land and you might say Ty what does this have to do with light this has everything to do with life you can't turn on and off being a black belt you become a black belt in your instincts whether you're in the Brazilian jiujitsu Studio or you're out on the streets they're the same it's the same with being successful you some people are like okay when I work for you I'm going to become highly conscientious then when I go into my private life I'm no and by the way the good news is once it becomes instincts it's not hard anymore habits are not as good as instincts habits can be broken Instinct basically can't you're not going to make Mark Zuckerberg a sloppy person it's not like a habit like he used to be an alcoholic okay or he used to bite his nails and now he doesn't anymore but he might fall back into it it ain't going to app I you could bet pretty much any amount of money on the fact that Mark Zuckerberg is instinctually kind of a that's why people think he's a lizard man reptile cuz the dude is so conscientious he doesn't fit in with the norm of the masses but he gets the results that everybody wants in life he seems to be you know I don't know him personally but he seems to have health wealth love happiness definitely has wealth no one's ever had a 100 billion net worth under the age of 37 but him for person to do it in modern times you know self-made Health well love happiness seems he does a little Jiu-Jitsu now he's happily married I guess to Priscilla or I forget her name and he seems relatively happy I don't know but that's the results everybody wants but they don't have the instincts and we're born with very primitive caveman or more accurately hunter gatherer instincts and those instincts you know destroy you in the modern world when you're trying to be successful so trust me or don't even trust me use your brain use the power of observation better than any Harvard NBA that you got to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to get is look at the Forbes list what do they all have in common you can look at them as dirty mean capitalists you know exploit the world sure there's no Saints on the top of the Forbes list that's that's for sure but you can also pick and choose the meaningful helpful lessons that you can take for them and you know they used to teach the Greeks in you know they used to teach even the 1800s early 1900s they used to teach the virtues in school now virtues has become such a woke concept but you could call it the character traits those are character traits like organization perfectionism diligence you know perseverance the ability to do something repetive itively if it needs to be done so that you're not a sporadic you know kind of fits and spurts type of person and this is what make will make you great and if you want to know what'll not make you great just do the opposite of all of these you can invert who would you bet on imagine you bump into somebody I'm traveling I've been in Denmark Norway now I'm in Thailand I'm almost at the airport headed to Sydney if I'm traveling and I bump into somebody at the airport and I get to know them for 30 minutes and I start noticing wow this person's organized this person's well spoken this person's balance between introversion and extroversion knows one to shut up knows one to talk can elaborate without too many words or without too little words seems intelligent well thought through ideas seems if we do something together is organized with the structure when they type in WhatsApp they don't just do blur what most people do that drives me nuts which is you know I call it stream of Consciousness conversation is versus they think through their thoughts and they say all right we're going to go on this hike in Thailand tomorrow so and they use numbers one period I I do that in my slack and my WhatsApp for my company and it's amazing people see me the boss man going one period we're going to do this first two period using the number one and then when they write back I don't do any numbers I'm like yo are you noticing a pattern of how I communicate wealth can be Tau uh cannot be taught but it can be learned meaning I shouldn't have to tell people that they should learn by watching by shadowing is how you will learn so I just get flat I'm just astounded like if I went he like go into a boxing studio and you know the guy punches the bag and does jumping jacks and you know jump rope every first 5 minutes and you go there for years and you always do a different routine from the black belt people like what kind of arrogance do you have that this teacher is here doing it you can see them you're shadowing them with your eyeballs yet you continue to do your own thing that is the masses that is the Sheep everybody talks about the Sheep but they don't know what the Sheep is people think this she oh you're sheep if you don't buy crypto or you're sheep if you don't not an entrepreneur that's not really what cheap are there's not everying me entrepreneur not everybody has the new crypto okay nothing wrong with those things don't get me wrong but that's not what the Sheep is the sheep have instincts I have sheep on my farm I've sheared sheep one summer in New Zealand to pay my way I ran out of money when I was in Christ Church at the sheer sheep rarua all over the world even in Australia where I'm going and sheep have an instinct where they do what the other sheep dude that's the Sheep so if you notice that you have habits of the masses if you write in WhatsApp or slack like the masses you're the Sheep if you organize your trip like the masses you're the Sheep I was telling my team when you get in an Uber or a taxi at another company my instinct is to drop a pin where I am in a group chat so that if you ever get in a car crash and you're 7,000 mi from home everybody can pinpoint you I don't know how that's not instinct I always when I get into a taxi in a foreign country I also put the map on on my own phone to make sure you're not being taken to the wrong place or being driven around to try to make money that's not the Sheep is just to get in the taxi the Sheep is just to go to the airport the Sheep is disorganization that's the Sheep people use the Sheep term way too Loosely in the damn mod world it's not what the Sheep is the Sheep is a is poor instincts and habits are great but they're only a stepping stone to instincts the doy Lama said there's three levels level one is hearing out one ear out the other uh that is most of the people you can teach wealth uh you can learn wealth but you can't teach it cuz it goes in most people's ear out the other the second one is when you listen and the listening phase too is not a great phase but it's better than phase one and that's when you start to form new habits so you have you have to think about it you're like okay I'm I'm typing in WhatsApp to a team five different things okay let me check my checklist all right yes I take my notes I need to do number one number two number three number four number five okay all right you go into the box okay I need to forcibly notice that my teacher always does jumpy Jacks punches the bag and does jump rope don't do my own thing let me follow them that's that's phase two habit formation it's not great you know there's books Atomic habits all that that's all fine but it's not it's not black belt level or red belt level is what you really want to be black belt Coral belt red belt black belts make a million to 10 million a year or net worth Coral belts 10 to 100 Mil red belts get over that 100 million of Revenue or net worth whatever metric you want to use but that is when you go to level three that Del llama called that instant you no longer have to think you know like me instinctually I don't need a habit to not drink alcohol for whatever reason I didn't get the jeans my dad was an alcoholic but my mom wasn't and I just never it it it wasn't something I had to work through I didn't have to go out I'm going to form better habits when I go out I only drank one drink you know and some people have to do that don't get me wrong I'm not looking down on that I got lucky that my instincts I do not find alcohol that great I can drink socially but I am the true definition of a social Drinker if somebody said t I'll pay you a million bucks and never drink again I'd side that contract in a millisecond cuz I already have the Sub Conscious Instinct remember the old school forian way of thinking out psychology is pretty accurate you have the conscious mind and you have this the subconscious that's Layer Two that's this the part of your sub that's the part of the Mind that's not at the Forefront but you can access it that's habit formation but the unconscious mind that's back in your medulla cerebellum migdala your more primitive brain that's where actual unconscious mind or or instincts lie and that's what you have to tap into is the changing of the instincts that's why I said look at the forms list why are the top 10 men build Gates you know Elam musk bezo Zuckerberg what do these people all have in common and they have that kind of mildly autistic and I'm not trying to diminish this concept of autism there's people who have severe autism but I that non sheeplike high conscientiousness is the technical term in the hexico score the 25 subfacets of Personality that scientists generally consider the most accurate they don't use modern science doesn't use Myers bre 16 personality you know that's old school they're using the he meico score developed in the late the 1990s and you have your 25 sub facets of conscientiousness which is the most correlated trait in your children in yourself if you want to have successful children and be successful those are the traits I've done there's the marshmallow test the famous experiments do kids have self-control you know that predicts the next 30 to 50 years of their life but it self-control is not quite the word you should become more advanced as conscientious so if you can change one Instinct that's like a domino like the book The One Thing by Gary Keller I've been recommending for 10 years the one Domino that changes your life is instinctually becoming conscientious not conscientious habits habits you will fall in and out of good and bad habits habits aren't deep enough they're not etched in stone in the unconscious mind and some some of you listening I got good news and bad news some of you born genetically with some instincts more carved in and that's the woke world doesn't like to hear that but that's true some of this is genetic but the good news that's bad news for some of you good news for others but the good or bad news really the good news is that it's not all genetic it's environmental you can work on yourself so some practical things you can do is change your damn friends number one don't be spending all your time with sloppy people for the love of God I mean go take a computer programming course go you know find a disciplined martial arts person like you got to Shadow conscientious that's the number one way the number two you can consciously work on a 3x5 not Cars put them write out some new instincts you want to form and repent just drill them into yourself eventually they go from Habits in the subconscious to unconscious mind you know semi instincts that's number two you know and then number three and this is a weird one but you should study your family tree there's someone in everybody's family tree that's high in conscientiousness you should hypnotize yourself genetic this is on the genetic front cuz a lot of people say you can't change your genetics well that's true but no human is descended from one other human we don't have asexual reproduction we have sexual reproduction the purpose of that is to mix Gene pools so it makes Homo sapiens humans stronger so find someone like my grandpa father one of my grandfathers he's a scientist Martin Burk Road and he was on some things he was insanely conscientious he had some flaws of course he he had bipolar and but when he was in his high conscientious mode he published great scientific papers that are still used now he was a marine biologist then became astrophysicist so I I got to tap in there's other people in my family that I'm just as you know you're 50% related to your parents 25% related to your four grandparents and if none of your four grandparents are conscientious and have the instincts you want then you know go further your great grandparents 12 and A2 cousins whatever and so Focus the mind on yes I do have the environmental stuff I'm going to do and I even have the Gen everybody in their family treat as those genetics that you'll want and so focus on that that's some people this is Loosely I'm talking about epigenetics which is more complex and somewhat controversial but epigenetics is more environmental things that trigger different parts of your genes so this is 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