Self Righteous Narcissism

hello I'm darag and the topic for today comes from some questions asking if I would discuss the self-righteous nature of narcissism another question asks if I would outline the common characteristics of a self-righteous narcissist so to begin with narcissism among other things is characterized by a huge sense of entitlement there's being very disagreeable and highly resistant to criticism they can be highly competitive envious and lack empathy for other people but there is also a constant need for attention validation and admiration from others they believe themselves to be special entitled and Flawless but this sense of themselves is very fragile so they need others to validate them these characteristics these traits would be long-term consistent and pervasive not just once in a while the narcissism can manifest in different ways for instance there's what's known as grandio narcissism there's covert narcissism altruistic narcissism just a few but another common trait with narcissism sometimes overlooked is a sense of self-righteousness self-righteousness in the sense that they are flawless Justified Beyond reproach and everyone else is at fault and with a self-righteous narcissist what we often see is the sense of self-righteousness being really prominent and often exaggerated it's someone who believes and behaves as if they are morally Superior to others now it can look quite similar to altruistic narcissism in some ways however there are differences altruistic narcissists gain their validation through being seen doing what they consider to be good deeds a self-righteous narcissist gains their supply through others seeing them as being morally upstanding and Superior that and trying to make others feel morally inferior but the self-righteous narcissist what we often think of is a religious type who exploits their religion to control control Dominate and spiritually abuse others but not always not necessarily sometimes we see someone who believes their way is the right way they expect others to stick to their rigid rules their word is the beginning and end of all discussion we can also see similarities with grandiose narcissism however there isn't just an exaggerated sense of self-importance but also an exaggerated sense of morality and righteousness their sense of importance comes through their belief that only they know what is right and what is wrong their beliefs their opinions are the only correct ones their way of doing something is the right way to do it sometimes we see someone who believes that rules don't apply to them they're above such things they have a higher purpose so some common examples of a self-righteous narcissist would include first of all passive aggressive remarks to imply other people's lack of moral character for instance someone might might ask something like have you seen that movie yet that new movie that's out they might reply with something like I don't think any self-respecting person should be watching movies like that especially with that person in it so they're judging the movie they're judging the actor in the movie they're also judging anybody who watches it they can be quite scornful of others they sneer they mock their qualities their achievements their status not necessarily through a sense of believing themselves Superior the sense they have more money or are more accomplished as you would see with grandiose narcissism but they might Mock and sneer because that person isn't at their level therefore they must be bad they must be lazy or if they find someone who is more accomplished than them then well they must have achieved that level of Success Through nefarious means and here we see the Envy but it's presented as a moral judgment someone's higher level of success is obviously a reflection of their dishonest character people with very strong narcissistic traits tend to struggle with intimacy which is why they tend to have only surface level superficial relationships with a self-righteous narcissist there could be little to no intimacy even when they're being polite and friendly their interactions can seem cold almost businesslike their advice tends to be judgmental or even dismissive bad things don't happen to them because of their good character and if it does it's usually because of someone else's wickedness so they don't necessarily empathize with why someone else should be struggling and there can be similarities with covert narcissism in the sense that they can often seem quite joyless they haven't got time to be happy when there's so much corruption in the world they haven't got time for levity when there's something terribly unfair going on they can't relax have fun because they have too many duties to perform and in some cases it can't seem as if they're locked in some kind of of eternal battle against bad things bad people sometimes collecting wounds looking for things to be outraged about now like all narcissists they can lie and break the rules but if they do they have a reason they're justified in what they do it's for the greater good The end justifies the means their victim is such a terrible person they deserve everything that's coming to them but then there are those who don't break the rules they follow the rules they don't cheat and that gives them a sense of superiority over others in fact they like rules they can be quite rigid and inflexible sometimes this can look like obsessive compulsive personality disorder but again there are differences obsessive compulsive personality is characterized by a pervasive preoccupation with orderliness often at the expense of flexibility people with obsessive compulsive personality tend to focus more on maintaining control and order over their environment they don't necessarily try to seek admiration or recognition for it self-righteous narcissist can stick to rules very rigidly and can be very judgmental of others who do not adhere to their standards their concept of right and wrong can't be quite low resolution there's no Nuance no context no exceptions some may even use the rules as a way to control Dominate and disempower others now an excellent example of this would be the ratchet character as betrayed by Louise Fletcher in the movie One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest if you want to watch that now just like with all shades of narcissism there can be a lot of virtue signaling however I think the difference with self-righteous narcissism is we don't just see them talking about how virtuous and Noble they are I think what we often see is them attacking others for their lack of virtue they attack people for their flaws their errors or their wrong thinking again some can Thrive off that's sense of superiority often mocking attacking and shaming those they see as inferior just like communal narcissists in the workplace communities on social media they actively seek out people groups forums who accept and validate their opinions and ideas without question like with all kinds of narcissism if challenged they tend to discredit their Challengers by Framing the arguments in their favor they might attempt to publicly shame and humiliate those who oppose or challenge them they can be condescending sarcastic sometimes even threatened common tactic would be trying to dehumanize sometimes even demonize their opponents sometimes encouraging group intimidation from their supporters at work they could copy half of the organization into their emails on social media they tag others onto their posts so that their target feels outnumbered they can use strawman arguments deliberately misinterpreting or misrepresenting their opponent words to make them sound foolish or evil another common trait of narcissism is vindictiveness and a self-righteous narcissist can be every bit as vindictive anything they do to silence or punish others comes from their Superior sense of morality their higher moral code again The end justifies the means because they believe they are the good guys so in conclusion a self-righteous narcissist believes themselves to be morally Superior to others and it's through that sense of superiority that they dominate control and punish and their validation comes from others who agree with their opinions on their standards they can have contempt for those who don't agree or those who don't reach their standards sometimes they might behave as if people aren't disagreeing with them but they are disagreeing with a higher power a higher value and can't feel justified in anything they do or say to regain that sense of superiority it's like their moral super superiority allows them to act with moral immunity their way is the only way of doing something their view of the world is the only view there should be that's a brief outline of the self-righteous narcissist now as always or maybe some things I may have missed please feel free to use the comment box below there are some interesting conversations that start from these videos 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