The Inverted narcissist

in today's video we're going to explore inverted narcissism and inverted narcissism isn't the same as covert narcissism if you haven't heard of this type of narcissism then please stay tuned to find out more hi everyone I'm Athena thank you so much for stopping by today especially if you're new here if you would like to subscribe to my channel to receive notifications for any new content I upload then please don't forget to click on the Subscribe button now what is inverted narcissism and how does it differ from covert narcissism firstly it's important to make it clear that inverted narcissism isn't actually an official diagnosis which means it will not be found in the DSM 5 inverted narcissism is actually a term that was initially coined by Sam fnan and it is a combination of somebody who has covert narcissism and codependency the inverted narcissist depends exclusively on having romantic relationships with other narcissists they get off on this type of relationship and they almost get their own form of narcissistic Supply by being in a relationship with a powerful grandiose overt narcissist the inverted narcissist and the grandio overt narcissist are like two pieces of a puzzle that fit perfectly together it's important to differentiate that not all covert narcissists are actually inverted narcissists but all inverted narcissists are actually covert they are very self-centered sensitive vulnerable defensive hostile and paranoid they are very much everything that a covert narcissist is is envious they enjoy playing the victim they are passive aggressive and because they have a very fragile ego a very fragile self-esteem that is why they latch onto relationships with a very strong dominant overt narcissis because this connection helps them feel better about themselves and it helps compensate for their own inadequacies and their own low self-esteem their self-image is essentially enhanced by by being with somebody who is an overt narcissist now it's important to differentiate that inverted narcissists cannot be in relationships with normal healthy individuals they can only be in relationships with overt narcissists and this is what differentiates an inverted narcissist from a covert narcissist and also like I mentioned at the beginning there is a very strong element of codependent dependency they have a lot of anxiety about being abandoned they feel the need to be in control in many ways whilst they're in this relationship so they will play the victim you know there will always be some drama that they create and they will desperately cling on to this relationship with the overt narcissist no matter how much abuse the overt narcissist inflicts on them because it is important for them to be with somebody that's strong like this it's important for them to be with someone who is um self-centered and grandiose because it boosts their own self-image because it overcompensates for their own inadequacies now this is a very important part of an inverted narcissist that differs from the covert narcissist inverted narcissists generally feel really empty and unhappy if they are in a relationship with any other kind of person other than a narcissist inverted narcissists tend to have a lot of traits that are seen in somebody with dependent personality disorder now if you haven't heard of dependent personality disorder I think it would be useful to go through the uh criteria that are found in the DSM that would diagnose somebody with having this kind of disorder now somebody with dependent personality disorder has a pervasive and excessive need to be taken care of that leads to submissive and clinging behavior and fears of separation and this Begins by early adulthood and is present in a variety of contexts as indicated by five of more of the following number one they have difficulty making everyday decisions without an excessive amount of advice and reassurance from others number two they need others to assume responsibility for most major areas of their life number three they have difficulty expressing disagreement with others because of fear of loss of support or approval number four they have difficulty doing things on their own because of a lack of self-confidence and judgment or abilities number five they go to excessive lengths to obtain nurturance and support from others to the point of volunteering to do things that are really unpleasant number six they feel uncomfortable or helpless when they are alone alone because of exaggerated fears of being able to take care of themselves number seven they urgently seek another relationship as a source of care and support when a close relationship ends and number eight they are unrealistically preoccupied with fears of being left to care for themselves now an adverted narcissist does usually have traits of dependent personality disorder and in order to have depend dependent personality they need to have at least five or more of the traits I just mentioned now codependency of course is also a big part of their personality because of their fear of Abandonment because of this insecurity of making decisions on their own or relying on themselves they need a very strong person to connect with that is why they cling on to a narcissist an overt narcissist because in their eyes this person is an alpha male this person isn't scared of getting what they want they are powerful they are strong they are grandiose they are entitled they are everything that the inverted narcissist aspires to be it is literally a matter of life or death for them because if they don't have this kind of connection with someone they will literally fall apart because they'll have to face their own fragile self-esteem now if you've had an experience with someone who you may think is an inverted narcissist then please feel free to share this experience in the comments below the video that is all I had to say today everyone thank you so much for listening and for watching and I will see you very very soon in my next video take care bye-bye