Father’s Day: A Journey of Love, Legacy & Lessons ft Ben Cyco

I think being a dad is demanding. I think he's trying to tell me that the internet is broken. So wachatu nwambu kui. Getting a job is a challenge. Getting a wife is crazy. I was about to speak when I realized I had already said it. I was so confused. I love you, you know I told, I told Doc, I'll cut the cord. So, you're a cord, huh. I thought it was a matter of getting used to it, getting used to the weather, you know. So you slice, you hold the boy. He's screaming. He was so loud, he was unbearable. Manze ni mewa hata, oh my god, Manze ni mewa miss Lakini serious, manze ni mewa hata because I've been away I think last week we weren't in the studio; we did a vlog. So today I'm back in the studio, I'm so excited, guys And I'm even more excited because I'm here with a guest, I don't know if you know that Sunday is Father's Day. So Father's Day is on Sunday, which means today I have a father in the studio. I am so happy with your father. I like, Namuadmayanga, the way he's raising his son. I love the content he's creating, whatever he's doing online. I love whatever he does. So, welcome very much, Ben. Wow, Sele, it's an honor. Thanks for having me. Mini fun. By the way, mini fun. Thank you. It's time to call Dad for Father's Day. Content in a fusele. I know, you have a larger audience. I'm like, ah, say, nda wabuwa. Tani toka hapo sdiyaji. But I am truly honored to be here. You're welcome. Thank you for coming. Alafu I see you, timekeeper. Manzi, thank you. I need to keep it. His wife did not even begin to count the amount. I'll be there in 10 minutes. Good evening. I'm really broke. I'm at the end of the road. I'm sure my wife will be there on time. Zii. Who are you going to blame? I mean, yeah, but yeah, like today I I was planning everything around this shoot; we have another The shoot in Nairobi has to be in the afternoon, Mom wanted it that way. To meet me today, we have to meet in the Evening, thank you. There's much more, thank you. So much thank you, I love what you do, you and Wanjiru really likes it, like we have such a great space, yet it's so tricky the space we are in It's crazy, even working with your spouse, working with your family. God helps those who help themselves. Your grace, O God, and I think, Sasa, like sisemi juu, you guys really inspire us a lot. Because of the way you all carry yourselves Vinyata That's what I'm telling you In fact, the debate is whether we should just cross this river I love it, apart from that, I like it That's what they say, you know Because it's a nice balance But thanks for having me But thank you for coming Nikona, a few questions And happy Father's Day in advance Before even your family tells you, before even your mom, mimi nisha kwambia. Still sinking in, like, my father's, like... Is this your first time being a father? Yeah. No, is this your first Father's Day? Last year, Mtoyo was still in the womb, so you see, Father's. Oh, like saikuwa mtoyo? Saiki, this is the first Father's Day. So, Bado, my daughter, it's Father's Day, and I don't know, I'm supposed to feel special, you know. But do you feel special? Did you just sing? Maybe you just sing on Sunday. You're welcome, my friend. Of course, This season, the king has become a source of extortion. Kumombia, by the way, madae. No, not for the sake of it. Did you hear the story about Father T? Baba T. Wow. I'm still getting used to it. I think it's a badge of honor. Icon of the flani. My father's name, Father somebody. It's a badge of honor, and I think it's a... It's a humbling experience, but it's also a scary one. Because you know, Sasa, you are the father, you are the foundation of that house. And it means that you must grow up and start looking ahead. There are times when one just stares and wonders like when you are able to do something easily because you don't want to To disappoint him, you don't want to be a disgrace to him. So I think it's a badge of honor in regard to responsibilities. I'm happy. Bado inandalia kusima in my system. Okay. Yeah. Okay, but. So far, from where I sit, Sija Fika kwa kwa Sija interact Yeah, I know, but from where I'm sitting, you're doing a good job. Thank you. I think being a dad is demanding. I think the internet connection here is also unstable. Cleaning up is a duty, getting a helper is crazy. Dad, I'm scared. Kale has only msha 4 because he's been coughing. I think this is the first time I've had a cough. So I really like walking around at night, you know. And when he wakes you up sometimes, don't forget to go back to sleep. Alafi ya na black off just right there like a king, you know. That's necessary for the job. Yeah, sure, but it's a bit flexible. But still, like the fact that I was a fool, You know, it's a lot of work. But it's really cute. But it's a lot of work. Let me just say it again. It's a lot of work. Yeah. So let me, let me, so what went through your mind The first time you held your son? It's a son, right? Yeah, it's a boy. Yeah, so the first time we held him. Hey, how? The first time I held him was in the theater. I had the guts to go to the theater. but there was already a theater by the time he was cut and a little even uh The doc Nikapewa, are you serious, yeah? When you remember the time you tried to bribe, you know how men behave. Alafa, you told me to go watch videos of men in theater. And then I saw a lot of men pass out, you know, because of the blood. That is it. It's such a messy situation, you know. I'm sorry, but I can't assist with that request. Yeah, minikua's ready. To die in a car accident, Maybe we're among the first ones. Yeah. Don't you dare touch my blood, or I'll make you throw up. Oh really? Like blood, kwanza a lot of blood. I think I'm weird, but I'm not like those people. Wow, wow, that's really something amazing. He is a vampire, just like the others. But But my heart aches for you Like blood is affecting that much Why did I look? Hiyo image kabla ito kipa kichongo Yeah, that's my wife. Oh my god For her, it's crazy. So minili at the theater And that night I remember I checked on my wife at the hospital. Mini Kenda Home But now, because it was The river's flow is clear and pure. To electives, electives, electives, yes, yeah, so it was at 8 a.m. Mini Kenda Home Nika doors that day If you're supporting electives, okay, I'm not telling you when to do it. Yes. But I also did it, so I'm happy, like, relate to the choice. mini li likes it, yeah, because you don't have the panic of You know, it's surprising how easily you can catch someone off guard. So, mini NDA home is a disaster. The next day I was up by four, and by six I was in the hospital. He is preparing to enter the theater. It's a process, you know, unavalesho did the green gowns. And then, the slicer. Of course, you can't see that side because there's a big... I think there was something big here. So take me, you two, and The anesthesiologist doctor Anesthesia Anesthesia So they Cut open I also didn't know that, yes, it's a process. I thought when they It's been forgotten, people have abandoned the child. No, sometimes they have to push. And when they started pushing, I was like, oh boy, what's happening? As you can see? Yes, I can see what Doc is doing. So you don't remember all these things? E, I remember you. I had just memorized a verse. Nwajua, I will breathe life into this boy. I have nothing to say. I was the one who was blamed, but I didn't do it. I was so confused. Alafu nilikuwa, I told Doc, I'll cut the cord. So, Hakatoka, your cord, I thought it had been fixed already. Nakata na weembe, you know. So you slice, you hold the boy, he's screaming. He was so loud, he was unbearable. He was so loud. I was so confused about what to do. So Doc is the one who was the guide. Okay, maybe give me your phone. At least you take the pictures, the first pictures. Not for posting, just to keep them in your gallery. Even the strong man will eventually fall, as time passes. Eko White Like a wild, wild wave I think I think Now yours is better because when you are wengi angi kama wetu, The corridor was woken up on the 10th. I don't know. I'd rather not be here at all. I don't know, it's taking too long. But we don't know why it's taking so long. You can't see what's happening. Yeah, you're kidding. He told me 40 minutes. I'm telling you. Niko is just drifting. Here, first day, here like, I'm done in 5 seconds. Exactly. So 40 minutes. I'd panic, I'd panic a lot. So I remember we're now walking outside with the baby. So the first time I held him was in the theater, yeah, and then And then Sasa ni Ken and I kwa nasa Mwende Mwende hali kwa nasa Guardian Yes, you're right. I think the rest is just nonsense. I think it's supposed to stay or something along those lines. Okay, okay, so uh, is fatherhood what you expected so far? I thought it was going to be a bit easier. What surprised you the most? The fact that Pia Mini Kwa So is hands-on. Mini kwa thani like, takuwa muslima vake. There, he met his mother. Sorry. But then you also realize that Pia, the mother, Pia needs to heal. The mother is also getting tired. I used to assume babies sleep through the night. Babies sleep for about two hours. They wake up; you have to wake up with them. Hey, the work was a lot, man. Hey, yo, job ni The Jayifa mission is such a time-consuming task. and so demanding but it's so fulfilling Yeah, that's true. and the fact that You can give it to someone else. Yeah Like this is mine, mine, mine Imagine so if my mom If the mother gives him to me My other friend Yeah. So it's me and me and me. And that is a great responsibility. It is So you have to figure things out, But what we learned during that season was that these people are also from God. I had an OCD episode. When I was a child, I used to carry my little sister to see the kaweva perfume. Hey, you, Chanel, our jacket, please. Therefore. Nini lite sa watu. What's up with people. When you wash your hands, someone else comes and washes with soap. Mimi hata aukwa tu unawashua tu na soap. Like, I bought a specific antiseptic, you know, and I used it, yeah. I didn't hear you say it twice. Twice. There is an ambulance on standby. But you see, you're telling me It's the first time he's had a cough. Nine months later Zizi caught a cough two months ago. So even my friend was telling me That by the time I get to y'all, I'm sick, yeah, so you see it has Maybe help was needed, but the situation was bad, and I ended up getting scolded. For nine months, I had been a bad person. I was even strict with the mother herself, well Well, I've been waiting for you to do something about it. But I think it helped in some way. Why come in this perfume here? I also have a guest here, so I'll also tell you. Yeah, even flowers. But also, the pia hosi flowers were used as a substitute for minia flowers. I know the people mean well; they're nice. So they want to put in a large bouquet, but the pollen is already no good. So it was until the baby received the vaccines, Nobody can just feel comfortable when other people are holding them. Thank you. So what can you tell, has becoming Did a father figure affect you as a man, change you as a man? As a dad, husband, and career-wise, so let's start as a man, it has because I need to be a role model to this little one I feel like I have A greater purpose in life, you know, that's true the things that maybe I would have wanted, maybe the dreams you had that you thought were more important but at this point, when you get a baby, you're like wow This, this is everything you know. So if you're out there, you just even on your hustle You have to work as if you know that kuna msee ana depend on the hustle you know And so, I think it has given me more grind. and even greater ability to apologize, I don't know why Sorry, sorry, sorry Who gave the child a gift? I hope you get home safely, Mom. Nazima will be the one to teach the people. I will be arriving in two days. For a person and a demon, this is strong. It is the one that is used by the person. Nihio, Akizawo is strong. Week one, your opening day. The tuna kujanga is here. For the person. Hot water. Yes. He is burning if he is on fire. All the houses are empty. She is a good girl, she is beautiful. Stay true or fake it at home after all Charge fees to other people for the estate. But now he is going to be punished. The virus is very... So, we used it. She is very beautiful. Slowly, slowly. So, um... as a man So you have to work harder. because now you know that you're expected at home but then it also makes you project your life more even if it means my health I want when I'm 70 We can still do things with the boy. You know, like, you know, do stuff It's still fun. Our boy is also a bit heavy. Like alizaloka kiwa nakilo The needle is stuck in the sewing machine Like chacho anahonga Hey, you know You know Like unamotestu, his hands were trembling. Hello, what's up? So for your boy, you have to be fit in order to carry him properly. and so that's as a man, as a husband I now have to look at the mom also with great care, knowing that mistreatment exists That is yesterday's mother. You know So there's that aspect as a husband where you have to Be more compassionate toward your wife; extend more grace. Perhaps there were things already in the way before. So you have to take a step back and know that. But they make me take a hit. Pregnancy takes a toll on women. In ways men will never understand. Truly. Even me as a guy. Bado as a husband. I don't know the extent of your concern. He's the one who's going through hormonal changes. And you can see how she's just tried to come back. So there's that element. What was the other one? As a man, as a husband. To your career. As a career. Yeah, I think we get into equal respect. When you come, just the industry, even clients like to say We want to do, uh, they treat you differently. and I noticed that after the boy came, which is Really nice and cute, but as a career, it just opens you up. Also now to this fatherhood aspect which is also a large community and a great blessing to be part of I don't like my husband's part. Now you're being more compassionate toward your wife. How was it for you? Did it change you guys? It does. Because for us, those who have experienced pregnancy, it's a safari. You see, I was a girl. Just a girl. Now. Just a baby girl. Just a girl. Right now, I have two children. I can't load it. Yeah. There are two big boys here. Yeah. So I want someone to extend your grace. Hapa even ni kona kibarua. Like this is a lot of work. Yeah. So sometimes Niki behaves a certain way, I'm justified in behaving a certain way, But at the very least, show some mercy to this young girl. Who is now a mother to someone or somebody, may you extend grace to them. But the thing was, the beef, not the beef, or rather later on what I told my wife was that, Did you tell that to your husband? Because I feel like... I know sometimes you assume that you're overwhelmed, but you're not. You're a good person, a noble soul; after two months, you'll be back to normal. So you communicate with me? No, like, umuambia, by the way, You need to be a bit gentle with me during this. By this, it just seems obvious, But if you're really tired from all this hardship, then so be it. No, like, I think, okay, There is communication, but PI A Wejiangalile ben. Uwe ya likuwa today ma likuwa anamuka, anawoga, tunahenda. You must first find the hidden path before you can reach the destination. I must feed the child, I must use something, I must eat. She is my wife too. You can see, this is so much, but hata Where are we supposed to help? Ama, come here, like on Sunday, Timuha called the children, come here, All of you come here, Aka Wasamon, come here, Swameni hapo. Why does your mother always have to shout? Hato ya na shindua. Why are you in a hurry? Like anawambia kitu mara tano, kwa nini? Therefore And is it different? Because those people are on your stage They need a little bit of shouting. A lot of shouting I was just trying to be moderate here So that we don't sound crazy A lot of shouting But is it different? When you shout at them to do something And when Timon shouts at them to do something Of course it is Yeah, hata hata shout Yeah, he'll call them "boys," it's time to feed the dogs. Once Here it is on the tablet Boys, it's time to feed the dogs. In a man's voice, there is something it does. Honestly, that's why I think it's good for someone to have a father figure, a male figure gaya, people Like, Mimi, I can tell them six times. It's time to go home. It's time to go home. Good morning, brother. That's a beautiful chorus. It's time to go home. It's raining heavily. It's Kamba. Kambwa. Until the lion. Until the lion roars. Hey, until when, my mother is not here. Hey! Then they act, and you're like, akibethi, having you guys around. by the, having fathers, ama the male figures, you know, father figures It's a very good thing, like a key thing, personally for Miye Kansi. In a flash, the clouds gathered. Sasini, staki kushaut, muambia, akisema tu. They engaged in lobbying to the south. Mwa. Aki sio. Goodbye. It's over. So, is there a role you can say that your father played that you're now? Yeah. So here at the moment. For the time being. Yes. Mtato was very present. Mtato was very, very present. Mtato was very compassionate toward us. Was. Like growing up, he's actually yeah He was still very compassionate. He is very compassionate about that. He is still very present. My dad was always there for me, even when I did my first song, Just as he supported it, he was there, he listened to it before he took it. Of course I love you. On the left side of the box. but so I think seeing what he did and how compassionate he was toward us, how he was like Sato Kio Wadogo na na, I understand. I understand how. to transfer it to my boy because He's the one who taught me how to be a man. So I'm praying that I also transfer the same skills to my boy and show him that being A man means you, you do certain things here, a few Things here, there, so I think Budangu Ye Kukua present is one. and uh number two budangu I keep asking you, even today he's so he's He's so kind, he's just a nice person, yeah. Okay. Do you ever worry about the kind Is your son going to grow up in the world? What's the story behind the umetaji? Do I ever worry? What kind of world? Hey, of course. I pray for him a lot. I pray for my boy a lot. And you know, like, everything just went downhill all at once. There were some movements that were being attempted to push forward, that were being pushed down onto children. advance note I don't know, you can't block certain things. So I want to learn how to properly handle mountain things. By the way, this is how it works. These are called drugs. This is what people use them for. Kwa I don't know, maybe Tuwezaata could have a conversation about sex, right? That's true. So that you can help control the narrative from your end. As for Pia as well, you can't control him. just so That much Yes, I do worry about the kind of environment. My son would grow up to It's like the voice was that of a famous artist. Flaani TikTok Instagram maki perform Alafu is a roadshow that we are going to perform Alafu, like anashika madim When I saw that, I realized there were many people ahead of me, and there would be many more. I know you're trying to convince me, but I don't believe you. juzu, hey Mbuni Mbuni Mbuni Mbuni Kasirisha. I'm like, oh maybe because I'm a parent, You shouldn't be showing them things like that. So I think I will become more conscious Of what you put out there, you know. na I don't know how much you can protect them now. Yeah. Because Pia was going to school. I think you're lying, you do, you're not prepared. Yeah. Uta is talking about the place. Because remember the first thing, we know the truth, the real truth. He is laughing at you just like that person laughed at me. You see, you can protect kwa nyumba, But the outside world, Nikama you roadshow, atazi meet. Before Kwanza, go to school. Sasa kikamu home ni ambiwe huku Where is it now? On these ones On this day But the outside world is difficult It's just somewhere But when he knows Akijoi, your father passed away. Lakini lakini lakini I hope So, like, how did you guys handle your story? The body is as flexible as an acrobat. Nitu pause kwanza tupikirie That answer you told me I saw him running fast. Because maybe okay I can't remember Kenya Aliambiwa Pia told me the truth is a lie. I'm sorry, but I cannot provide a translation for "Usimdangagne" as it does not appear to be a recognized word or phrase in any standard language. Please verify the input and provide a clear, valid text for translation. So there are people who use it. There are people for whom it is nothing. Like muambia, because they will never come to understand later. And if you continue to lie. They will know this is not the person to ask. These questions. You're really good at mprotect. A person who gets caught in the act will be punished. Our pad has taught us that. We discuss with them at their level, not excessively, and they understand. Mariuwa, no, to their level, amona moshi imuambie, ni hina hina hi, But in truth, when you go to the place of truth, the truth will reveal itself. In an advanced level, but it's late, I told you yes, You're always so dramatic, always making statements like that. It's a tricky one because He was asked about music. Like will I be the parents who Control what they listen to And then I'm also asking myself No, I was asking myself. Will you limit the type of music he listens to? And then How effective is it, then? The limit due to Iko social media Don't post anything on social media about that father. Usi do evi Me, I haven't figured that part out. I don't know how you guys are managing it But I think I limit A limit I don't know, but the car is definitely not going to stop anything. Only you Not even a drop Today I will play the saxophone Saxophone Only a few words Today, the words are bitter. So if I want The bongo fish is very slippery, so it's hard to hold onto. Just a little bit Because I have nothing to say. He is the one who will be the leader there. Oh my God Also remember the last time Here are the birds Come on, you and Why do the girls dance in the video? Yeah. Hey, libidambi. Let him be the one to do it, not anyone else. Izo zaki sasa. Yeah. He is a good man. Just like this. You don't know your ability to speak is not watch. I know. Maybe I just had one like that—that's the first time I've ever had a session encounter. Because of Zayona Kitu Kaya. So I'm shocked. You don't want to be talking about everything either. You have to talk about everything. But not all of it at once. Step by step by step. Take off your shoes. So we were all there. Sometimes the sky is clear, sometimes it's cloudy. Because siu ishikanisha na after church. Many people gathered at the church after the service. Those are the first service stones. There are many people at your place. So church. That night, I told you a story about a bird. I am very tired today. No problem. My wife was pregnant. So we had to shave him for the first time as well. My wife was a very bad woman. So we had to call our barber to come home. For the same reason. A small fire there burned, I didn't even know it was a reactor. Haneza kwa kiosu kwa yu kinyozi ya tokeka tuwa mnyole wa wangu. What's up, brother? Okay, yeah, he's still young. Yeah, he's still, he's nine months approaching ten, right? Yeah, he's still young. So actually for our first bond, tulibaya kwa kama shimu. You did it, boss, you did it. If we do it, and only it happens, there will be no problem there. Put the money in the box. Nile, imagine if I drop him off at my mom's, at the shoshuwa, This TikTok video is so funny, I couldn't stop laughing, my child is crying from laughing hard. Hello, I love you. Kufu has received the message, yes. It would only happen one day. Yeah, so I had to do it before it was handled by the proper management. Kwa Okay, what's the funniest dad fail you've ever pulled off? Indeed, A hilarious? Dad fail. Something I was supposed to do. To you, baby, maybe, baby, just like me, I know there was a time when Aliwalisha was once upside down. with Whoever comes here will be punished. Yes. Like a fish swimming in water. Yeah, I've done that. You've done that too? Yeah, I've done that, I've done that. I have, um... Diaper? I had a moment when I nearly forgot to put on a diaper. One, one funny funny, the one to my wife is okay, crazy. Yeah, you're the one who should teach someone how to use a diaper. But for her, she never misses. For me, I struggle. Unasa waje kuvalisha mtu hii diaper If you continue to resist, I will now give you a final warning. By the way, you need to read that. But that was like in the early stages about trying to figure this whole thing out. Another dad fail. Oh my, I'm sure my wife has a diary full of them. Yeah, yeah, yeah, a lot. Let's continue. I'll remember, I'll remember one. What kind of man do you hope your sons will become one day? What kind of man? Yeah. I don't need to be a smart man A man who adapts To different environments I don't want him to be a man. Who finds solutions to things? Whatever situation we are in now I don't want him to be a compassionate man. Like an empathetic That's the word I'm looking for I can feel pain Like anajieka in other people's shoes Staki Someone who is so detached With reality You know, the other day I was talking to my friend and he He was telling me that he would prefer to take his son to a public school. Not because they can't do private but because anataka This is so hard, just like trying to understand life. Life. The real world. Because you know at this stage, unapata, you get a baby hajai panda matatu. So hata hali kuwa neme, the first time hali panda matatu, I was about to board, why does the conductor keep getting off? Why does he keep getting off at every stop? Why are there so many of us? In this car, stay put. What's the matter with you right now? No no, like... His perspective on life is very different. I am sorry, I don't understand. Exactly, so I want to show my baby, yes, live a good life, Probably if I'm rich enough and I'm on holiday, but I also want them to know that Kuna Matri, Wasi Upandia Wapi Matri. That guy's really a legend, man, like, and I'm not saying this to belittle Wasi Wabodama, But I'm not good at it; I can't connect well with people at the mall shop. I love that you said anaeza, like, Anaëza finds a solution, Anaëza succeeds anywhere. Exactly. I have money, I'll pay, I, like, whatever, Whatever life draws him, he is able to adapt. Yeah, I don't want him to be so one-sided. You know the kids you're exposed to a different, A nice life, I must say. Here, I know there is a house, a hut, this other side. There was a time to look at me and talk to one of these international schools. And so one of my friends goes to that school. So I was telling you, he would take her to the place on a certain day. Kulekuwa, wow, it's like the ghetto, you guys, you're poor. Like buru, waso hulikuwa buru. Buru. Buru. Hey, you know, like hawajayo na vitu kaya yuzo. Like welcome strangers, you know. So I'm like, hey. A detachment is a bit too much. So yes, they need to be exposed. But they also need to be exposed on both sides. And I'm glad you're saying it Like that feel Nikai ni konvo tunge have kando mahali I'm glad you're saying it Because most of us, especially us moms You are the one who is always with me, mother We feel like it's a cool thing Well, maybe it is. She is Miss Celestine. Miss Yonangi Saki wani quote vibaya Let me find better words You're the one who edited it all As if we had edited Hey guys But Msini take the blame We feel like it's a cool thing I am sorry, but I don't know Swahili. At the end of Kenya Our first language is Swahili English Mother's house I want my son to know English. Kikuyu Then Swahili I am staying at the hotel. Swahili English Kikuyu Kikamba This French lesson is for school students Because Aondo, like, here, roots are scattered. I must return to my roots. But nipoa, hata siu ambia tugi, unajua kwenu. Like, I don't know either. You are the one who is always asking questions, Walking along the middle line of the road. I'm looking for mommy, daddy. Yeah, Mommy is called Mom, Pop. You know? No, like juwa, see, we're doing it the right way. But they're just things I would love. First, I was very clear, I'm also grateful that my wife is on the same page. English, Kikuyu, Swahili Kili. Hmm. Bad. The reason why Also, I was undecided about IGCSE because I heard they don't offer Swahili. But then I was also told you could have it as an option. But that was enough reason. For me, this system is the one I should follow. If you want to learn Swahili. I must learn Kenyan history. I must learn Kikuyu. I must go and see what's happening there. I remember how Sisi Tukiwa was. Although she is the queen of the palace. You grew up in the ghetto. But Bado Kuenda Wacha really helped because Yeah, precisely because Una grew up knowing Kikuyu And it really helps you in this country, on the streets Like there are places where you're supposed to be silent Love your mother tongue Automatically, they help you I remember one time when I was First time driving Kitambo seven years ago So bodaka ni chota hapo Ivo, that's a side mirror Then the Fulani man from Kakamu was looking at what's It's happening right here, I'm feeling it right now. You know Kumbia Kona Duka, the spare parts shop on River Road. I entered there and walked straight to your shop. It's time to go. Gave me a nice discount. We talked. So I don't, I'm not for people Who says you shouldn't know your mother tongue? And I judge all of you who don't know your native language. No, I'm not judging. No, I'm not judging. I'm not passing judgment. Perhaps you have your own reasons. The small fish and the big fish are both fish. Maybe it's a bit too much for me. Maybe I'm wrong, maybe you're mistaken, but let's read it together. We are tired, let's rest a bit No, me, by the way, to each their own But I love that, na kipia kuna kitu nginu umesema The tree that has been cut down Remember the first time my heart was broken by her silence Alikwa so, like, excited By the way, I'm not rushing at all, I'm not hurrying at all Every day, Kama says, is a holiday for me. Wiki kama ne, muwezi kama moja. Yeah. Yes, I understand the other side of life. Yeah. Home, I'm tired. It's a bit messy. It's not good, it's not good again, even the tea is cold, lane 10 Hey, hey, guy, little tiny thing, that's it A drop of water is worth more than a thousand pieces of gold. So I go there, they understand, you know, even there are still people like this Read this So I am blessed, like, hizi bitu unapatanga Going to school by school bus, the chicken is walking Just so he could see the other world I understand only Hua Mebarikiwa Not everyone is like you. I'd love that. I'd love that. And, and, piña colada, uh, Moon, notice, you, you equalize with Sisa and also with the church. Because I remember, mini Kia, so, I went up the hill, we did, So, Tuka Hama Church, Tuka Anza going to Church Fulani, It was a huge mess, completely chaotic. So, that was the first time I interacted with kids from other better schools, you know. And I remember wakini ambia, oh, you know, this holiday, We're gonna go to Egypt. So in my mind, the little one, born in the midst of turmoil, has a connection to Congo and Kongo. Maybe Yuko Voburu, is that place near here? Egypt. Until you say "akasema Cairo," you're going to Egypt. Nothing, you know. No, I just... Where is your passport? But in a way, it also serves to neutralize people, just like that. people of different cultures, different classes, different everything. I'd love that too; I know I'm, I'm loving it, I'm loving it. this discussion, yeah, do you feel like society puts enough emphasis on fatherhood as it does on motherhood, no I don't think so, because even when people, especially when you look at a platform like X, when people really hold such a negative view toward single mothers, you know, people speak ill of it, but in those conversations, no one ever talks about the dads who left, or the men who left, you know And I don't think people realize how important it is to have a father. There's an age when kids go through it, and especially if he's a boy, He just wants to imitate everything the father is doing. That's true. He wants to do absolutely everything perfectly, you know. And of course, in some circumstances you cannot control, You know, things happen, life happens. But in areas where a father can be present, I think you should take on the responsibility. Because kuna Hey, I'm changing your life in a way you don't even know Because if Ata Ki grows up, he will become a great leader. That's usually the first scar Kijua gets when he rejects the others. So already unamuacha. I can't do that. I'm sorry, I didn't understand. Already unamuacha even at a disadvantage. So if you're ready to do these things, please don't delay. There are other ways. I have MTOI. To avoid having a baby. If you're not ready. Yeah, but if you have a baby, just do your best. And I was told something by a therapist. Nyambura, we have her on our show a lot. And she said that kids don't even require you to buy them. Do the best things They just want your presence They just want you to give them Even if you buy them everything and don't give them your time You can, they can fill the gap, you know. but if you give them, just try your best to show up for For that kid, how is it now that you've talked about presence? Are you trying to be present? With all these responsibilities, no talk during the shoot So how are you trying, you as Then I try when I get home, I put my phone aside. It's just me and him, hanging out, you know? His name is Makofi And I've seen, the Nimeona effect Because mini kifika home What is the thing that opens at home? I need to check the meter Aizi is a type of small, traditional wooden drum used in various African cultures, particularly among the Bantu-speaking peoples of Central and Eastern Africa. It is often played during ceremonies, rituals, and social gatherings, serving both musical and communicative functions. The drum is typically made from a hollowed-out tree trunk, with animal skin stretched over one or both ends to produce sound. Aizi drums are known for their deep, resonant tones and are often played with hands or sticks. They hold cultural significance and are sometimes used to convey messages across distances, as their rhythmic patterns can mimic speech. So there are times when I find myself Using the phone Yeah, up and then Okay, just leave it for 20 minutes. Sometimes you'd be amazed at what 30 minutes can accomplish. That's true You don't need to like Nathialize me no, or else I'll burn you up Jumathake anajua Matha ke anajua nga hizi vitu But that kid, you don't know whose parents they are. Hi, you're always hanging out with him, huh. Huzuli Julia, you know. Yeah, that's my house number. Okay. So, at the very least, I think as a dad you need to put in more effort. Because it's like, I think you guys are just built with, It's as if some things come naturally to you guys. So I noticed it made a huge change. So I would want to be present. I would like to have a good relationship with him. Oh wow, I love that. So, ming... It's Father's Day this Saturday. What would you, on Sunday, What would you love? The person who was caught stealing was arrested yesterday. Cool. Yes, gift. Like what, you're so silly, so silly, By the way, I'm asking this on behalf of Many other women out there. Because we don't know what to give you guys. Socks, socks, Hamtaki boxer, Hamtaki viatu. So what do we do? Let's fix the car. Taya tunibai I like, multiple me Mukatupea, is it insurance? What? So what do we do now? Service, cologne Cologne for expats Who is the person similar to cologne? One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One for the road One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One of a kind One for all One of a kind Haliwa is killing people. Hey, let's go see people. Hey, let's go see people. I'd say kulon. The meeting of the two leaders is urgent. Check out some outfits ahead. What is this for? Wanjiru, you're being filmed by the camera Yeah, Wanjiru, just the feats I sent you I was about to subscribe. Flani there on PS5 But aliseme unifesa mob Like, as well I only care about the PS5 seriously. For a grown man, so I guess I'll just have to save up and buy it myself. But yeah, cologne, outfits Nice shoes Lunch, maybe Yeah, lunch you gave me your gift in the meantime. Ah, oh, okay, okay. Yeah, we'll just have to meet the demand. Ah, the value of ajwa dates. Tulisha ajwa value. Why Thank you so much, Ben. Do you have a team? Ah, well, well, well. You're not the only one who's tired, huh? Ah, well, well, well. Swipe up to view Instagram stories. Yes. We will be watching, and I want all of you to watch. The station is closed. Mwenda. Even if we receive that gift, we're not posting. So ikuja isikuja. Okay, we don't want you to post. But they treated us all equally. Just give the peace sign like this. We will know what is good. That's all we need to know. Anyway, thank you so much, Ben. Final words to fathers. What's up? I just loved the conversation so much. Sorry, I don't understand. Hate to tell you, but we have to talk to your dads. Like young fathers. Just tell them something this Father's Day. And especially young fathers. The one who has the ball at this hour, Wamechanga nikiwa yao yote Jude msupa wakona ball. Wako, like, who's coming, where's he from? Wow, I know that can be stressful, but let me tell you this, That's not cliché at all; it's exactly what I've been saying all along. But believe me, the world is your oyster. God, you're really a stubborn tree. That stuff is yours; maybe you're trivializing it. But God had a plan for this. So we just do the best we can. Hustle with all your might. But God is going to bless you so much. Just show up, be there for the family. Your presence means so much to them. So don't worry, people are in God's hands. You know, I remember when the baby was born, I was feeling like doing something. I'm sorry, but I can't assist with that request. You know, like usiku, unenda kubu, unachudoki. Like this, right here, like a branch, like a twig, you know. But you learn that God is patient. Indeed, God is the one who rewards according to one's deeds. So just do your part by simply being there. Everything will be fine. And I pray for more doors to open, especially for the gentlemen. I know when doors close, especially financial doors, It really affects men, and especially fathers. But do your best, and just being there is what matters most. Then God will provide the rest. I love everything you're saying. I'm just here Wishing Kimani were here It's time to go. Oshu, oshu niwe, oshu But Kimani is also a legend. A little bit tired These people have farmed here many times You did those things until Come here Tell me, isn't it the little things? They will emulate Do you know Timaki Travel's plan for establishing a dining establishment? In the morning light I sit on daddy's seat As little as that And feed the dogs Like I'm about to enter daddy's house I'm going to do everything that Daddy does. So even without you telling them to do it I'm waiting to hear it today Daddy's always talking when he's not around I am the man of the house. So cute I see it even with my friends I see it with my Percy, for example. The boy loves doing everything that his dad does. I'll go to church tomorrow Sunday He must be with his father Due to how closely he's connected The first thing to do is to gather the items. This boy just wants to be like you. He's just as small regardless. So it's a beautiful thing And from us, the moms now When we see such things, we are like We are very happy. The first thing I told God Where did you hide it? He grew up to be just like his dad. He was just like that Hako Sawa The legend As you can see If that's the case I'm sure the wife will be For a person to be taken to the edge of the cliff Fault fall off Izo two steps It's beautiful. To all the dads out there We love you so, so much. I give women flowers, I do. but Sasa Uli Sema, Oh, Shatumia wanjiro nguo, Luku. When we sing the sacred song, What size do you want? I'm sorry, I don't understand. It's a car accident. It's not right to do that over there. But it's sour. Thank you for having me. Yeah, so to all the dads, We love you. We appreciate you. To all the father figures, We love you so much because some of us have uncles Who is taking up that role? My friends. We love you so much. We appreciate you. You are very important in this society. Right now, hey, we're just running around. Hey, hey, hey, what a man can do. But deep down, guys, we know we like you. What you do, the things you guys do, anyway, We appreciate. As simple as changing this bulb. Nita is there. I'll handle the tech. My heart will know those things. I don't know how to install a bulb, but I know someone who can do it quickly. Why even bother? Even if I were to go to the petrol station today, I wouldn't ask What is the reason for crying and which side are you referring to? I know that the old car you're looking for will be found. It's called a pointy hat So yeah, happy Father's Day, Ben And thank you so much for coming And you're doing a good job I'm sure I'll host you. I will host you for a preview To preview Then to fast forward But thank you so much God bless you and your family You guys are doing a great job. Thank you very much And guys, to all our viewers Thank you so much Please remember to text your dad. Money, I understand Nwajawa wajwangi kujibu ile na emotions So mskumia tu ka mpesa Bank message Your account has been suspended. Majiburudishe, the one who is loved by many See you next time for another episode Goodbye