Narcissists Bully You to Break No Contact - Part 1 #npd #narcissist #narcabuse #stalking #toxicex

Good morning, everybody. Spiritual Whistleblower here with another video on narcissistic abuse. Let me straighten up my camera right here. Good morning. Happy Sunday. Before I get into this video, and this is a really good video, you need to pay attention because I'm going to talk about how the narcissist will bully their way into your life to try to attach themselves to regain control to further, uh, I mean, to pick up where they left off. They just want to come back into your life to abuse you. And there's many different techniques. We call it hoovering, but it's, it's much more complex than hoovering. There's different forms of hoovering. And then when those forms of hoovering don't work, it turns into a bully, a bully tactic. It becomes vicious. So I want y'all to pay attention before i get into this video um listen up texas texas i am coming um for those of you that have already emailed me um about coming to the event and you sent your ticket money in i got you i will be sending out the location monday and tuesday bear with me okay i got a lot of packing to do i'll be in houston actually tuesday so i will make a huge announcement so my people in houston i'm gonna see you first we got a support group birthday we're gonna be celebrating my birthday all month houston texas it's saturday october 16th which means i'm coming next week yes uh the following week dallas texas friday october 22nd and then i'm in austin texas sunday october 24th y'all get at me at chanel jasmine at gmail.com if you want tickets also i'm accepting phone consults um while i'm on the road okay so get at me if you need to talk about any issues you're having with a narcissist. All right, let's get into this video. This is a very educational video, and please share this. Please share this, y'all. You guys, I'm currently working on several books, by the way. I wasn't sure if I was going to announce the name of my first book, but I'm putting out a book for those of you that have suffered narcissistic abuse at the hands of your family. And the name of the book, Brace Yourself. Brace Yourself. The name of the book is My Family Can Kiss my ass. My family can kiss my ass, that's the name of my book. Okay, so um, just give y'all a heads up, I'm working on like four different books right now and I'm gonna get them accomplished because I want to kick off um 2022 with a bang and I want to keep serving you guys and just getting this content out here to help people Let's get into the video. Shall we? We're going to talk about coercive enmeshment. Coercive enmeshment. It's a bullying technique that the narcissist does in order to get you to break no contact. What is coercive mean? Coercive is like a forceful. When someone forces you to do something that, that is against your will, someone forces you or does something forcibly in it is coercive. What is enmeshment? Enmeshment means to become entangled. Let me show you. When you become enmeshed with something, you become almost like one. It's merging into something, coming together and stick, you know, to become one. So if someone is using coercive enmeshment, what do you think of? There's all types of things that come to mind when you think of coercive enmeshment. Ladies, a man can trap you with pregnancy. This is a big one, ladies. It's why we have so many deadbeat dads. And there are women that are horrible deadbeat mothers, but the men outweigh the women. Okay. The deadbeat fathers, they will get out here. They will trap you with pregnancy, then turn around and tell everybody they didn't want the baby. They'll get out here and tell everybody they wanted an abortion. They know inside their minds the whole time they deliberately got you knocked up because to a narcissist, once they get you pregnant in their minds you're locked down for life because y'all now share a child together and in the narcissist sick mind he can beat you mistreat you uh come in and out of your life he can go start another family somewhere else and always come back to you why because you have his child he can also put his hands on you while you're pregnant he can talk to you like ---- during your pregnancy and the unborn child is also being abused he doesn't care about that unborn child getting hurt all he cares about is the unborn child is going to be the anchor that keeps you locked in place so that he can come in and out of your life take from you use abuse you sleep with you yes while he's in his new marriage new relationship he's over here telling her baby mama is stalking me but what this new woman doesn't know that he is stalking you and trying to sleep with you behind her back coercive enmeshment pregnancy definitely pregnancy what's another form of coercive enmeshment marriage is marriage why do you think toxic people are always shaming single people you're gonna die alone you're gonna die you're gonna be an old lady with cats ain't no man gonna want you you go you're not gonna have no family or friends around you when you're old and gray you're just going to die alone. Why is there so much shaming that comes from married people and people in toxic relationships? Why is there so much shaming towards single people who choose to stay single? They think people are just, you know, they're having bad luck and they're just single because they, you know, life is hard. No, there are people out here that choose to be single because they have peace in their lives. Their houses and homes are peaceful. No one's stealing money. No one's giving me an STD. No one is putting their hands on me. No one is stabbing me in the back. My in-laws are not ganging up on me and gossiping about me. No, there's a lot of peace that comes with being a single person. You could buy you a beautiful dog. Dogs are loyal. A dog will never cheat on you or steal from you or lie to you or give you STD. You get you a dog and you get out here and you start living life vacationing and you can work three jobs that you love or you can start your own business the opportunities and blessings that come with being a single person who is at peace with themselves and you know their bills are paid off they don't have these responsibilities this is why people in toxic marriages and people in toxic relationships always shaming single people being single is a blessing because guess what God can talk to you God can talk to you better when you're single you you there's no distractions no major responsibilities God can get closer to you you can get closer to God when you don't have a partner by your side remember it was when Moses was isolated when they when Pharaoh kicked Moses out and sent him into the wilderness to die that is where God grabbed Moses and got Moses mind right before he sent him back into Egypt It is in your isolation and your singleness where you can become one with God and you can learn your purpose and calling. But see a toxic, you know, two toxic people in a marriage constantly shaming a single people. They're just mad because they haven't reached their calling or purpose. They don't have a close relationship with God. They're toxic and codependent on each other and they're both making each other miserable, yet they won't leave the marriage. So it's just more convenient to make fun of those that are single. That's why you ain't got no man. Ain't nobody want you. No, I'm single by choice. Don't get it ******* twisted. You take your hateful, miserable ass back home to your miserable marriage or your miserable relationship. You've been engaged for over 11 years, but you won't get married. Y'all just living together and cheating on each other. Y'all take your miserable asses and go sit the **** down and you leave us single people alone. My skin glows. Matter of fact, let me tell y'all something real quick because my 46th birthday is tomorrow. I have my yearly physical, praise God. But I got to go get some blood work done tomorrow. But, you know, I know I party and I drink a lot and I vacation a lot. And one of my concerns was how are my organs, you know, because I'm getting close to 50 years old. So I want to be healthy. My heart, my organs, my liver, my pancreas, my kidneys, things like that. I had all that examined last week. And by the glory of God, I had a sonogram done. My organs look amazing. so you know i contribute that to living my life far away from everyone that tried to destroy me my toxic family then they're a non-motherfucking factor because i got rid of them they stalk me but they know don't knock on my ******* door don't call me because i'm a i'm a blackout on you don't you try and and disrespect my boundaries i found so much peace all my exes don't even try to contact me because you will go to jail and I'll slap a restraining order. All the fake bitches, the female friends that were fake and gossiping, they know better. So when you have a place of peace in your life, you will not tolerate people that have abused you, disrespected you in such a disrespectful way in the past. You leave them in your past, but you also make them respect your boundaries. Now let's move on with other ways of coercive enmeshment, which is bullying through a, you know, they bully you. Coercive enmeshment is basically a bully tactic to get you to break no contact they know you want nothing to do with them they know they have violated you they know what they did to you and now that you're moving on they're sitting up thinking of ways like damn how can I reconnect with her how can I reattach myself to her I need to regain that control because when she was with me she was a good person she gave me all this love attention money sex um you know not only that she was shining she was popular she was successful a lot of people love her a lot of people look up to her I want that same clout and when I was attached to her I felt full and I felt validated by attaching myself to her because she has a huge audience and you know I want people to love me the way that people love her they have different reasons for why they want to attach themselves to you but it's all bad it's all negative they're like parasites sucking the life out of you they're energy vampires so let me do the triangle really quickly okay so we're using a method of triangulation to break down coercive enmeshment how narcissists force their way back into your life to attach themselves to latch on and regain that control once you're they know you're fighting like hell to move on you want nothing to do with them that's you at the number one position number two is a narcissist this can be anyone it could be your mother father it could be your lover baby daddy baby mama your spouse this narcissist represents the person that abused you. Now, the third spot is a third party. This is whoever they choose to use. They will use all types of people to assist them with regaining control over you. You understand? So I'll give an example. I've had it done to me in so many messy ways. I had an ex-boyfriend from over six years ago. He was so furious that I would not break no contact. This is two years after the breakup. When we were together, one thing he said to me, all my exes always come back to me. Well, I'm not all your exes. I'm a queen. I hold myself in high regard. When I moved on two years later, he became so angry. This is me. This is my ex of six years. He found him another toxic female, another sociopath. She, this is what I call demonic handler. He gave her some old nude photos. He kept all my nude photos in his phone. He gave them to her. He used her and she leaked my nude photos all over social media. And he did this because he was so frustrated that I had stood my ground and I didn't break no contact for the whole two years. He thought it would get me to pick up the phone and break no contact and beg him to stop. I did not break no contact. I proceeded to go to the police and I had him arrested and locked up for revenge porn. Okay. So that's an example. Another example, my mother, me this year, my mother is the narcissist. My mother became so frustrated. It's been many, many, many, many years. I refuse to break no contact. What does she do? She uses my sister as a flying monkey. They're watching my YouTube videos to set me up to get a restraining order against me. We end up going to court. The judge throws it out. My mother was trying to regain control by bullying me and getting a restraining order, which would give her the chance to call the police and ruin my life. So they'll do a part two on this guy. Stay tuned.