YOUR NARCISSISTIC MAMA WANTS YOU TO SUFFER THE SAME WAY SHE DID #npd #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

Happy holidays, y'all. It's the Spiritual Whistleblower here, and as promised, I said I was going to do a video on, what did I say I was going to title the video? Do not allow your narcissistic mama to pressure you to have a baby. I know I said I would title this video that, but I decided to change the name to Stop Taking Advice from Miserable Married Women, because I can talk about a lot of different things under that umbrella. And one of the things that miserable married women will do even to their daughters is give them toxic advice so that they can get caught up with an abusive man because mama has made a lot of poor choices in the men she dated or the men she got in relationships with or even the men she married she could possibly hate the ************ that she married and she's trapped and she knows she's trapped and she's now having these these regrets all right let me get into the video y'all oh child this is a good one this is a good one because I you know looking back I know now that I was a victim of this realizing that my mother never ******* liked me she never fucked with me she always disrespected me um always made fun of me fat shame body shame me um you know now that I know that I'm autistic all of my autistic behaviors she picked on me for being slow talking slow um you know autistic people we delay we we process things slowly so it takes us a while to process information even if someone's talking to us so I was I was definitely delayed and slow and and I just have all these memories of her just putting me down it was endless it was unlimited it was non-stop it was brutal and not only that she conditioned my sister my brother even too they look down at me they did not respect me you know so now that I'm connecting the dots from childhood I understand that my mother has been in a string of listen my father was a piece of ---- he's an eight ---- ass man the entire marriage they fist fought they fought in the streets they fought at my grandparents house I remember there's a story where my mother went and got a rifle or a gun and put it to his face and threatened to shoot him. There were times, you know, I heard the story about, you know, my mother was about to go to work and he was being spiteful. This is how I know my daddy's a narcissist and he didn't care about his children because he was doing everything to hurt her right back because she was hurting him because she reminds him of his mother. So he was taking his anger, his frustrations, everything that he felt for his mother. My mother was his outlet. my mother was his punching bag and she abused him right back they both abused each other but yet there was a time where she was on her way to work and he pulled he disconnected the battery and took it out her car so she couldn't go to work they used to do some of the most horrifying and we'd be sitting there me and my siblings would be sitting there and they would do all this fighting in front of us they did not care they didn't care what kind of impact it have on their children they didn't care how much it traumatized us okay so like i said my mother and father both were narcissists but my mother made some really poor decisions when it came to men my father was lazy he kept getting fired uh he was very feminine very misogynistic he put his hands on my mother repeatedly now i'm i'm against women because my mother hit him too okay my mother was known for you know she puts her hand she's punched her brothers in the face she's the aggressor that's why I laughed when she tried to take me to court and tell the judge that she's scared of me Chanel does not have a history of being aggressive Chanel is not a fighter and I know my entire family can vouch for that nobody has ever seen me be aggressive or fist fight or threaten anyone ever now my mother on the other hand oh that bitch has a reputation for being aggressive and putting her hands on motherfuckers and making threats threatening her husband's side chick threatening this one she's the motherfucking aggressor and bully that's why she lost her case against me in court and the restraining order was not granted because the judge is like ma'am your daughter did not threaten you she said should you ever approach her then yeah things will get physical but if i step foot in your house in 10 20 years i don't show up the family functions i could see if i was showing up the family functions and getting in your face and threatening you or i'm on the phone telling family members i'm gonna **** you up i don't talk to family i don't they have no nothing on me she really tried hard to go to court and obtain a restraining order by falsifying a police report it got thrown out that bitch is psycho and ******* sick as hell but my father terrible choice in a man I she I'm I know she regrets marrying him having kids she used to tell me and my brother I wish I would have gotten abortion I hate y'all I don't want no kids she used to say all types of horrible ---- to us I regret giving birth to you I hate you what type of ---- is that to say to your children no what what you really mean is you hate the ************ that you got pregnant by you hate that you married him you hate that you're stuck with him you hate that he's broke he's a lowlife he's lazy he's a bum he's not a provider you made a bad decision instead of owning up to it and take and being accountable you rather take your frustrations out on your children we're innocent we we what we got to do with the poor choices you made bitch so then it came time you know she divorced my father and she married a drug dealer another poor choice but she was running after the money because after living with my father we being so broke and living motel to motel all over New Jersey and sleeping in the back of cars and scraping and ---- she was tired of being broke so she was not trying to analyze this nigga's character the red flags were glaring he was the town tramp I'm talking about her second husband he was the town tramp he slept with every woman in the city so and he's a drug dealer so he had money so he could buy money i'm not money he could buy bitches and send bitches gifts and give bitches money he had all types of bitches inside pieces and my understanding allegedly is that he had a girlfriend when my mama met him and my mother was the side chick creeping with him and he left his girlfriend to be with my ******* mother my mother may have been creeping with him behind my father's back and the divorce was not finalized even though she had her foot out the door and was ready to leave my father she was still legally a married woman when she was ******* with her second husband piece of ---- bitch that's what female narcissists do they overlap relationship the male narcissist does it too they overlap relationships they don't leave their current partner until they secure their new relationship and then their their current partner has to find out that they're ******* creeping around behind their back it's a fucked up situation they monkey branch and they overlap their relationships so my mother was still with my father while she was creeping with her new husband and he had a girlfriend when he was creeping with my mother both of them are equally toxic but he had a reputation for being the town tramp because he's a drug you know he had a lot of money he owned a clothing store so you know he fell for my mother and she was tearing up his pockets she was able to you know get a beauty salon he funded her beauty salon and and got her uh she used to drive a Cadillac Seville a fancy Cadillac and bought her a new uh townhouse for her and her children yeah she girl was swimming in the money and she calls herself buying her children toys and trying to make up for lost time I you know what them toys didn't mean nothing we needed a mother's love we needed emotional connection we needed nurturing we needed her love and she could not give it oh she'll buy you toys with his money when we got our our new townhouse we all had our own bedrooms that's nice Christmas time was nice we had all these toys and stuff that's financial where is the emotional nurturing and connection she did not have it in her my mother's a sociopath then add to that not only was he spoiling her with money and gifts and bought her a beauty salon and a new car and fur coats and they went on trips and vacations he also got her high she was she was snorting cocaine and ---- perfect combination she she married a drug lord so she had access to drugs but never mind that this man's character he was a predator because he was preying on me the whole time that's what these men do today a lot of men get in relationships with single mothers so they can have access to the children so that they can molest children men are predators we got to be careful who we allow around our children so let me tie this together so now you know what happened he got busted by the feds our house got raided we had to uproot and relocate and move down south to get out you know things got hot he ended up in prison because he got busted for selling drugs I think he did like eight years I don't remember six seven eight years that was hell living with my mother while he she was miserable that he got locked up all the jewelry the furs all that lavish lifestyle all that went to a halt we was poor again we was poor living in South Carolina far away from our family and friends she did all this running behind this ******* man and again because she was miserable about it she took her anger and frustrations out on me and my brother my sister was her favorite she she never bullied or punished my baby sister but she damn sure beat the **** out of me and my brother so we are living in South Carolina miserable as hell miserable this bitch was so mad that she could not live lavish anymore um all the diamonds the furs the fancy vacations her beauty salon gone everything gone running behind this nigga sirens he gets out of prison you think he got it got back up on his feet i'm talking about her second husband now no the nigga's life has not been the same since he's met my mother he lost everything he's never he hasn't been able to bounce back um he's in very poor health my understanding is he's he had a couple massive strokes I'm I don't know he had some serious health issues with his heart maybe he's diabetic maybe he has congestive heart failure he's on an oxygen tank um that's my understanding and my understanding is they don't even live together at this point they're still married but he might be in some type of senior living living home of residence or something I don't know if it's a nursing home um he's in bad shape his health is is is deteriorating he has not been able to bounce back uh ever since he he went to prison all that drug money gone all the women gone so now my mother i don't know what the reason is why she's holding on to this man why and since finding out that he molested me and she's been knowing for the last 20 years that he touched me repeatedly why hasn't she divorced this man because i'll tell you why she won't divorce him because number one she's a pick me with low self-esteem she feels that she's nothing unless she has the validation of a man she feels that by having a married title she's better than single women better than women in general something about having a title a mrs mrs next to your name oh i'm important i'm better than you because i'm a married woman that's how these baby boomer bitches be acting baby the whole time they'd be miserable and married my grand my nana my nana's another one married for all 40 50 years and ******* miserable the whole time don't even sleep in the same bed as your husband you can't stand his ass but you won't leave him or divorce him and then you pass down that toxic teaching to your daughters and then you sit back and you watch your daughters get in toxic relationships with abusive men and then you do your shame you shame them and talk down on them but where did your daughter learn the ---- from she learned it watching you bitch staying attached to a toxic nigga staying married to a narcissistic man that's where your daughter gets it so let me tie this together my mother knows she's made poor decisions she don't like the current nigga she married she knows he molested me she knows he slept with one of her he slept with one of her girlfriends oh yeah baby he's a whore i'm willing to bet he's he has slept with a couple of her girlfriends he was a drug drug kingpin in Trenton New Jersey you don't think her grimy female friends didn't didn't think you know was trying to get money you never bring your girlfriends around your nigga and he was known for giving money and gifts and loans and favors to people I'm I'm sure he slept with more than one of her girlfriends but I know for a fact she was pissed, I saw her fist fighting, she she caught him cheating and they were fist fighting the woman's name is Karen, Karen and this woman Karen used to babysit me and my brother and sister the baby, he fucked the babysitter and not only was she the babysitter uh she was the cashier in his clothing store, he had his side chick close to him so I know she got all her bills paid and played in my mother's face and was in my mother's house babysitting her children, that's why my mother was pissed, but but the bitch should have divorced his ass, don't fist fight him, bitch divorce him, he's broke now, he ain't got no money, why are you clinging on to the nigga, he's a child molester, he's a pedophile, he's a serial cheater, what the ****, why won't you divorce the nigga pick me ass bitch, so ladies let me tell you something when your mama is miserable with her husband when your mama is miserable with her boyfriend, she knows her husband or her boyfriend is secretly lusting after you a lot of these women will pimp out their daughters to keep the nigga around, she don't care about her daughter but she'll use her daughter, she'll look the other way knowing the niggas molesting her daughter because she wants to keep, the only way that the man is going to stay in a relationship with her is if he has access to molest her daughter, this is very common in the black community a pick me narcissistic bitch will pimp out her daughter to keep the man in the house otherwise he's going to leave she doesn't want the man to leave she'll offer up her daughter and look the other way she won't protect or defend her daughter because she wants the nigga to stay around so when you become an adult and you start dating and you're you're now attracting narcissistic men and you don't understand why you keep getting in one toxic relationship after the next mom was not going to tell you to leave narcissistic men alone no she's she's going to encourage you you know I'm getting old I want a grandchild when are you going to have a baby you know uh you know how this is what my mother told me because I was going to get an abortion when I first learned I was pregnant I was 24 I said I'm too young I'm, I just got my brand new apartment. I got a brand new car. I just got a new job working for the state government, you know, single, successful, pretty. I had lost a lot of weight. You know, I was doing really good in my life when I got pregnant. And that's why my daughter's father targeted me, you know, and wanted to, you know, slow me down with a baby. When I told my mother I was pregnant, I said, mom, I think, you know, I want an abortion. I'm not ready. I'm not ready. She said, Chanel, you know how I feel about abortions. You need to keep the baby. There was pressure for me to go through with the pregnancy because she wanted to be a grandmother so bad she wanted bragging rights it's all about making her look good it ain't about me having a a long term connection to an abusive nigga and I'm just wondering now like mom if you regret having children and you regret marrying my father and you are you don't even want the current nigga you with why would you encourage your daughters to have babies I've been through a lot of ---- with men and you know what I advised my daughter I said don't bring me no grandchildren I don't want no grandchildren and you're not ready for kids she said you know what mom I don't want kids I want to stay child free for as long as I can I said at least wait to the age of 40 I said don't bring I don't want no grandkids and don't get married I teach my daughter to stay away from men altogether I teach my daughter that that toxic, narcissistic men weaponize pregnancy to trap us and they weaponize marriage. Even the good guys, even the good guys in the church are narcissists. He'll tell you he's a man of God. And then you go and get pregnant and marry him. Then he switches up after marriage and he starts A lot of women in the church are abused by their husbands. I didn't say boyfriend I said husband the pastor is abusing his motherfucking wife because once they feel that you know you're trapped you're locked down with a baby in marriage they turn into bullies and demons behind closed doors the mask drops so I teach my daughter the quickest way that a man can **** up your life and slow you down is by trapping you with a baby and or marrying you don't allow him to move into your house don't put his name on any of your bills don't help him with ---- don't you have to be 100 percent independent don't let a nigga trap you by any means necessary i don't want no ******* grandchildren that's what i tell my daughter because why would i want my daughter to suffer the way that i did with her father and any other nigga i was with i'm gonna teach my daughter better but when you have an abusive toxic narcissistic mama who has made a whole bunch of mistakes with men she married a ******* loser she married a ******* pedophile she married a serial cheater she she she's mad that your daddy didn't ******* want her and he and he left her for another woman she's made all these poor choices with men in her past if she's truly a narcissist she's miserable inside and she's going to pressure you to have a baby she don't care she's not going to teach you to to vet this man to see if he's a narcissist abuser she's not going to teach you that all she's going to say is you need to have a baby I'm getting old and I need grandchildren then when you have the baby and you and her fall out she's she gonna ditch you she's not gonna babysit she's not gonna she's gonna be evil she's gonna leave you stranded I went through all this with my mother when I did not allow my mother to control me when I set a boundary she was like **** you and that baby there was a time where um you know this is when she was living in Delaware and she had a big basement she had a townhouse or something and I was storing some of my furniture in her basement I was in between moving apartments and I was living in Albany New York and I said mom can I store um you know some of my furniture in your basement so I put my couch what I have maybe my bed set you know some things boxes and ---- in her basement when I didn't do something she told me I didn't allow her to control me I forget what it was but she went off on me and she was like come get all your ---- and get it out of my get it out of my house and this is when my baby my baby was a baby I've been going through ---- with my mother once my daughter was born it was like she used my daughter as a pawn to play these psychological games of manipulation and control my daughter was a baby when all this happened this might have been uh within the first month she was born yeah I was moving into yes this is what it is I was moving into a new apartment and I needed to store some stuff away so I had furniture in my mother's basement in Delaware and I was living in Albany New York I don't know what happened but you know I me being a new mother with a small baby under six months my baby was small when this happened she was like come get your ---- out my ******* uh basement get just So I rented a U-Haul, drove down to Delaware at night with my baby in the car seat in the front seat, which was very dangerous. I didn't have anybody to help me move the furniture. I did it alone in the middle of the night. I got my stuff out of her basement and I rented a U-Haul storage in Delaware. no no no I forget what happened no I might have moved the furniture out of her house and put it in storage in Delaware but I had to either way I got a U-Haul and my baby was in her car seat strapped in the U-Haul truck and I had to move all the furniture I had to drag it I had nobody helping me drag the couch all these large pieces the dresser I had to pull my body is sore but I got it done and it's like 1 a.m in the morning I'm driving all the way up from Delaware to Albany on I-95 the U-Haul truck starts smoking and needed antifreeze yes this is all while my baby is sitting in the car seat strapped in the U-Haul truck it's just me and her no help no support another incident where my mother's being a spiteful bitch trying you know I'm a new mother I'm a single she would never do this to my sister my sister had a baby my mother would treat her 100% better than what she treated me this was her first grandchild my first experience as a single mother and she completely it was just always some ******* drama with her trying to make my life difficult as a single mom and that's where I started putting the pieces together I said she wanted me to have this baby so that I could be just as ******* miserable as she is so that my life would be slowed down and I would be stuck to an abusive man and my daughter's father is extremely abusive he's a psychopath and an ex-convict she wanted me to be fucked up with my child because she suffered she suffered with children she suffered between these two men and I think today she's still ******* miserable over these ******* men and the poor choices she made and she wanted me to suffer so I say all this to say y'all if you have children then you already know what I'm talking about your mother's an abuser a narcissist you you you can vouch that i'm telling you the truth and for those of you that don't have children and your mama is pressuring you to have a child take the advice in this video very seriously do not have ******* kids at least wait until you're 40 45 years old and make sure the dude is evaluated for narcissism before you take that leap because most men are narcissists and once he traps you with the baby he's out he's on to the next girl and you got to deal with him for 18 years of back and forth bullshit child support wars custody battles don't do it we should be teaching young girls to stay away from men all together 4B movement men weaponize pregnancy to trap women men weaponize marriage marriage is a ******* trap why aren't we teaching our young girls this why aren't we teaching our young girls all this free game any woman that does not teach young women this is a ******* hater she's a male-centered bitch she's a pick me she's a narcissist okay do not let anyone not your grandmother your mama your aunties don't let nobody pressure you into having a child it is a trap and nine times out of ten they're not happy they're miserable they don't even like the nigga they're married to and they want to see you fucked up just like they are they're fucked up do not trust the advice of miserable married women unless they're telling you to be 100 percent independent and stay away from men period