WHY DOES YOUR MOTHER BULLY YOU? #npd #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissism

Hey y'all, spiritual whistleblower here. How y'all doing? I'm in an amazing mood today. I hope you're having a fabulous day. The skin is skinning. It's glowing. I'm in a great mood. God is great. He's awesome. He's amazing. Um, quick disclaimer before I get into this video, cause this is a really good video. Um, I will be in Toronto, Canada. Yeah. Now this is like my third time doing a seminar in, in Canada. So if you've been to one of my seminars previously in the past in Toronto I welcome you to come back and for all my new followers uh from Toronto I would love to meet you for the first time I will be in Toronto Wednesday May 14th, the workshop is from 3 to 6 p.m. I will be doing a book signing I will be selling merchandise, books, um what else, um Q&A question and answer session anything you want to ask me uh we're going to cover everything about narcissistic abuse uh your lover your baby daddy, baby mama, whoever, your parents we're gonna cover it all okay take lots of photos I give out hugs you know a lot of times when you know my supporters come to these wherever I go anywhere in the U.S. I've been to Europe, London, Paris I do these support groups um there's a lot of tears shed a lot of people get to release a lot of people get to vent because you can't just, you know, unless you've been through this type of abuse, nobody will understand. So you're going to be around your tribe. You're going to be around people that get it and get you. You won't feel crazy. You'll feel validated leaving my, you know, workshop. So that is Wednesday, May 14th, Toronto. It's a private event. I do not give out the address of my events. So once you purchase your ticket on Eventbrite, I will email you directly the address. So I'm going to pin the link to get the tickets. There was a little technical error on Eventbrite that's been fixed. So if you want to purchase a ticket, you go right ahead, y'all. Thank you. All right. So I want to do this video to educate you guys. I have it figured out, this narcissistic abuse thing, just based off of my life, my experiences with my narcissistic mother and father. I want to talk about your mother, okay? um and i'm gonna give a really good story time uh why does your narcissistic mother bully you what is her ******* issue with you and um i hope by sharing this story that something clicks in your brain and i want you to stop taking everything personal um why won't let me take that back because the abuse is personal i don't wish that on anybody because the abuse has a long-term psychological damage it fucked you up for a long time ptsd so i don't mean it that way i mean that you know her issues with you is pure projection i've learned to not internalize it i actually feel sorry for my mother but i i understand now why she bullied me the way that she did okay so here it goes um like i told y'all previously i understand my mother's upbringing um both her biological parents uh were trifling I'm gonna say it may you know my grandmother Vera Mae Gibson rest in peace I do believe that my grandmother Vera was definitely a covert narcissist hands down hands down just by her behavior the multiple baby fathers um abandoning one child and starting a new family that's the behavior of a narcissist narcissist well they They have, you know, look at all these men today. They go around having multiple baby mamas, creating broken homes. That's what narcissists do. They don't give, they don't have children out of love. They have children to permanently attach themselves to the other person. It's a form of control, coercive control. I got you pregnant. Now you're trapped. Now you're locked down and I can move on to the next woman. And I'll be able to always come back to you because you have my child. You can't deny me access because you have my child. OK, and they don't love the child either. The child is just like an anchor so that they can have access to control the baby mother. OK, so male and female narcissists, this is how they do. They can have children. They can have millions of kids all over the place and they have no emotional connection to the child. They move right along and start new families wherever they go. And that's what happened. You know, my grandmother, Vera, she could have children with this one and children with that one and walk away with no emotion. That's because my grandmother is a narcissist and I don't care who gets I don't care who in the family gets mad. I'm tired of my family walking around with blinders on. How the **** can we heal from generational trauma if it's not addressed head on? I'm tired of it and I would I dare somebody to attack me or come for my neck because I'm speaking on my deceased grandmother I don't give a **** we're still today in 2025 cleaning up the mess of our ******* elders so yes call it out my grandmother Vera may she rest in peace I love her however she fucked up her children because she was emotionally disconnected from them period so you know the story is she slept with she had a fling an affair with a married man my granddaddy langston biological grandfather langston and they got you know he got my grandmother pregnant with twins my mother and her late sister i believe her sister um when they were born i don't i don't know the story too well maybe her sister was one or two years old she was a toddler when she passed away My mother is actually a twin. What my grandmother did then, because it was so shameful of her to be sleeping around with a married man. First of all, I believe she knew what she was doing. But married men are also nasty. They're narcissists. They have no problem cheating on their wives and starting a family on the other side of town. And that's what my grandfather Langston was. He was a serial cheater. He was totally a narcissist. both of them were and so my grandmother um to protect her image and keep running the streets because she was you know she was fast running the streets but doing extensive emotional damage to her daughter my mother dumps my mother off on her grandmother so it is my mother's grandmother my great-grandmother who raised my mother up until i don't know uh high school that's that's how the story was told to me a long time ago my mother was raised by her grandmother while her mother ran the streets and excuse me while my grandmother was running the streets left her baby girl behind you know my grandmother ended up marrying a man we call him pop pop he's deceased now my late grandfather even though he's not my biological biological grandfather we all called him pop pop so he I guess adopted my mother in her as his own daughter in in her teenage years but it's fucked up my grandmother ran the streets abandoned my mother and started a whole new family that is what narcissists do they abandon their children like nothing it's cruel and that's the only empathy I have for my mother that's what makes me I feel sorry for her because she did not deserve that type of treatment right so she has not only a mother wound because her mother abandoned her and neglected her uh she definitely has a father wound her father neglected her and although her grandparents may have raised her it's not the same as having mom and dad around those are your grandparents and what ended up happening her grandmother spoiled her to take up for the loss of her mama not being there to raise her and what happens when you raise a child and spoil the **** out of them or treat them better than the other children you create an entitled spoiled brat you create a monster they turn into a narcissist because that's all narcissists are they're spoiled brats self-entitled me me me me me so you know not only was she abandoned by her parents she was spoiled and groomed to be highly selfish her grandmother I believe spoiled her to make up for the loss of her mother not being there so um where am I going with this I believe my mother had a deep resentment towards her parents she claims that um you know she's forgiving them I don't buy that because if you really had forgiven your parents you wouldn't have bullied and treated your children like ---- had you really truly forgiven your mother and father you would have never turned around and bullied beaten bloody assaulted me and my brother when you're healed everything goes you do not transfer that energy and you don't pass it down to your children so i call bullshit she wanted to believe she forgave and and got over got over got past it no she passed her ******* trauma that her parents created with her her parents trauma passed on to her and she turned right the **** around and passed it on down to my siblings my mother is far from healed she is still broken to this day because when you're healed and and you you, you, you know, understand what was done to you. You would never do your children the same way. That's just common sense. You're born with love inside of your heart and you would never want your children to suffer the way that you did when you were a child. You know how your mother and father made you feel when they abandoned you. That's straight abuse. Why do your children the same there's no excuse so I feel she she was craving a longing for a mother although her grandmother raised her it's not the same as her mother she needed that nurturing from her mother and because her mother is a narcissist her mama could not give it to her so what happened you know when my mother was in high school and she learned who her real biological father was my mother had no idea who her biological father was because she was being raised by her stepfather my pop pop and somebody came up to her and told her about her actual father Langston who was a married man and so that probably you know she probably had resentment towards her mama there like mom why didn't you tell me about who my real father is I'd be ******* pissed to withhold it for that long my mother was in high school when she found out I'd be pissed at my mother you know that's fucked up but they kept it it was like a dirty little secret you know because yeah my grandmother was hot in the ass and the way she linked up with this married man dirty okay creeping and being dirty and fast and it didn't stop there she gave birth to my mother and kept on creeping in the streets until she she ended up married and had two more kids how you have a husband and a whole new family but you left the other one behind you she left a couple actually my it was my mother and her older brother she's got like three older brothers so my grandmother has multiple baby daddies she was a hot mess you you up and have kids and you you you up and leave them abandon them that's emotional neglect then you run the streets you marry a man and start a whole nother family that ---- is fucked up so my mother had that deep-rooted mother wound in her so what happened um my mother's parents and my father's parents they all live on the same street a block from each other in Trenton New Jersey they lived on Walnut Avenue my mother's parents lived at 436 Walnut Avenue and my father's parents lived at 323 Walnut Avenue a block from each other I don't know how my mother came to meet my my nana my father's mother but in high school she used to go and do my Nana's hair. This is my father's mother. I'm talking about now. Okay. She would go to my Nana's house as a teenager and do her hair and they bonded. So I think what happened was my Nana stepped in and became that nurturing mother to my mother. That's why they're so close. And also my Nana is, she's incredibly toxic. My Nana is a malignant narcissist. I believe that's another reason why they bonded because they were so much alike. But my Nana took on a mother role to my mother. They got really close and they bonded. And I believe their bond was closer than that of my mother and her mother. Okay. And that's how my mother met my father and my Nana pressured them to, to get together, to date, get married and get pregnant, start a family. My Nana was so desperate to have a grandchild and to see her sons get married. So what it was told to me is that she paid for or arranged for my parents to have a shotgun wedding. So they got married in somebody's backyard. And what I heard was it was a lot of drama and fighting and chaos. It was, it was a ghetto ass wedding in somebody's backyard. Uh, nonetheless, they got married. And the reason why they got married is because my mother was pregnant with me so I feel that my nana death she's super controlling and again narcissists are about appearances okay um she was very abusive beat the living crap out my father and his brothers I mean very abusive she she was violent okay my grandmother was so violent and a street hustler she ran numbers you know if y'all don't know what numbers is it's like the lottery illegal lottery she ran numbers out of her house and what i was told liquor selling liquor with all types of she went to prison she went for a few months or whatever but my nana i'm like yo my grandmother was in prison sociopath my nana is a total narcissistic sociopath yeah okay always fist fighting my grandfather violent fist fights you know very big mouth very nasty cuss like a sailor almost bully like behavior you know the sound of her voice was very boisterous and intimidating okay um she loved to yell she never stopped yelling and cussing out people she and my mother became very close when my mother's a teenager next thing you know here comes a pre-arranged ******* wedding i believe my parents got married my mother was 19 too young my father too young broke no money no you know they were just not prepared for anything but they allowed my grandmother to like you know put her hands in everything and and put the everything together because it's about appearances oh my son's getting married oh my my daughter-in-law's about to have my first grandchild it's about appearances never mind the fact that these two young people are both broken unhealed financially they're not ready they don't have their ---- together that neither one of them got to live out their life their dreams you know my mother could sing what if she went to college and pursued a career you know and you know a musical career and and actually made a very lucrative made good money at you know singing and touring she she could have you know went after her dreams why have a family as such a young age she allowed my grandmother to pressure her she allowed my grandmother to talk her into this ---- it is my grand my nana's influence now I don't know about my my mother's uh mother if they had a hand well no no actually I I was told that they warned her not to marry my father don't marry him he's not ready yet my mother went ahead and married him anyway she was pregnant with me that's why she hates my ass because I'm like the glue you know it she probably resents me like if I didn't get pregnant with you I wouldn't have had to marry your father it's all your fault because I hate your father he turned out to be a ******* lame a loser no my mother really needs to be mad at my grandmother for pressuring her to get married and have have kids so that she could have so she could have bragging rights so she could tell everybody she got a grandchild she allowed you know simply because my mother craved the love of a mother she craved the love of a mother and she bonded with my toxic grandmother and allowed my grandmother to manipulate her and coerce her into getting with my father that's where my mother's anger come comes from because she had no idea that she would you know the constant fights the homelessness I got stories my mother doesn't know I remember everything sleeping in motels there was a time where you know um my uncle George had a beauty salon and my mother worked for him I forget what she did but we had to up and leave in the middle of night and sleep in the office we were sleeping on the floor in in the office in the salon she she went through a lot with my father that's why I can't respect him as a man. I can't stand my mother, but my father was less than a man. He did not take care of his family, but that's, that's my Nana's fault too, because why would you force your son to get married? And you know, he's not a man, you know, he's nowhere ready. He has no money saved. He's not self-sufficient. He's he, what does he want to do with his future? So I believe that my mother to this day will not hold my Nana accountable for pressuring her and coercing her to get with my daddy and have babies. That's who my mother needs to ******* be mad at. But my mother has her nose up my grandmother's ass so far because they're both narcissists. They're one and the same. They're the same demon, same spirit. They have both violated and abused their children into the ******* ground they have both destroyed their legacy their family their children are all broken up they are one in the same but had my mother had her own brain and used discernment she could have avoided marriage and children altogether but she never stood up to my nana because she craved the love of a mother because her own mother emotionally was not there my grandmother Vera was there physically, but the emotions was not there. I don't care what my mother says. My grandmother, Vera Mae Gibson is a covert vulnerable narcissist. That's why she has children all over the place with different men. Cause she could have a baby and drop it and dump it and say whatever and run on and do go somewhere else and start a whole new life. Anybody that does that to a child has no connection emotionally to the child emotionally disconnected to leave a child like that and start a whole new life somewhere else the truth is the truth so my mother needed that, that you know I think after her grandmother died because remember I said her grandmother raised her up into a certain point um up until high school my mother still craved for a mother okay and my father's mother stepped in and gave her that motherly love, motherly love they bonded on that level but what she didn't realize my mother's young maybe she was young and gullible and didn't realize the severity of my grandmother's manipulation my nana is extremely manipulative so again that's the only empathy I have for my mother she lacked discernment and she could not realize then you know my nana was married but she was miserable and married you know people on the outside looking in yeah my nana might be married to a good looking handsome light-skinned man with wavy hair and she might have three handsome sons but what goes on behind closed doors is a lot of violence a lot of chaos a lot of dysfunction why bring a child into this world into and **** them up psychologically all three of my nana's sons my father and his two brothers my uncle Dion has passed away he was a baby he's deceased now she fucked all them up psychologically she fucked all of them up my nana has to have things her way it's her way or the highway if you don't give her her way she's gonna bully her way to get it she's gonna coercively control you to get what she ******* wants she wanted a grand baby she wanted to see her son married and be in a wedding and be the talk of the town my father being her oldest child her firstborn that was a big deal oh my god my son is having a baby my son is getting married it was all about her what she wanted and keeping up with appearances neither one of my parents were ready and they both were manipulated to get into something they should have never never so yeah my mother has misplaced anger towards me and even my father, even though he was a lousy deadbeat, the anger should go towards my Nana because my Nana was a miserable married woman. And one thing that a miserable married woman cannot handle is being miserable by herself. She's got to pull another woman down with her. That's why I'll tell y'all a lot of these married women that are in these long-term marriages, 30, 40, 50 years, they're not happy honey and they be envious of these single you know these single girl girls out here with they college degrees and they making a lot of money and traveling vacation they happily single these married women be ******* envious of single women because they wish they had y'all freedom they tied down to their ******* husbands they hate their ******* husbands now it's half and half there's some married women that'll actually tell single women don't get married marriage is not what you think it is marriage is a scam marriage is a trap however there are the miserable married women who secretly envy single women and they want to see a woman, you need to go ahead and get married. Why don't you and your baby daddy get back together? They want to see you tied down to a toxic nigga because they're tied down to a toxic man. Misery loves company. And that's what I believe. My Nana was miserable in her marriage, all that fighting carrying on chaos in her household. She did not want to be alone. So with my mother, she manipulated and pulled my mother right on into the dysfunction cycle. And because of that, my mother was tied down to a trifling black man or irresponsible, lazy black man who did not care where, where we ate, where we slept, you know, how his children got around, you know, how many elementary schools I, we transferred to so many public schools. We were so unstable because we had no housing. We're jumping from city to city sleeping in different motels my father was not a leader he was not ready he's he's still irresponsible he's in his 70s now my father has never been responsible never my mother was so angry I'm sure she feels duped and scammed and conned but her anger towards me no her anger should be towards the woman who who pretended to be a motherly figure my nana manipulated my mother and that's where my mother's anger needs to go to because she's turned on her children the frustrations are being tied down to this trifling ass man it's not your children's fault and it's wrong for what she did she projected so much pain and trauma from her own mother from her mother's abandonment issues my mother was so damaged she had no business getting married having kids you got to heal and work on yourself before you think of bringing an innocent child into this world or else you will break and destroy your children she should blame my nana for manipulating her because that's what happened my mother was misguided and and manipulated into getting with my father and getting pregnant and starting a family and she got fucked over she did y'all let me know what you think you know uh does this sound like your mama you know why does your mother have it out for you and and and you know was she pressured to have a family to keep up with appearances and she's angry now but she took her anger out on you instead of addressing the motherfuckers who pressured her let's talk about in the comment section y'all remember I will be in Toronto May 14th get your tickets the link is down below in the comment section I pinned it love you guys bye