GDLA+ Tuesday, 9/01/2026

Welcome to G. D. L. A. Plus. Also, welcome to September 1st. Yes. September 1st, 2026. And you know what? According to Encyclopedia Britannica. Okay. Okay. Because today officially marks the beginning of the late 2020s, you guys. Okay. What does that mean for us? Just means like we're all getting old. Yep. Basically. Uh, we do have a fun show in store today. Uh, informative show. We start with, uh, we'll start with author Anna Lauren Hoare is here. She's going to talk about her book. It's called Radiant AF Confidence, Courage and the Art of Living Out Loud. After 40, she's encouraging women to stop apologizing for aging and to start embracing the most confident chapter of their lives. So can't wait to talk to her about that. Before that, though, we do have some news to get to one person killed in a multi vehicle crash in Norwalk and investigators say that more than a dozen vehicles were actually involved. Mario joining us in Norwalk with the story, Mario. Hi, Roxy. We're learning a little more witnesses telling me that a group of cars, what they describe as a large caravan was speeding here down Rosecrans in this Norwalk neighborhood. When the crash happened, unfortunately, one person died. Three other drivers were injured. And just take a look. You can still see some of the aftermath. The tow truck crews are out here right now. They're in the process of removing the vehicles, taking them here away from the scene. Now, here's what I've been able to gather. Witnesses tell me the initial crash involved three drivers. Then there was a second crash with two other drivers involved soon after the collision, leaving 11 parked cars damaged here along the street as well. And the sheriff's department confirms street racing was in fact involved. Let's go to the video here. Sky Fox showing us the aftermath near Rosecrans and Longworth Avenues where this all happened around one o'clock this morning. Sheriff's investigators say that the crash sent two of the initial cars rolling over several times here along Rosecrans with the driver of a maroon Ford Fusion being ejected from the vehicle. A young man, we've learned, a driver who died at the scene. Now, let's go to some ground shots here so you get a sense of the damage from the ground. Three other drivers, we've learned, were injured with one taken to the hospital. And again, we've heard from several neighbors here throughout the morning. In this neighborhood, you say street racing is a huge issue. It happens constantly at least once a week. Gracie, one of those neighbors here, thanks for joining me out here. You see all this damage. This is a frustrating issue for you. Yes, it is. This happens almost every weekend. We have drag racing on Pioneer and Rosecrans. They always have a takeover and they always drag race down this Rosecrans and Studebaker. I mean, it's never a dull moment in Norwalk. Yeah, I know you live just down the street to wake up, see all this damage here, all the damaged vehicles. What do you think? Ever seen anything like this? Yes, this always happens. It always happens in Norwalks. Never a dull moment. I mean, you want to see something devastating. This is bad. This is really seriously bad. These youngsters need to wake up and stop doing this. You know, stop racing down these streets. We also saw a can, at least one can of Nas in the street. So it could have been possible that the drivers or at least one of them was impaired. What do you think law enforcement needs to do? Because we've talked to so many who've been on our show on Good Day L.A. saying that, you know, a lot of times they try to look ahead, stop these online. What do you think should be done with stopping these young people from doing these street takeovers? Well, they're not going to stop. They're going to, you know, that's the generation now. This is what they do. This is their high drag racing, getting all crazy. And this is what happens. I mean, I don't even think they can stop it because it's up to the parents to do something with their kids, you know, to stop them, to see where they go out at night. Keep an eye on your kids or they're going to be in a body bag. You know, you're going to have to come over here and see them dead on the road. Your parents need to seriously keep an eye out on your kids, really. It's not good to come out here and see this and your son doesn't make it home or your daughter. That's all I got to say about that. Yeah, that's actually great advice because that's what, you know, the police chief has said that as well. Robert Sheriff Luna, appreciate you talking to us, Gracie. Thank you. Thank you. So it does, in fact, turn out that street racing was involved. Again, one driver ejected from their vehicle, pronounced dead here on the scene and three others injured for now. Live in Norwalk. We'll send it back to you. All right, Mario. Thank you. Glad they're cleaning it up there. All right. The jury in the Lindsay Clancy murder trial says it cannot reach a unanimous verdict. The judge is now telling jurors to keep deliberating as they enter their fourth day of discussions. They're deciding whether Clancy was criminally responsible for killing her three young children in 2023. Both sides agree she killed the Children. But the key question here is whether postpartum psychosis left her unable to control her actions. If found guilty, Clancy faces life in prison without parole. If found not guilty by reason of a mental disease or defect, she would be committed to a mental health facility. It's a complicated issue there. Los Angeles County is suing State Farm, claiming the insurer mishandled claims from the 2025 L. A. Wildfires. Since the Eaton fire, I've continually heard from residents who've lost everything only to face another exhausting battle with State Farm. We tried this the nice way, but L. A. County isn't afraid to do this the hard way if it brings justice to our survivors. County officials say survivors of the Eaton and Palisades fires face long delays, underpayments and poor handling of damage claims. The lawsuit alleges unfair business practices and seeks restitution for policyholders. State Farm denies wrongdoing, saying they have paid billions of dollars in claims. The company also says it will defend against the allegations. Lawmakers will vote today on a spending bill that includes taxpayer funded security for current and former elected leaders. This provision sets aside $20 million to pay for CHP officers protecting officials and their families, depending on the results of a threat assessment. Governor Gavin Newsom would be among those eligible once he leaves office. The money would come from an account funded by car registration fees. Now, critics say it's inappropriate and unnecessary, as California previously passed a bill allowing campaign funds to pay for security. The Trump administration announcing it's targeting what it calls fraud in the trucking industry, and it has its eyes specifically on California. Transportation Secretary Sean Duffy says his department will shut down more than 110 driving schools that issued licenses to more than 5,000 truck drivers who failed an English language proficiency test. Duffy says California driving schools are among the biggest offenders. A number of American families whose lives have been ruined. They've lost a loved one or a loved one has been injured by a commercial driver who should have never had a commercial driver's license. The Department of Homeland Security says it plans to take part in a synchronized sweep of more than 200 driving schools in 23 states. After nearly three decades, we have a conviction in the killing of rap icon Tupac Shakur. Yesterday, in a Las Vegas courtroom, jury members found 63-year-old Dwayne Davis guilty in the 1996 drive-by shooting of the rapper. The verdict reads as follows. We, the jury in the above entitled case, find the defendant Dwayne Keith Davis as follows. Count one, murder with use of a deadly weapon. Guilty of first-degree murder with use of a deadly weapon dated this 31st date of August 2026. Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, is this your verdict as read? So say you want, so say you will? Yes. Prosecutors argue Davis orchestrated the drive-by shooting, though he didn't pull the trigger himself. The courtroom was packed with family members, including Shakur's sister, who hugged prosecutors after the verdict. Earlier on Good Day LA, local civil rights attorney Joe Richardson weighed in on the case. There's going to be a lot to peer through, but the speed arouses some concerns in and of itself. Is there a way that maybe they didn't consider a whole lot of the evidence? But the same thing that can make you laugh or make you cry, the defense did not put up much of a defense at all. They just had three witnesses. They were pretty confident. And of course, they didn't put KPD on the stand. They were pretty confident about how this thing is going to come out. So the speed in and of itself is not going to do it, but they'll peer through the evidence, et cetera, especially as it pertains to some of the things that were admitted, what they find out about what the jury said, and see if that takes them somewhere. Davis, held without bail, is set to be sentenced on October 13th. He faces a life sentence without the possibility of parole. All right, we do have some breaking news right now. LA County officials preparing for the 2026-2027 storm season, potentially very strong El Nino. There's a meeting coming up in an hour, but County Supervisor Lindsay Horvath is speaking now, so let's listen in. My office later this month to make sure that all community members' questions are getting answered. We want to make sure that people are able to prepare themselves and their families and their communities, that everybody knows what's at stake, knows how best to prepare, where they get information so there's no confusion, and most importantly, that we're here to support them at every step of the way. How is the county preparing for this weekend? So we are investing. We're already doing trial runs and working to prepare our community to be engaged and following all of the weather reports. You'll hear in our presentation today from the National Weather Service representative. I know there's been some confusion about conflicting reports and what it means. We know that we're continuing to ask questions and make sure that we are getting people as accurate of information as possible, but we just want to make sure that people are prepared. We don't want to unnecessarily alarm everyone, but we do know that sometimes people think that they have the latest information and they don't. So we are working both in terms of communications. We're preparing resources and interventions out in the community, especially looking at our burn scar areas that have been impacted by the fires to make sure that if any sort of additional interventions that are needed, as we did after the fires last year, if we need to bring any of those to bear, that we can do that as well. And a lot of people say this happens every year. What makes this year different? So we know that many of the experts are predicting that this will be an extraordinary experience of El Nino. Yes, it is cyclical, but we do expect that there will be increased rain. There will be increased wet weather impacts, and we want to make sure that everyone is prepared for what that might mean. We don't want to, again, unnecessarily alarm everyone. We just want to make sure that people are prepared, that they know where to get clear information. I know sometimes when you're in the midst of the emergency, it might be too late to find the information that you're looking for. So we're calling on everyone to get that information now to make sure that you understand who and where you should be looking to and who you have to call on. In LA County, all of our departments are here to help. I know in many of our communities, they'll call on our Department of Public Works in particular to bring, whether it's sandbags or other interventions, to a community to help prepare, and so we're ready to do that. All right, there you have it, County Supervisor Lindsay Horvath speaking, talking about how LA County is preparing for the storm season that's ahead of us for 2026-2027. Coming up, author Anna Lauren Hoar is in the Elmville Lounge. She's joining us next to talk about her new book and why women are having a midlife moment. Not a crisis, but a moment. Anna Lauren Hoar reinvented herself in her 40s as a model, actress, filmmaker, and now an author. She's here to talk about her new book, Radiant AF, Confidence, Courage, and the Art of Living Out Loud after 40, and she's here to tell us about the moment she realized, hey, I'm not done yet. I added the hey. I'm not done yet. Welcome to GDLA Plus. Nice to have you with us. Thank you for having me, beautiful. So talk a little bit about your journey. You stepped away from the entertainment world, the modeling, all of that, right, and you kind of had another life, the family, that whole thing. Absolutely. And then you came back. I came back, yeah, roaring back. So stepped away, raised my family. I was assigned model in my 20s, and I never coming back to that. Got into my 40s and realized, what am I waiting for? Why am I waiting? Why am I waiting for permission to do something I want to do? So I did a test shoot, was horrified because I was older, and you saw everything, and you thought, I'm never going to do this again. But I kept doing it, and I realized the confidence that came from that. And I got immune to seeing myself. I didn't care what I looked like. I cared more about what was in here, and I realized I had ability to kind of be confident and have a container of confidence. And that was my engine, and it made me get through the fear, the insecurity, the unknowing, and everything that pushed me forward was confidence. So I wrote a book about it. Well, I mean, you're doing a photo shoot, and you're in your 40s, and you're comparing it to pictures of when you're 20, 30. Obviously, you're different. You're going to look different, but also you're a different person, right? So it's accepting that it's not a bad thing. This is just the new me. Absolutely. I didn't want to be 25 again. I wanted to be my age, and I wanted to be alive and radiant and filled with joy and relevant and sexy and excited about my life. And it didn't mean the age had to be 25. It meant I wanted to be 40s, and I wanted to show the world this is what you can look like in your 40s. But how do you get there, I guess, is the reason why you wrote the book, to let other people know how you get to that point. Because so many women, as they age, as they change in terms of their body and their mindset, they also mourn the past life, you know, that they had when they were in their 20s. Absolutely. And the biggest breakthrough for me was understanding that confidence isn't something you're born with. It's a skill set, and you need to build it. And you build it in small increments daily. When you trust yourself, and you say, I'm going to do this, even though I'm afraid, even though I'm not sure of the outcome, even though I have a lot of insecurity. And that's what pushed me through. And eventually, that became habit. Well, how do you do that? Give us some examples. Absolutely. In my book, I have confidence conditioners at the end of every chapter. And the biggest one I really adhere to is before I let my feet touch the ground in the morning, out of bed, I hold my heart and I say, what do I want today to be like? What am I going to honor today? And it really works. It makes me intentional. It makes me secure myself and trust myself. And so that's just one thing I do. But I also have little bits and pieces of take 15 minutes. If you're overwhelmed, take 15 minutes to do a task and then another 15 minutes. So breaking things down, making them manageable. And it's not about feeling fearless. I feel terrified all the time, but I do it anyways. So that's the confidence. That's the engine. Yeah. One thing that I try to practice is like, because we beat ourselves up, the older we get, like, especially after you turn 40, there's how you look at yourself, which is I'm still the same old me. And then there's how society looks at somebody who's 40 plus, which is like, I'm not, I'm just going to be real out to pasture. Like you're no longer viable. Like, right. And so there's this disparity between what society sees you as and what you see yourself as. So I always try to think to myself, like, what would that six-year-old girl say? If I were like just beating myself up in the mirror, like how would she react? What would she say to me? That's beautiful. That's so true. And I think society, there's this cultural expectation that women are becoming smaller. Yeah. We're going to be quiet and demand less. And then I came into my forties roaring and going, no, I have all this ambition. I have this engine. I have these things I want to do. I know what I want the second half of my life to look like, and no one's going to stop me. And my midlife is powerful because I don't ask for permission. I love that. You, you just said, you know, you beat yourself up a lot when you get older because of society's expectations. But then it got me thinking, we never really didn't beat ourselves up in the twenties. You're beating yourselves up because life isn't together yet. Right. In your thirties, there's something different in your forties. It's literally because you're 40. When you're young, you want to be older, so it's like, at what point and how do you get yourself to just stop that? That's right. We're wasting a lot of time. Well, a big part of my book is cheering other women on. I'm so tired of women being pitted against other women. So a huge part of my book is you need to cheer other women on. When you see the beauty in other women, you see it in yourself. So stop comparing yourself. Social media is really difficult. We talk about that. You're seeing someone's highlight reel, comparing it to your backstage real life. And the most important thing about confidence is not feeling confident when you're taking that photo. It's feeling confident when you're not in front of the camera, when you're by yourself, quiet and you're on the sofa and you're in your sweats and you don't feel good. That's the confidence that runs through. That's the through line in your life. I feel like also like in, in your forties, there's that whole thing with midlife crisis for men. But it also, I think exists for women where you're kind of questioning what am I doing with myself? Is this what I want to keep doing? What's the purpose? Right. So why is that all happening now? You know, midlife is so disorientating because we're always taking care of everybody else and everything else. And then we go, well, what about me? And like we talked about, culture kind of wants us to be a little bit smaller, a little quieter. Like we can't be that ambitious. Like, and we internalize that and we go, well, oh gosh, this is crazy and insane, but I want to do something. Go train in acting, go become a model, go back and get fit, go get another degree. You know, this is the time to do it. We have only a limited amount of time. And so that's, yeah. Even, what do you think about the term midlife? Because for me, it's like, you know, when I was younger, I would hear like midlife crisis or she's middle aged. Right. And I, that, that to me, Ooh, it just, it sounds wrong because it's like the sands of time. Right. And now we're right. Like it's sort of a bookend, like, Oh, you're on the latter half of your life. That's when I say, accelerate it. That's when I say, dig down and get bigger with your dreams and ambitions. Why not? This is it. No, one's going to do it for you. Yeah. You better make this last. You better make this count. I will say what society doesn't tell you is that when you do hit 40, you do have a sense of freedom because you have a bunch of accomplishments under your belt. You have that confidence that you've done it before. You've done a lot and you have the freedom to not care as much in a way you have a voice that you've established. So those are all things that I think that we have embraced in this midlife, right. That nobody tells us about. And I think that's really important for younger girls to know and realize. Absolutely. The engine is just an internal coherence and understanding who we are at this age. And it's the right age. We are ripe to do this because we know who we are. We have all those experiences and that history. We're balancing our lives and we're allowed to reinvent ourselves. I feel like it's like reframing how you look at it because I will say the older I get, the more I feel liberated where I kind of am a little less filtered, which I'm really enjoying. I really, really love it. It's liberating. And then life experience makes you look at the world differently. It's almost like you, I wish I could be this person. See, I'm doing it right now. I wish I could be this person, but maybe look like I used to. It's about like. That's the paradox of getting older is like, right. They say youth is wasted on the young. That's why they, now you realize like that's wait, are they talking about us? I'm like, wait, midlife where they're not us. There's no way like somebody who's watching this and it's like, oh, those middle-aged boys, no way. I'm like, am I delusional? Are they talking about us? There's also like a big challenge though, for people who are in, for women specifically in their forties, that's the sandwich generation, right? Like some of us have kids, younger kids, and especially like the old, this, this generation. Now we prioritize our careers above anything else we wake up and, oh, and now it's time to have children. And then you're like in your forties, you have young kids, then you also have aging parents who you have to take care of. So how do you maintain that, you know, maybe focusing on yourself and, and not being another chapter of your life, right. While also juggling all of this, these real issues. This is true. And I actually wrote a whole chapter about balance is an illusion in my life because it doesn't exist. And I think each of us understand that when people say balance, I'm like, that's not true. No, balance. No, it isn't. Sometimes you get 90% to your job and just 10% to your family. And then sometimes you have to reverse that. So it's not, it's not a balance. There's never a stage in life for you. And I think like, it's so much put on us. We're talking a lot about, you know, our age, we focus a lot on our career. We didn't have another choice. No, it wasn't. Do you know what I mean? Like it was like another version of the women who didn't have a choice to have a career from before, but now it's the only way to eat. Right. Our parents, because they learned from their parents who like gave it all to their family. Right. And women in that generation typically didn't have, they were stay at home moms. That was like, that was the role. And then you have our generation who was guided by, you know, our parents to say, no, no, you do have to live on your own and make sure that you can rely on yourself. So career, career, career, make your own money. Don't depend on, you know, anybody else to support you in life. Right. And then here we are. Right. Absolutely. And I think the biggest message is just don't ask permission and age is not a problem to solve. We get to be this old. This is a blessing. We have oxygen in our lungs and our hearts are beating because the alternative isn't great. That's right. That's 100%. Like when I, when I turned 40, all of my friends were like Brooke, like a lot of people didn't get this far. It's a blessing to be able to say, and that's how I was like, okay, ask me tomorrow. Okay. I hear you, but you know, yeah, it's kind of like be comfortable being uncomfortable, right? Stretch yourself. I always tell myself, like if I'm working out or something and I'm hating life, just be, it's a blessing that I'm able to do this. I'm able to have this time to do something. You've got to do that. Yes. I get to say that in the gym. I do. I will walk out. Pick up a copy of the book, Radiant AF Confidence, Courage, and the Art of Living Out Loud after 40 is available now. Thank you so much. Thank you. I love that cover too. Was that the new photo shoot? That was the new photo shoot. Breaking news in sports and it's a big one. Rams owner Stan Kroenke announced he is buying the Los Angeles Angels from longtime owner Art Moreno. Controlling interest in the Angels will be acquired by Kroenke Sports and Entertainment and is subject to approval by Major League Baseball. In addition to being the principal owner of the Rams, the 79-year-old real estate mogul owns the majority stake in the NBA's Denver Nuggets, the NHL's Colorado Avalanche, and Major League Soccer's Colorado Rapids, and the English Premier League's Arsenal FC. And what else? What does he not own? Right, right. Exactly. Wow. That is major, major news. That's another team. Yeah, right. What's another one? Add it to the list. Wow. Okay. That's pretty big. Uh-huh. Big news for sure. Okay, so now to the story from a boys and girls club in Southern California to UC Berkeley. Her dream to become a physician assistant and to make health care more accessible. At 17 years old, Haley Castaneda is already thinking big. Big college, big career, and a bigger purpose. I'm going to UC Berkeley in the fall to study public health and I'm super excited. I want to become a physician assistant either in neurology or pediatrics. But before Berkeley, there was the boys and girls club. Haley joined when she was just six and for the next 11 years, it became a place to learn, make friends, and find her voice. I actually started in their summer program and so I fell in love with the club, just the environment and meeting so many different people. She took advantage of everything the club had to offer and then she started giving back. She spent hours tutoring younger students and became a student board member. Then during her sophomore year, Haley found a cause that would change her path. A woman named Vanessa Decker, she reached out to a teacher at my school at Santa Monica High School and she talked about a foundation, the Glimmer's Childhood Cancer Foundation, which was the foundation started by her daughter who died from osteosarcoma. Haley was all in. I did a lot of fundraising and I also had a high school club. I created the first high school club to support the foundation's goals. I worked really closely with Vanessa. And that work helped lead to a massive milestone. Around a year and a half ago, we donated $250,000 as a foundation to UCLA Children's Mattel Hospital for advancing cancer research, which I was really proud of because I got to attend the check signing event and actually observe pediatric cancer research with Dr. Nowicki, which was a really cool experience for me. For Haley, it was proof that even as a teenager, she could make a difference. And it helped shape the kind of healthcare provider she wants to become. I want to be a provider in underserved communities that can be an advocate, but also understand and really make people feel cared for and seen and heard. Now, Haley's own future is getting a boost. She's one of 50 Boys and Girls Club members nationwide to receive a $5,000 judgment-free generation scholarship from Planet Fitness. Money that can help take some of that financial pressure off her first year at Berkeley. I felt like I had no chance at college because my parents didn't ever go to college. So I'm a first-generation student, and I would just say, reach out to those resources. And she has some advice for other first-generation students getting ready to take that next step. I spend a lot of time researching volunteer opportunities, community service opportunities, because not only do you build relationship with people in those fields, but you also get tips and tricks from those people, wise words that help you as well. Haley says her own journey is proof you don't have to wait until you're older to make a difference. So many programs, they've helped me even get into college, especially as a first-generation student. That organization is probably one of the most resourceful. They give you so many resources, like SAT prep, college-bound program. Yeah, they're all over America. Just get involved. So if you guys think back when you were applying for colleges, volunteering was kind of like a big thing. I do remember the goal back then was to have as many things listed as possible. Like go in your application. Yes, like have a bunch of things, right? Even if it was like something you did for one day or a couple of hours. So I feel like things have changed where they value more if you pick one or maybe two things that you're really investing in, like passionate about, you're making it your purpose, rather than having like this long list. Right. You want to see a passion for something. Yeah, like something. Get something out of it. Right, right. Like you're actually making a difference. You're not just showing up to like fill out the form. That was kind of, I think, the takeaway for me. So good luck to Haley. Good luck at UC Berkeley. I'm sure you're going to do great. And coming up, we're going to check in with Stu, see what he's up to. Hello there, Stu. Hi, Stu. Hey, how are you guys doing today? Doing great. Great Tuesday? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It is Tuesday. I was thinking it was Wednesday also, but I got something for tomorrow. But you know what? Let's talk about today. You know what? How about a little bit of history? How about some history of Los Angeles before it was Los Angeles? Love that. Can that even be? Yes. Yes, it can. We're going to go out to Bell Gardens and we're going to see this beautiful home that is surrounded by a mobile home. But that mobile home wasn't there. And that actually is the home of Francisco Lugo. That's the largest landowner ever in California. Basically, he owned all of, you know, Los Angeles all the way down to Cade and everything in between. That is Casa de Ranch San Antonio. And that was built in 1795. That started out as an adobe. And apparently some of that original adobe is still out there. I actually want to make the trip over and check out that house. The house itself, that kind of was built or redone back in 1860. But the history that is over there is amazing. And the fact that it is a historic landmark that literally is surrounded by a mobile home park. I don't know. That just to me just adds to the whole California vibe to it. Anyway, Francisco Lugo, he was a bit of a character. Apparently he adorned himself in silver and his horse in silver. And he also was known for carrying a large sword. We're going to fast forward just a little bit. 1860, as I mentioned, the whole area was that home. The ranch was redone. And the granddaughter married some guy named Henry Gage. I'm just joking. Gage Avenue, all the time you hear Gage, that was Henry Gage. And he became the, what was it, the first governor or the 20th? Sorry, the 20th governor of California, the whole area. Anyway, the land is still there, clearly. It is actually a historic landmark. It's historic landmark 984. And today, you can go play bingo there weekly. And I think that is just amazing. To put it all into perspective, you have to think, I'm not even sure what, I'm reading my notes and I have dates on there, but I don't even remember what they were for. I'm being very serious. I have a little brain fart right now. Sorry about that. But the bingo night, that's what got me for sure. Check it out. It's in Bell Gardens and you can go there and it is not open to the public, but if you want to do bingo, I think they'll let you in. Ladies. Your notes are a little chaotic. You just gave us a little, you just write stuff all over that paper. I'm not even sure what those dates were. Not sure what that was about. Oh, 1848 is when California became a state. You're awesome too. And isn't it nice when you get it right? Yep. Just at the end there. Thank you, Stu. There it is. Maui. Yeah, take me there. I mean, although it's pretty warm here and it's pretty nice. Whenever I go to Hawaii, I'm always like, we have palm trees and sand here. No, but not the same, but we still have it. And the water here has been pretty warm. That's true. That is true. Okay. So one guy is sparking a debate online after saying he loses interest when a woman gives him her Instagram handle instead of her phone number. That's the point. Feels more personal and shows a clearer interest in getting to know someone. Sharing an Instagram accounts can feel like a less direct way of keeping in touch. The people on the other side of this say sharing Instagram first is not about playing games. It's about safety and privacy. Do you remember, or have you ever been in the situation where you, a guy will ask you for your number and this is during my single days and I would give them the wrong number. Of course. And then they call it. What is wrong with you? Then they get mad. This is why. But this whole thing, like, this is like man discovers water is wet, right? You're supposed to lose interest. There is no interest there. That precious person who was like, no, it's about safety. It's about a lack of interest. It's about, I'm not letting you get that close. Sure. Let's be friends DM me like everybody else. Okay. And you're in the GM. I want to check it out to make sure that you're like a legit person before I take it to the, it's like, it's like a buffer zone. No, that means I am unequivocal. I am not interested. Yeah. Usually when I was single, at least if I would go out nine times out of 10, I would have a couple of drinks, right? Okay. So if I'm talking to you, I might not be seeing you for you. I might be seeing like dirty martini. Yes. So you might be like really attractive right now in the dark. That's right. When the buzz wears off, I don't know what was I thinking. That's why you need the Instagram. Right. That's funny. All right. Well, a lot of parents let's talk about this. Like to encourage their kids to follow their dreams. Right. But well, now one psychologist is saying, stop telling your children they can be anything. Oh my gosh. An expert told CNBC that telling a kid that makes it appear that every aspiration is within their reach and that hard work is all it takes to achieve things like getting into an Ivy league school or being a famous singer when other factors are of course at play. So instead the psychologist says, be realistic and tell kids instead to try new things. Even if it feels scary saying naming a fear can normalize it. Also, sometimes it takes time to, to make sure hard work pays off. She says it's important to be honest with kids to keep things more realistic, which will translate to more confidence and capability. I think it's true to you. You should tell your kids you could be anything you want and do anything you want, but be realistic. Like when I wanted to make the Olympics, let's say in swimming, my parents would tell me, okay, there's like a 1% chance, right? You can make it, you can still try. And if you think you can find, but the reality is that only 1% maybe of kids who swim can make it to the, okay. But you were older. We're talking about like in my mind, if like a kid is like five, you shouldn't be giving them the reality. Yes. Like, you know, dream, try big. Also a lot of those people who made it to the Olympics, like until they got to a certain age, like 90% of that was the parents, like the ability to stop what they're doing and basically manage their kids and like have them practicing. Some of those kids out of school, like, yeah. Like, oh yeah. So I don't know. I just think the world is really, really hard on people in all aspects. Like, and you don't need to like beat the world in a race for tough love. I don't know. I think that like the only place where you can like be like shown love and like someone who's rooting for you and believes in you to take that away too. Yeah. Right. That just sounds like horrible. I like unnecessarily cruel. Yeah. And like too soon. Yeah. Too soon. Why not just be like, keep trying. You might get there. Right. Without saying what's the harm. Yeah. You know, I mean, there are parents who moved across the country for their kids and like, you know, like singers. Eventually if you're going to do that, right. Yeah. Across the country. You got to believe that that kid can have, you also got to see some talent there. Yeah. Are you going to do that? Oh, just because they're dreaming big. You're like karaoke singer. You're like, I'm not moving. I'm not moving to LA for this. Right. You got to kind of be realistic with yourself. Yeah. It's all about building blocks and confidence building when they're like, you know, that, that formative age when they're four or five, six, seven, elementary school. Right. And then that's when like, you really start to see what their real interests are and where their talent lies and their personality. If they're going to work hard enough to overcome. Like, if you tell me right now, you want to be an astronaut, I'll be like, Sandra, let's talk realistically. Like the training you'd have to do to, you know, that's different. But like as a kid, I'm like, I kind of think she could do it. I think it's less so about like, don't tell kids that they can do anything and more about what are you trying to teach them? How are you going to change? Like, you know, like how you help them learn the tools they need to get there. Even what he, he got finished with his like last soccer practice. And so he got like, they give each kid a participation, like little certificate. Right. And I posted that in some schmuck online says, well, this is where it starts. And I'm like, okay, you're right. What is wrong with you? That would have been funny. You know, you didn't really win. Like, what is that? Right. There's yeah. Balance. See, that's where it all comes. You know what, like this is like a new thing, right? Like participation trophy. Yeah. Because we realize how mean and on edge people are. Okay. And they were like, you know what? We got a y'all are getting a parking lot. Okay. You know what? One person just dropped five figures for a trading card of beloved Seattle raccoon, Jim. My goodness. The viral short spine raccoon out of Ballard went global for being Seattle's of the hunchback of Notre Dame. Earlier this month, the Seattle Mariners hosted two Jimothy nights where fans could get Jimothy rookie cards. And one lucky fan received a one of a kind gold card. The card was put up for auction on eBay on Sunday night. It's sold for $20,100. It's a raccoon with a deformity. Like what? I mean, if I saw Jimothy in the wild, I would lose. Yeah. I would, I would, I would, I would try to keep them. Yeah. I'm losing my breath right now. I would take him in. I would take him in. No, you wouldn't. Yeah. I would. Didn't you have a friend who had a pet raccoon? Well, I wouldn't say she's a friend. Okay. Well, someone, I would say someone, you know, somebody I went to college with had several heads, had eight of them in their home. No, raise them from the time they were puppy. I don't know what small rock, a baby rock, whatever it is. Yeah. They were raised and like the claws were like, I don't know if you can declaw a raccoon. There's no way. Like you can't, I don't know. What are the rules? If you live with eight raccoons, what do you mean you have to, what happened? Oh, they're called kits. They're called kits. Somebody should have condemned that house. I don't know. She just like, she, then she, I don't know if she released her to the wild. I know that she has a very soft spot in her heart for raccoons. Clearly. Something different. She never got hurt. No, but they, they never bit her because there was no chance of getting rabies because you're not contacting anything. Right. So where did they come from? She bred them. You're not okay. We need to search her up. All right. I will. And she looks exactly what you think she would look like. I don't have any idea what a raccoon lover would look like. I imagine one though. I'm trying to put the babies in shoe boxes. It is so out of my world. It's closed. Oh my God. Oh my goodness. This blends my palate. Okay. Dolly Parton, the late Dolly Parton is still reaching fans across the world. Look at this. That's our girl. Two Dolly Fest concerts are going to be held in Nashville and London. It's being called the party of a lifetime will be held across two consecutive weekends. The celebration was originally scheduled to take place this year and would have featured multiple artists, including Parton herself. She was of course, forced to step back due to health challenges. The new dates for Dolly Fest will be announced at a later time. This season, the university of Tennessee will honor Dolly Parton with a sticker on their helmets. I love this. The volunteer said the patch will honor the iconic native Tennessee singers accomplishments. The sticker will be in the university's signature orange and will feature a butterfly with the word Dolly on it. Very sweet. Really sweet. Yeah. Yeah. And she would go to that university too to perform and all paid for lots of people to go to school there too at UT. Nice. Yep. Um, do you remember the song? I don't want to grow up. Yeah. Yes. Okay. We have grown up, but it turns out we can still be a Toys R Us kid. Toys R Us plans to open a new location at the North Ridge mall in the San Fernando Valley. The upcoming shop is part of an ongoing nationwide expansion by go the go retail group to reestablish brick and mortar Toys R Us flagships, pop-ups, and holiday shops. An official opening date has not been announced, but the store joins a wider slate of planned California locations, including shops in Long Beach, Los Cerritos, Brentwood. Thing is, we don't know if Jeffrey the giraffe is coming back. And what's the point? It has to come back. Yeah, it has to come back. There he is right in the middle. He is Toys R Us. Yeah, I agree. Um, oh, toys are coming back. Vintage toys in a big way. So they, they say toys from the eighties and nineties. Okay. But this song feels like later than that. Okay. Polly pockets, care bears, like the view master. Okay. Maybe my little pony. These were all toys of my childhood. Yeah. I can still smell the, my little ponies. What about a Furby? I remember those. I love light bright. Yeah. Yeah. Light bright. It was good. It was a strawberry short cake. The doll. Yeah. They all smell different. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. I have a strawberry shortcake for Halloween one year. Oh, we do have a shout out before we go. Yes. A shout out to a couple of viewers, Brandy and her mom, Marlene. They said some really nice things about us recently. Oh, Maryland, Maryland. Sorry. Respect on that. Sorry. Randy and Maryland. So producer Christian says, I guess they were really nice and we appreciate you. Thank you so much for watching. See you tomorrow. See you.