Why Smart People Are Terrible at Small Talk

If you're smart, analytical, or work in a corporate environment — there's a good chance you're accidentally ruining your casual conversations. Not because you're boring. Because you're applying a work mindset to a situation that doesn't need one.
In this video I break down the trap that kills rapport for high-functioning, analytical people: treating conversation like a meeting. I cover why it happens, why fear is usually the trigger underneath it, and the simple mental shift that helped me stop over-engineering conversations and actually enjoy them.
This isn't theory. It's something I'm working through in real time — as a developer who spent years in structured, logic-first environments and had to re-learn how to just... talk to people.
If you're a young professional, introvert, or someone who overthinks every conversation — this one's for you.
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