For Men Who Feel "Stuck" - You're Transforming!

Yo yo yo yo yo yo yo yo. Scott here. Comfortable. This video is for men who feel stuck. Trust me, it's a good thing. I know. Have you heard that before? That feeling stuck is actually a good thing. You are on the threshold of transformation. Whoa. I know it doesn't probably feel exciting. It may feel actually pretty scary and you have a lot of questions, a lot of concerns. This channel is for the threshold of transformation, but really for those who deal with self-doubt, high inner criticism, negative self-t talk, and we transform that into self-compassion and self-confidence. That's the transformation, and that's the shift. So when we feel stuck, there's a lot of doubt that comes with that because there's a lot of unknowns. There's a lot of questions. Why am I feeling this way? Why can't I make a decision? There's too many options out there and I don't know which path to go on. I don't know what to choose. I'm tired of choosing. I'm tired of fighting. When's this going to get resolved? There's a whole bunch of things when we feel stuck. But no matter the reason why you're here right now, it's important to acknowledge that you are here. It it actually relieves us a little bit when we accept the situation for what it is rather than what it could be and should be. We wish it wasn't like this. Those those thoughts can come for sure. But to stop fighting the stuckness and just accept that at this season of our life, at this particular place where I am right now, because it will not last forever, nothing does. At this particular moment in my life, I'm feeling blank. So, let's go with the word stuck for now. Let's talk about that because it's really interesting language why we use certain words during certain parts of our life. And with this stuckness, I I hope I can share just a few stories with you that I've shared on this channel, but not in detail, but I I hope it'll be useful for you. I felt so stuck and I'm putting a webinar together and I have a video that I recorded of me in 2021. I was so stuck, so lost, dealing with severe pain, body pain, migraines. I had a very restrictive diet. I lost a bunch of weight. I was super depressed, unbelievably anxious where I was so anxious that I couldn't digest anything but meat. The carnivore diet that I did wasn't out of choice. It was it was out of necessity. I felt so stuck and scared that this would be my life forever. and I couldn't see a future. That's what's really hard when we feel stuck as well. The future isn't revealed to us. We can't see the path. And if you know what I'm talking about, I'd encourage you just let's listen through because we can really talk this out. And as I talk, I'm I'm reminded of my own struggle through this. It's really hard to trust ourselves at this time. It's really hard to be a friend to ourselves at this time. [snorts] It's really hard to give ourselves a break at this time. Because when we're stuck, we're it's an inability to move. That's what stuck is, right? If you've been on your truck and just driving through life and now you find yourself stuck in the mud, what are your options? I love metaphors for this stuff. You know, Jesus always spoke in parables. I kind of get it. I love metaphor. It's the way we communicate so well and through music and play and dance and song. So, if you've been on your truck or car for so long and you've been living your life, and at certain moments, for sure, it's been like, "Oh, I'm slowing down. Okay, I I got I got through again. Oh, the mud's a little deeper. I got through." And then at this point in your life, the mud's real deep and you've been paused. You are stuck in the car and the mud's like, you know, up to the wheel wells here. Oh, battery's dying. Okay, I'll make this quick. What do we do? We can put it into high gear and just try to push ourselves through. We might damage the engine. We might blow it out. Who knows? Okay. We can put into low gear and maybe just really coast through slowly and protect ourselves. Depending. We can just stay totally still and we can wait for the mud to even freeze. Wait till winter and then blast through when it's frozen. We can call a friend to hitch us and pull us out as well. Lot of options here. Lot of options. Okay. What's the best one? [laughter] What's which one did I do for me and maybe for you? And you can see if this resonates with you. It can really be all of them. It can really be all of them all at once. You can test each and every one. You can put it into high gear for a bit and push for a moment while still times going by. Winter's coming for the freeze. You can still contact a buddy or support or me if you need some help through this transition. Okay? And you can still put into low gear for most the time and slowly trickle your way through. But what's not possible is to push our way into high gear for an extended period of time through this transformation. That's not what it's calling for. That's not what it's calling for. I believe for in my life, it was calling me to take an extremely long pause. It didn't mean stop working. It didn't mean all of that. It meant look at my life with a bit of distance, with a with a sense of compassion and kindness. as a friend would look at my life and give me advice. Can I give that to myself? And can I really take my time through this thing? Because these kinds of stuck moments and transformations, they're a big deal for a good reason because it's part of you growing. And think about another uh metaphor for being stuck. The truck analogy is cool, but when you're stuck, it's like if you've had this shell around you since you were born, this barrier, and you're getting in your 20s and 30s, and you finally, you're like, "What the hell is this thing?" You didn't notice it before because it's been around you, and there's been such distance. And now you're like, "What the hell is this thing?" You finally grow. It hits your head. You're like, "What? I've been in a balloon this entire time for 30 years. What the what the And you're freaking out a little bit. What this thing get me out of here is like claustrophobic. Get me out of here. Get me out of here. And the more we push and we get tired of fighting. We get so tired of pushing and get this thing out of here. Get this thing out of here. What happens naturally in nature too? You've seen birds out of their out of their shells, out of the uh out of the eggs and everything like that. [snorts] And the turtles too coming out of those. Think of Jurassic Park when that raptor comes out of the shell in the lab and he's like, "Push, push, little fella. Push." I hate that scene so much. Oh my god. Like, just shut up. Let the raptor do its thing. And for you, can you just let nature take its course? I know it seems so counterintuitive, and that's the point. Can you let nature take its course? Can you accept the stuckness? Keep growing the way you want. Keep growing when it feels good. And and growing. It's not just, oh, I've stacked on so many good things about me and I I'm bursting out with love and happiness and that's why I'm stuck. Not necessarily. It can be more responsibility at work, more responsibility at home. Okay. More things to do during the day. not as much free time, not as many things uh during the day to do as I'd like to do. You know what I mean? Maybe even more self-doubt, more inner criticism. Yeah. And the closer we get to that bubble and that top, it seems to take up way more space, which is a lot of time, all the only voice you can hear is self-doubt because it's in this tight space. A transformation is here for you. It's going to burst. and you'll become someone new and something fresh, born again. The more I read the Gospels and the New Testament in my life, it makes so much sense to me, especially when I'm in deep focusing and meditation and prayer. And and it doesn't if if you're not religious or you follow another religion, that's great, too. But I'd like you to just invite you to be kind during this season that good things are coming. And I'm not just saying that like freaking Joel Ostein, like it's your destiny. No. No. But in my experience, being gentle and kind to yourself, taking things one moment, one day at a time, doing what you got to do, taking care of your body, taking care of your mind, taking care of your spirit, reaching out to friends, getting the job done, having a good sleep, having good meals, treating yourself. Oh, this is making me this is making me feel good. Um, and the video just canceled because the battery died, but stay with me here. You know, go a hug a tree. Enjoy nature. I'm not going to say enjoy this season of your life, but be there with it. Be there with it. Be with yourself in embrace during this season. And and you know if it helps you, you know, the spiritual piece is important in my life. And I never want to force this on anyone, but I got to tell you through this, you're not alone in this. You're not alone in this one. You never are. Embrace this transformation. Embrace the stuckness. And you're going to break loose. And if you want help and some support in in going through this, um, that's what my trans men's transformation program is. It's taking a step back and being in quiet for a little while and practicing that self-compassion, retraining our voice to be kind to ourselves rather than always beating ourselves up during these times. So, if that's interesting to you, um, link in the description there. But [sighs] you got this. You really do.