My 92-Year-Old Friend Just Put Me Over Her Daughter In Her Will

[Music] If your private student loans are in default, you're not out of options. Go to yrefi.com/ramsey. >> Today's question comes from Kathy in Arizona. I've been a health care worker for many years and became close to a patient while she was in the hospital. That was 23 years ago and we've stayed friends since. She's now 92 years old and a widow. She has a son and a daughter who don't live by currently or don't live nearby. She has been estranged from her daughter, estranged from her daughter for almost 15 years. Her son calls periodically to check in on her. She recently revised her will to remove her daughter and put me second in line if something were to happen to her son first. Should I be worried that her daughter could come after me legally? She has not told either of her children about the will details. I want to help her, but I feel like I'm getting in the middle of family drama. What are your thoughts? >> You feel like you're getting in the middle of family drama because you are in the middle of family drama. That's why it feels that way. >> Yes. Wow. >> So, no. Legally, no. She can't come after you. If there's a will in place, >> you haven't done anything wrong. >> Yeah. She She can't >> You haven't done anything wrong. >> But I would encourage her to talk to her kids about this. >> Yeah. I I would go further than that. Um because >> Would you say no to it? I would say I don't want this unless you have told both of your children, >> which would involve her talking to her daughter that she hadn't talked to in 15 years. So, she's not going to do it. >> But I just because let me just tell you I I would tell you there's a 100% chance that you're going to be involved in drama. Did you do anything legally or ethically or morally wrong? No. None of those things. But that doesn't mean you're not going to end up defending yourself or the daughter's going to come in and file suit and say, you know, you mom wasn't competent and this nurse took advantage of her and try to call you out on medical ethics >> or something like that. And none of that is true based on what you've told us, Kathy. And it doesn't I mean also it's been 23 years so that you know but um you know this is um it's a it's a sweet gesture by a lady who doesn't do conflict. This lady's a sweet. She doesn't want to deal with her daughter, but she doesn't want to leave her daughter anything. So, she wants to take one last poke at her from the grave, you know, and it's just like, nah, I I really don't want to be in that. I'm sorry. Um, if you know, 100% chance there's going to be drama. The only question is how much? >> Yeah. >> I mean, just >> Okay, here's a really shallow question. Does it matter the amount to you? Is there an amount that's worth the drama? >> That's I guess that's an individual choice. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. I mean, if there's $20 million, you know, there's Let me tell you, I I would tell you this. Here's here's a interesting answer to that. I'm just making this up because it's a fun question. I appreciate it. Um, the more money there is, the more drama there's going to be. >> That's probably true. Sure. >> Yeah. If she's leaving her $62 and her snow globes, >> um, your snow village The daughter's going to go, "Good luck with that, mom." You know, crispy, extra crispy, where you're going. >> If it's 20 million, she's going to be coming. >> If it's 20 million, the daughter is going to be going medical ethics and dreaming up anything else she can dream up. And this this nurse has hypnotized her 23 years ago and stolen my mother away. And you know, I mean, you're going to hear all you're going to hear all that, but the more money, the more drama. >> Yeah, for sure. I think that's true. Drama is already here. Drama has announced itself. It's got an engraved invitation to the party. Uh the only question is how much it's going to show out. And I I would say in ratio to the amount of money. >> So uh I I think that's right. But now how much do I want to get involved? How shallow am I in that regard? >> That's a good question because I mean you know honestly I don't want a lot of drama in ratio to the money. >> So um and and so if it's $67 and four snow globes I don't want to be involved at all. >> Yeah. for sure. No. >> And so it's not worth it at all. And but you know, if the only time you you would think about it is if there was more money. I don't guess that's shallow. I guess it's practical. >> Well, I just >> I'm going to have to put up with some crap. Is it worth it? >> Right. Right. That's the question. >> And again, we don't know it all, but I mean the story, you know, there could be a story that that she's I mean, who knows? some multi-millionaire sweet kind woman and this nurse has befriended her, been kind to her, has kids of her own, and this and that's how this 92-year-old wants to leave her legacy. Um, >> I don't think it's a problem. I don't think you've done anything morally or ethically or legally wrong, but that doesn't mean you won't defend have to defend it. >> Yeah, you're going to be in some drama. >> You won't have to defend it. So, >> yeah, but I I would encourage her to talk to the family about it. >> In America, you can sue anyone for anything. You can just make it up. >> Yep. >> If it's not true, you can just say a bunch of stuff and put it in the pleading and file a lawsuit. Happens all the time, boys and girls. >> Good luck, Kathy. Let us know. >> Oh, wow. What a mess. 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