How to Flirt with a Shy Guy (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

Tasha, what's your question? All right, so there's this guy I like, and it's kind of a difficult case, I guess, because he's pretty shy to most people, but we've known each other through mutual friends and have hung out a few times in group settings, and we've had a couple of playful interactions, but lately I only see him at our young adult group at church, and he says hi to me and gives me a hug, and maybe we'll small talk for a minute, but nothing really past that, because the second that there's a silence, I break away, so it doesn't really get awkward. So my question is, if he hasn't showed any more initiative to ask me out or for my phone number or anything, does that mean that he's not romantically interested? It doesn't. It doesn't. Now I would be, I think anyone would accuse me of being too overly optimistic if I said, no, he's definitely interested, but sometimes men are waiting for a little bit more of a sign from you. So you might start talking about movies that you both like, and if he says, I really want to go and see that film, you go, oh my God, I've been waiting to see that for weeks. I'm dying to go see that. We should go. But you can be certain about that. Don't do the whole, so do you, maybe we should go together? You don't want to create the awkwardness. Instead, just say, oh, we should go. I actually have a nice little line for this, if you want to know it. I mean, you don't have to. I can not tell you if you want. No, I love lines. Okay. So here's what you say. You say, we should go. And then you say, wait a minute, popcorn or ice cream, which sort of guy are you? And if he says, I don't really like popcorn, you say, oh, all right, you're uninvited. We can't do this. This is never going to work. If he says popcorn, you go, okay, you can come. I'm in love with this little structure of language because you're the one who said we should go in the first place, but it's almost like you were temporarily uninviting him until you knew if you lined up on the food you like at the movies. So it is this little bit of challenge that you introduce in a playful way, and it stops you from just being that person who he thinks is too forward. Instead, it just makes you seem playful and high value. Make sense? So much, Matthew. Thank you so much. Oh gosh, Tasha, you're so lovely. Thank you so much. I really appreciate you calling in. I hope to speak to you again soon.