Does She Like You Or Does She Like The Attention?

Hi everyone! Welcome back to my channel. If you're new here, I'm Courtney Ryan and today we're going to be going over some obvious signs that she only wants attention from you and she maybe doesn't actually like you. So I get this question so much in my inbox, on Instagram, through email, comments on YouTube. I mean legitimately everywhere I get this question of how do I tell if a girl is really into me? How do I tell if a girl is using me? How do I tell if she really likes me or she just wants attention from me? These are some blatant signs to look out for. If she's doing anything on this list, I can almost 99% sure guarantee that she's just using you. Number one, you don't see her. I think this is one of the most obvious ones. Maybe she texts you a lot, maybe she communicates with you a lot via phone. But when it comes to actually hanging out, she might flake last minute, she might cancel. If she's not hanging out with you, it's because she genuinely doesn't want to. If a girl wants to see you and get to know you, she will hang out with you and follow through. So if she's continuously canceling, flaking last minute, coming up with excuses, this is not a good sign and a really big sign that she's just using you for attention. Maybe she's texting you, maybe you're her little pen pal texting buddy, as I've said so many times on this channel, and she doesn't actually genuinely like you or want to form a connection with you and she's just using you as someone to talk to when she's bored. I just want to reiterate, if a girl genuinely likes you, she will want to hang out with you in person. And if you're in a situation of long distance where maybe hanging out in person isn't really in the equation right now, this includes talking on the phone and FaceTiming. Also emphasis here on the flaky slash cancels last minute point. This is something I see all the time if she's just using you for attention because she'll keep you at an arm's length by texting you every now and then, giving you the little breadcrumbs. She can say she wants to hang out with you all she wants, but if she doesn't actually do it, it means she doesn't like you. Number two, it's very one-sided. Are you the one who's always reaching out? Are you the one who's always initiating conversations or hanging out with her? Is your time, effort, and energy not being reciprocated? If this is the case, she's probably using you whether it be for whatever you're providing for her or it might just be the attention. Anyone who is worth pursuing, emphasis there on worth pursuing, will reciprocate these things and it will not be one-sided. If you think it's one-sided, it probably is and you're better off just moving on with your life. Number three, she fishes for compliments. If she's bragging or fishing for compliments constantly and you're actively giving them attention to her, chances are she definitely likes this free attention and the fact that you're putting her up on a pedestal. It's normal for all of us to like some sort of attention from the person that we're talking to. I think we all like a nice compliment every now and then, but if she's consistently fishing for it, if all she does is talk about herself with you or brag or try to get you to put her up on a pedestal again like I mentioned or talk so greatly about her, this is often a sign that she just likes the way that you're giving her an ego boost and she's liking the free attention that you're giving her. And I'm not saying that if you're dating a girl, you should not be giving her a compliment. There's a big difference between genuinely giving someone a compliment and them fishing for it. If she only talks to you when you're giving her the floor to brag about herself or you're complimenting her, this is not a good sign and a sign that she's probably just using you to boost her self-esteem. Number four, she gives you her Instagram handle. If she gives you her Instagram handle and not her phone number, she just wants a follower and someone to like her photos. I've had so many guys reach out to me and say, she didn't give me her phone number but she gave me her Instagram but she doesn't message me because she doesn't want to talk to you and she just wants a follower out of you. So what I want you to do if this has happened to you is go to her profile and hit the unfollow button please and thank you. Number five, one of the most obvious of them all is that she asks you for gifts or you're buying her stuff and paying her bills. Obviously she is liking the fact that you're buying things for her or funding her life so she doesn't want to cut that off. If she only talks to you or hangs out with you when you're buying her something, abort mission. It's a clear sign that this is not going anywhere good unless you have willingly signed up to be a sugar daddy which again I would not recommend. But if you really like this girl, you would like to see something serious developing with her and she's only hanging around you when you're doing something for her or buying something for her, this is not really the type of girl you want to be going after. And last on my list is that there's no emotional connection. If everything feels really surface level and materialistic and she's not really trying to get to know you at all or even more so on a deeper level, this is a sign that she's probably again just using you as someone to talk to when she's bored or because you're giving her free attention. If a girl is really into you, she's going to want to get to know you. She's going to ask you questions about yourself. She's going to try to get to know you on a deeper level at some point and often if things are very surface level and materialistic for some time, this is a sign that again she doesn't want to get to know you or like you and she genuinely is just using you. This could be a rebound relationship type of situation where she just got out of a relationship and she's just now using you for attention to get over that last person, which is not a good thing to find yourself in. A need for money, a need for intimacy, a need for attention in general, I mean there are so many reasons why someone could be using you. I think one of the main ones is just attention. To be honest, I think that's why a lot of girls out there are on dating apps because they're getting so much attention from men. I've actually reacted to a video where these girls were at this table podcast talking about how they're not on dating apps to actually find anyone and they're just on dating apps to get the ego boost and free validation and attention from men. Of course, I don't want to make it seem like all girls are like this because they absolutely aren't, but there are girls out there who are just using you for attention. What you can buy for them. If you can buy them fancy dinners or a nice bag or genuinely just give them attention to give them an ego boost and to feel better about themselves. I would really hate for you to find yourself in a situation like this where you aren't being genuinely appreciated or your time and effort and energy is not being reciprocated because you're simply talking to a girl who only wants attention from you. Be able to see these signs. I think if you know these signs, it makes it a lot easier to see them very clearly when you find yourself maybe in a situation like this. I hope you all found this video helpful. If you did, be sure to give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel to be in the loop for when I release new content. If you haven't already, be sure to follow me over on Instagram at CourtneyChristineRyan. I love connecting with all of you guys over on there as well. As always, thank you all so much for watching and I will see you all next time.