How Do I Kick My Mother-in-Law Out

[Music] brought to you by the every dooll app start budgeting for free today so my husband and I have two rental properties um and uh my mother-in-law has lived in one since 2019 um uh she moved in from Vermont didn't have a place to go and so my husband let her move in to that house um 2020 hit my husband's in the Army um didn't get a certain something that everyone was demanded they were told to get and he lost his job um said he was going to sell the house she told him that God told her it is not it is his job to take care of her because he is the son so he bought a new house in the town down the road and she still lives currently in this same house um we have were you all married at this time when God told her that about you no we we were not we were not I was not was not around um okay so he was he was single and and she lived with him um so we have one child we are expecting our second one in October um and I'm self-employed my husband's still in the Army um but we came mutually to to the decision that in August because my job is pretty physical that I'm going to stop working and then I'm only probably going to go back maybe one or two days a week um and so we are we it would be very helpful to to have an actual income coming in from that house she pays uh half half of the mortgage my husband pays 450 and his one brother gives 150 towards it um it's kind of a sticky situation there's six siblings between all of them um and everyone else has had their opportunity to grow and expand their family my husband is the last one out of the six to be married and have kids so we don't want to kick her out um but she yes you do well I I don't want her to say I do but it would it would just it it would it would just be it would just be helpful um you're so sweet just tell them just say what you mean you want her to leave she she's taking advantage of everybody and you're over it yes and that's where my H that's where my husband is at well then he needs to deal with his mom so so but this is the other thing she won't move into a senior highrise she will if she's hom move anywhere she will if she's homeless so do you think that's that's our best option give her like 60 days and tell her like okay listen I can tell you how to get get her out just it's two words rubber snake that's where I was going I was going to ask what is she afraid of Cu we can make this really easy with no tension well but that's but that's the other that's the other hard thing is she she claims PTSD she claims all of these all of these issues all I think I think I think I claim that she's moving into assisted living if she can't manager life and we'll help her do that um with a little bit of money and uh we'll use some of the money from the sale of the house you need to sell the house and um well that's what that's what we we'll use some of the money from sell a house to help her get settled and then unplug the uh unplug the cord the umbilical cord okay okay because my my husband was just want just from the Christian Perspective he no honey there's nothing Christian about this let me just tell you okay I had a guy walk into the office here a while back to the front desk and they said there's a guy down here to see you and I walked down he said God told me you were going to buy me a van H and I said no he didn't he didn't tell you that he said what do you mean I said he absolutely did not tell you that because if he had told you that he would have told me and there'd be a van sitting out there for you but he didn't tell me okay so I'm always I'm always interested as a Christian for people who play the God card with such Authority and uh all they are is a manipulator this has nothing to do with honoring your mother when they say honor your father and your mother it doesn't say honor their misbehavior it says honor the office of motherhood the office of fatherhood if your mom does cocaine and wants you to buy it for her that is not a Godly act okay right and your your mother-in-law is misbehaving she's a travel agent for guilt trips she's got issues that's good I'm gonna use that I've never heard that before I know that's a good one yeah I like that and your poor husband has been pushed around by her and and and then she plays the God card and God didn't tell her that that's a complete load of crap okay thank you it's absolutely not true what's your husband's stomach for all of this is he gonna take her is he gonna take her on no so his thought was he was going to uh put the house on Section 8 and then we would register her for Section 8 housing no that's awful she needs to move you need to deal he needs to deal with his mom he needs to lovingly kindly go sit down have a cup of coffee and go mom we're done I love you and I'm going to help you move into some assisted living with some of the money I make from the sale of this house but you have milked this cow and it is dry and you're not milking anymore mom we're done well no Mom you're confused I said we're done and I wasn't kidding we are done you are moving you're either going to move gently and kindly with my Assistance or I'm going to set you in the street with the sheriff now do you want to play this the easy way or the hard way I've you've reached the end of my patience I am done I love you I'm going to help you as best I can but you living here is not going to happen anymore he needs to have the backbone to say that mhm thank you and you don't need to be in the room well that's yeah they they have he has a lot of animosity you don't need to be in the room you'll get blamed for all this the wicked you'll be the you'll be the wicked stepdaughter if he's animosity towards her this actually should be a little easier because you just got to be careful to be kind yeah but I mean as far as disappointing her I mean look you guys have got to tell Mama couldn't give a crap laugh as she's disappointed he's not he's not disappoint he's not afraid she'll be disappointed him and his brother are best friends and his brother is the one that that sometimes also guil trips him to keep well then let him take care let him write the checks you you guys got to cast a little vision amazing how everybody's got an opinion about what you guys should do with your money that's the key I know this family is they put the fun in dysfunction don't they wow you're coming home with a new baby and this is a financial asset that will help you all live the life you want to live I'd stay in that lane to where they are painted in a corner M millionaire you want to put up with this crap and you want to just write checks just to not have to deal with it that's fine but it's not good for her she's going to continue to do this crap the rest of her life yeah and it's not good it's not good for you guys it's you know you're losing respect for your husband he's losing respect for himself because he won't stand up to to this you know this Mom that's out of control and is not biblical automatically you have to write checks for somebody who hasn't who doesn't do stuff I mean I I I want him to take care of her to the point he can that'd be sweet it's a charitable act but it is not a Biblical mandate God did not tell her that he was to furnish her a house that's an absolute abute load of religious crap it's what that is and I man I I I love my brothers and sisters in Christ but some of you people are oversaved create your free every dollar budget today the simplest way to budget for your life