Tuổi già đừng mất nhà vì con - Triết Lý Cuộc Sống

Don't lose your home because you love your child. Ladies and gentlemen, Vietnamese people, as well as parents around the world, are always willing to take care of and love their children when they are still young. Even when their children are grown-up and mature, their parents still continue to worry about their children, ready to sacrifice everything for their children. No matter how hard they work, no matter how hard they have to sell their house, they are willing to do so, as long as their children have a better life. But sometimes, that unconditional sacrifice accidentally fills them with the tragedies of old age. Let's listen to the following stories together. I hope each of us will draw out a lesson for ourselves. The first story. At a young age, she sold her house to raise her children. After decades of hard work, food, and savings, she built a two-story house in the middle of the countryside. Her husband was still single, so he came to the city to persuade her to sell her house. How much did she get? He gave her a loan to buy an apartment and took her to live with him. At first, she didn't agree because she had been living in the countryside for so many years. Now that she has left the village and moved to the city, she misses it a lot. But when her son died, her daughter-in-law came to beg for help for all kinds of reasons, which made her father and mother-in-law sad. What is this? My parents are old. What if they are sick and in pain? I need to stay with my children for convenience. Please take care of them. What is this? The land in the countryside now has a price. My parents sold half of the apartment we wanted to buy. We have been living in a rented house for several years. The rent is more than the salary of my parents-in-law. She felt sorry for the money. She was very sad. She was so moved that she sold her house for her son to buy an apartment and my father-in-law to live in the city. Although only my father-in-law's daughter-in-law disagreed with the reason, my parents sold their house like that. If we want our children to go home, we don't know where to go. My mother-in-law was sad. She went to the city but didn't go anywhere. My brother said, you are a girl. You should not interfere deeply with your husband's wife. I can't do that. My daughter-in-law's daughter-in-law was only warm in her heart. I went to the city for a few months. My father-in-law was very sad because almost the whole day my parents-in-law lived in the four-story house. There was nothing different. My father-in-law took me to school in the morning. In the afternoon, when I finished school, my father-in-law went to pick me up. In the city, everyone was busy with work. Neighbors and neighbors met at the elevator bridge, just waving their heads, not intimate talk like in the countryside. Some men in the same floor of the apartment as my father-in-law were retired but also looking for more work. Some people fixed cars, some people were security guards. They were not busy with their children, so they did not sit down to eat. My father-in-law only had a TV as a friend. My mother-in-law stayed at home while taking care of the baby and cleaning the house, washing the dishes and cooking rice. The baby was lazy to eat, so my mother-in-law had to take care of him. My father-in-law's son-in-law went from morning to night and did not eat at the office. When my mother-in-law did not cook breakfast, the brothers and sisters ate together. From the day my father-in-law took care of the baby, my daughter-in-law came home later. At that time, my mother-in-law was taking care of the dinner. The children were washed, the house was tidy, and the clothes were put in her closet. So my father-in-law did not have to do anything except going to the supermarket once a week to buy food and put it in the fridge. In the countryside, eating fresh food and vegetables outside the garden is familiar. My mother-in-law felt that it was difficult to catch the fruit. If I wanted to ask her directly, I was afraid that my mother-in-law would be afraid of her daughter-in-law. I thought that the atmosphere of the family would be tense. But when I asked my son, he said that my mother-in-law would get used to it. Sometimes I miss my home, I miss my hometown. My mother-in-law called to talk to my daughter. She knew that my father-in-law was having a hard time, but she was not happy. Now my father-in-law is an oxymoron, but not an oxymoron, because the oxymoron has a salary every month. On holidays, hearing my daughter say that, my mother-in-law was very worried. She thought that she had nowhere to go home. She told my father-in-law for a long time. Now she blamed everyone. My mother-in-law also likes to go to the city to eat. When my second child went to kindergarten, my father-in-law was at school like my eldest child, so my father-in-law was less busy. But at this time, my mother-in-law began to complain about the poor spending, such as electricity, water, gas, school fees, services in the apartment. One time, my father-in-law accidentally heard it, but it was okay. But many times my father-in-law felt that my daughter-in-law was deliberately shouting, so my father-in-law began to think. My father-in-law told my mother-in-law to give the salary of a person to my daughter-in-law to spend. But when my mother-in-law was sick, not only my father-in-law was in the hospital, but also my mother-in-law was in the hospital, so my father-in-law gave her the salary to spend for her. My father-in-law thought, fortunately, I had not given them all my liver, otherwise I would have asked my daughter-in-law for each penny. When I was in my hometown, the house was large, the land was vast, with enough fruit trees, while the apartment in the city was only a few square meters, so when my grandchildren just stepped out of the door, they immediately locked several doors because they were afraid of intruders. So the road was strange, every time I wanted to go somewhere, I had to wait until the weekend for my son to be ready to go. After many sleepless nights, my mother-in-law decided to leave the city to go back to her hometown to live a peaceful life because my grandchildren were old and did not need my father-in-law anymore. But the house in my hometown that my father-in-law had built had already been sold, and there were so many fruit trees for my son. Speaking of which, how could I go back right away? Now that I'm back in my hometown, I have to ask my daughter-in-law to give me some money to support the village. So my father-in-law negotiated with my son to give him some money to make a place for his ancestors and let my father-in-law have a place to live. But my son said, my parents decided to go back to their hometown, so my wife and children did not keep it. But now we don't have money. Or my parents have to borrow money from the bank and use my father-in-law's allowance. When we have money, we will pay. My father-in-law was very upset and blamed himself wrongly when he sold the house so that he could not live in the river anymore. Ladies and gentlemen, fish and bananas are a burden for children. Many parents when they go home have a lot of property for their children so that they can live completely dependent on their children. When selling the house, according to my daughter-in-law, maybe many parents think it's simple to have children and live a hard life in the city. While in my hometown, the house is spacious and empty, so I sell the house to the city with my children. They have a house in Dang Hoang and I am convenient to take care of my children. However, all parents sell the house according to their children is to sell the free life of old age. The second story about old-age parents. At the age of 10 years old, old age is usually considered peaceful and gentle with children. But my daughter-in-law in Ha Dong, Hanoi still has to work hard and her income depends on selling the house every day. Previously, my daughter-in-law also had a house in a big alley. It was enough for her to make a living. However, my only son, after returning from a military mission, did not have a job, so my daughter-in-law hired a housekeeper to make money. Business without money is difficult to manage. So my daughter-in-law did not hesitate to hire a housekeeper to help my son When the Covid-19 epidemic broke out, the store had to close for a long time while the bank's money had to pay monthly plus the debt of the imported goods that could not be sold. I couldn't stand it. My son sold the house to get money to pay the bank's debt. Now my daughter-in-law and her husband have to rent a house that is not full 20 square meters. My daughter-in-law had to keep some money for herself. The house was sold and my son was not old at all. At an early age, my daughter-in-law had to go to a small alley to sell some vegetables to make a living. I thought it was the bitterness of old age, but I didn't expect everything to change and I became a burden for my children. From my son to my daughter-in-law, everyone was short-tempered and had a light attitude. Sometimes I was so sad that I just wanted to leave early so that I wouldn't bother my children. Ladies and gentlemen, there are parents who see their children struggling but do not stay away. Therefore, there are many parents who want to make money to improve their family life. Many parents easily lend a red window to their house as a shelter from the sun and rain for their old age so that their children can get money to buy food. So that when they get old, not a few people have to face many worries when they do not have enough money to spend comfortably with their children. What can we do to make money to live? Ladies and gentlemen, each tree, each flower, each house, each scene makes it very difficult to find a way to make a stable physical and spiritual life of an old person. But having a small salary or an income and a private house can make it easier for us to make money before we get old. Never give all your property to your children and accidentally push yourself into the white, dirty scene when you get old. Parents should remember that the safest place for the old age is yourself. And when we get old, do we become a burden to our children from the time they are young? We don't force our children to be filial because in fact, we are the ones who bring our children to this life. But the children's awareness of how to work, study and treat people around them is the basis of our personality building education. Second, be independent and always be independent in everything, including personal life. Third, do not interfere with the family of your children. We can give advice on the sidelines for them to refer to, and if they fail, they decide for themselves, not because they do not listen and blame them. We just do our job and they have to worry about choosing the solutions for their life We should not live together. There is a pre-arrangement to prevent us from falling asleep or even losing consciousness. Children should organize their work neatly. Our money is spent on serving parents to avoid disturbing the financial time of their children. Parents love their children and have to teach them to be independent. Parents love their children and have to teach them to take care of themselves. Spare a little of your own wealth to yourself at the end of life. No one can avoid old age, but how to have a relaxed old age, respected, loved and taken care of that requires each person to be smart, go along with a plan and a clear strategy to be able to succeed. My mother-in-law called this kind-hearted woman my sister. I called her Auntie. But in fact, we didn't have any blood relations. Auntie was my uncle's wife. After my aunt's death, Auntie was married to my grandfather's son-in-law. She married a beautiful girl, with a job and a family in Chau Huyen, to be a wife to a man, and a wife to two children. Since then, Auntie has been a wife, in a traditional family, with a lot of connections. The greatest position my uncle had was the president of the National Committee. He didn't worry about hunger. The most normal feeling in life was to serve my parents-in-law, and then it was time for me to get married. Auntie was a kind-hearted woman, who loved her husband like her own son. Auntie raised Auntie, and loved them with a sense of longing for a woman who had never given birth. Some people said, my brothers and sisters were lucky because Auntie didn't give birth. My brothers and sisters didn't have to worry about their mother-in-law's love. With a husband's family, and a wife who lost her husband, Auntie was no different than a butcher. My mother-in-law was no different than a sister who lost her own. Then my uncle fell ill and died. After he died, less than 49 days later, Auntie sold the land, the garden and the house that my father had chosen. My father-in-law's grave was not even finished yet. People asked each other why it was so urgent. My brother's sister also cried bitterly. Because she loved her father so much, he calculated all the property, and because she was not allowed to share a penny of her parents' property with him. My daughter used to see and know that her father was dead, but after his funeral, she didn't know that her father was still alive. My brother's sister also cried bitterly because she loved her father so much, he calculated all the property, and because she was not allowed to share a penny of her parents' property with him. But after his funeral, she thought that her brother and sister-in-law had taken everything. Like a roll of thread, she left the broken pieces from her father's funeral until she sold the house. My brother didn't care about my existence anymore. And in just 10 days, my life turned into a new page. It was so sad. My sister-in-law and her son treated me so badly after they took me to live with them. But what was the most memorable thing about the old house around the neighborhood, the wind, the neighborhood? What was the reason for the blockage? What was the reason? I dreamed a few times when I saw my uncle reporting that he was wandering outside the empty street, with his son following him to Binh Huong. He didn't want to go back or couldn't go back. I saw the soul of a dead man wandering around. The soul of my uncle, the soul of a living man also wandered around the empty street from the day he had to go to the street to live with his son. But in the end, my uncle left. I saw the soul of a dead man wandering around the empty street from the day he had to go to the street A pair of coins I thought they belonged to my husband I sat by the wooden table in front of my mother's bed I poked around with my toes laughing and saying Yes, I will listen My sister will not go there anymore It is the house of my husband's brother My mother asked How much money do you have now? I took out all my clothes My mother asked Why didn't you have a baby in the past? The first time in my life I dared to say Because I didn't want I didn't want to have a baby My mother heard that She screamed My grandfather used to stand up and marry me Because he believed that I was a good person He would love me My grandfather did not expect that After I did exactly what he expected His son-in-law and his grandchildren treated me like that From old age to pain The price of having a baby My life has changed Thank you for listening Goodbye and see you again