"자식한테 이래라 저래라하면 안 되죠" 결혼한 딸의 대학 졸업을 강요하는 아버지의 사연 | All About 입시 25화

I'm a separate entity from my child. I've killed half of the genes. So when they talk and act, They're talking and acting like they've seen a lot of things. Nevertheless, I'm a separate entity from me. I have to keep thinking about this. I don't need it and I don't interfere too much. But now I have a secret weapon. If you don't listen to me, I won't give you a legacy. I'll listen to all your concerns about college entrance exams, studies, and school life. I'm Minmin, the MC of All About Entrance Exams. Nice to meet you. We have a counselor with us today. Hello, Mr. Yoon Dae-woong. Hello. Today's story is about a woman who got married. There's an issue related to the marriage system in Korea. It's been going on for years. The lowest birth rate OECD country It is said that Korea is the lowest in the world. According to the statistics, there are about 0.7 people. The causes of low birth rate are being pointed out in many ways. Low quality of life, poor health, and even SNS. Young people and high-ranking officials are raising various reasons. I'm curious about what you think. You're married, so you have children. Do you have any thoughts on this issue? I'm not an expert. We all have different opinions. Why don't you give birth? The most important reason is that it is reasonable not to give birth. Maybe it's because I think so. And it's up to the individual to choose. You can't let others do this or that. When you look at it socially, you have to be a mother. Individuals are individuals. If you talk about it in detail, I think it's two things. I don't want my life to be affected by having a baby. There's going to be a part like this. Second, it's too hard for me to have a baby and raise it well. So to put it simply, Elders say that a lot. I lived like this, but you don't live like this. You know what they say to their children, right? Then our young generations will think like this to their children who don't exist. I lived like this, but I don't want my children to live like me. I want to give them a better life. But I can't see it. Then you don't have to give birth. So I love my children who don't exist. I don't exist, but if I have a baby, I'll live a third-class life like me. I can see it so clearly. I don't think I can live better anyway. So I can't give you a golden spoon. Isn't that so? If you interpret it well, I think you're the main reason for the customer. That's what I think. When you look at it as a unit of the whole country, Young people have to give birth to a lot of children. These words are just bullshit. I didn't think so. They're crazy. Where are you going? Yes, yes, yes, yes. Then we say that. Alpano? In MG language. It's called Alpano. The best thing is to create a situation where you can give birth. Our society has agreed on everything. But that's a very difficult thing. It doesn't even take a long time. I think we need to keep making it. Shall we meet today's story? Yes. All right. Let's meet today's story again. This is the story of a woman who got married today. He went to a four-year business school for a semester. I don't want to study. I think I'm just making money. He quit college after getting permission from his parents. After that, he worked part-time seven days a week. He said he lived his life. And then a few years ago, he was dating. He got married to his boyfriend. He even told his boyfriend his job. He's a level-7 civil servant. So now I have a marriage. He's living his life as a part-time job twice a week. But there's been a problem. A few months ago, his father said this. I don't want you to go to a good university. Go to any university and graduate. I'll pay for your tuition. I really regret not letting you graduate from college and allowing you to get married. That's what he said. All of a sudden? I think I need to ask you this, too. He graduated from a local university with a GPA of 3.9. He was 162 years old when he took the AP entrance exam. He had a score of 18989. So I think he's embarrassed by himself. He had a low score and had no experience in the academy. The real problem is that if you don't want to go to college at all, I'm going to give you a full lecture. I've heard so much from my father. I don't know what to do with my graduation. That's what he's thinking right now. I don't understand why my father says that. He asked me if I understand. What do you think, sir? I understand. Do you understand this? I'll have to talk about it. I think there must have been something. To my father. Oh, to your father. Shall we call him to hear the specific story? All right. All right. Let's call him and hear the specific story. Hello, are you the one who sent me the story? Yes, that's right. Hello, I'm Mi In-ho. Dr. Yoon Do-young is right next to me. Hello, sir. Hello. I've read all the stories you sent me. Dr. Yoon Do-young, can I start the consultation right away? Yes. All right. First of all, I guess you got married very early. Yes, I got married early. Is there a special reason for getting married early? I'm a little older than my husband. Did your husband ask you to get married early? No, I asked him to get married first. Do you have a baby? No, I don't. Do you have any plans? No, I don't. That's why you got married early, right? Yes, I don't say that. What kind of part-time job do you do around here? I work at the desk at the academy. Is there a special reason for doing it? I think it's better to work part-time than to stay at home. Your husband said he was a civil servant. On the red days, you'll be at home with your husband, right? Yes. And on the black days, from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m., You work part-time because you don't have anything to do, right? Yes, that's right. What's your brother's relationship like? I have a younger brother. Is he your younger brother? He's my younger brother. Is your younger brother a student? Yes, he's a college student. You entered the university, but you didn't graduate, did you? Yes. But your husband must be a colonel, right? Yes. How many years ago did you enter the university? I entered in 2016. When did you get married? Two years ago. In 2021. Is it this year that your father told you to go to college? Yes, it's this year. So, from your retirement in 2016 to the beginning of this year, For almost seven years, Have you ever said this? Yes, it's the first time I've ever told him to go to college. But you're saying you don't know why, right? Yes. Aren't you close to your father? Oh, we're close. Then can't you ask why? My dad never asked me for a favor. When I first heard that, I don't know why, but I was a little scared. So I asked him why. I think he's a little rebellious. So I couldn't speak well. He knows a lot about the entrance exam. I'll talk to him first. My dad subscribes to the Mimimino channel. Your father? Yes, I didn't know. I knew it because my dad told me. So I told him I had this kind of consultation. I thought it would be easier to talk to him. If you have to do this, it means you're not close to your dad. If you're close, you can just ask. Why? If you've been talking for seven years, you'll understand. You haven't said anything for six and a half years. It's all of a sudden. Then it's best to ask your father directly. It's the most certain. But you can't do that right now. Yes, I don't have the courage yet. Do you feel like you've grown apart from your dad since you got married? It's not that we've grown apart. The number of conversations has decreased a lot. That's right. We don't live in the same house. Yes. Anyway, that's what my dad said. Yes. But what do you think? I... Do you have to? Yes, that's right. Is it bigger or bigger? I think it's a little bigger. My dad didn't tell me why. Anyway, I'm just guessing. I'm going to ask my dad for the truth. Everything I'm going to tell you is my brain. I think there must have been an incident. Maybe. Because if there wasn't an incident, you should have told me from the beginning. But suddenly, seven years after I quit, I got married. For example, my daughter is fine with everything. I can't get married because I don't have a college diploma. It's not like this. There's nothing wrong with it. The fact that you said this all of a sudden means that there was an incident. So what happened? This is all a guess, too. Oh! You're going to make a guess? Yes. My father must have been ignored by someone. Oh... This is just my brain. I don't think so. Of course, my father knows the truth. And if I'm right, my father won't tell me the truth. Because if I had to tell the truth, I would have done it earlier. So my father just told me to go to college. He didn't tell me why. But it's normal to talk before you ask. But my father didn't tell me. That means he doesn't want to talk about the reason. He didn't want to talk about the reason, so he just told me to go. If you don't want to talk about the reason, there's a high chance that you won't get the right answer. Well, that's what I think. What do you think about this? I think so. Oh, really? Yeah, I think that's possible. Yeah, that's possible. This is my guess. What I want to tell you is... Do your parents give you money when you're living now? No. Then you don't have the right to do this or that. Oh... If you give me a living expense, I don't know. I'll give you a tuition fee. Go to college. This doesn't make sense. For example, if you go to college, I'll give you a few tens of millions more than the tuition fee. Then it could happen again. What do you want in exchange? You're already an adult. The definition of an adult can vary from person to person. I think the definition of an adult is... If you're economically independent, you're an adult. Regardless of age. Anyway, you're economically independent, right? Yes. You don't have a loan and your dad pays for it, do you? No, not yet. Then you don't have the right to do this or that. Oh, the video is going to my father. You can't do it. If I say this, my father... What's wrong with him? It could be like this. Then I'll give you a few tens of millions. Do you want to go? Oh, if you want it that way. It's a deal. Anyway, my dad doesn't do anything for me. Then you have to make a deal. I'll give you a tuition fee, so go. This doesn't make a deal. Are you kidding me? No, it doesn't make sense to tell you not to give me a tuition fee. The tuition fee is just going to default. Something else should come in addition to that. It's not what you want, it's what your dad wants. It doesn't have to be money, but whatever it is. I'm so curious about the ending. And this video will be delivered to your father. What I want to tell my father is... If you have something to give, you have to go. Give and take. Give me something. Give me more? Well, you can do that. If you give me enough. But it doesn't make sense to force it. If you give me a little more, do you want to do it? Study? No, you don't have to study. There are a lot of universities these days. It's different from 2016. No, there are a lot of universities where you can go if you just apply. That's right. If you take the college entrance exam comfortably and apply, It's really easy to go. You're good at Korean. If you do it roughly, you can go as far as you want. Then ask your dad again. Which university do you want? Then there's a university that your father definitely wants. Huh? You said you didn't want to go to a good university. He doesn't care what kind of university it is. There is. Then I said it doesn't matter what kind of university it is. Really? It's real. If you ask like this again, Oh, that's... If you look at the situation, This is not for our students. I'm telling you to go for yourself. If you look at the content of this story, This video is... It will be uploaded within September. If you hold it in until then, If the video is uploaded, Do you really want to show this edited video to your father? Oh, yes, yes, yes. Your father watched my channel. Of course you know about the content of the college entrance exam. Yes, yes, yes. I don't need anything. I just need to send you a link through Kakao Talk. Stop sending it. When the video comes out, Dad! If you don't say anything and just send me a link through Kakao Talk, My dad will take care of it. It's my daughter's story. What should I do? It was a very fresh story so far. What do you think of Eun-byung's advice? There's a lot of things I didn't think about. It was helpful. Anyway, we're waiting for the end. I hope you'll send it to me and have a happy relationship with your father. I'm curious about the truth. Anyway, you left it for me. I've been guessing as much as I can. I hope you think so. Thank you. Anyway, thank you so much for your story. Yes. It was a fresh and unique story today. It was a story about the relationship between a father and a daughter. What do you think? First of all, what I want to tell my father is... My daughter is not a possession. It's the same for my son. In other words, I can't have a child as I want. I don't know why you're doing this. I think you've interpreted today's story from the father's point of view. And if you want something like this, You can't do it blatantly. Indirectly You have to go soft. You have to go soft and make it look like you've made up your mind. The situation. It's not easy. Are you a genius in that regard? No, I don't have any children. It doesn't make sense. It's a little different for each person. I'm a separate entity from my children. I killed half of the genes. So when they talk and act, There are a lot of words and actions that I've seen before. Nevertheless, You and I are separate entities. I have to keep thinking about this. It's a little unnecessary. I don't get too much interference. But now I have a secret weapon. If you don't listen to me, I won't give you a miscarriage. Because I have a secret weapon. We've talked about this and that in today's story. A lot of people are watching these days. I'd like you to leave a lot of comments that you can relate to. That's all for today's story. It was Minminu and Yoon Dong-yoon, who were in charge of all-around ABC. Thank you.