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The feeling of a child who goes to school does not change easily as the school year goes up. In particular, the memory of that school year lasts longer than you think. Before going to middle school, it is very important to recognize the child's school as a place where he can meet a lot of possibilities, a place of joy, a place of hope. The fastest education is the fastest education. Hello, I'm Bean Sprout. Today, I'm going to talk about how to raise a child who enjoys going to school. When children say they don't want to go to school, their parents are having a hard time, too. So I'm going to talk about how we can help our child go to school with a happy heart. People have reason and emotion. Humans are said to be animals of reason, but in fact, the scientific basis is wrong. I think it's more correct to say that humans are animals that rationalize emotions into reason. So it's not that people think rationally and then judge and act. First of all, I have a feeling. Then they find the right logic for that feeling and explain it rationally. According to brain science research, emotions occur a few seconds before reason. So when emotions occur, they look at that emotion for a while and think of a logic that fits that emotion. So if I do it, it's romance, and if someone else does it, it's a scandal. If I do it, I'm already in love, so I rationalize that emotion into romance. If someone else does it, they lose their emotions and only look at reason, so they hate it. Humans are faithful to emotions like this, but as time goes by, we experience and learn a lot of things that we shouldn't do as our emotions go. So I'm going to do what I have to do while being patient and patient. But even though I'm trying so hard, I'm going to go on a diet, but I'm already opening a bag of cookies. Isn't it human to order a piece of cake when you can't do it? Yes, I'm trying to be rational, but in the end, I have no choice but to follow my emotions. Adults do this, too. What else can children say? Children are so pure. The word pure doesn't mean it's out of date. That's how much training, practice, and training don't work, so they're very faithful to their instincts. I can say that they are pure. Adults pretend to be not, pretend to be patient, and try to get over it. Children are children who can't even pretend to be patient. So the most important thing for a child's study is study, emotion, and study. I first used the word study, emotion, when I started elementary school. It's not just about studying a lot. I wrote it in the sense that it's important to raise children to be able to study with a positive mind. Even at the beginning of 2019, when this book first came out, the child's emotions were not taken into account in education. How much more can I study? It was the best topic of parents' child education. Fortunately, after I wrote the word study, many people sympathized with me. Oh, yes, really, the emotion for studying is more important. As this term spread widely, Now, many people are talking about study, emotion, and understanding. Today, I'm going to talk about one more thing that students should pay attention to in terms of study, emotion, and understanding. It's the emotion for school. Children have a variety of emotions and emotions about school. There are children who like school, and there are children who don't like school. A child who likes school will look forward to going to school the next day and sleep well with a good heart. And they go to school excitedly with light steps. On the other hand, a child who doesn't like school is worried about going to school the next day. You can fall asleep with a nervous heart. When you go to school, your shoulders droop like this, so you often go to school with heavy steps. When it's bad, you feel abdominal pain and your stomach hurts, so you can't go to school. So there are quite a few children who live with abdominal pain. Children who have bad feelings about school like this are difficult to focus on studying even at school. I'm worried, anxious, and uncomfortable, but there's no way I'm going to get a good class. I wonder if I'm going to make a presentation or if I'm going to have a problem with my friend, and then I come home. First of all, these children should be able to access school and school with a more comfortable mind. That way, you'll have less trouble and you'll be able to focus on class and work rationally. So in this video, I'm going to talk about how to improve the child's feelings about school in a more positive direction. I'll tell you how to make a child who doesn't like school look forward to going to school. It was when I was a student at school. It was a holiday, so all my relatives gathered. Among them, there was a cousin who was about to enter elementary school. But one of my relatives told his cousin, Hey, you're in trouble now. The door to hard work is wide open. Do you know how hard and scary school is? I'm so scared. I'm really scared, too. You're going to get in a lot of trouble. If you don't do your homework, you'll get in trouble and you'll have to take the exam every day. That's what he said. What was his intention? Well, there's a relative who's going to elementary school for the first time, so it's half a joke and half a diagnosis. I'm sure it was a fun joke. But what about my cousin who was listening to this? His face was wrinkled and he was afraid of worries. And he said he didn't want to go to school soon. Seeing him, many adults said he was cute. Some adults comforted him, but it didn't seem to have much effect. Of course, there must have been some advice and encouragement for this kind of joke. The effect was the opposite. In his mind, he thought of school as a very bad, scary place. Of course, I've never seen my cousin go to school. I don't need to say anything negative about what he said then. Adults' words are very important to children. Adults' words are preconceived, so children look at things from that point of view. If you say, school is bad, school is hard, Children cover that image on the image of school. Then you'll look at and experience school with a much more negative perspective than when you didn't hear this. So don't say anything negative about school. You have to look at the positive potential and talk about it. Please explain that school is a fun place where you can meet various friends and have various experiences. Please let me know that you will have a lot of new and fun experiences that you have never experienced in a kindergarten or a kindergarten. Sometimes the process of studying can be difficult. But you have to tell me that it will be fun when you get used to it. It's good for a child who heard that to be more patient, get used to it, and enjoy going to school. It's good to include some negative words about teachers and friends. Even if the teacher says something strange, It's really not good for a child to say that your teacher is really weird or bad. Children who hear this from their parents look at the teacher from a negative perspective. If you look at it negatively, you can't get any teaching from that person. There may be a teacher who doesn't fit the child. There are about 20 teachers in one class. How can one teacher fit all the children? In a way, there is definitely something to learn from a teacher who doesn't fit the child and a teacher who looks a little weird. But if you start to look at it negatively, you can't learn anything. If you really objectively say that there is a problem with the teacher's behavior and that it is serious, You have to discuss it with the actor or the parents around you or the school. You can't talk about this to the child and talk badly about the teacher. What if another adult around me said something negative about the school to the child? In this case, it is better to express your opinion first. No, I like school. It's so much fun. Yes, that's what you're saying. If you say that you are uncomfortable with the conflict of opinion, you have to endure it there and talk about it at home later. It can be a little ineffective. It is much more effective to convey the story clearly at the place where the story comes out. And it's good to come home later and talk about the story we talked about earlier. In order for the child to go to school with a happy heart, it is better to pay attention to the child's relationship with the teacher. Isn't it hard for people to work, not for work? If it's hard to work, you do what's hard, but if it's hard to have a relationship, it's hard to endure. Even if it's easy to work, if your co-workers are bad, it's hard to keep going. Even if it's hard to work, if your co-workers are good, it's human to endure and go. The most important reason why children who like school like school is friends. If you have good friends and good activities with your friends, your school will be better. On the other hand, if you have a bad friendship and you don't have many friends, it's hard to adapt to school. So I'd like you to pay a little more attention to the child's relationship with the teacher. There are a few things you need to do for this. Please pay enough attention to the child's relationship with the teacher. Parents who are very interested in their children's education may not pay much attention to the child's relationship with the teacher. But if the relationship with the teacher is bad, the overall study and school life will be shaken, so please pay more attention to the child's friendship. Ask the child about his friendship. It's good to ask if you have a special friend, or if you have a friend who hangs out with you or talks with you. How do you get along with that friend, and what do you want to do to get closer? I'd like you to ask and apply. You can invite your friend to your house, or you can apply for a play with him. If you don't have any close friends, ask about the child's feelings. I don't have any close friends. Is it okay? Is it worth going? There are children who are having a hard time because they don't have any close friends, but there are also children who don't care much. If you're having a hard time, it's important to let them know how to make friends, but if you don't care much, don't worry too much and don't interfere. You'll need to think about whether it's actually okay or not. There are children who don't make good friends and don't have any friends. Then it's good to tell them that it's good to make good friends. It's a big problem that you don't have any friends, or it's a problem with your personality. You shouldn't treat your child like this. It's not that the child doesn't want to make friends. It could be difficult to make friends due to various circumstances, personality, and conditions. If your parents react that way, it will hurt your child even more. And next, I told you not to talk bad about school. This is a bit of a connection. You should be careful when you talk about your child's friends. Not all friends are good, so it's good to go out with a friend like this. Some friends may be better off not being close. This is true. So you need to let them know about this. But without an objective, understandable, or clear standard, You have to be careful not to criticize your friends like this or that. There are some people who think that the kidney in my eye and my baby look good and normal. Without a big framework, you can point out mistakes that children commonly make. If you say, oh, that's weird. That's weird again. Don't be friends with him because he's weird. Don't be friends with him because he's weird. If you do this, your child's friendship can be greatly narrowed. If the water is too clear, there is no fish. If a person is too clear, there is no person. There's a saying like this. You shouldn't criticize one by one and cut off the relationship between friends one by one. One of the stresses that children get a lot in school life is the learning aspect. Since school is a place to study, if you can't study well, you can have a hard time going to school happily. For example, in math class, students come out in front of the blackboard and solve problems. When they do this, if they don't do well, they get more stress than they think. Can you answer the teacher's question? Can you solve the problem in front of the children? How many points did you get in other assessments? All of these things can be a little meaningful for children. You have to go to school well to study well, and you have to study a little bit to have a better chance of going to school. Of course, you don't have to be very good at studying. One or two or three kids who are very good at studying at once. It's only three or four, so not all kids can study well. But you have to be able to keep up with the class to some extent. Even if you don't have any natural intelligence or talent, you can do it enough if you just do it a little bit steadily. So how can we improve the learning aspect of the child? I recommend you to practice what you can do most easily and basically. If you look at what you're going to learn in advance all day, it's very effective for the child to gain confidence in class, so I hope you try it out. What effect will it have if you practice? You'll be able to go to school knowing what you're going to learn tomorrow, right? That's how confident you can be. As confident as you are, you'll be able to participate in the class with your hands up at least once. And I'm more interested in it because I know it to some extent. And it's easy to understand. I saw what you were explaining yesterday, so I'm sure you'll catch it faster, right? That's how much more fun and comfortable school classes can be. When you practice, I recommend that you do it simply rather than doing it too much in detail. Let's take a look at what we're going to learn tomorrow. You just need to know the core concepts. For example, if you have a science class tomorrow, so if you say you're preparing, you'll learn a variety of things, such as how to experiment and the results of the experiment. It's hard and not very good to study all of this and know everything. Simply, what's the topic of tomorrow's lesson? For example, tomorrow, which part of the magnet does it take a lot of iron or iron? I'll let you know that you're taking a break from studying. And rather than knowing all the results of this, So it's good to just think about what the child thinks. If you know everything, the class might not be fun. And the child can't take the class because he's pretending to be good at everything. So it's good to know enough to be interested. If there's anything that's missing in the child's learning or communication skills, It's not a bad idea to know all the content of the class. And if you've never practiced before and you're practicing for the first time, Then it's good to know the learning goal and the specific learning content. But if you've done this a few times at first, and you've practiced several times, you've got a little experience. And if the child doesn't understand the words so well, You just need to know the goal and the approximate content. And you can find out more specific content during the class. You can tell your mom later. That's what you're telling me. That way, the child will discover a new side of learning. You can have fun learning. The learning goal and content are all in the textbook. So you don't have to buy a new reference book or a problem book or sign up for anything else. You just need to prepare a textbook. You can tell your child to bring a textbook from school. There's a way to order this textbook online. The child's feelings about school don't change easily as the school year goes up. In particular, the memory of junior high school is much longer than you think. Before you go to middle school, It's important to recognize the child's school as a place of joy, a place of hope, and a place where you can meet a lot of possibilities. For that, please be careful not to say negative things about school. Please pay attention to the child's relationship with the school. And through practice, you can reduce your anxiety about learning and increase your confidence. Through today's video, I hope more children will be able to go to school with lighter feet. I always support all parents who think of my child.