8 Living your best life - 5 lies you are telling yourself

Hey everybody, it's Jessie Q. I am here today to share with you five lies that you may be telling yourself that are stopping you from unlocking your full potential. Stay with me to the very end because all five of these are really good and I have some great examples of people who have busted through all five of these to make just extreme success happen in their lives. So glad you're here. So as a business and personal coach, mentor, accountability partner for over 13 years, I have helped a lot of people deal with self-sabotaging thoughts and patterns that really help them get in the way of unlocking their greatest potential. And I want to talk about those today because if you are not aware of what you may be doing to yourself, you are never going to break through to reach those goals that you have in life. And if you like this video, please give us a thumbs up and comment below on which one of these five things might be getting in your way. And subscribe. Hit that bell notification to get updates of our weekly videos. So number one is a feeling that you see often with people and that is a feeling of not being good enough. So when I am with people coaching amongst groups of friends and we start talking about our true deep vulnerabilities and what kind of gets in our way, it is often heard that people feel like they're not good enough. That they're just not good enough and that's how they see themselves. And I want to say, says who? Who says you're not good enough? I'm not having you think about your family members or anything like that because sometimes family members can be a little critical. But if you would go to your closest, dearest friends who know you the best, would they say that you're not good enough? I sincerely doubt it. I think your friends would come back to you with feedback saying, no, this is what you're good at and this is what you're good at. And they would be a mirror for what they see in you and the value and who you are as a human being and the value that you bring to this world and the value that you bring to them. So indeed you are good enough and this one negative thought pattern you have got to push to the side and dig a little bit into and work yourself around because a lot of people have this thought and it is absolutely not true. So you've got to kick it to the side and get rid of it. That'll help you move on. Number two is that people feel like they are not worthy enough to have something in their life. Whatever it is, that they are not worthy enough to have wealth, that they're not worthy enough to have a great relationship, that they're not worthy enough to have a great job, that they're not worthy enough to own their own business, that they're not worthy enough to have a great body and great physical health, people get these thoughts in their heads and that blocks them from moving towards those goals in their life. So why would you think that you're not worthy enough to have these things? Maybe it goes back to number one where you feel like you're not good enough, but you can see over and over again. I love to see, this is a great example, when you're looking at people who go through the before and after transformations of when they go to a new eating program or new workout routine, and they are just totally transformed. So they show us, they show us in those before and after pictures, that they are absolutely worthy of having. And so we can see throughout life that people are willing to face whatever fears they have about having those things, and they're willing to do the work to get to those things. And because of that action, those reframed thought patterns, they find that they are worthy to have. So number two, not feeling worthy enough to have something, is the second block that can get in people's way from reaching their goals. Number three is feeling like you're not special. And so I want to say, is there anybody out there that is like you in this world? Anybody at all? They might look like you, but there is no one like you out there. And you know what? That means you are special. You are special. You have particular gifts, talents, thoughts, energy that is special and unique to you. And if you go back to what I said earlier about talking to your friends, your friends can be a great mirror for what those gifts might be. If you're really struggling within yourself to figure out what it is, talk to those very near and dear people who can be that mirror and can share back with you what they see in you. And think about it and recognize that with those words that they share with you, that you indeed are special, you are unique, and you are the only one that is like you in this world. So bring all of yourself and all of who you are to this world. And don't let that feeling of not being special get in your way to having an absolutely fabulous life. Number four is that people feel like their circumstances dictate the outcome of their life. Now I get how that's an easy thing to think, but we have examples around us all over the place that show us differently. So if you think that your circumstances dictate the end result of your life, you are not believing in Oprah Winfrey. Oprah Winfrey is one of the greatest examples of this, and there's so many out there. But Oprah, she's a legend. She overcame so much in her life, and she is now influencing in such a positive way so many people all around her, all around the world. She overcame terrible, difficult circumstances, and she's one of the most powerful women in the world now. So she certainly threw aside that notion that her circumstances were going to dictate her end results. There's other people who have overcome very difficult circumstances and achieved just huge success. J.K. Rowling of the Harry Potter fame, Richard Branson, Ralph Lauren, they are all people who had very difficult, humble beginnings and just took their life to huge success levels. So look around you. Know that other people have done it. There's people who are probably in your local market that you could go to and talk to about this. But there are examples everywhere of people who absolutely decided to not believe that their circumstances were going to dictate their outcomes, and they moved ahead and created just absolutely phenomenal lives. So you can do it too. If they can do it, you can do it too. The fifth lie that gets in people's way from unlocking their full potential is that my dreams are not realistic. Now I want to ask, do you think any of those people, Oprah, Ralph Lauren, J.K. Rowling, do you think that they felt like their dreams were unrealistic? I don't know that when Oprah started that she would have envisioned that she would have had this kind of impact. And I imagine as she started, her dream just kept expanding and expanding and expanding. Same for the other people on that list. Ralph Lauren, J.K. Rowling. I don't imagine when J.K. Rowling started writing the Harry Potter books that she imagined the kind of impact that it would have on the world. But you know, these people did it, and you can as well. So I say that these five lies, if you believe any one of these, they could trip you up. They could get in your way. They can block you from unlocking your full potential. I will challenge you to not let anyone get in your way from reaching for your goals and your dreams. Do not let anyone, no well-intending family member, no well-intending friend, do not let yourself get in the way of accomplishing your dreams and your goals. We are here. Why not make it an absolutely phenomenal, exceptional life? I want an exceptional life. Who wants to get to the end point in your life and think, oh my gosh, I wish I'd done it differently. I wish I'd lived a little bit bolder, a little bit bigger. You know, we need to make the most of our time here. So pay attention to these lies. If you feel that any one of these are niggling in the back of your brain and you need to work on it, reflect on it. Write it down. Talk to your friends. Help recreate your story. Write a different story for yourself because these other folks have done it, and you can too. And you owe it to yourself to unlock your greatest potential in life. Thanks so much for watching. I hope you've liked this video. Please give us a thumbs up if you've liked it. Share it with a friend. Subscribe. Hit that bell notification. I do have a link below in the comment section that shares, for a limited time, my Finding Your Purpose Now guide. This guide, actually, that I've noted down there, this might help you break through some of the lies that you might be telling yourself and create actionable steps for you to actually move past these and focus on the goals that you can accomplish in the nearer term. Start creating a pattern of success for yourself and work your way towards expanding your goals and dreams into even bigger and bigger realms. I appreciate your watching. Have a great day, and I will see you next time.