9 Recurring situations in life - how to make them stop!

Do you have a situation in your life that keeps happening to you over and over and over again? Something that in different forms, but similar sort of style, just keeps bumping into your life and you keep saying, why does this keep happening to me? Hey everybody, this is Jessie Q, your everyday coach for intentional living. So I think this is a common thing for a lot of people. It's certainly happened in my life. Over and over and over again, I keep running into a certain situation in my work life, in a personal life, that just keeps happening. And I've had it in companies that I've worked with where I kind of run into the same environment, work environment all the time, and I'm like, why is this happening again? In relationships, maybe it's the same sort of relationship dynamic that keeps happening over and over and over again. Does this sound like something that you're familiar with that happens in your life? So why is that happening? I truly believe that these things happen in our life because we have a need to step back and learn something from it. So we grow up in our life and we are conditioned and patterned into certain ways of thinking through our family environment, through society and things like that as we're growing up. And then we get out there into the wide world and we're living our own life. And honestly, there's a lot of things that I think we have to retrain ourselves and grow through and beyond based on what we've learned as a child and what society tells us. And those things that keep recurring in our life, I really believe are there for us as a red flag, something that's taking us by the shoulders and saying, pay attention to this. You need to change your behavior on how you're reacting to this so that you can grow and overcome and not experience it again. So how do you do that? I mean, first off, if you keep running into things over and over and over again in your life, are you recognizing that it's something that you need to pay attention to and overcome yourself? Or do you look at it as a victim where you're going, oh my gosh, it's happening again. I can't believe it. And you get yourself all wrapped up again in the emotions of, oh, it's happening again. I can't believe this. I'm so sick of this. I don't want this happening again. But then when you approach it that way, you are opening up a huge realm of negative emotion that in essence is keeping that activity, that recurring pattern happening in your life. So there's two ways to look at it. You can either be the victim and blow up the emotions, the negative emotions, and live and thrive in the energy of, woe is me, it's happening one more time. I can't believe this. I am so sick and tired of this, on and on and on. You're not gonna get rid of that recurring pattern in your life if that's the way you look at it. You're gonna keep bringing it into your life because you're putting your energy into it that way. You're putting your energy in the negative pattern happening over and over and over again. If you step back and you recognize that it's happening and you start to look at it a little bit different, like you remove yourself from the situation. You say, okay, I can see that this is happening over and over and over again. It's time for me to do something about it. The old saying, if you keep doing the same thing, you're gonna keep getting the same results. Well, so this is time for you to make a break from that and have different results because you're gonna take a different pattern to be dealing with it. So step back, don't be the victim. Step back and say, okay, I'm seeing that this pattern is happening over and over and over again. What is it that I need to learn from this situation? What is it that I've not been seeing in the past that I need to just take a deep breath, reassess and deal with it differently this time? It starts to break the pattern of that happening again and again. So for me, I kept finding myself in a job situation where I felt like I didn't fit with the company. Our view of business practices were at odds with one another. Maybe ethically, I looked at the business life a little differently than the people that I worked for. And I kept finding myself in this pattern over and over again. And then I changed jobs and I found myself back there again. And so, you have to step back. And for me, the way I dealt with it in the past was to just say, I can't work for this place anymore. I can't do this anymore. And I would leave and go to another company and find myself in the same place again, find myself in the same environment again. So I had to step back and look at myself and think about what I was doing. Did I like my job? Was I serving people well for the people that I was helping in my job? Was I doing a good job of helping them? Was I bringing them value and benefits? So the fact that other people in my company looked at and handled the job differently than I did was separate from the fact that when I was doing what I was doing, I was doing it well and benefiting the people that I was serving. So rather than just a reaction to say, I'm done, I'm out of here, and finding myself in the same role all over again, I stepped back and I said, I am doing a great job of helping these people. I am giving them positive benefits. I'm gonna do my best to maybe take my values and shine those to other people in the company. They can choose or not choose to do what I'm doing. But I stayed within my job because what I was doing was helping a broader band of people out there in the world with my efforts. And so slowly over time, I'm finding that it helped me break the pattern of wanting to leave a company and recognizing the fact that I was still out there benefiting the greater whole with what I was doing by staying and working in that role, even though I was a little out of odds with people who dealt with my role very, very differently. I don't know if that makes sense, but I think if you stop and step back, again, maybe you just wanna take a little bit of quiet time. I'm always an advocate for taking a little quiet time and looking at why you, first off, what is it that's recurring in your life? What is it that's recurring in your life? Again, is it in a relationship? Does it have something to do with health patterns, maybe eating patterns? Is it a work situation that keeps recurring, a typical sort of person that keeps recurring in your work life over and over again or in your personal life over and over again? What is it, the pattern, that is recurring in your life, number one, and then number two, why do you think it's recurring? For me, I think typically it had to do with looking back into my past, how I was taught growing up to deal with things, and it was something within that that I needed to shift. I needed to really reevaluate my patterns that I was taught as a child on how to deal with things and apply a different set of standards to my current situation. I had to break how I'd been taught to deal with it as a kid and apply different patterns to it as an adult in that situation to stop the pattern from recurring. I hope this is making some sense. Again, step back, reevaluate, change patterns, because if you keep doing the same thing over and over again, and if you keep staying in the victim mode of I can't believe it, this is a really easy place to go to, too, by the way, but if you go to the victim mode and you say I can't believe it, you're not taking responsibility for what's going on, you're not looking within yourself to try and change the pattern, and to be honest with you, you're just growing the situation and encouraging it to happen again and again and again because you're focusing your energy on the negative emotions, and you bring into your life what you put your energy on, and if you put your energy on negative emotions, those negative emotions are gonna come into your life, so you're gonna manifest the wrong thing, and that's not what you want. Anyway, I hope this makes some sense. I hope you've enjoyed it. I hope you find it's given you a little bit of a snippet of something to focus on today to help you change the direction of your life just slightly. Even just a little bit of a change can make a huge difference over time. Have a great day. If you like this video, please click the like button, and hit the bell notification to subscribe to my daily videos. Have a great day, everybody. I'll talk to you soon.