1 What is Self Actualization_ 12 characteristics you need to know to become Self Actualized!

What is self-actualization and what are the twelve characteristics that would create a self-actualized person? Stick with me I am going to go into detail on each and every single one and stay with me to the very end to understand how this can impact your every single day life and get you on the course to your highest and greatest purpose and most fulfilling life ever. Hey everybody it's Jessi Q your coach, teacher, mentor and accountability partner to help you reach your goal of living to your highest and best purpose in this life. Welcome I'm so glad you've joined me. So I like to talk about self-actualization because ultimately it is that end goal that has us each and every single one of us living to our highest and best and our most personal purpose in life. So my purpose and my God-given gifts are not the same as yours. So it is our job in this life I believe to find that gift that we are given by God, by spirit, by the universe, whatever. We are each given something that we are to give back to this world and how do we find, how do we discover that ultimate life-fulfilling purpose in our lives? How do we reach self-actualization where we are not susceptible to the noise and the clutter from the outside world and we can hone in on ourselves to live our best lives. I'm going to share with you these 12 characteristics that come from Abraham Maslow. He has this hierarchy of needs that I talked about in another video but at the peak of his hierarchy of needs is what he says is self-actualization and I think this is true. It is the natural hardwired state that us humans exist at that we can get diverted from in fulfilling our greatest life purpose. So here we go. Okay number one. Number one is an efficient perception of reality. So self-actualized people have a very efficient perception of reality. This means that they are particularly good at assessing a situation or assessing people and finding if there's something false, if there's something that's off, that something's not just quite right with that situation and they can perceive of that and identify it and just let it be. They're not particularly concerned with trying to change that person but they can clearly identify when something is false or not quite right and just know that it is so. Number two is a very comfortable acceptance of themselves, of others, and of nature. So certainly we are not perfect as human beings. The world and nature is not a perfect place and there is a comfortable acceptance of ourselves, of others, of nature, and all of its perfection and all of its flaws. There's not a need to again correct or change. It's just a comfortable acceptance of ourselves and others as they are. Number three is independence and a sense of self and looking at our own judgments to form our opinions as opposed to relying on the world around us to interpret and tell us how things should be. Number four is someone who is spontaneous and natural. This means that we are true to ourselves and we are not molding ourselves to be someone who we are not. We are just spontaneous and natural and true to who we are. Whether that means we're quiet and introverted, we're extroverted, we have particular characteristics, all of that is great. As I said earlier, we may have flaws but we are just spontaneous and natural and comfortable with that. Number five is being task-centered. This means that we have a purpose in life, that we know that we have a purpose and we are living to that purpose in our life. Also with this means that it's about enjoying the journey and not just working for the destination. So it's not the end that we're going for. It's an enjoyment of the whole process. So the purpose in our life is to find that purpose in our life, live to that purpose in our life and enjoy the journey as we go along in life. Number six is being autonomous. So a self-actualized person is free from the reliance on other people's guidance. They tend to be an independent person who is comfortable with making their own decisions and they don't look to and need other people to guide them on their path in life. Again this is important because they are being true to themselves so they are they are autonomous from needing other people's guidance and opinion on the direction that they need to go in life. Number seven is to have a continued freshness of appreciation about life and the world around us. So a self-actualized person always looks at life with a fresh new perspective. They see that there's a lot of an abundance, a lot of joy, they're living a little bit more in the now and really understanding and appreciating what is happening in life around us. So you look at things almost as a childhood where the rain outside or the puddle in the road or the birds flying through the sky or just a beautiful blue sky one day. All of that takes on a new perspective and there's an awareness of it that sometimes if we're living otherwise we don't even tend to see. So number seven is an appreciation of everyday life and the abundance around us. Number eight is profound personal relationships. Self-actualized people tend to have fewer relationships but the relationship they have are very deep and profound. It is a really true and authentic and deep relationship with the people around them. Number nine is self-actualized people are comfortable with solitude. They are okay being by themselves, they are comfortable being by themselves. Doesn't mean that they need this all the time but when you are alone there is a comfort with that because you're comfortable with who you are. Number ten is having a sense of humor. This is about being able to laugh at yourself, not take things too seriously. If people are making fun of you you're okay with it because you're okay with yourself. So number ten is having a good sense of humor so you're not poking fun at other people and you can laugh at yourself and just have fun in life. So number eleven Maslow in his hierarchy of needs and the phase of self-actualization labels as peak experiences. This is something where you feel a deep connectedness and harmony with the way things are. It's almost a moment of just feeling spiritually very connected to things, connected to the world, connected to everyone else. It's a feeling of wholeness, a feeling of fulfillment, a feeling of just great personal profound joy. So these peak experiences mark a another characteristic of a self-actualized person. Last but not least number twelve is being socially compassionate. This means that a self-actualized person has a deep connection with the world and what's going on around them. They have a spirit of wanting to help, to be of service to others, to be aware of the humanity that's going on around them both in their own community and around the world and there is a feeling of being very socially compassionate to the world and what's going on in the world. So the interesting thing is that it is the culmination of all of these characteristics together that create a self-actualized person and a self-actualized person is living to their individual highest and greatest potential in giving their selves to the people around them, to their community and to the world. So our goal in becoming self-actualized people is not a selfish goal. It is living to our highest and best purpose. It is living most authentically to ourselves so that we can give the best of ourselves to the people around us, that we can live each moment of our day to our highest and best purpose in this life, that we can contribute the best of ourselves to the world and to the people around us and that's why having a goal of becoming self-actualized, of living to these twelve characteristics is so important in life and it doesn't need to be overwhelming, all-encompassing. It just means understanding what these twelve characteristics are and starting to think about incorporating these and living to these awarenesses in our life every single day. Thank you so much for watching this video. I hope you found it helpful. I hope you found it a bit enlightening. It is my intention that you have taken something from this. There's been a bit of an aha moment that just resonates within you and you say, gosh I really think I want to focus on this one thing and that starts to transform your life. Little by little, bit by bit, you just shift your direction and start living a more fulfilled, fully authentic life to you. I appreciate your being here today. Thank you so much for watching. I do have a link below to Finding Your Purpose guide. It's a guide that just has you sitting down and writing down some very introspective thoughts that helps you identify for yourself what is most important to you in your life and how to take baby steps to start bringing those goals into your life every single day. So if you like that, you're welcome to go to that link, download it. I think it's very very helpful to really focus in on what's most important to you every single day. Thanks so much for watching. If you've liked this video, please like it, share it with someone who you think might appreciate it and benefit from it. Also subscribe and hit that bell notification to get updates of our weekly videos. And I would love some comments below on which of these 12 characters do you think you want to focus on. I know I really I want to live with a little bit more humor in my life. I can be a serious person sometimes so I want to try and help incorporate laughing at myself, laughing at life as a whole, not taking things quite so seriously sometimes. That's one for me that I like to focus on. Have a great day. We'll see you soon.