Men Do Not Build Relationships… They Build Attachments #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

Men do not want relationships. They want attachments, okay? Listen carefully to what I say in this video. It's going to make a lot of sense. Even if a man gets into a relationship, he's nine times out of ten going to cheat on you because he wants attachments with people outside of your relationship. I honestly believe this stems from childhood. Either. You know, he watches his father leave his mother. He watches his father cheat on his mother. It's a learned behavior that dad is building attachments with other women outside of his mother instead of staying loyal to his mother and treating his mama right. Uh, is dad romantically pursuing mom? If they're married, are they going on consistent date nights as a married couple? Is dad set an example of how a woman should be properly loved? Does dad buy mom gifts? Does dad constantly buy mom flowers? Does dad treat mom like the first date, the first time he laid eyes on her? Is he establishing this example in front of his son so that his son, when his son grows up, his son will learn and know how to treat a woman romantically. No, most men witness their fathers. They don't witness it. They know daddy is cheating, has cheated, or daddy has moved on with another woman. That is basically teaching. That father is teaching his son that it is okay to build attachments with other women outside of his mother. Men do not know how to build and sustain relationships. They do know how to attach themselves to multiple women. That is based on insecurities, okay? That's why a lot of men have multiple baby mamas. He's, he's locking you down with a baby to attach himself to you before he moves on with another woman. If he doesn't get you with a baby, he's going to attach himself some sort of different type of way. When you ladies agree to a situationship, that is just simply a man attaching himself to you without the commitment of a relationship because a situationship guarantees that he can stay connected and attached to you. With no commitment, it's about that attachment, getting sex out of you, sex benefits him, it's transactional, putting a baby inside of you, it's transactional, he gets to stay attached to you through the child. He's either gonna use you for sex or your resources because you're his baby mother and he's put you on the bench for the next 18 years. He's also marked his territory so no other man will want you because you have a child. It's about an attachment. He can move on with other women and still circle back to his baby mother because the baby, the child, is what keeps him connected to you. Although he doesn't love his child, he's simply using a child to gain access to you, to stay attached to you, to use you for sex or whatever else you have. And if you don't want ---- to do with him as your baby father because he's a horrible human being, he still has bragging rights. If you're beautiful, educated, you know, you got all this going on, he gets to go in the streets and tell niggas, yo, that's my baby mama, I won. Just like Offset is out here telling everybody Cardi B is his baby mama. He won. It's just for bragging rights. If anything else, it's about that attachment he has to you through the child. Most men do not know how to build a really successful relationship, nor do they know how to sustain a successful relationship because they lack emotional intelligence. Um, they lack critical thinking skills. They're not romantic. They don't know, you know, they know how to be romantic in the beginning to, to get the woman hooked, but they don't know how to maintain and sustain. They get comfortable and they go back to being their horrible, abusive selves. They get comfortable and they feel like you ain't going nowhere. And that's the green light that gives them the green light to start cheating and, and further securing other attachments, attachments, entanglements outside of your relationship. So, you know, when you really think about it, it stems from childhood. It's an insecurity. It's either from him watching his father, dog, his mama out, watching his father cheat on his mama. It's a learned behavior. Well, dad. Said it was cool to build multiple attachments with other women outside of my mama. So I guess it's cool that I can do it too. Or mom or dad created his insecurities. Mom was abusive and made him feel like he wasn't good enough. So he's constantly chasing mom's validation. Or it was dad. Maybe dad was abusive and dad made him feel like he was never good enough. Mom or dad created an insecurity within him. So now that he's a grown man. The more women, the more sexual partners, the more baby mamas he have, the more secure, the more validated. It's about that external validation. Having these multiple sexual partners, multiple women, it externally, it validates his ego. That's why he won't stop cheating. That's why he won't stop sleeping around. That's why he won't stop creating babies. That's why he has multiple situationships. It's about external validation. Men do not know how to sustain relationships. They simply know how to sustain attachments. Ladies, stop getting your heart. Don't invest your heart. Start treating these niggas like dust. If you're going to sleep with him, sleep with him and drop him. If he really likes you, he'll come get you. He will come get you and he will put in the work. But I'm going to tell you nine times out of 10, treat these niggas like they're disposable because all they're looking for is to attach themselves to you some sort of way. If they can't get you with a baby, he'll, he'll try to, you know, turn you into a situation ship where, where you're giving up sex, you know, on a consistent basis without him investing in you. It's about that attachment. It's about, it's transactional. Okay. Cause he learned it from his daddy. He learned it from his mama. Mama, don't let him use you. Don't let him use you as an attachment if he cannot invest and pour into you. And build you up without trying to use you socially, sexually, whatever. Don't let these niggas use you as an attachment. You detach before he gets a chance to detach from you. You're going to use him, get in and get out. You're going to use him for sex, get in and get out. And that's dangerous too. I'm not advising you to do that. Don't use him for his money. Don't use him for sex. But if you're going to do it, don't get your heart into it. It's a dangerous game out here. It's better to be single. Honestly, that's my preference. But if you understand the psychology of men, they don't want relationships. They want attachments. They want to be attached to as many women as possible. And never assume he's single. Always assume that he's stalking an ex that cut him off. Always assume that he's stalking a girl that he really wants and she's not giving him the time of day. These niggas are never alone. They're never alone. There's always somebody he's in the bed with. Serious relationship or not, situation or not, there's always somebody in his bed. Be safe, ladies. I'm telling you it's better to be single. Don't put your heart, your emotions into these niggas. It's not worth it.