YOU WILL HAVE TO CUT OFF YOUR NIECES AND NEPHEWS TO PROTECT YOURSELF FROM NARC ABUSE #narcissist

You're going to have to cut off your nieces and nephews, even when they're small children. And here's why. I know you love your nieces and nephews. They're innocent children, whether they're three years old, 10 years old, even if they're teenagers, you love your nieces and nephews. You would do anything for them. However, if your brother or sister are narcissists, you cannot have a relationship with your nieces and nephews. You know, if you realize that you have to cut off your toxic, abusive brother or sister because of their narcissistic ways, their children have to get cut off with them as well. That means you cannot talk to your nieces and nephews. You cannot call. You cannot text. you literally have to separate yourselves away from the children and it is going to be incredibly painful because children are innocent but let me tell you something your narcissistic brother and sister will use their own children to guilt trip you to have and hold on you to uh they'll use the children as flying monkeys now if you don't know what the term flying monkey means it's often used um in the narcissistic abuse survivor community a flying monkey is a messenger a minion a pawn innocent children will be used as pawns to spy on you you're the aunt the uncle and because your sibling knows you ain't ******* with them like that they will use their children go over to auntie's house you know come back and tell me what she up to who was over at her house oh she got a new job where's she working at oh she got a new man tell me who's her man what kind of car he drives the children will be used to spy to stalk to retrieve information and bring it back to your sibling okay the sibling that you have nothing you will have nothing to do with your sibling because they're incredibly toxic and abusive and if your sibling is a narcissist i can assure you either your mother or father or both your parents are narcissistic so if they use the children as messengers to stay in your personal business and that child your niece or nephew takes that information back to your siblings guess what happens your siblings will then take that information and they'll sit up and gossip with your abusive parents you have a whole team working together to sit up and gossip and smear you and tear you down and to stay 10 steps ahead of you and they're all going to use your nieces and nephews to do it narcissists don't care about children however they will use children as pawns to monitor spy stalk retrieve information it's really sick children are nothing but accessories and objects to narcissists so yes as much as you love your nieces and nephews they got to get cut off now what you can do you can wait until they become adults when they're old enough to understand the family's dysfunction and pray that they don't become narcissistic as well, because that's another thing. Your family can also manipulate and groom your nieces and nephews to also become narcissists. And that's still dangerous, even if they become an adult. You have to be very cautious with the information you give to your nieces and nephews once they become an adult. You have to set a boundary. If you see them in the streets, it's high and bye. Listen, I don't want to hear about what's going on with family. How are you doing? You're doing good. Here's a couple of dollars. auntie love you and you keep it pushing do not reveal your business to your nieces and nephews okay even if they're adults you really have to use a high level of discernment and understand what those children were exposed to how much gossip and rumors smearing they heard about you growing up you know the gossip is real and narcissists will sit up and gossip in front of children and tear you down in front of children the children get an earful remember that so you have to be very careful when your nieces and nephews become adults. You have to approach them or they have to approach you very cautiously and you have to set a boundary. Keep them out your business. You can love them, but be gentle, be discerning and maintain that boundary. I hope this was helpful. I know you don't want to cut off your nieces and nephews, but you have to. They will be used as pawns to further control, manipulate, and abuse you. I promise you, let it go. Keep growing, keep thriving, keep healing, work on yourself, stay away from your family and all the children included. Be blessed, y'all.