Talk to Men Using These Simple Phrases To Build Deep Attraction

Alright ladies, so when it comes to capturing a man's heart, there are three types of women. Those who chase him for love, those who demand his affection, and those who effortlessly draw him in through the art of seduction. Now, when you watch all these silly videos about seduction, they usually talk about manipulation. How to get a man to do what you want, blah blah blah. And seduction is not controlling. It's about knowing how to build real attraction and connection. It's like this, do you want to learn how to sing and attract him with your melody, or do you want to learn autotune and hope that he never gets to hear your real voice? My name is Ismael Gomez, I'm a coach, writer, and speaker, and today I want to teach you how to engage with a man using simple principles of seduction. From understanding why seduction works, to phrases that make him feel special, to playful ways to spark his protective instincts. But before the video starts, I want you to stop multitasking, give me your full attention, so I can seduce you with my ideas. See what I did there? Okay, so let's begin. Number one. Why seduction? All right ladies, so let me start this video by saying that seduction is a skill, just like anything else. I've coached women who came to me saying that they weren't naturally confident and they didn't know how to seduce a man, and I always ask them, well, have you trained yourself to get better at it? And by training, I don't mean standing in front of the mirror and shouting affirmations like I'm confident, right? I mean actually learning the micro skills of seduction and confidence. So what makes a great seducer anyways? Well, it starts with being outer directed. When you're speaking to a man, especially if you're into him, it's easy for you to get caught up in an internal monologue saying, you know, does he like me? Am I saying the right thing? How do I look right now? Or you enter every conversation with an outcome in mind. You think, okay, so I'm going to see him today because I want to tell him this thing so he can do this other thing for me. But if things don't go according to plan, you feel tense and irritated and he can feel that energy as well. I mean, think about this. When you go to watch a movie, do you go with the idea of like, I want this and this to happen so I can enjoy the movie? Or are you there to appreciate the story as it unfolds? And by the way, for those of you who asked me for movie recommendations, I suggest that you check out Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. Let me know what you think about it. But anyways, here's the final point that I want you to understand. And that is that a man doesn't want to be with a woman who's the best at convincing him to do something. He wants to be with a woman with whom he can have the best experiences. And this means that your focus should be on creating memorable moments, okay? Being present and building a connection that feels natural and exciting. Number two, seductive phrases. Words are extremely influential, right? And when you use them with the right intention, they can make a man feel more As I've mentioned in many of my videos, men like to feel powerful. So you want that sense of power to be connected to your presence. So a key principle of seduction is to make him feel powerful while subtly incorporating both you and him in the conversation. And let me give you an example because I know that you ladies love when I give you these phrases. So instead of saying you're a good kisser, you can say you really know how to kiss me. Because if you notice that first statement, you're a good kisser, is generic, right? It could apply to anyone. But the second option makes it more about the unique connection between the two of you. You can also say I like when you hold me, which carries far more emotional weight than you know how to make a woman feel safe. Okay, so I think you get the idea. But let me give you a few other seductive phrases that you can use. I enjoy the way that you make me feel when we are together. You always know how to make me laugh. Thank you. I haven't had this much fun in a long time. These phrases will make him feel special and give him a sense of accomplishment in the relationship. However, sometimes you also want to spice things up with a playful challenge, okay? Remember that the goal is to make him feel powerful around you. For example, you can try something like, hey, can you lift that? I know that you're strong, but that looks pretty heavy. I've heard that you're really good at making videos, so can you show me the best one you've made? Yes, someone used that on me. So these are fun ways to engage his confidence and let him shine for you. And final, number three, damsel in distress. Okay, so I know this one might trigger some of you, but as a man, I can tell you that sometimes letting us save the day is the ultimate way to strengthen the connection. This is one of the oldest seduction principles, the damsel in distress. And no, this doesn't mean that you should pretend to be helpless or incapable of basic tasks, but occasionally allowing a man to step in and help you taps into his masculine energy, his natural desire to protect and provide. And always remember this principle, more than being seen as attractive, men want to be seen as capable. In my experience, the idea of the damsel in distress is not about making the woman look helpless or useless like some old stories may have portrayed, but it's more about giving the man the opportunity to show up for you. And I hate to be the one to break it to you, but if you think that a man is lazy and he doesn't sacrifice much for you, it's likely because he takes you for granted. Even the most incapable guy, if you give him a chance to be with the woman that he truly wants, he'll do the impossible to be with her. And let me tell you a story about a friend of mine that I had back in college like a decade ago, and she was dating this guy who was always giving her the bare minimum. And she would always find excuses for him. So I told her, listen, I don't think he's that interested in you. And the main issue was that he lived two hours away and he would only come to see her twice a month. So my friend, being the crazy person that she is, she created a fake Instagram profile of a very attractive woman with fake followers and everything. I mean, this girl was crazy, but she started a conversation with him online. And eventually after messaging for a while, she said that she wanted to meet in person, but that she lived in Georgia, which is like eight hours away from us here in Miami. And guess what the guy said? Oh, that's fine. I can drive there tomorrow and meet you in person. How about that? And by the way, you know that this is just not a man's thing. Okay. I've seen many women do the same to some guys. They made excuses like they were feeling sick to avoid going out with them. And then when they were actually sick, they ended up going out with another man that they were truly interested in. All right, ladies. So remember that seduction is not about chasing outcomes or trying to make someone like you. Okay. It's more about creating memorable experiences, speaking in a way that deepens your connection and giving him the opportunity to show up for you. And for today's comment, we have Christine Rodriguez, 39, 76, who said since my divorce 16 years ago, I stayed alone for many years and did not put myself out there. In the past two years, I have tried dating and it has failed. Just hearing these things makes me feel that my decision in staying single is still a great idea. Now, let me say to you, Christine, and to many others who feel the same way here on the channel, that I know that sometimes when I speak about the worst things that men can do, it might feel like there's no hope. But remember that I'm only sharing this so you can avoid falling into those traps. Okay. I always say that I've had women who took advantage of me many times in the past. Okay. But that has never changed the way that I perceive women. I know that there are amazing women out there because I've met them. And I know that there are amazing guys for you. Okay. That want to build a lasting relationship with you. And I hope that you get to meet him soon so you can tell us all about it. Anyways, thank you for subscribing to my channel. I'm glad that you chose me to learn about self-love, dating, and relationship dynamics. Because like I always say, for your relationships to change, you need to change. Have a beautiful day.