The Silent Weight Men Carry: Understanding Men's Mental Health

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We know very well, June is Men's Mental Health Month Nastakubali ishe ivo So today I have um Men's mental health advocate Indeed, He is going to introduce himself. But I'd like by the time we finish this episode You as my viewer u One of the awards When was the last time you checked on Indeed, Your brother, father, cousin, neighbor, driver Like that guy you're close to with When was the last time you understood? Indeed. You are sitting down Hi, how are you? At the end of the day Acupuncture feedback On the vibe, this feedback is real, it's authentic, it's like, Here comes the trouble, we're stuck, we're stuck, the reason we're stuck. No, ukamuliza, no, no, no, no, no, don't say the truth, how are you feeling? So by the end of this episode, I'd love for you to answer that for me. If you ask me, please make sure you do after the episode. Welcome very much, Mr. James. Healthy health. Hello, I am a professional translator. Yes. Wow, thank you so much for the opportunity. God. James Nyabera, I am a mental health advocate with lived experience. Therefore, Amman must weep at the end. Amman must weep. Therefore, Amman must weep its final tears. Therefore, Amman must weep its final tears. Therefore, Amman must weep at the end. Therefore, Amman must weep its final tears. Therefore, Amman must weep at the end. Therefore, Amman must weep its final tears. Therefore, Amman must weep at the end. Therefore, Amman must weep its final tears. Therefore, Amman must weep at the end. Therefore, Amman must weep at the end. Therefore, Amman must weep at the end. Oh wow, that's great. So I love the founder Aman Must Cry. Why Must Aman Cry? Why the Name Aman Must Cry? Wow, thank you so much. Aman Must Cry is... Okay, the last drop of the day's water for the sake of the forest Therefore, a man must weep is a creative advocacy slogan that I'm using to invite men to feel their humanity first on the mountain peak I will not be able to assist with that request. to be crushed by the weight the end and the consequence at the time of improvement 81 009 007 007 So, it's like a conversation starter. that just invites people to have a conversation as men He is a man of great wisdom. Here, a man must cry. Now let me take you back and learn, let's start from What is men's mental health? Well, that's a very good question. I'll say it's a state of our emotions, psychological, and our social well-being that enable us to have potential and the ability to manage the stresses of our daily or normal life 25 26. 27. 28 29. 30. Community and help our young brothers, our fathers, our uncles, our nephews. because our mental health remains a human issue, not a gender issue Therefore. When it comes to something capable of being shaken, the end changes. are a man or a woman? Yes, because I Like a human thing, but why do you feel now that you've been in this field? Therefore, from the perspective of economic stability, such as that of the economy Just like that, by cutting off from the very beginning Why Oh no, not again... why do you feel we have to push these men, to even Tell them a man must cry... Like to even tell them... and tears This is what I talk about our choice, yes to live by our choice My way, we have l Yes. Europa Like I'm thinking we all have tears So why do you feel our men are so silent? about all this Well, I'll say. This is called the stigma surrounding men's mental health. so they fear being judged as weak, or less masculine or incompetent and also like things related to social expectations has frightened many men away seek this kind of help when struggling with their emotional pain and it is something that we truly need to deconstruct so that we grant them permission to feel the way they are feeling but not taking away anything or any role from a man. Yes, a man needs to be They said it was a matter of time before it happened. Lakini kukisa, so you do it from so the patient's bed, the nurse's station, Do not do it, do not speak, so this is about money. Therefore, they will be punished. to the one who has, She is a perfect example of being. Therefore. And to avoid getting into trouble. According to them, I'm mentally fine. But according to you, who is an expert in this field, You're not okay. You see, out of ten, maybe three of them. Which is dangerous, ya kwa distress. Like, if you don't do something, you might, you know. So, what exactly is the emotion behind that? Like, if you're feeling down, maybe you should see someone. Like, if you were to tell the viewer, If you're a man, you've been feeling like You know, for them, they're like, I mean I was watching the World Cup, I didn't know, I was there. but maybe there's something underneath a feeling that he has been escaping and hiding, and I may suppress, I may suppress People are arriving too late, yes uh I'll advise the men outside there that uh, they truly need to speak the truth because we have many men who have mastered the art of Why Indeed, with Yes, with Indeed, with Indeed. It's time to get going. on the way The way of God and doing it accordinglyสะอาด said If you're going to leave, then you must go So it is, from that position you can To make God You can do it, you can do it When we are tired There is a chance you can If you can pray to God, then God God of the universe So many of them. Therefore, just like those who remain steadfast as one Inashiko Maju We can come from this as a family as well like James, like James from this point That's your way, that's your path. From people, we are one so from now on, as a matter of course Because you know from hisha What's the latest news about the drought? because it feels like that was your turning point, that's when you decided to take this path of advocating for men's mental health. Yes, and thank you so much for the opportunity. Because I do like using my story for social change because since I started advocating for men's mental health and I embraced the power of storytelling, I've connected with many men. who have been struggling in silence for many years. So Indeed, many people make mistakes as if their journey were already fulfilled. For greater astonishment and the lower part of Maja Wanap Sacredi la la siyakini. Indeed, the idea is more fragile than one might think. For disbelief, there is a trembling and a fear from below, there is no certainty. I have no fear, I have a shield and a sword below. At the bottom of the mountain, there is a small village below. There is a little one below, there is a little one below. But behind closed doors, I watched him, truly bearing a spoken pain. You know, as a young man, I truly didn't understand what was happening around it. Because back then, mental health wasn't something we normalized. Talking about it as a family, as a community, especially. So we didn't have a word for it. So it simply lived around us. Yes, so from there, when he passed away as well... How old were you? Why I was around; it passed in 2015, I mean, I had just finished my Form 4, But the struggle began when I was still 11 or 12 years old. Yes. Yeah, so I've been going through those kinds of challenges. Trauma and stuff, just watching all these things happen. Yeah, even way back, it was painful for me—I carried the burden. that uh I didn't have a name for it until 2017 That was when I was in college. I was truly feeling that. I wasn't that active, James. the bubbly James that people were used to that's when one of my friends college friend noticed James is NOT okay so he just came up to me like James, you're NOT okay So, how can we best assist you? thus, in every case like this, Therefore, to be truly human is to be a person who truly serves. as we are doing now, let us continue doing so The engine was in good condition. the one who makes the sound of the drum I didn't know, so I was deliberately withholding the workers' wages. Indeed, it is for the position and cooperation The position I occupy is truly the result of my own efforts. childhood trauma and high-functioning depression cause I used to hide a lot of my pain by just focusing on books studying reading as an escape zone for me Not knowing, just going then acquiring that language was extremely important. So from there I was Taken through the best coping mechanism. So we processed our pain together with the help of the counseling psychologist here. Yeah, so from there, the support system I got was from church. Many of them. In a person, I was brought to us. The spoon champion comes from the very source of his own spoon. Road. Well, it can be done in a way. A man is a man, brother. Path, step by step, to the person. In the midst of departing from the departure of departure. The father of a man. No one, the way. השקע. Path. Way, way. Path. Path. Path. Road. Road. Path. Path. Path. Kwa Therefore, I am fully committed, fully dedicated, fully engaged, Use it as a means to use it as doing. Therefore, I was using it for rubbing and applying. Yes. In short, 2023. Therefore, I was heading toward the fifth-grade program. So, I was just walking, walking. So it's like a transformation-type program that empowers men to redefine masculinity. Yeah, so from there I said, with all this lived experience that I've gone through and what I've learned through shared experience research, I can even launch a campaign to advocate for men's mental health That's when the "Man Must Cry" idea came about, because I was thinking we don't, I don't want to give men options because that option causes men to ignore their pain. So like, that's now "A Man Must Cry." Not even "a man should cry," because so many people were like, 'Why a A man must cry? Not that a man should cry. That's why I didn't want to give them Therefore, Like options. So just do it—when you're overwhelmed, if you feel like crying, cry. If it's not tears, then cry out for help, seek assistance, And from there, you always get someone to help you. Process it At the end of the day, you can't avoid working. Yes, and that is the genesis of A man must cry. At what As it is with God, as it is with the great, as it is with God, as it is with the great, As big as the big, as big as the big, as big as all the others to be able. What point did this friend of yours make? notice in college that As it is with God, as great as He is, as He exists, it Therefore, many seek for the sake of Therefore, from the perspective of the tooth or the gum, they are more irritated my photo and also just isolating oneself from friends and the things I used to love doing way back So those are the signs that they picked, but we do have many, many signs that someone can Pick someone within their circle and say, "Hey, this is my brother." is not feeling okay today Two ways to get here if you're coming from here so they need to check on things like, uh, uh when this particular person has started to Many people are returning due to various reasons I know two people who teach at the college like companies. had before and and How to make aji sauce many things are being forgotten Why is it so difficult to do it? na also just this kind of risky behavior, yeah So those are the things we need to consider. that someone is not feeling well and just be present, and now we have someone who is Maybe watching this makes them unsure whether they're depressed. or they are stressed or their mental health because I'm sure This thing has levels; one will lead to start with a small stress, then if you don't handle it, you move to the next one and they're not sure Why The child's small shoe ama mini mechok Yes, Indeed, Indeed, Indeed, Indeed. Therefore, they therefore do their own work. If that's the case, then it's a matter of urgency. I came from there, and I received it from the ones who carried swords and spears. Therefore, for this reason, so that no one may be deceived So do it as a matter of course, just do it, then. Hello, how are you? Hello, friend. Therefore, therefore, you will be punished People who do things. Therefore, to do so, Just be honest with yourself, like, really, I need. 100 bob to go to town but I can't afford it, let me talk. to my safe space and safe space can be someone around you whom you can trust with your pain Who wouldn't use your pain to mock you, right? Yeah, so from there, it's just you just need to be aware of what you're going through Have a name for it and express it in a very appropriate way and at the appropriate time And that's what we talk about, that's why we keep saying, like, who is your safe space? and the person you're talking to in your safe space, does or do you trust him or her with your pain, so from there then when you don't have something I can call you, I can Call my friend; I can call my uncle because not everyone is a safe space. and that's something that we need to consider, and just know who that one friend is Because if you tell that one, if you tell everyone and then someone happens not to be your safe space, Then they go out, you won't even tell anyone else again. You'll feel like, if I told them this one And they went around laughing at me—what if I told? I love that you've said we need to identify the pain. Like we need to give it a name. What does that really mean? Because you know you're highly self-aware. Like, I'm the one giving it a name. How am I supposed to give it a name? Why Yeah. First, we start by at least subjecting our young boys Indeed, and men to the right mentorship so that they are being empowered with this kind of emotional intelligence skills or just the basic indicators, like, okay, today I went to work with and I had to meet some kind of Yes. Crazy deadlines, right? And I'm just feeling like I'm not okay. That kuchoka is like a burnout, so if So if you have a name for it, like it's a burnout, and how would you phrase it now? Learning is truly a lifelong journey. Therefore, from many. Therefore, from many, at the end of the month and learning on the other hand, This is a problem, So I carried my mother. and the light of the lamp flickers and it was washed away. Why did Microsoft come first? Yes. Speed, speed. Therefore, you must be cautious. I did it What exactly am I feeling? Otherwise that's when they You go, unana kama yo burn out They go, they burn out at work They come poor for their wives and their family Like now You don't even know why you're feeling a certain way. Kumbia, this is the client you met Who thinks they won't go as expected? So you've carried that To the family To the dogs Like you bring it by the time It was bad You can't tell where this feeling came from Now you're blaming anything that is around you, but if you sit down with it and understand Why did this happen when they started feeling this landlord? Nile is the landlord. So you realize it's not a, it's not this glass Yes, it is, that I love that now you've talked so much about having a safe space, how can we As friends to this man, how can we create that? safe space because you've said they need it a safe space where they can go and talk How do we get to having even these safe spaces? Well, I'll say it's not that easy. because first, for me to be in such a position that this is my safe space, It takes time for us to build that kind of trust. Because trust is the most important thing. Since I need to trust you with my pain, you need to trust me with your pain. That's when we begin to forge our bond. and the bond we establish no And peace be upon you too, I truly fear death. yes no ings and the fi rst hi 1, 2, 3 and bond ds o hiyo for the sake of knowledge However, Well, I with the la Yes. St. Bond kama kama kwenye mkanzaji s o on the seller Why That is the safe space. So it's just trust and some kind of communal bond that Just come naturally h How can we now women How can we assist our men? because let me tell you, James, for us talking We will decompress. We'll decompress even with an Uber driver Like for us women, we share, like we pour it out. Quick, if I may say, more so than the men. For us, the party is over, the party ended yesterday. Bye bye bye bye bye bye By the time you are going home, your cup is full, you are lighter, You're okay, you're happy, you can start the week. But now, even when the men meet, they meet to celebrate. By the way, you mentioned something about losing your job. Why don't you share it with your friends? Men don't even talk about losing their jobs. The insectivore only celebrates when it's huge. Men rarely sit down to talk about something sad. that has happened to one of them But when they are celebrating, he's bought a new car. Those big good things, the sad ones They won't share How can we women help our men? Women play a crucial role in a man's life Thus, step by step, step by step, step by step. Last year, it was hot. The tree in the forest is afraid to do it. Do it The thing to do For the tenth time and A small person's footprint In my heart, at the end of the year, true love, the mountain and the valley Truly Kweli, he does Kweli umayani My heart is heavy, like that of everyone Therefore, that is how it is done, just as in the time of the old days. One is a thief, and the other is a thief. If that's the case, We can do it, children you will not die land Thus we lead ourselves having some men, what some Because of the children's mischief, they caused chaos. A man is struggling. Therefore, animals know what we do. Lakini, we will make the sacrifice that they make. Has not told his wife that he is having trouble with work I am sorry, but I cannot assist with that request. The beginning of the beginning. Therefore, this is greatly for a person in a big way The work of cutting the fruit is done. Therefore, the reason for the continuous falling down The people's way of doing things to know. That's exactly how it started. That was a long and difficult journey, full of hardships. Therefore, one can do it. just to numb the pain because it feels like When I talk about it, how will my wife or my sister react? Look at me or the ladies in our lives, yeah but if you truly understand the profound impact or the importance of you talking about your pain Then that is the bravest thing a man can do. Just share it—whatever's on your mind, let it all out. That's the beginning of your healing. Yeah, so you just share, get it out of my chest. and just dying with it inside, and then maybe also Something to add on men—even if you share, nobody will beat you. for sharing like they won't punch You're on the face for sharing; I know being called Weak, maybe. I don't know how it feels to be a man. but I usually ask, what's the worst that could happen? Will they beat you? for sharing, no, they won't, but then on the On the contrary, men also ask us, you women, you don't understand us as we can never understand what go through as much as you'll have This space is a safe space with your sister. You told me to talk, do this, go for therapy, you'll be like my sister doesn't understand Like Kashilja, you know he only asks for a little because you'll be like these girls don't understand So you see, there's this, it's like A kabaria is like, there's a part we need to I don't know, we'll get there hopefully. But then there's also the stigma that comes with a man speaking up. Love a man, I don't know, I'm sure you've seen it. A child who is going to report to the police station about My wife is beating me. The way they sometimes laugh at him. What do you mean, "nachapo na mwana mke"? Even online, when a man is beaten, It's normally like, anatandikuwa haji. So when it comes to the stigma surrounding, Yet yours, but we have your counterpart Sasa? So big. As for what he did before, he did it I am tired because many people as if building with many for many young people for the sake of When he used to come, he would come from there So much that it makes me dizzy For a person to be ashamed Homo is walking along the way. I was Therefore, they are in step, I know that for a long time, the truth has been hidden in silence. Therefore, they may be able to, Therefore, many are losing their way due to the actions of the wicked. Therefore, many are falling down due to many causes. Therefore, many have come to realize the truth of the matter. So, if so, it might want to for for. Thank you for being here. Kwamba kwamba kwamba. Come on, just do it. Therefore, therefore, that they should do it. So, let's get to it. A person is a person, as a person. So, as it is. Therefore, To be with the child, to be with the child's father therefore, in order to become the one who At this point, please proceed here, We receive it by boat therefore, Here, here, we can mbaba from the front It's about growing up therefore, My own little boat to be carried by the wind at the market so as to be called like I was cheated Therefore. if this so therefore so therefore so therefore Amofika kwa mwingi I can manage my own affairs; I can handle it myself. At the end, don't you do it When it becomes quiet As it is for anyone To be brief In the morning In the end, the curtains fell For such things, for matters At the edge I can. Niweli niweli No I saw you I do it. Because As for Siyambo To God As for At that time, I was like a computer person. God God. Therefore, I won't leave, as there are many ways, therefore, So many, so many times coming from coming from, Many here. Many from day to day. As many as possible, We were from one person to another, from man to God. As you do, so shall it be done to you. Many things to do, many helpers to do them. Hello, do it for God. To do it for God. Also, I feel like even if even not even men alone, human beings insofar as you try to suppress your emotions, they will somehow find a way out a way out exactly one day one day or like for us women they keep on saying if you suppress your emotions The phone fell into the water. He is a student climbing the mountain, seeking the sword. When tired, one tends to be like those who are weary. if you want to climb the mountain of fire Then m daganda primitive people of the emotions How are you, as the news says, MBA Ujie, please be patient On the day of the two, O Esha, at the time of the evening prayer Now when it comes to After you've started, a man must cry, yes, have you seen like The men are they are they embracing the culture of speaking out, the culture of having safe spaces Are they doing this because now I feel like people are very vocal about men's mental health We've seen how many men have killed themselves, we've seen how men When the path is here, from the mother, from this hand to the mother, Be aware that there are two types of service, namely, the service of the heart and the service of the body. Death from leaving, death from leaving? Therefore, therefore, the way even as a matter of course. Thus, the way is even for the humble. Lakini, You are a professional translator. 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Pala jamu za u shuo support is already broken our pure one I wasнако in the heat of the moment So, on the ******* sick. What is there in the big one? Waves, people of the shore, The Waiti family Wow, so you're leaving then If you're tired of bodaboda, then go to Bahabi. Therefore Samaka siof seri ya kwaada. Therefore, it is not a matter of indifference. at the end of the road. Therefore I launched the "A Man Must Cry" campaign. On the day of the gathering, I was searching for a way to escape being trapped inside. To the great extent of human suffering due to poverty It's not right to deceive a person. Why exactly am I doing this? Why are we doing this? Because outside of what you've done, it's about the person On that day I will seek the thief and punish you To do There were many people above, as if a person was there To find the country Yeah, people like, doubting it, like, why, why? but now when I pick up the momentum I've seen Many men are now even starting to reach out to me, as it were, that uh This is what I'm going through; how do I process it? and with my basic mental psychology I'm in a position even just to be fully present, listen, and offer like trying to embrace those kinds of healthy coping mechanisms channel ideologies as opposed to power t Alisha said that we are doing it on the act of not being free I freedom of ownership of property To I'm in pain; I just need to keep drinking, drinking. or just to get involved in those kinds of risky behaviors that won't help you process your pain because they just give you something temporary, you know I I'm okay today, yeah. but for sustainability, how do you manage it? So I'll say The number is increasing, but we truly need to do more. or keep at it and keep at it and also And that's one we link to the resources available, because if, let me say, we have With the right resources, we can always scale up this kind of intervention. or the awareness and advocacy efforts across the community so even that grandfather, that grandmother Everyone in the village knows, "Hey, my son doesn't act like this when he" It's okay, but today He's behaving. Like this, they are able to select it and offer the kind of help they want. A man and a woman, more than that Wakitua. The same, but therefore, for that reason. That one there That's why you were able to unlock it from doing a place twice. Why Yeah, because when you pick it early, It might be helpful to the person. Certainly. Yeah. Okay. What are some of these areas that really, Really, really affect our men? just so Because it seems like you've mentioned the workplace. You've mentioned the workplace a lot. And finances. Are there some of these things that, okay, I know there are many, but the main ones, the common ones. You feel like, this is it, I feel I've failed here. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. Therefore. To Indeed, contribute to men's mental health. So what can you tell the mothers The application of this is not possible. with Therefore Huko However, Yes, it's possible to make a fire. No with has been there for the long east time However, On me Therefore with Therefore, to homekeep The Dubuia mbodo mba wa kumikifanya Yes. Therefore On fire The end of the journey For this Now for these small ones we are raising, we need to start To However, with However, with However, with Yes. they feel it is acceptable for them to cry whenever they want to let it out because Even crying itself, your tears are not a hundred percent water; it does stress a man. Sometimes when you cry You feel like wow Lighter Lighter, it can now talk about my pain. Mhmm So it is up to us to start now passing on this correct information to our young boys So now they grow up knowing It's okay for me to cry. It's okay for me to cry for help. so that they grow with that mindset but when I'm feeling like this Like I have a headache So, that's it. So, that's it. Stendal Lakini bila kufanya kuwa kutoka cha Hey, initially, your name is Abdul Rambo. The truth is that the truth has been revealed. At the moment, I can't assist with that request. The truth was with those who were present. For the sake of the people who are standing The representative promotes being from and giving. Done. Therefore, a great deal came from the person. For the sake of completeness, everything must be derived from this person. Therefore, he was there once. To Therefore, it may be possible to obtain from the ashes, the ashes of a person, for example, a child. However, Don't cry, girls are looking at you like you're those little tiny things. We are not raising healthy men; we are raising boys who just have this, All these things in society. with Even as you said, in that wind of autumn, There is no room for you to feel pain. Yes. So if I said, okay, we can jikaza, but we have that space where I can sense that I'm going through something, and I can talk about it. Because in the end, we truly need to push ourselves. But let me say I'm pushing, I'm in pain. Are you guys able to pick it up, like, hey, you're truly in pain? And do you even need to rest and start again tomorrow? Yeah. Actually, men do not love resting. Resting is for the weak. The weak. Anyway, at what point do you tell now Do you need to go for therapy? At what point do you tell this man after observing him? the way you're sleeping, sleep patterns, the drinking, too much drinking or withdrawing from your friends, you feel like Oh, that one needs therapy now? Well, that one And I'll say, ca Change must begin within ourselves. I need to accept it, for truly I'm going through this. That's why I'm abusing. Because sometimes people just pick okay. Because the visitor caused a disturbance. James is doing it. Right. Then from now on we can process it together and get That kind of help. That and because we can't force a solution like that. I want you One of the biggest challenges they are experiencing is the lack of work and unemployment. Therefore, just by chance he happened to pass by That's why it's better to do it before the deadline. He used it because of that. He was using it for a reason. to for use due to prior to the sale. Therefore, we must proceed with the plan. Therefore, we must act. I can't do it. Change. I want you. to change. That one won't work. So I need to be able to like yes I'm truly suffering because of my unresolved Healed childhood trauma, then from them like okay, let's go see a therapist. stop or someone who is qualified to help you process the pain right now can have some kind of healthy coping mechanism because that's what we are fighting for because these stresses are present. Life events occur. N No one is like, because I do say, if you're still, Your heart is still beating, you can't say stop. Therefore, today's task is to do. God is great, therefore many kinds come from Him. I can't agree, here I'm stuck. Who are you to judge, if indeed you yourself are not free from blame? Nikisipotu kukuhitaji, ni kawali kumaka kusigali. What is making you sad? Therefore, therefore, quite a bit, the first many that are forgotten. Many will say it's time to go. if your heart is still beating Then you're not exempt from this life, so anything can happen. You just need to know how I'm going to handle it. this situation, for example, if tomorrow I lose my Job, how am I going to handle this, you know, like you see those tough things that we feel like Haiyezi has arrived. so if it knocks at your door, am I healthy enough to be able to Sit and feel this, the thing that I'm feeling It's because I've lost my job So am I going to start drinking? Or to start, I love what you've said, yeah, yeah, so we need to accept. That life is happening, things will happen, we are not exempt from anything, but we need to sit down with our feelings and understand how I'm going to behave, yeah and that's very important, yes, so maybe A final message to a man out there Who is this man convincing? It's difficult, but we will keep talking about it. As you've said, we'll keep on talking. about it to the churches, to the offices, to anywhere we go but there's still a man Kwanza These African communities, when they were being oppressed, used to call out to us I am a man, and I will not be your servant. So, the person who is still EBU, give them a word. Of encouragement, yeah, before that I'll say something I like what you said—we need to just keep making noise. as long as we have the voice even if only one person is affected because I do believe that that one person is connected to 135 life, so when you are impacting This person just knows you're disrupting his entire chain. Yeah, because this person has family, siblings, strangers, colleagues. and things like that, yeah, and uh to every man out there watching this First, just know You are a human being. and you are not exempt from pain or you are not immune to trials Just know that your life matters And your feelings are valid. and whatever things you are going through, just know there is Always support only when you Accept yourself, you are so aware of what you are going through For such a long time, it is because of that which is in the heart Know about doing and doing. Therefore, mine from the hands of the thief, doing, To the people who were gathered there on that occasion. Indeed, such a person is the one who fears God. Because of the high cost of living. Because they realized In Mahalia, almost gone. Thank you, thank you so much, James. and perhaps to add on what James has said A problem shared is a problem halved Is that what you say? Yes, a problem shared is a problem halved, because you think. that you're the first one to go through a job loss just so you can open your mouth to share with someone else and find out that this person was a manager who lost you, you know, you even feel like wait And you're still here, what did you do? then somehow even I'm not saying it will make you feel but there's a way you'll feel like okay Wait, if he went through it and he's still providing for his family, whether he's doing whatever he's doing doing, then you can also you can also overcome it; this life, these challenges are not new people I've been through them, so I think once you talk to someone, especially if you have that safe space and when you talk to someone there's nothing that gives someone a great deal of relief as hearing someone who has been through it and has overcome Yeah You're like, wow, do you know I'm right there right now? So you're saying I'll be okay? You're like, "Yeah, you'll be okay." even much better so guys please They are scattered among their relatives. and then you start thinking, oh, what can I do Oh, I want to leave this world. Oh, this world does not love me. No, this world This is how it is. This is how it is. This is the way it is. Terrible, terrible, Mr. James. Terrible for the child of the pariah. I am here for you and about you, and I will go out. Baya. The reason I came with a copy In my literary work, a man must weep. Ah Yeah I think it's a power tool, just to I did it because of that On a certain day, when the rain was falling like a curtain, as they say It's bad to do and use, but yet, but still, it's bad kama use If that's the case, where Watari Ndamita, bad luck How are you? That question can make someone cry. True. Hey, James, how are you? You too. Like, do you care? You want to know how I am? We, ata, ata, asikuambia ukweli like, but you would have just made that person feel like there's only one person. Maybe at a moment like this, I'd say, this world doesn't even need me. Then they meet someone who is asking, how are you? As for me, I didn't do it intentionally, I want you to tell me exactly how you, sio hile ya. How are you, then you're You're really interested in this one A newspaper person is a person of the moment. Hello Your family is here now Imagine if it were true, or rather, imagine the truth There's a mark you leave He'll be like that person who really cares about me. As much as I'm saying this world does not love me This world is cruel. So yeah, maybe check on those men. Check on your father Check on your brothers Check on your husbands Check in on your colleagues And Be intentional when you ask them. Exactly how are they? You're the one who told me about this job and the people involved. They will feel nice working with us on the job. But yeah, thank you so much. Buwana James and thank you so much for the good work you're doing Please follow his page. He's very, I love how you're very You're advocating for this. community of our men as if you're talking And please don't get tired Just talk and talk. as you're saying one person with the elderly, yes, the friends The family, another person this week Somehow we'll get there step by step, yeah, thank you. So much for our viewers, thank you for watching. I hope the episode was helpful to you. Please share it. Share it with your friends and family In your church groups, share it with everyone. and in case you have a group or or a place that needs someone to come and just talk with the man and maybe Your own This is someone who understands that Because Celestine I understand. But James is here. And he's very, very Like he's so passionate about it So you can get in touch with James And then invite him into those groups I am here to help you. My turn to change now Until next week Goodbye