Narcissistic Parents Provide Money But Not Love #npd #narcissist #pseudomutuality

What's up, everybody? It's a spiritual whistleblower here. How's everybody doing? I just want to say thank you to Memphis, Tennessee. We had a wonderful support group meetup last night. Beautiful. I didn't even realize I had at least two people following me out of Memphis. I had a really wonderful group of beautiful people come out last night, and I'm glad they all exchanged information and connected because that's the whole purpose, connecting empaths together um in the name of narcissistic abuse and bringing awareness so thank you again Memphis, I love you. Remember guys, Orlando, Florida and Miami, Orlando this Friday and Miami this Saturday if you want to come to the support group meet up, email me Chanel [email protected]. I will pin my email down below, I've also posted London, England. I'm flying to Europe next month, Saturday July 10th, we will have an outdoor picnic in Hyde Park in London I cannot wait, I'm excited. All my people in the United Kingdom, London, if you want to come to the outdoor picnic, it's free of charge. All you got to do is bring your food and your picnic blankets and we are going to meet and we're going to have a great discussion on narcissistic abuse and we're going to play my card game. Remember, I have a brand new card game, guys so I've been playing this game all the support group meetups, we played it last night in Memphis and Atlanta, so I can't wait to show you guys my brand new card game. Are you a narcissist? It's a card game to help you raise your discernment to weed out toxic people. All right, London, England, I got you guys. All right so um in this video I really want to um put out there um this pseudo mutuality word, I I you know which is it refers to a toxic family structure that you know on the outside they appear to be the perfect family loving supportive uh of each other uh they go to church they're well mannered well dressed it's all a fake facade but when they get you you know you see their behavior behind closed doors um they're going to reveal different things that are toxic uh incest domestic violence cheating infidelity um um you know overlooking aggressive violent behaviors teaching the children and grandchildren that toxic behavior is normal this is all done behind closed doors as pseudo-mutuality so you know going back to toxic parenting in this video I want to stress to a lot of people a lot of people don't even realize they were raised by a covert narcissistic mother or father in this video I'm going to give away one of the signs there's many signs but this is this is one this is a very big sign and I want you to pay close attention to me because this is one of the main reasons why we keep getting jumping in fucked up relationships with toxic people is because we're really dead we're getting in relationships with people that have the same personality type as mommy and daddy that's all it is you've transferred mommy and daddy's personality because it's identifiable identifiable and identical to the person you're in a relationship with you're in a relationship with your mother father because they've normalized their toxic behavior and you growing up didn't realize that their ---- was toxic so one thing that narcissistic parents um where they get to you know parenting fucked up they think it's good parenting when it's really ******* toxic toxic conditioning to keep passing this ---- down generation to generation uh one of the main signs that your mother fathers are narcissists is they they they were financially uh you know they might have provided financially i put a roof over your head i put food on the table food and refrigerator clothes on your back and they leave it at that they think because they provided financially that that makes them an excellent parent all the while they skip out on providing you the emotional nurturing you need the emotional support you need um they don't know how to have talks they don't know how to respect you as a child children also deserve respect okay children are to be respected you are to teach children how to have self-love how to have boundaries how to have their own high self-esteem how to value themselves a toxic narcissistic parent does not do any of that all they know is financial support i put a roof over your head i put clothes on your back i put food on the table and that's it all that other emotional ---- you're not going to get it if you cry if you show signs of weakness you get you get your face slapped you get beat they they use whooping and beating to resolve everything because they don't know how to ******* communicate they don't know how to be emotionally supportive they they invalidate their children how many y'all cried and you was told stop all that crying for i give you something to cry about stop all that crying for i'll beat you some more that was their solution to solving the emotional problems of the child they taught us to repress our emotions and this is why we have two types of people in this world both types are broken the first type is us empaths when we are taught at an early age that our emotions and any sign of weakness is not accepted in the family we're forced to repress it so what do we do we repress it and we grow up and we turn around and we seek love by by jumping in abusive relationships repeating the cycle and looking for love from someone that doesn't know how to love an abuser a predator a manipulator, a narcissist then then there's the other type of broken child that's the child that grows up to become another abuser, another narcissist so the result of a toxic parent denying their child the emotional nurturing the emotional support, um, the love, the things that a child needs to grow emotionally, a narcissistic mother and father will not give that to the child and the crazy ---- is when the narcissistic mother and father, when you become an adult and you start questioning like, mom, dad, why didn't you do things a certain way, they're gonna get, they're gonna get an attitude, well I did the best I could, you had a roof over your head, didn't you? you had food to eat, didn't you? you had clothes on your back, I made sure you had sneakers, that's all they're gonna throw at you, I provided, well motherfuckers, you're supposed to ******* provide, you create a child, it is your obligation to be financially responsible, okay, it's not meant for you to throw it in the child's face because your dumb ass don't know how to communicate, your dumb ass uses violence to resolve every issue in the ******* in the household because you don't know how to be loving supportive, your child is breaking their neck to to to prove to you you know they get good grades so they try to be overachievers that's why we turn, I'm an overachiever because all my life I've tried to impress my mother and she never gave a **** about anything I did I was always trying to fight for her attention her validation. Mom, look what I did. Mom, no she didn't give a ****. She totally invalidated me. She was jealous. Same thing with my father, he hid his jealousy very well but eventually it came out your narcissistic parents don't give a **** about your accomplishments. They want to control you and they want to control your money, that's all they care about. And if they can't control you, they honestly will not give a **** about your achievements unless they can tie their name to your achievements and brag and clout chase off your motherfucking achievements that's the only time they'll care but growing up they will invalidate the **** out of you. You're gonna notice mom and dad yeah they provided financially but also there is an emotional disconnect. If your parents ain't if they out in the streets all the time working two and three jobs or entertaining side chicks or a whole nother family, your parents are narcissistic, there is no emotional connection. All they are doing is providing financially y'all got it fucked up. Just because your parents provided and paid for and bought you things they might have spoiled you, that's another way, another sign of a narcissistic parent, they will spoil the child to maintain control and this continues into adulthood. Some of y'all are still allowing your parents to buy you ----. Some of y'all still allowing your parents to pay your car note, they buy your car and they pay the car note because they're controlling you, that's how they control you as an adult. You have no business let mommy daddy pay for ---- you should be paying for everything, everything should be in your name. You should be 100% financially independent of your parents because narcissistic parents will they will give you money they'll give you a down payment on your house all that's to control into your adulthood they want to keep they want to have have some sort of enmeshment entanglement into your adulthood i do not want no parts of my parents money if they die i don't want ---- out of their will i don't want nothing because it's not genuine it's not from the heart it's all about control just because your parents provided financially is not a reason for them to throw it in your face to justify well i did the best i could no a good parent uh healthy parenting means being emotionally supportive of your children it means nurturing it means not using your hands or a ******* belt out of frustration because you don't know how to communicate with your child you demand respect or else you'll beat it out of your child but you don't want to give your child respect and then when they become adults and they don't want to have ---- to do with you yeah that you're the cause of that how you raise your children if you're toxic just know that ----'s coming back around to bite you in your ass you are going to be old you're going to be in the nursing home one day and you're going to need your children the same children you ---- it on that's what they don't understand they're so ******* delusional they worried about the right now they don't think about the future they don't think about long term they're going to need somebody to wipe their ass and push them around in the wheelchair the same children they ---- it on so i want to confirm in this video if your parents were there financially but there was no connection emotionally they were distant they were gone all the time they didn't show love they weren't supportive um listen incoming call phone call completed sorry that's my girlfriend calling i gotta go Janelle's iPhone X is connected. 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