Stop Explaining Yourself When the Narcissist Demands Answers! #npd #narcissist #narcabuse

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here. I'm about to whip out maybe two more videos. This is a very busy week for me. I will be in Chicago and Detroit this weekend for Labor Day. Holla! Chi-Town, y'all are buying them tickets up. Detroit, y'all need to step it up because Chi-Town got y'all. They whooping y'all. They getting tickets y'all. So Chicago is this Saturday, September 3rd and then Detroit is Sunday, September 4th. I will be there in person signing books, having cocktails. My sponsor is going to provide the pink whistle teeny pink cocktails for my event. We're going to have food. You know, we're going to talk that narcissistic abuse talk. I'm going to answer all y'all questions. Chi-Town and Detroit. I'll see y'all this weekend. All right. I'm going to whip out two more videos tonight because after today, your girl going to be busy. I got to get ready. I got a flight to catch Friday. You know, girl stay busy and on the go i do this for y'all i do this for the love of freeing people and healing people in the name of christ okay um this topic of this video because i said i was gonna do two tonight today earlier today i talked about how you can spot a narcissist in a group of friends right and y'all y'all y'all turned up in the comments because y'all you know people all around especially tiktok people like can you please talk more about toxic friends can you please talk about narcissistic friendships and I never do but I will y'all I promise I will um have I had toxic friendships absolutely and um back in the day before I started getting into this narcissistic abuse stuff and helping people I mishandled um the way that I should have um handled the way somebody mishandled me so in other words when I exposed a toxic friend amongst me or amongst a friend of a group of friends I would go looking for answers I would confront the person I would tell you know and it all turned out bad it all turned out bad every last time I you every person that crossed me and I confronted it turned out bad nobody admitted to doing nothing wrong they spun it around on me it just I learned a very valuable lesson from confronting narcissistic people you can't confront a narcissist on the ---- that they did to you and they know what they ******* did to you but if you dare call them out for it trust and believe they're going to spin it around and then they're going to gaslight the **** out of you they're going to bait you into an argument they're going to spin it and then they're going to run to the rest of the group of friends and they're going to say well she did this and she did this to me i'm they're going to play the victim card so i learned a lot of lessons back in the day as it stands right now today if anyone is a friend or calls themselves a friend of mine and I peep some toxic narcissistic behavior now I'm the type of person I'm not going to to um cut you off at first I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt but I'm I'm I'm gonna watch you I'm gonna study you the moment you do something that says uh-oh red flag then I gotta determine if you're a full-blown narcissist or if you you just are exhibiting the traits and that's why i have to study if this is a pattern of it uh is this a pattern of behavior or is this a one-time incidental type of thing because we all slip we all we all um fall short sometimes and i do believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt but if i'm studying you after you fucked up the first time with me and then you keep doing it i see a consistent pattern of toxic behavior i'm gonna tell y'all something i get so motherfucking triggered and uneasy and that's just the spirit that's god saying you are you you got a demon amongst you spirit will tell you listen to your gut if something does not feel right listen to your gut and the first piece of advice i give you don't go and gossip to your friends don't don't don't don't you ain't got to do a smear campaign actually that's what this video is about smear campaigns when somebody crosses you a friend whoever backstabs you and you want to expose them so bad amongst the group of your friends or your family or whoever or co-workers don't expose them don't go on no smear campaign and i'm gonna tell you why the first reason is it's going to backfire on you because that narc is going to twist they're going to spin the narrative they're going to play the victim they're going to make it about them and they they have they have a way of convincing people that you're the problem that you're the narcissist oh trust they will do that the best piece of advice do not go on no smear campaign whatever the narcissist does in this case you're gonna have to do the opposite narcissist will listen they will smear you they may not do it today but they're gonna slip up they're gonna they're gonna talk ---- they're gonna throw shade and stuff don't do that you cut them off you tell your friends and family listen y'all can continue to deal with this individual i'm not and people are gonna be like well what happened tell me what happened what why what did he do what would she do what are you you don't need to know why god knows why i stand firm my intuition stands firm listen don't don't don't bring me no messages that he or she said i don't give a **** if they talk ---- about me don't don't if they got something to say to me don't pass no messages because then i'm gonna have to cut you off the middleman don't bring it to me I stand firm and I'm gonna tell y'all something when y'all develop your spiritual discernment you are one powerful ************ can nobody sit here and tell me about my discernment my discernment is nothing to **** with if I see that somebody's toxic if I see that there's an undercover covert narcissist somebody dirty around me but they look like a saint to everybody else i'm gonna get the **** away i'm gonna cut that bitch off you know i'm not gonna bad mouth i'm not gonna smear and i advise you don't don't smear them you don't have to because i guarantee you once you remove yourself out that picture you remove yourself from the group of friends you remove yourself from the family the co-workers remove yourself out of that toxic environment where the narcissist the narcissist is always going to charm everybody they're always going to be the life of the party they're going to be they have the gift of gab let them do what they do amongst y'all friends and whoever else let them shine because baby when I tell you that pattern of behavior will always repeat itself what you do when you remove yourself from out the picture and you block the narc on everything every social media phone everything block them on everything what you have done is you have now forced the narcissist to go back to the drawing board and he has to rethink his game plan because now he you gotta remember narcissists everybody that that everybody that the narcissist interacts with personally friendships what have you they're using you as a pawn piece they use people and play people against each other they use people for money they use people for for ego what have you clout what have you they use people for different reasons so that narcissist whether it be a friend or whoever they were using you for whatever reason you remove yourself cut that narc off what you have done now is you force the narcissist to go back to the drawing board he has to come up with a new game plan that does not involve you this is why they try so hard to reel you back in this is why they call a group of friends they'll be they'll be trying to cry in front of your friends and use and use your friends to reel you back in and make you feel guilty for cutting them off **** that ---- stand 10 toes down on your ******* gut your intuition **** what anybody say when God speaks to you when your gut and intuition is telling you this ************ is no good they're a demon you better listen you better ******* listen that is God speaking to you your friends will learn over a period of time you gotta just let time do its job let time do you ain't gotta expose ---- you ain't gotta do no smear campaign you ain't got a bad mouth them to other people or friends don't do none of that remove yourself and move in silence remove yourself out of that group of friends remove yourself out of the family structure remove yourself out of the co-workers just get out of get out of there move in silence mind your business don't even spread no gossip people gonna come to you like well what happened between y'all and what you don't need to know that you What am I going to sit up here and tell you what so-and-so did to me just so you can go back and tell so-and-so. And then so-and-so is going to get, that narc is going to, so-and-so is the narcissist. So-and-so, the narcissist is going to get pissed off. They're going to play victim. I was just a liar No, it didn't happen that way. They're going to gaslight. They're going to spin the narrative and it's going to be nasty and messy. You tell people, I'm done. I'm done with that situation. i have nothing negative to say i just want to move on i want to be left the **** alone i'm not passing no messages and i don't want nobody passing on messages to me because that's what the narc will do the narc the first thing the narc will do when you cut him off is send the flying monkeys the flying monkeys will be delivering messages and ---- and trying to guilt you and make you feel bad for **** that do not you got to shut it down don't pass no no messages i don't want to hear ---- you're not going to hear ---- out of me leave me alone let me move on in peace God told me to disconnect God told me this person was no good yes I know everybody loves the narcissist the narcissist is a charmer he's a the life of the party he has gift the gab and and he's everybody likes it I don't give a **** what everybody said all I care about is what God told me what did my intuition tell me stand 10 toes down on what your gut is telling you and what you feel very strongly and don't you dare explain yourself there's a moment you start explaining yourself you you done lost I can't stand when people try to make me don't make me explain myself I said what I said I stand firm on what I said and that's it I'm not explaining the decisions I make I did all that in the past it got me nowhere explaining yourself to toxic people will get you no ******* where they will want an explanation well why did you do that why you cut why'd you cut me off why did you block me do not explain i said what the **** i said i did what i did that's the end of that take it or leave it leave me alone have a nice life i don't wish you no harm i don't wish you no bad you'll never hear me spread gossip about you or smear you but bitch i guarantee you will because it's in your nature to be a messy gossiping bitch that's why I stop ******* with you. I watch how you move. You move like a snake. You're one way when you're around everybody. And you're a different way when you're with this one and this one and this one. You're inconsistent with your behavior with certain people. And I peep that. And I don't want to be around people like that. And I don't have to confront you to let you know that. All I got to do is get the **** away from you. And there's some nonverbal communication that'll let you know that I'm on to your ----. And I'm done with you. you ain't gonna **** over me or use me go play with somebody else and if y'all think i'm lying i want you to go to youtube put in the search engine type in the search engine should you confront a narcissist on their behavior should you call a narcissist out watch how many videos come out doctors therapists dr romany um um rebecca zung the lawyer um all the licensed therapist every last video is going to say do not confront them on their behavior it is pointless and I'm going to tell you one other reason why you should not tell them that you're on to them the narcissist wants to know so bad how did you ******* figure them out what was it that they did that you peeped everybody else didn't see but you saw something that they did that was really snake like and the narcissist is going to sit there like damn how did she figure me out damn I need to know because i i'm slipping i gotta up my game i gotta up my manipulation so they the narcissist is going to want to seek answers out of you what did i do wrong to you what did you do what did it no you don't give it to him you let the narc stay paranoid you keep him guessing you cutting him off is enough to let him know bitch i see you you ain't you you you can't run no game on me i know you and i see you for who the **** you are you don't need to know the details of why the **** i cut you off or why I blocked you just know me pulling away that's that's that's my answer right there I'm not about to give you the ******* blueprint so that you can cover your tail a little a little bit better with other people I'm not fitting to give you the blueprint so that you can up your manipulation with other people I'm gonna let you stay paranoid and scared I'm gonna let your brain wonder I know you ain't ---- and that's all you need to know I gotta drop a third video I'll see y'all later. Chicago, Detroit, get them tickets. Spiritual whistleblower. Love y'all.