Denying Access to the Narcissist #npd #narcissist #narcabuse

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here. I hope you all had a safe and wonderful Memorial Day. I know I did. I'm about to head back home to New York City. I have a super busy schedule this week. Before I get into this video, you guys, I am going on tour this summer. I've posted my calendar, but I am adding dates in June and July. So I'm scheduling my international dates to London and Paris, and I'm also looking at Miami and Memphis for June. So y'all stay tuned for that. But definitely July, I will be in D.C. and Philly. August 21st, I will be in Los Angeles with a very special guest, Aaliyah Taylor. Aaliyah is a young lady who survived domestic violence at the hands of her ex-boyfriend, Chad Wheeler. He was in the NFL. He played for the Seattle Seahawks. And she's going to be joining me in L.A. to tell her story. And we're going to talk about coercive control and what lawmakers are doing to make changes in certain states. So L.A., those tickets are on sale now for Los Angeles, L.A., Sunday, August 21st, guys. um what else what else um labor day weekend september 3rd september 4th i will be in chicago and detroit and then september 24th which is a saturday i will be in toronto canada my first time in toronto and then october 1st houston texas i will not be in dallas or anywhere else if you want to see me i will be in houston that's my only stop in texas y'all i have a very busy year so that's October 1st email me at chaneljasmin at gmail.com to get your tickets to join my tour coming to a city near you guys all right let me say this real quickly just a friendly reminder that the the only way that you can shut down a narcissist is to destroy their access to you and I think a lot of people get it twisted and confused they think just going no contact is enough no no contact is just the tip of the iceberg because when you go no contact with a narcissist he or she will look for other ways other alternative ways to get to you be that through a mutual friend and be that through a mutual family member through your exes they will reconnect with your co-workers they will find they will stalk your social media and go through your friends list and inbox people you know they will catfish people they are very slick and um the obsession to cyberstalk you from from fake pages it it doesn't go away um what i want to reiterate to you all is a lot what i see a lot of people doing is they will physically relocate move into a new house move to another city and stay far away to get away from their toxic abusive family members, their toxic exes, and that's all well and good. You have physically distanced yourself from the narcissist. But a lot of you think, well, I'm not changing my phone number. I'm just going to block. I'm not going to get off my Facebook. I'm just going to block them from watching my Facebook. Let me make you understand something. Even though you may have physically relocated and removed yourself from the presence of being around the narcissist whether it's your narcissistic mother father siblings your exes your baby daddy baby mama if they say if that individual still has your phone number and they're able to text you and you have not blocked them they don't give a **** if you respond or not they just they're excited and they have the pleasure of knowing that you have not shut their access off they know you're reading those text messages whether you decide to respond or not the abusive part is them being able to access you so that you can read the text you're still being emotionally abused whether you respond or not whether you block or not they know you're reading the text message this is what I keep telling y'all and drilling it into y'all head that trauma bond is still in place that emotional stronghold that demonic stronghold is still fastened and in place because you refuse to cut off the access. Moving is one part. Moving, relocating, physically removing yourself is just one component of detaching yourself from the trauma bond, breaking yourself away from the trauma bond. You destroy a narcissist by cutting off their access, not just by blocking. You block them, they'll find another way to get around the blocked. You must communicate to them with your actions that you have no more access. You bother me again, I'll go to the police and get a restraining order. Your actions need to communicate to the narcissist that he or she has no more access. Not, oh, well, I cut you off, but you're still able to text me and I'll decide whether or not I respond. That's not going to get it. The narcissist doesn't care about you going silent or not responding. All the narcissist cares about is that they they have access to you a lot of y'all are in denial and delusional and you think oh well I went no contact I'm in control of the text messages you know I know as long as they are able to access you as long as you're able to read the text messages you can sit there and be silent all you want thinking you're in control no you're not in control that narcissist is still controlling you because they have access. It's not no contact. It is the access. When you shut off the narcissist access to you, your life, communication, when you shut down the access 100%, when you are fully 100% independent of the narcissist financially, emotionally, spiritually, 100% independent, do you hear me? That is when you are in control of your life. So I'm going to let some of y'all know yeah it's good and all that you relocated packed your ---- moved to another city and state but some of y'all still refuse to disconnect permanently from your toxic ass family there's no way in the world that your family members should have access to you all they're gonna do is be ******* nosy all in your business they're gonna hate on you spread gossip on you and you're sitting there thinking you're in control no they as long as they have access to text you and you're able to read them text messages, they're running the show. They're running the show. They're reinforcing that trauma bond, oh, he ain't cut me off. She ain't cut me off. Oh, well, they ain't got to respond. I know they're reading the text message. That's good enough for me. Yeah, they're still emotionally abusing you through text messages, through Facebook Messenger. Y'all got to wake up and understand how the narcissist gets down. It's not no contact, but it's no contact plus access denied and that has to be communicated through your actions not verbally they will not listen to you if you verbally express to them leave me the **** alone any type of verbal communication from you is narcissistic supply even if you're cussing them out it has to be your actions to shut everything down it has to be your actions to have them served with a restraining order so they understand there's consequences for them violating you texting you inboxing you it's up to you y'all I'm gonna keep drilling it in your head my family members have zero access to me they can stalk me and lurk on social media all the **** they want they know not to have no communication that communication will be met with severe consequences and that is how you reinforce your boundaries to a narcissist you shut their access off to you not just it's not just about going no contact it's about shutting their access off a hundred percent all right so on that note um look for a lot of announcements i'm going on tour this summer internationally and um you know i'm visiting the major cities this year guys um dc philly um looking at london england i'm looking at uh chicago detroit and houston texas and toronto canada all right and i'm looking i'm trying in june the end of june i'm trying to get memphis tennessee and miami florida i'll let you guys know love you guys email me at chanel jasmine at gmail.com for tickets and i got nine books on sale on amazon on narc abuse they're all doing very well thank y'all for the continued support love you guys