HOW TO TEST YOUR FRIEND FOR NARCISSISTIC ABUSE #narcissist #narcabuse #npd #narc #shanquellarobinson

Hey guys, spiritual whistleblower here with another video on narcissistic personality disorder. Yesterday I put up a video, um, telling you do not go on vacation with narcissists. Uh, there's a national story, very, very sad story. A young lady by the name of Shanquilla Robinson was murdered allegedly uh and on vacation she went with six friends um male and female both went on this trip and um i guess within 24 hours uh there was an altercation of some sort of fight and um from what the new information keeps coming out every day but um it appears she fought one one woman, but there are other reports that there were other women that fought her and she was body slammed onto the bed, the corner of the bed, which is how she broke her spine and her, her, um, her skull dislocated from her spine. She has a fractured spine, which is horrible. So, um, I just want to say in my video where, you know, yesterday I'm talking about never go on vacation with a narcissist. I did say she was a transgender man. Now I'm getting different reports that it was actually a woman then I'm also hearing that it was a lesbian trans man so I'm going to recant my statement that it was a transgender man and I'm going to hold off till the FBI puts it out there but if you do look at the pictures I can understand why people would call her a man she's very manly looking she and there's actually photos circulating on the internet of her you know as a man bald-headed and pictures of her dressed up as a woman so I don't know who is who is what is what so you know a lot of people are saying it's a transgender woman which is a you know which means she was born a man and then there are other reports that it's an actual woman she's just really manly looking either way it's a horrible story there is no reason why you should go on vacation with a group of people and you come back not friends not alive anything anything negative that takes place on a vacation in a group setting means you have a narcissist one or two amongst the group because they cause chaos on vacations they're messy they're shady they're two-faced they're backstabbers they're constantly trying to throw you underneath the bus and when you're on vacation you're happy and they hate seeing you happy they loathe and despise you And no matter how hard they try to cover up their hatred for you, go on vacation with them. I guarantee some point during the vacation, it might be the first day. It might be the third day. They're going to ******* slip up and show their true colors. They're going to do something to humiliate you, embarrass you, jab at you, throw you underneath the bus to the other friends. They're going to slip up and do something. raise your discernment and pay attention because when people show you who they are show you you better believe them the first time and cut them get rid of them i don't play them ******* games so with that video that i released yesterday about not going on vacation with narcissists i got a lot of feedback people want to know how can you um figure out if your friend if you have a group of friends or you have one friend how can you tell if they're a narcissist or not so in this video I'm going to give you I don't usually share this knowledge because this is I'm going to be a professional certified mental health professional long term that is a long-term goal of mine I'm working on it right now and I'm going to be one of the best in the ******* nation I put that on everything I speak and manifest that I don't play games with these ******* demons I've had many of them confront me, befriend me, come to my seminars, pretending to be a man and woman of God, pretending to be an empath and they were ******* wicked and deceptive to their core and they thought I would not figure them out and I always do. I always do. This video, I'm going to help you raise your discernment. This is something that these life coaches should be teaching y'all. These experts, I'm a drop some real game in this video. I'm going to give you a way that you can figure out if you suspect that you have a friend or multiple friends that are narcissists. I'm going to give you some game to figure it out in this video. You may not be a psychiatrist. You may not be a psychologist. You may not be a therapist. You might be in college studying psychology, but this surefire way, you cannot go wrong. And don't be afraid to let go of that friendship. A lot of y'all are scared. You bite your tongue because you're scared to step on people's toes you're afraid to hurt feelings you better learn to protect your spirit your soul your your health because you keep somebody like this in your life they will ******* destroy you start speaking up for yourself and cut the nonsense out and stop being scared to be independent and single and happy standing on your own two feet get that codependent ---- out your system now y'all ready to learn something today how to test your friend for NPD, narcissistic personality disorder. This is my method. This is a foolproof method that I have used and it never fails me. You're welcome to use it. Um, again, this is a, a, a, um, I want to say sort of like an exercise to help you build your discernment, raise your spiritual discernment. This is what works for me. It has worked year after year after year, foolproof plan okay and i get them right out i get them right out of my life asap um how to test your friend for narcissistic personality disorder okay and this is based on my findings i don't know about anybody else yes there are several videos out there i love dr romney and others follow their content they have different techniques and stuff but this is what works for me and i'm gonna share it with you. Number one, give them a warning. If you know, and a small disclaimer, this is not a test for you to, to see if your friends are narcissists. If your friend has not done anything to you, don't go testing them. Don't bother your friend. Don't go picking them apart. Don't go police them. Don't, this is not a test to see if your friends are narcissists. It's a test to see whether or not your friend if they have been behaving in different ways if you've noticed a pattern of behavior do this test if they haven't done anything to you pump your brakes this is not the time to test them don't go looking for problems don't go looking for drama but if they have been doing little things and every time they do something you get this little funny feeling in your gut your intuitions bother you but you keep ignoring your intuition because you love your friends so much and you don't want to think bad of them this is the test here you must see a pattern of toxic behavior and if you haven't called out this behavior because you're fearful of hurting your friend you're fearful of losing that friendship, you're trauma-bonded to your friend because your friend is a narcissist and they've successfully groomed and trauma-bonded you and here you are scared to open your mouth and call them out on their bullshit, so this test is going to help you. Okay. So if you notice out the gate that there is pattern of behavior and you're just too scared to call it out, call it out. Number one is give them a warning. And when I say give them a warning, you may want to pull them to the side and say, Hey friend, I've noticed some things and I'm not comfortable with it. Talk to them in a loving manner. Either they're going to get offended, which is narcissistic. Or if they claim that, "Oh, I'm sorry. Okay. I won't do it" again and you give them another chance to benefit of the doubt, you're going to watch for patterns you've given your friend a warning, you've told them how you feel, now it's time to shut your mouth and just watch their pattern of behavior if they're a narcissist they will slip up and repeat the behavior, I promise you now the other option this is, this is my preferred option, okay don't give them a warning at all. No warning. This is my preference right here. The reason why I say if you suspect you suspect your friend is a narcissist, you're seeing constant patterns of different behavior. You just haven't called it out yet. My preference is not to give them a warning. And I'll tell you why. Warning a narcissist is like giving them the blueprint to up their games, you're letting them know that you're on to them being a toxic individual and one thing narcissists hate is to be exposed so you have to remember that a narcissist has a tit for tat competitive mentality, they're jealous and envious of you, they're in constant competition you're not aware that they're competing with you but in their minds they don't like you, they're jealous, they're envious and they're competing with you and they're going to go tit for tat So if you say right, they're definitely going to go left to spite you. If you say I'm going left, the narcissist is going to go right to spite you. So you telling them, "Hey, I noticed something, you know, this what" you're doing over here is really bothering me and you need to stop. Now in their minds, the manipulator that they are, oh, ----, she's catching on to me. I've got to find another way to ******* keep digging at her. I just can't use that way anymore. But I'm a getter. I'm going to try to out manipulate and try something else over here. You're handing the narcissist the blueprint. You're never supposed to let them know that you're onto them. You're never supposed to let them know. And if you call them out for being a narcissist or if you say, hey, friend, you're doing narcissistic things, they're going to deny it. Narcissists never hold themselves accountable for being narcissistic. My preference is don't call them out. Don't give them no warning. I simply just sit back very quietly. I put on a poker face and I just watch for pattern of behavior, a consistent pattern of toxic behavior, different events when they get around people and when they're not around people, when they're at, you know, y'all go on vacation. Vacation is an excellent time to spot this covert behavior because they cannot help themselves. They hate happy people. And where else can you go to be happy but a vacation? I promise you they will slip up on vacation. You have to watch them in different scenarios, in different settings, when they're around a group of friends and when they're just alone with you compare the behavior is their behavior consistent when they're with you and with their with their friends or do they switch up when they get around friends do they switch up on you when other people around you've got to really turn turn your discernment up and just watch patterns very carefully don't let your friend know you're on to them just watch them they will tell on themselves that behavior is going to expose itself so that's number three number three that i have marked here is watch for a pattern of toxic behavior when you have felt strongly inside that there is an established toxic continued pattern behavior whether it's them ghosting you whether it's you texting them and then they not responding and purposely ignoring you and getting back to you the next day they do little ---- to **** with you and you know that you've been nothing but a great friend to them and there's you find that they're doing little ---- to **** with your mind you're not crazy start trusting your intuition when you notice that there's been a pattern it's time to block you don't warn them you don't give them a warning that you're going to block them, you just cut and dry cold turkey block the **** out of them it works like a charm for me, I don't give warnings, I watch and I see a continued pattern of toxic behavior, you're messy, you're gossipy, you're two-faced, you're shady, you try to throw people underneath the bus, you try to talk about this person to this person in your group of friends you try to turn people against each other, you're a messy ************, I've seen enough, what I need to confront you for, I'm gonna just cut you, block them and this is what that narcissist is going to do, this fake friend that's about to expose themselves if they're not a narcissist, they're not going to tell your other friends, they're going to try to resolve this very peacefully they're going to reach out to you if you block them on phone and stuff they may reach out to you via email and very peacefully try to resolve things. Hey, I don't know what I did. Please talk to me. I'm so sorry. Our friendship means everything. That empathy is going to come out. That's what a true empath, an empath is constantly going to be accountable for their behavior. Even if they don't feel like they've done anything wrong, they want to salvage the friendship by any means. Now, if this individual is a narcissist, they're going to immediately reach out to the other friends and smear you. They're going to disrespect you. They're going to call you names to your other friends. They're going to try to turn your other friends against you. It never fails. I don't care who the narcissist is in your life. I dare you to cut your toxic mama off. I dare you to cut your toxic daddy, your siblings off. I dare you to cut your boyfriend off. I dare you to cut your girlfriend off. What do they do? They go to your friends. They go to your family. They'll go to your adult children. They try to turn your people against you. That's rule number one, in the narcissist it's textbook, their playbook is textbook, they will turn the very people close to you against you, they will attempt to, and this is where you will find out who's really on your side and who's not, if any of your mutual friends believes this toxic individual and goes goes against you then your friends are now exposing themselves to be narcissistic too, you got to get rid of everybody, a smear campaign, a smear campaign is a blessing. It is hurtful, yes, but what it does to expose the people that agrees with the narcissist that is smearing you. So now you get the clean house and get rid of everybody. Your true friends will be revealed when the narcissist reaches out to all your other friends and tries to smear you and talk ---- about you and throw you underneath the bus. If your friends don't stand up for you and stick up for you, get rid of them. They should be able to shut the narcissist down and say, hey, I'm out of this. This is between you and her. I'm not getting involved. Don't try to drag me in this. I love her too. And you're not going to turn me against. your friends should be on that same ******* energy and shut that narcissist down so the narcissist will turn to your friends turn them against you attempt to or they will just disappear and do the silent treatment and try to pop back up spontaneously at some point down the line and try to act like nothing even ******* happened to see if you're still mad at them, don't ever talk to this person ever again, stop doubting your judgment, raise your discernment, get those toxic fake friends out of your life, thank me later, drop me a comment down below, let's talk about it I want y'all to stay narcissistic free I love y'all, this has been a spiritual whistleblower