WHY DO YOUR SIBLINGS HATE YOU? #npd #narcissist #narcissisticabuse

y'all spiritual whistleblower here we're getting close to the new year how's everybody doing i'm doing fabulous it's sunday and i'm in the park i really enjoy um you know sitting in the park and watching nature it's so peaceful and calming so i have a few video ideas um and i'm keeping it on the topic of toxic family narcissistic family so um i want to address in this video i have like three hot topics um this morning i want to talk about your siblings this video is for somebody struggling to cut off their sibling whether that sibling is your brother or your sister i'm going to explain to you why you have to cut off your siblings you have to sever ties you have to end the relationship permanently i know it's painful i know you struggle with this but you have to understand that your siblings hate you you don't understand your siblings have been groomed and trained since birth to be your enemy and the programming the toxic programming that your parents have done to your siblings that programming is so deep is so embedded in the brain the way that their brains are wired they're never going to to break free from it they're not so in my case I have a brother and a sister I have no relationship with either of my siblings does it make me sad on certain days it does make me sad because we all could be so close and tight-knit we could be loving each other and having family gatherings of our own with our children but that is impossible because both of my parents are narcissists and when you have a narcissistic parent they do this thing amongst their children called triangulation and this is a lifelong thing they've been doing this since y'all were little children playing y'all against each other playing favorites so in my case i'm gonna tell y'all how my mother and father triangulated my siblings against me. With my mother, she triangulated my sister against me and my brother. She played favorites. My sister is her favorite and always has been. This has been since birth. And she had no problem rubbing it in me and my brother's face, making us feel small, making us feel insignificant in comparison to my sister. I can recall a time, you know, my sister i believe she has adhd she she absolutely behaves like it i remember a time my sister was like seven years old and she would just tear her bedroom up and i now know that's that's a sign of adhd people with adhd even adults with adhd they they can have a spotless room and then completely destroy the room they'll they'll be clothes and stuff everywhere because that's how their brain is wired to mess up their bedroom so my sister would have this actually happened there was a time where she messed up her bedroom it was super junky clothes and toys everywhere my mother would not make her clean it up we were in high school at the time was she she was in middle school so she might have been like 11 or 12 at the time I forget we were in South Carolina this happened in South Carolina there's so many things I can so many incidents of abuse I could be on here all day talking about it but we're in South Carolina we all had our own bedrooms my sister tore her bedroom up my mother would not make her clean up her room my mother made me and my brother clean up her room and if we talked back or had an issue my mother would beat the **** out of me and my brother and I would always wonder like why does my sister get away with so much why do you favor her so much why do you put her on a pedestal and ---- on me and my brother at the time I didn't understand but now she was triangulating triangulation causes division amongst the children in a narcissistic household. And the reason why a narcissistic parent triangulates their children and pits them against each other is a control issue. If she can play her children against each other and keep them all insecure, they will compete with each other for her validation and her approval. So if she's playing favorites with my sister, she thinks it will make me and my brother want to fight for her approval fight for her validation fight for her love fight for the same treatment as my baby sister and this is the most toxic unhealthy form of parenting it is disgusting when I see parents do this all of your children should be treated equally not one better than the other but my mother did this the entire time she bullied the **** out of me and my brother and she my sister was her baby her little crimpet that could do no ******* wrong her little crimpet who could escape accountability when she should be disciplined I'll give y'all another example this was back when her and my father were together and we were living out of motels and I remember a Christmas this is another form of triangulation there was one Christmas where she called herself punishing me and my baby brother there was a Christmas tree we even though we were living in a motel there was a Christmas tree and all the toys under the tree were for my sister me and my brother did not get anything we had to sit there and watch my sister open up her gifts my mother was an evil ******* bitch and see she'll probably sit up and play dumb right now and act like she has amnesia she doesn't remember I remember everything honey and so does my brother if I called my brother right now we would run down an entire long long list honey a long list of abusive incidents evil ass ---- that this bitch has done to us the bitch is a demon in a dress she can play like she don't recall or don't remember half the ---- your children don't forget honey your children have kept score of every evil ******* thing you've done and yes there was a time during Christmas we were living out the motel and my mother punished me and my brother by not buying us any gifts everything under the tree was for my baby sister we had to sit there and watch my sister enjoy her gifts open up her gifts and have a wonderful Christmas and we got nothing evil ******* bitch that is a form of triangulation making us feel insignificant in comparison to my sister and um what that does it's about control my it makes my mother feel in control to to divide her children up and play them against each other to make one feel better than the other and make the other children that's how you build insecurities in your children by the way That's how you break your children's self-esteem and then when they grow up and become adults and you sit back and watch them get in one abusive relationship with one person, that's because you have set the bar very low. Our parents are our first bullies. Your mama, if she's verbally abusing you and making your siblings feel special and playing favorites and making you feel insignificant, she is destroying your self-esteem and she is creating insecurities in you at a very young age. she's setting you up to fail in life so when you become an adult you'll tolerate poor treatment from abusive people all that starts in childhood and i blame my ******* mother and father for the triangulation the triangulation does not stop in childhood it continues into adulthood but let me just finish this it's about control making your children compete for your validation making your children compete for your love keeping them divided up gossiping about all of them behind their backs to one another really demonic but see satan satan is the author of confusion if you read the bible satan uses triangulation all the time to divide and conquer people first corinthians chapter 14 33 i believe y'all can correct me if i'm wrong but i believe it's first corinthians chapter 14 33 for god is not the author of confusion our father above wants us always to walk in peace to have clarity god does not operate out of confusion the devil does the the devil uses confusion to divide people up as a means to control and this is what we call triangulation triangulation is in the bible how many stories of triangulation are in the bible Cain and Abel is another one what's sad is that the sibling that is the favorite grows up being a narcissist your mother and father will train their favorite child to be a narcissist your mother and father will train their favorite child to actually bully you and to play in your face to have that you know one minute your sister's in your face trying to be your you know cool with you hey sis let's go hang out let's go to the club let's go shop and I love you sis mama mama mom but what she's really trying to do is get in your personal business so that she can have something to gossip about with your mother my sister is a big mouth gossiping bitch because my mother taught her how to be a gossiper they kiki laugh and gossip they've been gossiping they're they're both mean girls they're mean spirited narcissistic bitches and my sister knows i'm telling the ******* truth she is a carbon copy duplicate of my mother and my mother has triangulated all three of us since childhood and it still continues and that's why i have no relationship the only way that you can put a stop to triangulation is to remove yourself out of the entire picture so now your mother has nobody to ******* play you against it's not fun when the victim removes themselves it's no fun when the victim cuts the family off and will not participate in the games and is unaffected will not allow you to further bully or manipulate the triangulation is no longer fun when the victim removes themselves and then they go to playing victim why can't we be a family again why can't you get over it you need to forgive the gas lighting starts up because it's not fun anymore the you're the scapegoat you're the victim who are we going to bully who are we going to triangulate if you're not here and you won't allow us you set a boundary and you will not tolerate it anymore it's not fun anymore that's why your family is is trying so hard to pull you back in now with my brother it's the same thing my baby brother who I've given endless chances to he's so burnt from the damage of my mother it took me a little longer to figure my baby brother out but he's a misogynist he's part of the MGTOW movement if you don't know what MGTOW is it's another red pill movement I feel he's a closeted misogynist he tries not to be but he is I feel that he's abusive has been towards his baby mother even though I don't like her I can't stand his ******* baby mother I think she's a narcissist um but he's equally abusive and manipulative always playing mental mind games and chess games you know he's just as bad he learned that from my father my father too has triangulated his children against each other my father has a broken relationship with my sister and he played me and my brother against my sister and when my brother was not around and he was out of the country playing basketball I became my daddy's favorite I became his gossiping buddy not realizing he was using me as a pawn and triangulating me against the women in my family so both of my parents played this triangulation game and it's sick it makes me sick to my stomach and that's why I refuse you're not going to use me um your children are all broken up during the holidays we don't come around to visit either of our parents or maybe it's just my sister now my mother your children should be together loving each other and supporting each other but they're not because the parents have done an amazing job of playing divide and conquer messy gossiping playing favoritism with this one and treating this one like ---- it's backfiring now because now that your children are adults it's you're seeing the results of your manipulation your your toxic parenting you're seeing the results and they are backfiring miserably in your face both my parents are guilty of this but the sad thing about it is that your siblings refuse to cut your parents off when your parents become old and gray they're going to realize just how bad they fucked up their family it doesn't hit them until they're really old then they start looking sad and and remorseful and they they played this ******* victim you destroyed your family single-handedly playing these ******* mental mind games trying to get your children to compete because you're listen the the reason why your narcissistic parents even triangulate they are deeply insecure y'all y'all your parents are extremely insecure they're so insecure that they have to they have to play these ******* manipulation games to get their children to beg for validation mommy why why won't you you know um support me mommy i'm graduating college why won't you come to my college graduation mommy it's like you're a dog chasing behind um they dangle a bone in your face and and you're forever chasing this bone your parents are sick bro insecure and they got to play these games to get their children to chase for their love and their approval and validation unacceptable stop feeding into it um and then let me circle back to the topic of this this video is is you know your siblings hate you because your parents have taught them to hate you and you cannot have a relationship with your siblings because they're two-faced messy and two-faced my sister has stabbed me in the back too many times when I thought I was confiding in her and building a strong close relationship with her she ran and told my mother everything she cannot be trusted we cannot as much as I would like to have a close relationship with her I can't she can't be trusted and she's under a demonic spell same thing with my brother he cannot be trusted because he will not cut my father off my father is a misogynist my father is an abuser he's a covert narcissist my father uh too dwells on um dividing up his children and playing them against each other playing victim to the circumstances that he created and this is why their children are all divided up and because my brother is not strong enough to see things for what they are and to cut my father off permanently so that he can get the healing that he needs because I do believe he's a closet narcissist my brother's a narcissist my brother is extremely narcissistic he's never going to heal until he cuts off my father and another thing I don't like my brother has allowed his children to be exposed to my mother knowing my mother's an abuser I have a big problem with that he didn't fight hard enough he didn't fight hard enough for the girls allowing them to be around my mother my mother is married to a pedophile i feel real that's why i kept my daughter away my i don't want my daughter around my mother or the pedophile i feel my brother should have fought harder for his girls at least joint custody so that he can sit them down and teach them about narcissism and and go to therapy with them and teach them you know break you know this is how i was raised my mother was abusive towards me and i don't want y'all growing up you know falling victim to her teachings he didn't fight hard enough I'm sorry so I can't have a relationship with either one of my siblings because they're under the spell of my parents they have fallen victim to the triangulation they both are very weak and they won't cut off my parents they might have a falling out with mom and dad but they always come back running to mom and dad they always reconnect I don't play that ---- ain't no reconnecting ain't no reconciliation I will forgive them but I don't **** with them and that's permanent both my parents will be dead and gone and I will not I will not be speaking to them I will not be going to see them on their deathbed to say my final goodbyes I will not be attending the funeral it's done because when I look back and see just how demonic and wicked they never really had an emotional or empathetic connection to their children I believe my parents gave birth to us to to you know to control each other that's what two narcissists in a marriage do they they the children are just simply pawn pieces in their in their games and they point fingers at each other they don't take accountability or they blame their children if I didn't have children I'd be successful right now I'd be further in life no bitch you chose the children are innocent how you gonna blame your kids for the choices you ******* made so I stand on business with both my parents and I don't play that with my siblings if my siblings are too ******* dumb to see that they've been ******* mind fucked and manipulated their entire life by both of our parents and they won't cut our parents off and get their asses diagnosed and in therapy I can't **** with them I don't trust them I don't trust them with my secrets I don't trust to build a close relationship because in the back they'll always stay connected to their first abusers mommy and daddy they're going to run their mouths to mommy they're going to play in my face like they love me and they want to have a good relationship with me and bond with me as siblings but they're always going to go back to the crime scene they're going to go back to mommy and daddy the the their first abuser the first bully the first abuser is mom and dad why won't you cut these toxic motherfuckers off and and go somewhere and heal in a therapist chair i've already been to the therapist honey i live in a therapist chair I have my diagnosis I have my paperwork yes I have CPTSD from what they've done to me but I'm healthy right now y'all I know y'all motherfuckers stalk me on my social media you see how good I look my skin's glowing I'm out here living and vacationing and doing me working on a third degree a doctorate my child is grown she still lives with me we live peacefully how is it that I'm doing so much better ever since I've cut my immediate family members off they're still caught up in the dysfunction they think they're not they delude themselves that they're not as long as mommy and daddy are able to ******* control you in some way whether it's with money and gifts that's financial control my mother's good for buying gifts the gifts don't come from the heart the gifts always have a string attached it's always some form of manipulation attached to it I don't accept ---- from her because it's not genuine long as my brother will not cut ties with my father they're both caught in the matrix and they can say whatever they want about me but I'm woke and when all this plays out in the end both of them are going to ******* apologize to me because they're going to wake up realizing that they both have been manipulated since childhood and they weren't strong enough to cut ties permanently to get the healing that they thoroughly need they trying to control the situation no there's nothing to control just cut them the **** off just cut them off but you can't because mommy and daddy been groomed and trained you so well that you're enmeshed and ******* codependent on them it is what it is y'all you can't have a relationship with your siblings they're not trustworthy they're two-faced and they're narcissistic because mom and dad have trained them that way you never stood a chance from birth all you can do is distance yourself listen like I said change your number your siblings will try to come around and check on you and act like they care no they're spying they're spying they're being nosy and they're going to take all the information they gained from you back to mom and dad and have a whole ******* gossip session a group chat they're on your social media screenshot and ---- and holding conversations in the group chat speculating about what how they think you live in and you over here living peacefully enjoying life minding your ******* business your siblings are stuck they don't like you don't take it personal because when it plays out in the end when mom and dad get old and your siblings got to be responsible for for you know paying their medical bills and paying this and paying that and paying for the funeral let that ---- fall on your siblings shoulders they're going to apologize to you you were the smart one that got out and on that note i gotta go y'all have a blessed day let's have a conversation in the comment section because we have community here and we're here to help each other and whether or not y'all believe it or not your comments sharing you know giving your opinions and sharing stuff it helps a lot of people i am available for one-on-one coaching take advantage i have a 50 discount uh for the holidays going on till december 31st once january 1st hits i'm going back to my original prices I will pin my email down below hit me up if you need to talk about family you know relationships whatever you're struggling with hit me up love you guys and happy New Year