HSK 4 6 How to Speak Confidently Without Nervousness learnchinese

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Do you feel nervous when you speak?
In this episode, we’ll talk about why we get anxious when speaking and how to stay calm and confident in any situation.
Whether it’s a presentation, a meeting, or daily conversation — you’ll learn practical tips to speak more naturally and confidently.
Today we're talking about a really
practical topic—how to speak Chinese
without getting nervous—and this subject is so interesting because I
realize so many people have been through this experience: you chat just
fine in casual settings but as soon as
you're in a formal situation suddenly
That's when I started stammering right
I remember when I first started hosting
wow I was so nervous
right my heart was racing palms sweating
mind going blank
yeah exactly that feeling
But actually this is completely normal—because when
our brain encounters stress
it automatically activates
a protective
mechanism kind of like the body shouting "Danger danger " Exactly so the first step is
We have to accept that this kind of nervousness
is normal—don’t think there’s something wrong
with you even experienced speakers get nervous I
’ve heard of a famous
actor who felt the same way
You always feel the need to vomit backstage before going on stage
Yes nervousness can actually be transformed into energy
The key is how you manage it
So how exactly do you do that
First preparation—this is truly crucial
You know what
Being well-prepared can boost your confidence by 80 percent
Here's how to prepare
For example if you're giving a presentation
don't just mentally run through it
You really need to stand in front of a mirror or face
your family and rehearse the
entire content out loud—oh I
get it just like a dress
rehearsal—and yes especially the
first few minutes you must
have it memorized perfectly
The beginning is always the most tense moment if
you get off to a good start
things gradually become
easier and I've personally experienced this—once
the first sentence is out the rest flows naturally
That's right there's another trick:
turn what you want to say into
an outline—key points not a word
-for-word script Why not a script
Because a word-for-word transcript can make you
sound stiff—if you forget
a single word you're stuck
but with key points you
can express yourself more
naturally Oh I see So besides
preparing the content—
There's one more thing—physical
relaxation is also very important Let
me teach you a simple yet effective
breathing technique Everyone knows
this right Sure you know it but
many people do it incorrectly Here's
how real deep breathing should be
done: inhale slowly through your nose
Count silently to 1234
then hold your breath for
two seconds then slowly
exhale through your mouth
Let me try Wow it really works doesn't it This
movement activates your parasympathetic nervous system
Put your body into a relaxed state
But what if you suddenly feel nervous on stage
Here are a few small tricks
First slow down your speech pace
When you're nervous
you tend to talk too quickly
But if you deliberately slow down
Instead it helps you stay calm
Hmm that makes sense
Second find a friendly face
Look for someone in the audience who seems particularly kind-hearted
and speak directly to them
as if you're having a conversation with a friend
Oh I didn't expect that—
there's something even more
interesting If you'really
feeling nervous just say so out
loud Yeah simply admit you're
nervous You could say "Sorry
I'm a bit tense " or "May I
take a moment to breathe "
That actually makes the audience feel you're genuine
and endearing—this I think
takes courage It really does
require a bit of bravery but once you try it just
once you'll realize how
forgiving the audience truly is
They want you to succeed not to embarrass yourself
Speaking of which it reminds
me of a friend of mine
who always boosts his confidence mentally before
speaking in meetings Mental
self-affirmation is crucial
You can tell yourself that you're thoroughly prepared
that you have valuable content to share instead
of obsessing over not making mistakes—focusing
on negative cues will only make you more anxious
Another trick is redefining the situation How to
redefine it For example don't see it as a
performance but as a
sharing session—you're not
performing for others you 're
sharing what you know
This mindset is truly
different Yes Also don't strive for perfection Many people get anxious
because they want to appear
flawless But in reality
minor mistakes actually
make you seem more human
I remember once watching a speech where the speaker
forgot his lines then laughed
and said "Let me think "
and the audience laughed too
making the atmosphere even
better That's right—this is the power of authenticity
Another long-term training method is
to seize every
opportunity to practice
such as telling a story
during a friend 's
gathering or speaking up in a meeting
Practicing even at home with a pet is helpful and doing
so with a pet is actually
quite interesting—what matters
most is getting used to speaking in front of others At
first it might feel awkward
but it gets easier with time
There are small physical
gestures that can help you
relax—yes for instance shaking your hands rotating your neck or clenching and
releasing your fists before
going on stage these all
help release muscle tension
I've also heard of a method where
you write the character
for " person" on your palm and then eat
it—this is mostly just psychological
comfort but if it helps you
then by all means go with the
comfort as it can actually be surprisingly
effective sometimes
Sometimes a small ritual can bring peace of mind
There's also a crucial point
which is understanding your audience
How do you do that
For example if you're holding a meeting at your company
you can plan ahead
by thinking about who will be attending
What they care about their
background the more you
understand the less they'll
feel like strangers so you
won't have that constant
feeling everyone's staring at
you Exactly And you can even prepare some interactions
For example ask a simple question or have
everyone raise their
hand—interaction truly
helps ease tension because the focus isn't
solely on you Exactly And there's another trick
Just arrive early to get familiar with the venue—this is very
practical You can stand on stage
to get a feel for it test the
microphone and check out the audience layout Being familiar with
the environment will give you more
confidence It just reminded me—
Some people also bring
a small item—like
a special pen or a little trinket—as a
mental comfort that’s perfectly fine too
anything that helps
you feel at ease works
What if you're suddenly called to
speak without any preparation time
That situation can be quite challenging
First take a few seconds to gather your thoughts
You can say "Let me think for
a moment " Of course that's perfectly fine
Then quickly organize a
simple structure in your mind
—like first second last—having a framework
keeps you from getting scattered Yes and when speaking you can
slow down a bit thinking about
what to say next as you go
That takes practice doesn't it You really should give
yourself random questions to
work on regularly—like introducing
your hometown in three minutes
Just start talking right
away no time to prepare That’s a great training method
Another mental adjustment
to keep in mind is that most audience members aren't
nearly as critical as you might
imagine—they might be
thinking about their own things
checking their phones or wondering what to eat next
The people truly listening to you are usually well-
intentioned and thinking
about that makes things feel
so much lighter Even if what you say isn't perfect
everyone will forget in a few
days But if you speak well
They'll remember the
valuable content you share so
the focus should be on the
content itself not on how
you present it—completely
correct Another useful tip
is practicing by
recording yourself—recording yes
You can record what you
want to say then listen
to it once and that way you'll notice your
speaking habits—like
whether you talk too fast or have
any verbal tics I've tried this myself
At first hearing your own voice sounds strange
Yes but you get used to it
And recording has another advantage
you can listen to it over and over
until you're completely familiar with the conte
Is there any food or drink that can help ease tension
Well there's no magical food
but here are a few helpful
tips—like avoiding going on
an empty stomach since low
blood sugar can make you more prone to feeling tense
What should you eat Eat
something easy to digest
like bananas or nuts and
avoid drinking too much
coffee as caffeine can
increase tension Drinking
water is good in moderation
but don't overdo it
Otherwise it'll be a hassle if you need to use the restroom halfway through
This detail is important Also
if possible wear clothes that
make you feel comfortable and
confident—your attire does matter
Of course if you're wearing something inappropriate you'll
constantly worry about how you
look which will distract you
So choose
familiar comfortable clothing—yes—and it's best
to try them on in advance to
make sure everything’s fine I
just thought of a question:
what if you suddenly forget a
word while speaking
That happens
quite often First don’t panic
You can pause for a moment
take a sip of water or let me rephrase my thoughts
Then if you can't recall
something just skip that
point and move on to the
next one or express the
same idea in a different way
Audiences won’t notice
most of the time
because they don’t know what you originally intended to say
so they can’t tell what you’ve forgotten
thinking this way makes things much easier
and there’s another trick
which is learning to use transitional phrases
For example additionally
and more importantly
these phrases give you
time to think—they act as a
buffer Exactly And if you realize you've said
something wrong don't
dwell on it just keep going
Why Because if you stop
to correct it you actually
draw the audience's
attention to the mistake but
if you keep going they
might not even notice at
all This psychological phenomenon is fascinating Yes
We always think our mistakes are obvious but in reality
others aren't as focused on
them as we imagine So for those
who are particularly introverted is there any special
advice Introverted people actually have a unique advantage
They usually prepare more
thoroughly and think more deeply
but they might also
get more nervous Yes for introverted
individuals I recommend
starting with smaller gatherings
—like speaking in front of just a few people first
Then gradually increase the number of people
proceed step by step and
for introverted individuals make better use of their
natural strength in listening
—observe the audience's reactions before speaking
This can help you adjust your content and tone
This advice is very practical
Introverted people are often more sincere
That’s actually a significant advantage
Sincerity moves people more than skill ever can Indeed
Sometimes speeches
that are overly fluent
can actually feel inauthentic that's true There's also a long-term suggestion:
read more and accumulate more material
Why Because when
you have sufficient knowledge储备
you won't worry about
running out of things to say
and you can always draw on examples to make your
expression more vid—this takes time to build up
Yes but this is the most fundamental solution—when
you genuinely have something
to share the tension
naturally fades because your focus shifts to the
content itself Absolutely
correct There's one more trick
Learning to tell stories
—stories people naturally
love to hear—means wrapping your message in a brief
engaging narrative making
it easier for your audience
to accept and allowing
you to feel more at ease
Telling a story feels more natural— just
like chatting with a friend in
everyday conversation You could say
"I have a friend who went through
something like this " or "I once
came across a really interesting
example " Starting this way definitely
makes things feel more relaxed
And stories with plot and emotional
ups and downs are far more engaging than dry straightforward
lessons So what if you're in a
particularly serious setting—like
a work presentation—can you still
use a story Of course you can but you must choose the right one
For example you could share a
specific problem encountered in
a project and how it was resolved
—this serves as both a story
and professional content making
it engaging and credible with the key being to make abstract
concepts tangible and concrete
I have a question—some
people speak with accents
does that affect their expression Actually
accents aren't the issue the key is speaking
clearly Many successful
speakers have accents
Yet this doesn't prevent them from expressing their views
So what if you're self-conscious about your accent
You can practice standard pronunciation
But don't let your accent stop you from speaking
Confidence matters more than perfect pronunciation
And sometimes an accent can even become a distinctive feature—
exactly right for instance when a regional accent sounds particularly
warm and friendly actually helping
to bridge the gap with the audience What about speech pace Some people just talk exceptionally fast
Pacing is indeed crucial—too
fast and the audience can 't
keep up too slow and it feels dragging finding the
right pace can be achieved
through recording practice
or seeking feedback from a
friend Generally speaking
Speaking slightly slower than usual is more
appropriate because in
such settings the audience
needs time to absorb what you're saying and
speaking slowly also conveys greater composure
More authoritative
I can personally relate to that
The most impressive speakers deliver their words at a steady unhurried pace
And proper pauses are equally important
Pauses give the audience time to reflect
You can take a moment to organize your thoughts
but many people fear pauses thinking they'll
feel awkward—actually they won't Appropriate
pauses instead make you appear more in control
Pausing briefly before and after key points
can emphasize them
effectively a highly useful
technique another suggestion
is to observe skilled
speakers and learn how they manage nervousness
It's not just about
nervousness—your tone gestures
and eye contact can all be learned Are there any
recommended speeches to watch You could check out
some TED Talks or public
speeches by well-known figures
Pay close attention to how they begin how they
end and how they handle
interactions—this is truly
an excellent way to learn And as you watch more
you'll notice that even
highly experienced speakers
There will be minor mistakes
but they’re handled so
naturally that they remind
us perfection isn’t necessary
Being completely correct isn’t the goal Finally I’d
like to share the most
important mindset shift—what is it
Remember that the purpose
of speaking is communication
not performance your goal
is to make your audience understand your perspective not to impress
them with how impressive you are This distinction is crucial Yes
When you focus on the
communication itself tension
naturally decreases because your attention is
on the message rather than on yourself and what
you say comes across more
sincerely That's right
Honest communication is more powerful than a perfect performance
To summarize overcoming speaking anxiety
there are mainly several aspects
thorough preparation physical relaxation
mindset adjustment
and consistent practice over
time For
And remember feeling nervous is normal
—don't blame yourself for it everyone
gets nervous the key is learning to
live with it and as
you gain experience
The sense of tension will
gradually decrease Yes but even with experience a
moderate amount of tension
is actually beneficial—it shows you care about
the matter So treat tension as a helpful reminder
Remind yourself to take things seriously
Absolutely correct
Finally I want to say
don't avoid opportunities to speak
just because you're afraid or nervous
Every time you speak is a step forward in growth
Yes The most important thing is to have the courage to take that first step
And you'll find that most of
the time the outcome is better
than you imagined because we
always make
difficulties seem bigger
than they actually are That's
right so next time you have
a chance to speak take a deep breath
and tell yourself I can do this
Then let's get started—hope today's
sharing helps friends struggling with speaking anxiety
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