My Friends Seem Upset That We're "Living Like No One Else"

[Music] brought to you by Xander Insurance. Compare rates from top-term life insurance companies in seconds at xander.com. I just have uh a question. It's kind of more of like advice on how to proceed from here. Um so just a little background, my husband and I um followed your steps. um we paid off all of our debt and thank you for the leadership in that way to get us through to where we are now. Congratulations. I'm proud of you. Thank Thank you. Um so we're having a little bit of an issue with interpersonal relationships now that we are in a spot where we're kind of living like nobody else like you have stated. Um, and a lot of our friends and family members are kind of making remarks towards us when we do do something because we have the means to do it. Um, like we bought, you know, my my husband bought his truck outright and you know, people are like, "Oh, it must be nice." Who who who are people? Some of it's mostly um people like my husband's friends. Um he needs new friends. That's that's called haterade. That's haterade. That's You know what I'm saying? Listen, real friends are exposed when two things happen. Crisis and success. That's when you find out who your real friends are. So your husband has found out that he has acquaintances. Yeah. They're not friends. So true. Yeah. Yeah. Friends know how to celebrate you. Yeah. I mean, yeah. I I've got I've got a friend that hit, you know, made made an amazing amount of money selling his business the other day. And the only thing I can think of to say is way to go. I'm proud of you. Right. Cuz he's like my friend, right? Yeah. I didn't I didn't I didn't roll my eyes and go all billionaires should be taxed, you know? I mean, really. That's just dumb. So, is that what they're saying? Must be nice. That's what they're saying to him. Yeah. Yeah. And kind of like making like snide remarks like that when you know when we talk about it. And I mean, it's not like we didn't try like when we first started to do your number one. Number one, we don't need to talk about it so much. We just need to do whatever we're going to do. Yeah. Doesn't need to be a lot of discussion. But number two, if somebody does that, they get about two of those and third strike, they're out. Yeah. I mean, he could if if it really if you really think it's a friend, which the behavior doesn't suggest that, but if it is something that you're like, man, I really want to see, then just ask him about it. That's what I would do. If I had a friend that I'd been friends with for years and they started with this business, I would believe in the friendship enough to say, "Hey, when you say that, what do you mean?" Because if it if the tables were reversed, I'd be happy for you. And I would just ask them and then you're going to learn a lot by their response or he will. and then you can take it from there. But I think what you've got is you're not real friends is what I think. Okay. All right. Thank you very much. I appreciate that. Yeah. I think you're just going to find out. I mean I you know uh we found out during uh COVID we had a whole bunch of negative press and we found out who our friends were. Mhm. And we found out when we're very successful and we get in the Hall of Fame and we have another number one bestselling book, we find out who our friends are. Um, but the number of times I'm going to tolerate someone calling up and going, "Well, look at you." You know, I'm going to be going, "Uh, well, look at you, moron." I mean, seriously. I mean, I'm going to give I want to give a little bit of grace for sometimes people have moments where they do not show up as their best self. I mean, I'm just saying, but I'm saying I call them You're saying call them out. You're going to be a little more gentle in calling them out than I am. I don't know about gentle, but I am going to call them out. Yeah. I'm going to definitely I'm going to be going, "Hey, you know that that what you're doing right there is just dumb." Yeah. Don't do that. And we're not you we're not going to be doing this anymore. So, not not if you want to hang around here. So, you know, and if it's family, then you just limit the amount of time you're around them. Just go, I can't hang out here. It's too much too much negativity. Yeah. Uh you know, all you're doing is trashing everything I've been working hard for. It's like, you know, the one I love is um You're so lucky. Oh, that one pisses me off. That's your That's your That's like a hot button. I'm Ly's got Ly's got work overalls on what Ly's got. Ly's got calluses. Ly's got hours spent while you were sitting on your butt drinking beer watching Netflix. That's what Ly's got. I got your Lucky. Okay, that gets me Ly's butt. I I Man, that gets me going right there. You're so lucky. Luck didn't have squat to do with this, darling. It was not luck at all. God's blessings I'll go with. Okay. And my hard work. There is some corn in the field because we freaking planted some corn. Luck had nothing to do with it. Okay. Hello. I can tell this really bothers you. Yeah, this one bothers me. I can't stand it. It's like and it it's even it's even people out there just in the comments and stuff. I don't read the comments and junk, but that I used to get like in when I used to uh inter face with people on Twitter when it was new and you could argue with people back then. It was kind of fun and I would just go at them, you know, cuz it's so fun. And then but then but yeah, you know what I hate? It's two. It's a it's a combination of two. When people say, "Oh, are you still doing your little budget or whatever?" Oh, yeah. It's little or whatever. Yeah. Demeaning. Yeah. Demeing. Are you still doing that little business? Still doing that little Yeah. I'm still It's got, you know, I got a little million dollars from it. And so, matter of fact, I got two little million dollars. There's two of those little million dollars over there from that. And might be three soon of those little billion dollars. And that Yeah, but Yeah, we're still working on that little Yeah, you're right. That's so demeaning. I hate that. Aren't pat you on the head? Aren't you cute? Oh, you doing that little Aren't you cute? Still working on that little You still doing that little Dave Ramsey cult thing? Yeah, that one. That's That's just That's hilarious. It's funny. So, here's the deal. The the the Catholics have a wonderful saying. They say that envy is one of the seven deadly sins. Wow. Yeah. And so jealousy is I want what you have. Envy is I don't think I can have what you have, so I don't want you to have it. That's diabolical. It's diabolical. It's evil at its core. That is. And so that that's the kind of stuff you run into, Jessica, as you start to win. But it does. It separates the sheep from the goats. It separates the wheat from the tears. And it pretty obvious. I mean, I got I got poison over here. And I got fruit over here. And so I'm going to hang out with the fruit and the poison's going to have to go away. Yeah. Cuz they can't cheer you on. You are opting out of my life by being a butt. I'm serious. I mean, it's just how this works. That's right. We'll talk about it depending on how long the friendship quote unquote been going on be how how gentle we are or how much we talk about it. But if it's a casual thing, I'll just casually not be available anymore. That's right. I'm casually not going to show up at your next deal. I'm saying that cuz I don't want to hang out with a bunch of goats. That's so good. Not the deal. So, yeah, it is disappointing though when that happens. It does. It does aggravate you, but um and I I'm still capable obviously of getting aggravated about it, but yeah, you're so lucky. You're so lucky. So lucky. Must be nice. Yeah, man. Yeah. You just just line up behind that luck and think about the number of hours, number of airline miles. Oh my god, the amount of time I spent in a jet flying and going through freaking TSA and all man, the stuff we've done, the stuff, the work, the hotel rooms. Gross. Grotesque gross instead of sleeping in your own bed. You know you're so lucky. I don't think so. If anyone depends on your income, you need affordable term life. Never cash value insurance. Visit xander.com today for