3 LIES Women Shouldn’t Believe About MONEY Ever Again

Hey guys, happy frugal Friday. What a day to be filming in the car. Listen, here are three lies that I've been hearing over and over again that I really don't want women to believe. Over 90% of my audience is women. When these lies are heard and retold, they make women stuck. They disempower you and they keep you playing small financially. So let's get into number one. The number one lie is I'm just not good with money. Listen, money management is a skill, not a personality trait. Um, you weren't born knowing how to cook or to drive, right? You learned and you can learn this too. So I, I, when I hear those words, I'm just not good with money. That is not true. And that is something either you were told or you've told yourself. And if you technically are not good with money right now, that doesn't mean you can't be. There are channels like mine that are going to educate you. And I think all it really takes is for you to want to be better with money and put a little focus on it. Okay? Anything that you want to learn, anything that you want to be better at education is just at your fingertips. Look at this. Just tap, tap. Don't tap out right now. Keep listening. But you've got YouTube, you've got books, you've got so many things to teach you. But in the end, I don't want you thinking you're bad at money is your identity because it is not. And if that is what you were told or if that is what you've been telling yourself, let's stop that today. Money in general, right? There's a lot more to it if you want to make it complicated. But when we're talking about a basic budget, we're talking about most of the time addition in subtraction, which is what you learned a long, long time ago. And unlike when you were in school and they're like, no calculators, it is an open book test every single day. My friends, every single day you've got that calculator right in your phone or you know, some people still have the manual one, but you have access to calculators. And that's all you need for the basics, right? There's going to get, you know, more complicated things as you go. But in reality, basic math is something we are all capable of. And I teach you all my tips and tricks on this channel. So if you think you're bad with money, stop saying that you are not. And it's a skill you're going to work on. Girl, if I can learn to cook me, me, I can learn to cook. You can learn to be good with money. When you just make a blanket statement about yourself, I don't do this. I can't do this. That just makes you think you can't do this and you don't do this, but it's not true. Do you get what I'm saying? It's not true because one time you couldn't do something. People change, things change, you grow and you can do anything you want, anything you want. So if you are struggling right now with money, you can do this and I am behind you. I'm here to help with your confidence cause I believe in you. Number two, my partner handles all the finances so I don't have to. Now I believe when you are in a relationship, people do a division of labor hopefully, right? And maybe you are good at certain things and they are good at certain things. However, I just want to be very, very clear. Think about me. Okay. I was married for seven years. Did I think I was going to get divorced? No. Did I think that was my forever? Yes. Was it? No. Relationships change. Now I'm not saying cause I got divorced that you necessarily ever will. You might be happily married. You might listen to this right now and be like, I'm good kid. I don't need to listen to that. And that, that's fine. This message is not for you. But if you're a person that for any reason ever has felt like your partner has all the power, all the money, all the access, maybe you are taking care of the kids. Maybe you're taking care of the house, all the things. And maybe that was not the thing put on your plate. Your partner was like, I'm going to take care of the money. If you're the person not making the money, you're the person not managing the money. You're the person not knowing where the money is, where it's stored, how to get into the passwords. Listen, I'm not, and I'm not trying to be doomsday here, but people pass away. People break up and you need to know where your money is and how it works. No matter what your relationship status is. That is my true belief. I don't think it's wise to have one person holding all the cards and one person being in the dark. I don't, I don't believe in that. I think that in a relationship, whether it's a marriage, whether it's whatever the relationship is, if you have your money together in any way, or if you are depending on anybody, listen to me, you need to know where that money is and how to get access to it. And there needs to be a plan because you just, you don't know. Financial independence is not an option. It's essential. And I'm, I'm not trying to put any fear in anyone here because you're going to do you, but I'm just saying relationships are not necessarily forever. Maybe yours will be, maybe it will be in that, you know, that's wonderful. But when people say my partner handles all the finances, so I don't have to, it makes me a little stressed out because, Oh, I just had a situation actually where somebody was sharing with me. They were inheriting a certain amount of money, a large amount of money. And I said, Oh, what are you going to do with that? And she was like, Oh, I'm just going to give it to my husband. He'll take care of it. And I was like, this marriage had not been going on for very long. In fact, they hadn't known each other that long. And I just was like, really? Like listen, everyone's got to do their own thing, but you're just going to hand over. And this was like, I'm telling you a large sum and just trust. Um, I want to believe you can trust your partners. I want to believe that, but I just also want you to be educated. Another reason, let me just talk about this, right? I have people come to me now, currently that are in relationships and they want out, but they don't have the money to, they have nowhere to go. They don't know where to take the kids. They have no income and they're just stuck there. And their partner is not behaving in many different ways as you can imagine. Uh, and I, I say behavior, uh, a loose term, doing things they shouldn't be. And they can't have a place to go. They've got no plan. They've got no options in their mind. I just don't want that to ever be you. I want you to always know where your money's at. I want you to never feel hopeless. I want you to never feel helpless. I want you to know that you always have options and knowing where your money is and how to handle that is a big part of that. Number three, money's not that important. I'm not materialistic. Well, I don't consider myself materialistic either, but I do think there is a lot of value in some money. Money's a tool, right? Um, it gives you options, some safety, some freedom, and the ability to say no to the things that are not serving you. There's a term in the simple path to wealth that the author, uh, calls F you money. And I don't use curse words, but you know what that means. And that means money to be in a position if something happens that you don't have to take a desperate act, a desperate gig, a desperate job, a debt, anything out of desperation because you have gotten yourself into a position where if it hits the fan, you've got a little backup, right? So while you don't have to, you don't have to be materialistic to want money. Money buys freedom, my friends freedom. And that is the best thing you can spend your money on. So you don't have to love money, but you do have to learn how to use it. And saying that money isn't that important. We don't want to like revolve our whole life around thinking that money is the most important thing that of course is not in the big scheme of things, but it is a giant tool and I don't think it should be disregarded because it makes you feel like you're materialistic. You don't have to be desiring and wanting to earn your own way and feel like that makes you materialist. Absolutely not. So stop believing that. If that is what you've been told, women who understand money don't just change their lives. They change generations. Believe that it's true. Break the myths, take up space, build wealth your way and don't believe any of this that people just put in your head for, you know, their own reasons. Or again, sometimes just information that's been passed down, something they've internalized. That doesn't mean that has to be you. I hope you guys get what I, and I have many more lies that I think women are told about money. If you want more videos like this, let me know. But I just, and if men are watching this video right now, I think it's good to know. To encourage the women in your life to empower themselves also. And we women have to empower ourselves and talk to each other with compassion and love and encouragement. I know you know this, but I just feel like sometimes women get the short end of the stick, if you will, when it comes to talking about finances. And that is so old and archaic. So let's stop with that. Okay? We are capable. We are more than capable. Ladies, tell me in the comments, what's something that you used to believe about money, but maybe you don't believe that anymore. Or what's something that you're still wondering about money, but you don't know. And you want to talk about it. Leave me your comments and thoughts down in the, in the comment section. I love having these conversations. I think it's great to talk about these things so that we don't feel stuck. We don't feel like we are, you know, unable to do certain things because we can do a lot. Okay. Let me know in the comments. If you enjoyed talking about this, I'm going to leave a video for you to watch right here. Next. Thank you for being here. I'll see you next week. Bye guys.