Dating after 60: How to embrace the possibilities

The reality show the Golden bachelor was a smash hit ending with Gary and Teresa's engagement both are in their 70's and celebrities like Lenny Kravitz who turned 60 in May along with Christie Brinkley who just celebrated 70 this month and Martha Stewart who is 82 are redefining what being single can look like even the Mary Lee Sarina age 60 brought attention to sex in your 60's as the face of cosmopolitan recent digital cover story proving there is plenty of spice in this part of life. Okay today, we're joined by 3 women who are dating after 60 meet Deborah Cohen Aaron Crawford and Andre Caldwell hi hi ladies, thank you for let's get it okay, first of all the Golden bachelor was a huge success. Okay, and I think it reminded people like wait a minute people in their 70's or vibrant 60's 70's is whatever are out there dating did any of you guys first of all the guys watch it you into it. I saw a couple of that and what did you think. Did I was really surprised. There are a lot of people out there from all sorts of life and they really put themselves out there which is important. Yeah, yeah, well I think that's what you you all are doing yeah, right and you all have come to dating for different reasons where you you were married. Divorce what you think like okay, I'm ready to meet somebody well I always have enjoyed dating I enjoyed being married, I enjoyed meeting new men and I wasn't a part of my life I was willing to to give up, yeah, I mean who doesn't want to get dressed up and go on a on a dinner date with a handsome guy and I wasn't we're willing to turn it in yet well and have the confidence to get get out there and go for it, I mean that's that's something sometimes we all lose our footing a little it's like I still have my mojo can I do it do you how do you have the confidence to get back in the game. I think it's fake it to make it. Yeah, you know I think if you if you start to find something you connect with yeah with another person and you just build on it from there so it may be awkward in the beginning. Yeah, but it you know it can quickly turn around to something else Andre you you've been a widow for 12 years and relationships are important they keep you vibrant that so tell us about your journey toward relationships now. Now I'm looking for a man who is a complete person who's maybe been married or had a long relationship who likes women who understands women, yeah, and who has a great sense of humor and who's interested in possibly and the arts and and just a relationship where you can really be pals and hang out together. Yeah, I love that you know, I wonder how are all of you meeting men raise your hand. A dating app. You have to yeah matchmakers yeah, a matchmaker what about just friends saying hey, what friends friends, okay, so so what's the first 8 like is it what's that like it's scary yeah, yes, I we met a man that I had known growing up and had dated at 17 wow and then we rematch and dated for a few years. I would say that it was wonderful, it's just that we've grown into very different different. Yeah, but like now you you get to choose don't you think Aaron like I don't think you have to say well who's the guy who likes me because you know who you are you're the chooser. Yeah, it's definitely a two-way interview. Yeah, you have to ask as many questions as they ask of you yeah, and then hopefully there's a spark and then you go on a second day. Yeah, and and you find out more about yourself have you all been on bad dates any of you and I'm not you have it I have I mean I I think it's because I'm a lawyer I played a little too. Yeah, much litigator once and spooked him so I learned never to do that yeah, I think what's fun about dating at this age is you don't have to pretend you don't have to act like yeah, it's like who can you been on a day where you were like by the way I go to bed early I literally I was like I'm exhausted and nothing again and he was actually a very nice person but normally I would have stayed and stretched it out and been exhausted, but instead I was like I like you I'm tired, I'm leaving now. To see you again he was like who's this. I was me probably for the first time was on a date which I think is empowering re how all right well don't go anywhere because we're going to figure out how to find a love love and great relationships with a relationship therapist and a matchmaker after this. All right today, we're talking about dating in your 60's and beyond and we have 3 women who are sexy single and ready to mingle Deborah Cohen Aaron Crawford and Andre Caldwell and joining our conversation relationship therapist and the author of courageous conversations connect our key Alan Wilson and certified matchmaker and dating coach Michelle Frankel okay, ladies, yes, help us out here are you why are women reluctant to get back in you know so hard listen, it's like a uphill climb is a little bit of a roller coaster fear of rejection fear of loss lack of confidence. I understand how to navigate the system, especially the online dating platforms. Yeah, it's all new all new to them, it's a foreign territory really and they have to think about like okay, well if we're going to get in this game and win this game, but we've got to up our confidence level all right so sometimes confidence is tough to come by I mean you're like I want to be confident, but I don't feel it but look at all these people who are Lenny Kravitz who's on the cover. Yeah, magazine 60 Lisa Renna. Oprah is 70 yeah, Gayle King is 7 you think about this new kind of group what is 60 what is 70 it's not what I think absolutely everyone's I think it's everyone's fit everyone's young, everyone's active. Yes, and they're really enjoying life. So people are coming to us to figure out how to effectively navigate this online dating world because the technology is new for them. So but I want to give these women when they're ready to start and they're ready. Absolutely first and foremost have fun. Yeah, engage your family and your friends and say yes to every invitation you get and proactively ask them to invite you to everything they're doing because it's all about expanding 6 degrees, it's networking yeah, it's true, it's pure court. Target rich environment sports pickleball is sweeping. Yeah, everybody's into that. You know, it's funny because people always think women what younger women like average men are always even older men are after younger women do you guys think that is the cat okay, everyone I I've dated has been younger than me. Well, yeah. I think what people like his energy. Yes, yeah, get out there and you can listen Super Bowl is coming up get in the you can win the game in the 4th quarter, you can win in overtime but to for certain you can't win the game if you're not in it that's right. By the way you your own love story. Yeah, your 60's, but you are in your late 40's. Yeah, and you give it up and just that love is I I did not give up, but I had to change my attitude, but I think your point about energy. Yeah, I know when somebody walks in the studio what their energy vibe is whether you want to hang out with them whether they make you feel better good. Yeah, down some vibration. Yeah connection right a lot of times we don't know that we have that yeah, we need other people to like yeah, ladies holding each other accountable. Yeah, yeah, everybody needs to learn you might need a therapist or someone to help you to navigate that system. Yeah, I have questions, I mean yeah, yeah, I think because I'm sort of shyer than they are a little bit so for me to get out there. I really need to have a good conversation list to yeah, somebody who can really engage. Yeah, me and I like to interview people. Yeah, that's my my skill. Yeah, and so I find that a lot of times I'll be interviewing. Haha don't do that don't do that. She shipped it so that she can you know make sure she has a good conversation with what you recommend I recommend that think of tennis, it's painful back and forth make sure you're not doing all the questioning make sure there's a constant flow back and what what should you be talking about on a day I talk about anything that you want to talk about right to be out there in the world do the things that you thought you never want you would do do the things that you think that you did before that you want to do now right now you have some things to talk about yeah. Well I was I was a really good athlete growing up so I think that was what's my big thing. Tennis golf riding horses. And so boys love me. And so I think that it was easier for me when I was you know younger by 20's and 30's because or teen yeah because I was sort of with the guys. Yeah, you are you are guys girl. Girl you know. And we want to hear from you all keep us posted on your day.