Do Interracial Couples Think the Same? - Amala Reacts to Jubilee

everybody i am back again and this is not your normal will and amla live today i'm going to be reacting to a new video put out by jubilee if you're not familiar with jubilee they are very large i think to the tune of six million or more subscriber youtube page that puts out videos on different social issues featuring regular average americans just talking about in-depth topics now today they put out a video and it's a little controversial uh it's called is it okay to have a preference of race question mark interracial couples agree or disagree and this is what the series they do called spectrum where they bring in all these people ask them the same questions and see how they react so without a further ado let's get right into the video [Music] i have unintentionally been racist towards my partner three two one go quite the divide there it's so interesting i love how they start this off with the first question i have unintentionally been racist towards my partner and it's part of this sort of leftist doctrine and ideology that even though you have a black partner or a hispanic partner an asian partner or you have black hispanic or asian kids you can still carry racism within your daily life and within your own sentiments and in the ways that you act so let's see how these couples respond to their unintentional racism i've definitely been ignorant so we were so we had we had an argument and i was upset and i had previously expressed how the star the stereotype or the stigma on angry black men or angry black women and how that makes me feel and so we got into an argument i was an angry black man but in that moment of anger he actually called me an angry black man which which is like the worst thing maybe it goes crazy so i he he states in this sentence i was an angry black man but it's not okay for my white partner to say that i can acknowledge that i'm an angry black man but because that is a stereotype of the black community it is racist for you to say that so luckily they squashed this disagreement and and now he can internalize the fact that he is a angry black man but nobody else can say that about him because apparently that's racist let's keep going because um that you know that was like the one thing and i was like talk to him about um so you know that was a really bad fight um and it never happened again right i feel like i mean i'm strongly disagree but i think as just a white person i am just inherently ignorant so i think i'm gonna move to somewhat agree dating a black man has completely opened my eyes more than i are oh pause do you see the detrimental effects of this sort of ideology and this sort of thinking this is a woman who is dating a black man a young black man has probably never expressed any sort of racist tendencies or any sort of racist sentiment whatsoever but she is walking down to the somewhat agree on this spectrum and saying because i'm white i am inherently i am inherently ignorant and i'm inherently racist in some way shape or form so i should just admit that there is no sort of racism or racist thinking or discriminatory thinking that is linked to your race in any way shape or form but she has been indoctrinated into believing that and this is what happens when you when you utilize this sort of brainwashing in a society you you actually convince people who are perfectly good people who are not judging people based on their race who are in in most respects colorblind although we're not allowed to say that word anymore and now she believes that just because of her skin color that she is ignorant and racist blows my mind let's keep going already thought they were open you know to be fair you've never said anything that made me feel like damn she's racist oh luckily we have the saving grace that is her partner saying to be fair you've never said anything that is racist or done anything that is racist and that should be the metric of racism if you have never said or done anything that it has expressed that your race is better than someone else's or that someone else's race doesn't deserve the same privileges that you have you are not a racist so to all the white people out there who are listening and who are listening to these critical race theorists who tell you just by virtue of being born with your skin color that you harbor some sort of unconscious bias some sort of unintentional racism don't listen to that if you are not actively perpetuating racism in your daily life guess what you're not a racist let's keep going i'm from the bay so it used to be in my vocabulary where i would say the n-word with the a i would wrap it i would i would do just those things but um my slang in general would just take her off and then um i became conscious of it and i really liked her or i still do of course i love you um i started uh changing the way i speak i feel like she should be over here too um she would do uh asian accents the only time that i feel like i could be offending asian people is when i'm mocking you when you're mocking your mother so i only do the accent when he does it making fun of his mom before that i never did that so here's another thing it's not racist to do step out of line uh you are now racist in some way shape or form and i like that she did not move she said no that's not racist that's just me doing an imitation of you imitating your own mother it's not racist for me to do accents which it is not and you can do them in any context she shouldn't have to defend herself for for doing that uh let's keep going okay guys so we're gonna do something different this is called hot tapes and basically we have our audience submit hot takes okay so this is a segment where they start to do hot takes which are unpopular opinions or sort of unusual opinions submitted by the audience i'm going to skip ahead a little bit just because they go over some little inappropriate ones we'll skip to the ones that are not inappropriate and go over sort of the cultural differences let's see right with me whatsoever i have always wanted mixed babies and we get the youtube ads luckily so much better let's skip over this ad three two one go at one point in my life i kind of wanted to have mixed babies with almost every race i don't know if that's weird but i just wanted i'm real into genetics i would like to see um how my kids would turn out and never rest as a mixed race person myself you don't have a group of people to really be around i mean sometimes you connect with one side sometimes you connect with another side but for me it sucked actually a lot i've accepted myself i'm black and proud i love the fact that i have both of these cultures and i really don't care i just have to teach my kids that because of your skin tone you either gain privileges or lose privileges like oh so much wrong with what i just heard first and foremost just growing up as a mixed person i'm a mixed person myself i'm half black i'm half white uh it's really i feel bad hearing him say that he felt the need to choose one side and that as a mixed child life is going to be harder for you because you have to choose which side uh you know you you you amalgamate to the best or you assimilate to the most and that shouldn't be the case we shouldn't be looking at people based on their skin tone and we shouldn't be looking at people based on what what races come together to create them he shouldn't have to go well i'm i'm black and i'm this race so i need to choose which which group of people that i hang out with and and the same is to be said for the people around him they shouldn't look at him and say you're mixed you need to pick a side uh you should be able to create relationships as he has with somebody who's outside of his race you should be able to do that with friendships you should be able to do that with your peers you should be able to do that with significant others which all of these people have done but it amazes me that all all of these different couples have have come together created relationships with people outside of their race yet they allow race to become such a prominent factor in their lives your relationships are a testament to the fact that race is not important that you can create connections and love with people who who don't share your cultural upbringing who don't share your skin tone yet they have remained in this sort of indoctrinated brainwashed ideology that race really matters to keep going i've had people at work like we'll be talking about ourselves and they'll i'll show them a picture of ivan and they'll be like oh my god i totally wanted black babies like when i was like a teenager and it's just like this isn't build a bear like this is a human like right so and i actually have an eight-year-old mixed child it's been very challenging but i've had to stick it out because i'm i want to be a good father and i care about my kid so this isn't build-a-bear this is real life and in my mind i wanted to have kids that was exactly my skin tone or very close to it and look like me because i am conceited as well where the hell i'm going to find somebody to do that and it work out and they're just a perfect wife i don't i don't believe in that anymore it's funny because that was actually something we talked about when we first started dating that became of insecurity of mine i was like so why are we dating because yeah that's exactly the question you should be asking if you are dating a man who is not your race and he looks at you and he goes you know what i need to find the perfect woman who is my race so that i can have children that look like me because i'm conceited um i think that that's grounds for for that's grounds for moving out of that relationship but they've stuck it out and apparently he he must have gotten over that conception that he needs to have kids of the same skin tone as him which is just i don't know it just amazes me that we on on one hand are talking about how racist this country is and how all of our systems and institutions are founded in this racism and white supremacy but on the other hand have sort of con consigned ourselves to who we can and cannot date based on our race it dumbfounds me let's keep going i cannot provide absolutely any of that for you and so i i understand like i said why he feels that way why a lot of the black community feels that way um so i'm just glad that i'm accepted now in our relationship she's clearly uncomfortable i sometimes feel like i betrayed my own race three two one go now this is very telling the prompt is i sometimes feel like i betrayed my own race now look at this line look at the middle the the intersection all of the people who are not black uh or don't really have any uh they're not mixed with black are on one side where they say they strongly disagree i don't feel like i've never been made to feel like i've betrayed my race yet every single black person who attended this is on the other side saying that they agree that they have been told that they betrayed their own race now is that a problem with racism and oppression outside of your race or is that a problem with racism and oppression within your own race that you feel just because you are born black that you have to consign yourself to dating other black people to uphold some sort of culture and to not allow white people or people from other races to join in your culture and join in your communities that seems like a problem within the black community for me and this is very telling like i said look at all the black people who showed up for this filming who are now on the right side and everybody else is on the left let's keep going i definitely feel like that man i feel like especially where i'm from i did my people a disservice by playing into that stereotype and knowing what i stand for now it's hard for me to feel like i'm going to be taken serious in the future if i ever want to speak on controversial topics my people won't respect what i say because like it doesn't add up my views and stuff and then i just i'm dating somebody outside of my race behind the scenes i feel like i lose respect in a way me growing up like i was never always seen as black whether it was because of how i looked how i talked or my culture but then when i get with someone who's not black right like oh you're betraying us oh like i get comments letting my dm's be like oh alex you're not with us no more right and i'm like do you want me or do you not want me you know i it doesn't bother me if you don't want me and i understand it is what it is but don't pick and choose and don't nitpick little things right if you want me to be part of your community that accept me for who i am don't say that i'm oh because i'm half i don't get to participate in certain topics or certain discussions and that's that's the attitude that you should have you should not say well that's a problem with me it's a problem with me because i chose to date somebody outside of my race you should say that's a problem with the community that's surrounding me if they cannot accept me because of who i'm dating and he says do you want me to be part of the community or not he is who he is he's a mixed black man that's who he is and that's who he's always going to be does it matter who he dates does that determine whether or not he is actually part of the black community or or not because that's been the experience that i've had being a mixed person regardless of who i date i get it all the time from the black community that oh you shouldn't wear our hairstyles and you don't represent our actual values and you shouldn't be able to talk about black issues and guess what that's not my problem that is their problem and that's exactly the viewpoint that you should have do you want me to be a part of your community or do you not and it doesn't matter either way because i am half black and i am part of the community it doesn't matter what you say to me it doesn't matter that your values are not in line with mine i am who i am and this is where i'm at uh and it's it's a sharp juxtaposition to the other guy who says you know what i did it i dated a white girl and that's my fault it's not your fault that you you love somebody who does not have the same skin color as you and anybody who makes you feel that way is not somebody who truly loves and supports you let's keep watching i applied lumi yesterday to the groin area and 24 hours later oh my god oh they're free lumi is the best gotta love those youtube ads to another race has its benefits three two one go um i guess i feel like the word like linked kind of confused me because i feel like experiencing another person's experience like what their culture like the way that they live is definitely personally beneficial but i think that like in terms of how others view me because i'm dating a white man i don't find that beneficial like i feel like people might have like preconceptions about who i am because i'm an asian person who's chosen to date a white man yeah imagine being in love with somebody and experiencing the bliss that is having a significant other and actually having somebody who shares your values and the love that you have for them yet being so concerned with how people on the outside view you because of your race that's a sad reality but it's not reality because the majority of people who live in this country are not racist they're not looking at you uh based on your relationship and the skin color of the person that you're dating and saying oh no she's not the right type of asian or he's not right the right type of white person and although that does happen that is not the norm we've just convinced ourselves that it is and it's sad because of course there are there are benefits to dating people who are outside of your race you get to experience other cultures you get to learn new things you get to live life with somebody who maybe had a different upbringing than you or a different culture than you do than you did and that and that's beneficial also i had a question for i guess other people like do you ever feel like being with a white person like could shield you from like discrimination or like that they could like stand up for you in a certain context like if you were in like an altercation with the police or something like wood having a white person there like sure right in that sense and that's what i kind of thought of when i heard the question and i was listening to you it's just like i don't know even a customer service experience i don't know just random experiences where the other the person on the other side might judge me based on me being black but you know versus someone else call or you know him calling and you know it's a whole different experience so they might treat you know us individuals differently so there might be a whole different experience based on just that you don't get that sort of benefit from dating a white person and i hear about this this whole white privilege myth all the time people talk about it all the time you don't get that benefit from dating a white person the only benefit that you get is that you're dating somebody that loves you and that's it and it amazes me that we've we've indoctrinated specifically the black community so much to believe in these fallacies that white people have this armor and this shield that they don't have and imagine what that does to you psychologically i mean i was there i believe that i believe that if i got pulled over by a police officer um in comparison to a you know white girl getting pulled over by a police officer it was going to be a lot harder for me of course i don't believe that anymore and anybody who would take the time to look into the actual stats around that and the analytics around that would know that it's not the case that police officers annually have about 375 million different encounters with with people and they don't lead to fatalities and they are definitely not based around discrimination so just to think this especially as a law-abiding citizen that you are going to somehow somehow be put in harm and having white people around you is going to save you is just so sad to hear and this is completely the result of being indoctrinated by schools by the news and just by mainstream media in general and uh booker t washington has this amazing quote where he says there is a class of people uh specifically colored people that will convince the community around them that they are oppressed because they benefit from your oppression they benefit from this sort of mindset of you thinking that you can't be successful uh as successful as a white person would be or you will be more successful if you surround yourself with white people and their white privilege people benefit off of you thinking like that and as soon as you break away from that sort of thinking you will become a more successful a more happy person so it's just sad to hear people think that this is reality let's keep watching i feel like an outsider with my partner's family three two one go so i'm sorry grace in our lives especially today recently politics plays such a huge part in it and because you come from a conservative household it does that's different from where i come from and it does make me a little bit uncomfortable to know that i'm going to be meeting people and have to have close relationships with them and they don't value what i feel like i value in my life he's actually the first black man i have ever dated and the only person of color within like my family just in of itself and so certain members of my family um with the same political values as us like had to kind of confide in me like hey we support you with whoever you date like we're here for you so it was interesting to kind of see the different sides of my family members that i didn't necessarily know when i met so much wrong here thinking him saying again sorry grace this girl is really bearing the brunt of this relationship because i've heard so many different problems all expressed from his point of view in regard to her race yet i haven't heard the same thing from her i haven't heard her espouse any issues with him being a black man yet i've heard him three times now talk about all the issues that he experiences and all the issues that he has to grapple with with her being white so what does that say about the civilization that we're living in right now and he says oh well your family's conservative and i don't think that i can develop close relationships with people who disagree with me you rarely ever hear conservatives say that although i will say that it does happen i will make that concession when it needs to be made but you rarely hear conservatives say well i don't want to have any relationships with people who disagree with me you you hear that mainly on the left and he's expressed that sentiment and then she talks about her experience with her family and that the leftists in her family have come to her and said you know what honey we don't care about the race of the guy that you're dating funny enough they're the first ones to bring it up she brings home a black man to meet the family and all of a sudden the leftists pop out of the out of the woodwork and say you know what it's okay you can date a black person and it's because they view the world through the lens of race and through the lens of racism and when that is how you when that's the way that you view the world that is all that you will ever see and i'm sure that they they relegated him to that to his skin color and as soon as they met him they went oh well grace it is totally okay that you are dating a black man you know how condescending that sounds and i think people don't realize that it sounds condescending and it's just this sort of savior complex that clicks in when you feel like you have the opportunity to do something virtuous and to gain some virtue points in doing so let's keep listening her father for the first time we were walking to get food and we saw the ronald reagan museum or something like that and he's like oh yeah i love ronald reagan right and you can have your own personal opinions on uh presidents but ron reagan was like he's like the main reason why black people are incarcerated he's not a very good person to black people so i was just kind of cracking up about that and i was kind of awkward and i know you kind of bit your tongue on that as well it was hard to not say anything but i was thinking about saying something to maybe like be like i don't know about that but i didn't want to like argue with your father on the very what did what is he talking about ronald reagan being an enemy of black people and and not not doing good for black people i i'm assuming and i looked into this little earlier i'm assuming he's talking about the war on drugs but a great solution to that is probably not doing drugs and probably not allowing yourself to get arrested for doing drugs or or dealing drugs because of course if you are doing those things that are illegal you will most likely be arrested and after that you would be subsequently incarcerated uh so i i'm assuming that's what he's referring to in regard to ronald reagan and again it's the expression of this this same ideology the same thinking that because somebody has differing views than i do because somebody likes a president that i don't because somebody expresses conservative uh ideas i cannot build a fruitful relationship with this person and i know that i'm never going to be able to be close to this person and this has been something that has only developed recently in in in our nation this has not been a problem uh a lot of people say 1966 the year that everything changed and we started shifting this way politically where our political divides became family divides became friendship divides became significant other divides uh and it's just it's just a tragic thing to hear that you cannot imagine yourself building a close relationship with somebody who simply has differing opinions the first day that i met him yeah yeah that wouldn't be very fun yeah i don't know if i can exactly truly connect with them because of that he's a very nice person obviously and he makes me feel comfortable but at the same time i have to recognize who i am as a person i would say i somewhat agree i keep pausing this i can't help it so he's stating that her father is otherwise apart from his political affiliation a perfectly nice man who treats him well makes him comfortable i'm sure feeds him and gives him shelter when need be and when they come to visit but i cannot accept a close relationship with a man who does not agree with me politically don't get it agreed because with my partner's family there's a language barrier so i guess it's my responsibility now to try to learn the language but sometimes when we're together they're talking i have no idea what's going on so i think that's a bit of why i feel like an outsider but other than that i feel welcomed i wish we were the same race three two one go um i'll start i feel like uh that would just be the default easiest way to navigate through life but definitely obviously growth happens when you're in inter-relational relationships but yeah that's kind of why i chose somewhat or somewhat agree um yeah i guess it like you were saying like i just feel like it would be easier in some aspects and then for me just like being mixed race i have felt very like disconnected from my culture so i feel like dating someone from who was like chilean or who was korean would help me but i also agree like obviously if you weren't white you wouldn't be like you and so i don't like wish that and the benefit i'm glad that she at least said that if you weren't white you wouldn't be you and i never wish that upon you i don't wish that we were the same race uh we we focus so much on skin color and culture in this country even though we are all americans and that should come you know first in our in our minds and who we are as a person what we like and dislike our different personality characteristics should come first before any any sort of mention of culture or or skin color when it comes to relationships of course unless your culture has certain traditions that dictate uh who you date and how you date then that's a whole different ballgame that we're playing but it shouldn't matter this much we shouldn't have to look at the person we're dating and go i need to think about whether or not i wish we were the same race whether or not it would be easier for me or more beneficial for me if you were the same race can we not love somebody regardless of what their skin color is and just let that not be a factor uh in the way that we treat them in in in our relationships it's outweigh like what i gain it kind of sounds weird coming out because it's like what do you guys get out of dating white people but like white people i feel like we learn i think it's interesting that everyone's saying that they feel it's easier because i feel like it would be more difficult me having a black man and raising a black family that would be more difficult if i was maybe with someone who was white who could probably have benefits in other ways i'm grateful for my husband and i love being with him and i think there's a lot of benefits just culturally and you guys that is officially a wrap that is the end of that video and this video makes me sad because these couples are average young american couples this is what people are thinking about in their day-to-day and this is what is influencing their mindset the way they navigate through the world to hear her say that it would be harder for her to date a black man in america is not only false but it's just so devastating to hear because it just goes to show that these campaigns and in brainwashing and indoctrinating are successful this is our young generation right now this is what they believe and this is going to influence where they navigate through the world how their children navigate through the world how their children's children navigate through the world and it's going to be all enforced by this wicked false i mean completely and utterly baseless ideology this baseless way of thinking there's just so many red flags in this video i think the worst part and the worst part that i heard in this entire thing is this young man who's on the screen actually right now the one with the necklace on saying i need to teach my kids that based on their skin color they will or will not have certain privileges and i need to remember to teach my kids that that is what we're facing right now so if you have any chance or opportunity to speak out against this sort of ideology a lot of this is founded in what we've all been hearing about and that is critical race theory uh this is what is perceived as common knowledge now people think this is common sense to think about others uh based on the way they look and based on how how dark their skin is amazing to me so i wanted you guys to see this jubilee video see what we're up against and encourage you to speak out against it because i will do it at every turn that i can i thought this video was a really uh really an all-encompassing way to talk about racialized issues in america race relations and how different people view them so thank you guys for watching if you want to go check out this jubilee video maybe go leave a comment because right now uh the comment section is just a lot of people who are reinforcing this sort of thinking uh so yeah go to jubilee check out this video again it's called is it okay to have a preference of race uh that's my take on it hopefully you share the same sentiments that i do if not we're in a world of hurt thank you guys so much for watching bye