How to know.. Is this my own thought? Or the Spirit? + method I use to receive answers

well this video was highly requested from my last one and the topic of this video is Discerning your voice your thoughts from the spirit knowing if it's an answer or if it's just something that you are coming up with on your own many years ago I heard the phrase we are all just walking each other home I was a little kid when I heard this and I remember at that time think or like having this knowing that that would in some way be a mantra on my life that you know I had never been through hard things I really didn't even know what that meant but I felt like there was something to that phrase but I believe as each of us go through life we go through trials we go through hardships and we overcome things it's our duty in a way to turn around and help the people on the path the same path that we were just on or that we are still on cuz we never really get off those paths even if you're just a few steps ahead and a perfect example of this would be um the night that I lost my son I was in the hospital and these two women approached me right after they shared the news like that he they couldn't um they couldn't revive him I don't remember how long how long ago that they had lost their their kids but they lost them in the same exact way that I had lost my son and I remember feeling a lot of comfort from them because honestly without them even saying anything it was just like sitting with me and you know offered words of encouragement it was so nice to sit with someone that was on the same road as you but I could tell they were Miles Ahead dang I didn't want to get emotional already um but there's something to that turning around and helping the people that are on the road that you are on and the reason I bring this up is because that's really what why I'm making this video for a long long time I could not discern my own thoughts from the spirit I had no idea I feel like I was making all the mistakes because I'm like is that my own thought is that my own idea and I would just go with it even if I felt uneasy about it I really couldn't discern and I think that that was a big problem for me and it has been for for a long period of time in my life so I would say after this year I have really come to know the difference and there is a difference and that is something that I'm happy to share with you guys I think that if you can be a voice of reasoning or influence for good for those who were struggling with maybe things that you have in the past I think that you should I think it's important for us to be that that voice so over this past year I would say I have become very acquainted with that voice and now it's very easy for me to discern my voice from the spirit I am hoping that whatever I share with you guys today I am hoping and praying that this will be beneficial to some of you I will also say there have been many times in my life where I I'm I'm very stubborn believe it or not and for a long time felt like I got this I don't need your inspiration I don't need influence like I want to make my own decisions and I don't really care what the consequences are like that's really how I have felt for many years in my life I think it's landed me in places maybe that I would have never been or maybe never should have been I think no matter what there were lessons probably to be learned through all of it and so any lesson is for your good because you're going to come out better and stronger and even if it doesn't make sense right now it will eventually and that is something else I've definitely learned I learn better through analogy so I will be sharing a lot of them as well as personal examples throughout this video but I want you guys to picture this so imagine yourself let's say you are 5 years old you're at the grocery store with a a loved one let's say it's a mom or a dad or a grandparent somebody that you are really really close with so you're at the store with them and you wander off down an aisle maybe the toy section at the store I always did that with my dad and there's a bunch of kids there's a bunch of families lots of adults lots of conversations going and suddenly you hear hey it's time to go and you look up and it's your dad or whoever your grandparent mom whatever why did you look up because before you probably heard a lot of conversations a lot of other parents yelling hey it's time to go but you were laser focus on whatever you were looking at this time you looked up and it's because the voice was familiar to you and so I think the first problem with hearing or Discerning is we're not familiar with the voice the truth is the more you know God the more clearly you can hear his voice and so if there is something that I don't know if you have turned away just maybe use this moment to look within look at your life what could you be doing to hear him better because that is the first step to being able to hear clearly and discern is you got to know what that voice is you need to recognize it I also believe God gives us that intuition that inner knowing the gut feeling my gut is never wrong every time my gut is telling me something no matter what somebody says I know to trust my gut and I would say I've learned that the hard way but when you're gut is telling you something is off something is off I will also say though fear is not from the spirit if you are feeling fearful it is not coming from him you can have warnings but you should also feel peace about that warning and I do have an example of this my birthday 2019 so it was December 18th of 2019 I was having a a party at my house lots of kids we had I had all my friends there and all of our kids were there and I looked down on my phone I had a bunch of Miss call from my mom and a text that said call me and I knew my dad was in the hospital but when I read that text call me these words like entered my mind your dad's not going to make it there wasn't a fearful terrifying feeling it was I felt peace about it but it was a warning it that that to me would be a perfect example of a warning feeling that brings peace because if you if we're being honest here death is the most scary thing right the thing that we are all the most afraid of yet in that moment I did have that feeling I had that warning but it brought peace and sure enough that was the news that I got but I feel like I was because I was warned about it I had a few moments to like gather myself knowing like the the news I was about to get it helped me receive the message a lot better and my dad passed away a few weeks later after getting that news now speaking of a voice because that was actually something that when I when I had that warning it was definitely a voice and this is one I want to like dig into more because this is something that I think where we get confused in our head we might hear a word or hear a phrase and think is that myself am I coming up with that on my own or is that a the spirit giving me an answer so this is what I really wanted to cover today in my experience anytime I hear a voice it's always in it's not an audible voice but I I hear words in my in my mind it's always direct it's always giving instruction and there is a power or authority behind it often times when I'm asking a question I get the answer before I'm even done asking I do have a couple examples of this when I was 18 I was living with my soon to be sister-in-law um I was renting a bedroom in her house and I could not find my car keys anywhere I was so frustrated and you know when when you're late for work you're just heated up I was so mad searching I think I spent 2 hours looking for my keys I could not find them anywhere and finally I gave up and was like you know what I haven't prayed about it I know they're here they have to be here I just I'm not looking in the right place so I like calmed myself down and I prayed and I said where are my key before I even finish the word keys I heard in your robe and I was like oh my goodness I remember putting them in my robe on hanging on the back of my door and I got up and I walked straight to my robe and they were in my robe so that is an example like it I got the answer before I was even finished asking the question and that happens a lot but again it was very direct in your robe okay another example of this was when I was praying about moving if I should stay in my home or if I should go and I was praying and I said do I stay or do and before I finish that phrase I heard loud and clear go I hadn't even finished my question and so and it was so that word it was I almost would say it was almost audible that is how powerful it came to me I knew I need to I needed to leave one more example I want to share on this one is I was going through a really really hard time and I was desperate I remember feeling really desperate for an answer to this prayer I needed to know what next steps I needed to take what I needed to do and I was desperate I remember just like crying out just asking what am I supposed to do and the words that came to me were clean your room and I remember opening my eyes like why did I just here clean your room like that has nothing to do with what I just asked and I was I felt a little bit confused like that was weird like that was definitely not me that did not come from me that was not my own thought that was not my voice so I because of that I got up and started cleaning and as I was cleaning my room I was flooded with inspiration I got out a notebook and started writing things down of things that I should do I should do this next and this next and it was just like coming to me over like overflowing all of this information and I think there's two parts to that I think part of it is I needed to trust that answer it didn't make sense at the time but I like followed through okay I'm supposed to clean my room I guess I'll start cleaning my room and once I did that all of this knowledge came to me again there's two parts of this the other part is I think that our outer world is a direct reflection of what's going on inside and so if you're living in chaos in your outer World your inner world is too and it's very hard to discern or to hear when things are chaotic and so I think me getting up and cleaning my room that night my room was spotless and I remember sitting in bed just feeling so grateful like I feel so much better my area is clean I feel mentally so much better and I had all of this inspiration written down of what I needed to be doing at that time in my life so just trust even if it seems weird if you're getting an answer and it seems like a weird thing to do trust it now here's the problem a lot of times these answers or this voice can be interfered by our emotions by the mood we're in that day so there is a method or an exact process that I do to make sure that I'm open to hearing correctly because I don't want my emotions or my ideas or my thoughts to be interfering with this in any way so not coincidentally I am going through some things right now um and yesterday as I was writing notes out for this I didn't have my kids yesterday so I spent five or 6 hours writing notes down anything that was coming to me that I wanted or felt like I should share with you guys but also I'm dealing with some personal things and as I was praying my friend popped in my mind and I thought I really could use some advice from her and I feel my phone vibrating and I look down I open one eye and my friend was calling me and I just started to cry I I answered my phone and I was like Bobby why are you calling me right now and she said I don't know but it it was involuntary I felt like I didn't even I have no idea why I'm calling you but what's going on and we talked for an hour well 59 minutes and the things we talked about her advice to me it was so good I was just writing notes down taking notes from her it was exactly what I needed yesterday I don't think it's a coincidence that I'm going through stuff in my life right now where I am using actively using this exact method that I'm about to share with you so how you're going to clear your head and receive these answers that you need when I have a decision I need to to make I don't want any outside noise or distraction to get in the way so I need a clear mind there might be things that you do to get a clear mind going for a walk outside is one of the best ways to do that so you could be going on a walk what I like to do though is I will Journal I will get my journal out and I will write down all of the things about this question that I have the pros the cons all of the problems or issues that you're having with it any any concerns that you have about this question write it all down and sometimes during this process I will feel like I get an answer and I will just continue writing out the sentence for example let's say that I was writing I don't know if I should move or if I should stay here but I really think it's best for me to leave like that might be the way that the answer comes in and if you feel peace after that that's that's your answer sometimes that will happen but other times you know I will just dump all my thoughts out right there so that I can feel peace full um and then the next step what I do is I love to put on meditation music in fact I like to do it while I'm journaling too I will have that playing and I will just sit you know I will just sit and relax and another really important thing is to make sure that your nervous system is relaxed because if you are let me let me actually just say this you never want to make decisions in the heat of a moment you never want to make decisions when you are angry or extremely upset you don't want to be doing that in those moments you always regret you will always regret making decisions like that when you are in any emotional state so what I like to do is make sure that I I just feel relaxed I'm not leaning one way or the other I'm just kind of centered and I'm ready to receive whatever answer I'm supposed to receive so the next thing I will do is I will ask my question what am I supposed to do especially when you're first starting to you know like feel like be familiar with this voice I would ask like yes or no questions but they always were direct I could like see the word yes and hear the word yes um or no now here's the other thing because sometimes you might be thinking okay I I prayed and I really felt the answer was yes but that was the answer I was hoping for so was it me was that my own thought or was that from the spirit and when this happens I think the next thing you should do is ask for a sign was that from you and you you can be specific about the sign that you want to receive Lord if that was from you I want to see this and he will show it to you every time and again I have an example of this so years ago a couple years ago I actually shared the story on Instagram so maybe some of you guys remember I was talking to a friend about my son like no wondering if he was around like is he actually a part of my life on a daily basis or just you know influencing me in any way or just next to me or around me like can he can he actually show me a sign and my friend said what what is it that reminds you of him and I said orange butterflies orange reminds me of him but anytime I would see an orange butterfly right after he had passed I just would feel close to him so I kind of tied orange butterflies to him so that's what I told her and she said you will see an orange butterfly today then now mind you it was January I live in Utah so there are no orange butterflies out and about in the dead of winter in Utah and I remember thinking what what are you talking about I am not going to see an orange butterfly today so I'm s I'm very doubtful and she said trust me you will you will see one if that's what if that is the sign you need to see for him to prove that he's around you he will show you one today and so I'm like whatever I'm driving home and you know how you always take the same route home we all do it right I'm driving home I'm almost to the road that I turn to get onto my street and I hear the this voice tell me to turn right turn right and so I did I turned right down this road and I remember thinking like oh this is kind of nice like have a little bit of change of scenery on my way home and I look to my right and there is this house and I'm not kidding you above the garage there's this giant orange butterfly mounted above their garage I remember throwing my car in park and balling because I'm like I I was obviously expecting to see a real a real alive butterfly but like that to me was like holy cow wo like signs are everywhere if you are asking for them if you are looking for them if you are desperate for them I promise you they will they will appear okay now sometimes when I am doing this I'm you know I have my clear mind and I'm asking sometimes I will draw a complete blank it's like I'm knocking on a door and nobody's answering there is nothing I'm getting nothing and when that happens the answer to me has always been wait like don't take any action on this step and last week this actually happened to me where I was feeling very uneasy about something and it was I felt like I needed to make a decision right now like what am I supposed to do and I was drawing a blank I felt no way this or that I couldn't see anything it was just literally blank and 4 hours later it was completely resolved and I had it was a misunderstanding on my part so again it was just confirmation to me I needed trust when I when I feel nothing wait if I feel yes and there's a peaceful feeling after that's the answer if I feel yes and I'm unsure and then I get a sign that's the answer that is your answer if you feel the answer is no and that's not the answer you were hoping for you have to trust that something better is on its way to you ultimately if you feel peace that's the right answer as I was writing notes down I actually wrote this out it came to me and I wrote peace is a gift and there's only one Giver I don't know where that came from I have no idea that is true confusion is not from the spirit fear is not from the the spirit if you're acting on fear acting in confusion that is not from the spirit and that is not the right answer and again when you feel a blank you're getting nothing wait just wait and trust and that's the hardest place to be the trusting and waiting for the answer I think that is I would rather have a yes or a no even if I don't want to know I even if I don't want the answer to be no I would rather get a no than wait I have a really hard time with that and un unfortunately that happens a lot I do have to wait I do have to be patient and just trust but in the meantime I like to work on myself whatever I can be doing to better myself mentally spiritually physically that's always I don't know why I just shared that but maybe that message was for you that in the season of waiting just focus on bettering yourself and yeah ultimately just trust stop worrying in stop worrying our day-to-day decisions are for us to make we're going to make a million mistakes along this journey um and you know most of the time there will be a reason for it you know I know I have made a bajillion mistakes a lot of things I'm not proud of but if you can learn from that if you can become better from that than I think that it was a lesson worthwhile I hope some of these tips were helpful to you guys today this is so out of my element and I don't feel qualified to be talking on this topic I hope that as you're making big decisions in life that you can take some of this with you and get familiar with that voice and trust yourself trust the spirit know that you are making the right decision [Music]