Couples Q&A | How we met, our age gap, wedding updates and lots more

Hey and welcome to the vlog. Today is a little different. We've got Nathan here today and we are going to do a little bit of a Q&A and answer some of your most asked questions so you can get to know a little bit about us. You ready? I'm really looking forward to it. Yeah because it's so fun. Okay the most asked question which everybody always asks is how did we meet? I think that one's up to you to answer. No you say. You can tell your version first. Uh well I mean we went to... We met on a dating site. No we did not meet on a dating site. Uh no I mean we went to part of high school even. The last two years of high school we were at the same and so we sort of met there. We didn't really become... We became friends and just know each other in the last two months. Yeah before we finished high school. Yeah. And then yeah and sort of carried on. Kept talking and getting to know each other after that. But anyways I saw him a couple years earlier at summer camp and I was like cute and he was selling t-shirts that week and so we called him t-shirt boy the whole week and it was not... I think it was almost until I joined. We ended up going to the same high school that I actually found out what was going on but he was a t-shirt boy and I had a little camp crush and then a few years later we were in the same high school and then he noticed me at lunch in the last two months of school. He noticed me in my swimsuit and that's when he was like wow who is she? Yeah so then it was started dating the first six months after six months from graduating high school for you know. A period of time. A period of time for like a year and a half almost. And then we didn't speak. Broke up. Didn't speak and we reconnected properly in 2021 right? The fall of 2021? Yeah. And then we got engaged last year in October. Yes. That is true. Okay next question is what were your first impressions of each other? Well you already described your first impressions of me. You had first impressions of me before I had first impressions of you. Yeah that's true. This is not gonna mean anything. I just didn't I knew you. I like knew some of your friends. Yeah. Because they were already the same school and so I occasionally seen you with them out in different events or whatever. So my first impressions of you were you were their little short friend. Little pretty short friend. Short yeah that's true. I haven't well I have my first impressions when I actually got to talk to you. Wow. And what my first impressions were when we first spoke? Well we went to dinner with a few friends. It was like the first week that I was at this new school and yeah it was a friend's birthday and we went out to dinner and I happened to be sitting next to him and he kind of was like oh I don't really like anyone here. That's not true. One of my best friends was there. Yeah I think you liked your friends but you didn't like the other people. The other people. And then I said well do you like me and you were like well you haven't done anything to piss me off just yet and that was my first impression. Little did she know how many things she was going to piss me off. That's true. But you were like very mysterious and kind of kept to yourself and your friends. I was just quiet. You used the mysterious job at school. I was just quiet. I've always been very introverted. Yeah. Yes I did. I had my group of okay I think I think I come across as intimidating because I'm quiet. Yeah. And because my resting facial expression is not it's a borderline frown or grimace I would say. Yeah. What is the age gap between the two of you? Yeah but there will be a time that he will be 27 and I will be 26 or there was a time when he was 26 and I was 25 and I was still in my early 20s when he was in his late 20s. It's like she just discovered birthdays. How did you know they were the one? Well. I can edit it out. I can edit it out to make it not look like I had to think so hard. You asked me to marry you. So how did you know? Well I mean if I'm being honest obviously we I mean we've known each other for a long time and started dating a long time ago. Obviously with some breaks in between. But I think when we like reconnected after kind of a longer period of not really being each other's lives and sort of kind of started fresh and got to know each other having both you know grown and a good bit. I think yeah I don't know. I mean I think just being able to see like because I knew a former version of you and you knew a former version of me and seeing like wow this person has like I really I obviously really like the person I knew before but they like me were you know we were young we were 18 19 even 20 and so like you know still very much figuring ourselves out not that not that we have ourselves figured out now. But I think I think I really fell in love with like I mean the person you were the new person I got to know but also just I think I fell in love partly with like the process that I knew because I could resonate like I knew that I myself had gone through and I'm still going through this process of like continual self-discovery and self-improvement and maturing and becoming a better and better version of myself and I could see that in you and I really loved the you that I was getting to almost getting to reacquaint myself with and it was so we had like a we had a history um but it also it felt very much like kind of a new friendship and it really wasn't a friendship so obviously when you have a you have had some romantic history we can't ignore that but I think that was definitely like you know it felt like for a while at least it didn't feel like oh this is like an old claim we're trying to get back it was just like we reconnected sort of randomly and we you know I was living in the states and you were still in Kenya and we just kind of started yeah and it really was like we had to get to know each other again if we were very different in many ways when did I know you were the one or how did I don't know I mean I don't it wasn't yeah it wasn't it wasn't like a moment or anything I don't know that we don't live in a movie um I think it was yeah it was a gradual just especially once I moved back here we're back to Kenya beginning of last year 2023 and we really started like I think there was a little bit of nervousness of like oh we really enjoyed all this talking and stuff but there's been a distance what's it going to be like if when we come back to the same place is it are some of the things that were hard about our relationship but it was it was just like it felt so natural move back home and my sort of new best friend lives there and I get to do life with her and we get to kind of figure things out uh how we go I think just it didn't take very long this is like life is so natural if there's anyone I want to spend the rest of my life this is the first one it's just very easy yeah it's very easy even when things are hard or stressful understand each other really well and we support each other really well and care for each other generally pretty healthy yeah I mean it really is that's how I feel too I think you pretty much said my feelings um but yeah you made me feel safe which I hadn't felt before really it was our friendship I'm really glad that we had what a year and a half of a completely long distance sort of of just talking we didn't have any other distractions but we knew yeah yeah but just being able to talk to somebody every single day and like that's the person that you you know something small or little happens you're the first person that I wanted being too sometimes people are like when people ask like how's it been being engaged or whatever I feel like sometimes I understand like some people are kind of cynical in general and I probably was as well but they almost asked that question expecting you to answer like this has been hard I need a break yeah I've had no complaints I don't have I have no significant complaints um who approached who first one you said I love you first two you kissed me first three that doesn't sound like it was a like an unrequited kiss no it was returned but you kissed me first you shocked me when you kissed me first at school um sure um and then when we were on that trip you would come and hang out with me on a senior trip uh yes yes yes yes I don't think that was yeah and then you that's not that wasn't I don't think that was I had just been broken up with yeah so I was I think that was more of a you're you're sad I was I was sad I was sad little boy yeah who was desperate for some sort of female attention with you and your friends well also my friends were all either with their own crushes yeah but yours was more of like uh done you had it you had the greatest yeah but it was I was I was sad you were you were like finally I needed to get out I was done you know when they say girls are really when they're by the time they're done with you they're like they've been done for months I'd already agreed before that but I did text you you did a text but you you said I love you first you asked me to marry you okay well there's you made some first moves okay I think that last one was pretty difficult yeah anyways I'm glad I did too that's eight 10 years she started dating in 2017 yeah 2023 so do the math long relationship no breaks smooth sailing the most interesting thing what is the most interesting thing you've learned about each other after starting to live together oh that I'm more of a homebody than you are yeah more of a homebody yeah yeah not necessarily more you're much more you perfectly okay just spend days on end at home yeah just in bed or whatever not in bed but like but yeah you have like sleeping pajamas and then you change into your daytime pajamas that was new to me whereas I I get a little I'm not like super social but I like to go what are some of the struggles of moving in with your partner we have two separate bathrooms I think we both we're both the type of I mean probably everyone everyone needs their own space at some point so it's I mean we love our apartment and it's not tiny but it is it's a small space to share with another person all the time yeah so that's probably one of the struggles like when one or both of us kind of feels like oh I'm gonna I need me time yeah the option is one of us can move here and we're going to stay later right that's kind of yeah yeah I'd like that's yeah that's the nice thing of having a garden where you can be in your garden and it's not that you're like it's not that either of us are upset with each other but I just like to work in my own space or watch my shows find all my shows oh finding a show this is a struggle finding a show that you both like to watch like at dinner um I love to watch my reality tv okay I like it and you have your shows too but if we find a tv show then we kind of like that's okay those are far and few between yeah that's okay me too that's a struggle she thinks we give more attention to the birds you know that how tall are the both of you the both of us combined we would be about exactly 11 feet tall just about exactly so how tall are you well I'm six two and how tall are you you're six two and then I'm 11 well you are just under six two I think you're like six one and a half um and I am which is yeah I don't know what it is and I am 4 11 I am 4 10 and a half okay so we do have a big height difference but I have a big height difference with everyone and I think people on instagram tend to think that he's a giant because they don't know I'm very petite but no I think he's more normal sized than I am you're tall taller than that yeah I'm not you're not that weirdly tall okay um what are you most excited about doing life together I think just experiencing new things and creating memories and new traditions and having our own little life having my best friend by my side traveling working being there for friends just those little things I'm excited to do it all how do you know family is very fun and what do you most love about each other I think people's feelings emotionally but also like um is so evident so much of the time I can't help but really really love that I would say she means to say I'm like nerdy like you will always want to learn more and know more your birth and future just safe not just physically you're good okay switching gears how is the wedding or how the wedding actually they're they're actually fine because we are having multiple ceremonies and events around the world um but to be honest the first few months we knew that we were going to have a long engagement and we knew that our wedding would be far into the future after we got engaged so for the first few months it was just enjoying our engagement which was really nice and then it got to maybe march in this year and we're like oh shoot we need to think about a wedding and then we started what was really difficult was finding the venue and yeah because we have siblings that are in school teachers so there's yeah like four different school schedules to align which was fine five really yeah it doesn't matter but there's five school schedules to align and like kind of taking off we initially wanted it to be christmas of this year but then it just was really expensive yeah venue over christmas and the time is really short so we just ended up going for but other than that i feel like once we got that like cemented and we had our venue and all the other little things and having a lot of fun dreaming and imagining we really get into all the little details and it's been fun and yeah it really hasn't been super stressful but even then we have a planner that i feel really confident in we have small weddings yeah so it's not as like i think i feel like a lot of the stress it was a big wedding you had a lot of logistics that had to go on place which there won't friends and family the few that are going to be what theme slash vibe are you going for do you know the thing we're going for for a wedding yes i think we're doing like country western what yeah that's kind of cowboy cowboy carter we're stuck between that and like medieval knights so let us know yeah it's to me um but we are i don't think there's a vibe i mean neutral simple kind of what my vibe is um and we're keeping it small and intimate and that is like that's what you really are right what part of the wedding are you looking forward to yeah because we're having four so when it's yeah no i'm looking i'm the wedding's gonna be really fun yeah just because we're not because we have like my family will all be coming from as well most of our friends yeah again it's a small group but so i think we're we're not gonna like fly off on a honeymoon or something the day after like a lot of people would just because people will be coming from so far and there's a lot of people we don't get to see that often and so i think you know we're really prioritizing just having a good quality time with those people it'll be like a wedding weekend but we're gonna try and kind of do stuff before and after and stuff and really maximize time with those yeah so i think it'll be fun i'm not i hate um so i think the ceremony is civil that's probably i mean i'm sure it'll be really special obviously um but i also hope relieved yeah not necessarily happy i'm sure i'll be happy let's go yeah i'll be yeah everybody yeah um yeah i think i'm just really looking forward to i have this picture in my head of what i want our table to look like um i'm just like that's what you're saying no the like table like there's this picture i have in my head of us all sitting at our reception dinner and those are like the people in the world that are closest to me and they're just having a weekend where we can spend time with yeah people that mean most in the world to us and having them which is rare to have them all together in one place so that is what i'm exactly so that's so that is what i am looking forward to the most i think um yeah that would be really special okay will you be doing a traditional wedding non-traditional i think they mean more so like a kenyan traditional wedding no you will not be having my parents are not very traditional and therefore i wasn't great they didn't do traditional ceremonies for their wedding um so we won't be having that but they might be some small elements of something but no we will not be having a traditional we already have enough ceremonies events but everything will be great what is a big non-negotiable for each that each of you have for the wedding is there something that you want to veto uh i don't know i feel like like i know those when if you mention something when you're in them oh i have a non-negotiable no facts but i don't think i think for me it would be something that i'm learning to be okay with in this journey that so making sure that what we want is the forefront rather than maybe perhaps what other people would like our date to be have you guys decided on a honeymoon yeah that hasn't been the forefront of our minds at all i think there's a bit of a not much much less this year than last year but i think we just we get to travel to some nice places because of her platform so i think there's a little bit of like well i mean we'll go even if we don't we're not going as often as maybe we did last year we're gonna go somewhere we'll get to go somewhere nice even if it's like a little it kind of feels like we go on every year yeah again it's not it'd be nice to do like we've also kind of we figured out a kind of rhythm to those trips we've got a couple trips that are sort of in the works not confirmed just yet but sometime next year maybe our honeymoon we're doing receptions before the wedding anyway so and as we said earlier we would like to spend as much time as we can with our friends we'll be in kenya so we are not yeah i think because it's not going to be right after the that won't be work-related it's just a honeymoon but did you face any backlash for interracial dating not really you got some weird i think anything like weird comments or dms yeah there are a few between the two of us there are a few nasty dms or comments that we got but they were weird but like you don't want to take you just don't take them seriously you're a faceless person you wouldn't say that to my face and so but we haven't experienced any of that like in our real life at all have people questioned your age in terms of getting married well we both come from a christian religious family so it's not within that culture it's not not young for getting married so we have we both have a number of friends who have been married for some years already you know it probably is i would younger than i would have expected myself to get married yeah if you asked me a few years ago yeah um no no one else i think our parents were they're definitely yeah oh actually i'm will be married the same age my mom already yeah so no nobody's really and yeah like you said i would have i if you had asked me a few years ago i would have thought it might be my 30s really um at some point but where are you from i am american by passport we're here now my family lives here now but i grew up for all of my whole life so my parents worked in kenya from before i was even born um and so that was kenya's always been home i've spent close to 20 years where i'm from it depends what you mean my passport says one thing the way i look says yeah but kenya is definitely home it's where we intend to be long term okay is content creation your full-time job yes it is and canon are can you speak swahili can you speak i can i'm i can communicate yeah i can i can understand everything because you were shamed how do you keep the spark alive as an interracial it's such an interesting question how do you keep the spark alive not just yeah the spark but as an interracial i don't think um have you guys been in a long distant relationship we sure have not fun i'm thankful yeah you skip a lot or like we had to really get to know each other because and what happened yeah what makes a happy or successful marriage the ability to one is friendship i feel like that with that that is a foundation regardless of difficult moment or like know that the person that you're with thanks for all your questions and thanks for tuning in i hope you got to know a little bit better hopefully we'll do one soon and maybe give you wedding updates but if you want to me all right bye