Why Emotional Sensitivity Is Ruining Your Life: The Hard Truth

do not be so in touch with your emotions and I'm going to tell you why and yes you should compare yourself to other people and I'm going to tell you why this video goes basically against everything that people tell you in the modern world the modern world's lost so don't listen too closely to society cuz Society will tell you the secret is if we were all more in touch with our emotions and you know if we were all connected and if we didn't compare ourselves to anybody I had a dude come on my I don't need to compare myself to anybody else yes you do so here's the simple reason why you do I did a video called if you never been to Hell you won't be able to appreciate heaven on Earth meaning if you don't have horrible things happen to you it's hard to appreciate when things go well that's why a rich kid is usually goes into rehab cuz when they always had heaven on Earth growing up and all the money that they they had no what's called contrast bias they couldn't compare themselves to a time when they were poor so it just felt like it's it just felt like this is how life is supposed to be I was in Beverly Hills and there was a kid my next door neighbor and he said he was depressed and I said why and he said cuz all the other kids at 16 got a Ferrari and he only got a BMW and I was wanted to say to him bro you're too in touch with your feelings like your feelings are spinning out of control making cuz World modern psychology say oh yeah let him experience The Grieving that he what grieving there's no grieving you have a BMW doesn't matter that you didn't get a Ferrari it's probably good you didn't get a Ferrari but then when you finally work for it and you get a Ferrari you can appreciate the heaven on Earth cuz you went through hell to get it but I'll tell you even a better story I was telling somebody this I'm in Helsinki Finland traveling here this hotel room it's a cool hotel it's like all this oldfashioned finish furniture and stuff and um so I was in Utah and I and I took there was a homeless guy and I like to try to help out when I can you know and this guy noticed he had cataracts in his eyes and he was going blind and he wasn't that old he was like I would guess between it's hard to know they've been through tough life a lot of those people so I'd say he was between 35 and 45 but his eyes you could see like almost like scab scales growing over him you know and so I started talking to him he's like hey do you have any money and I said hey man could I like buy you something versus just giving you money just so in case some sometimes people eing for drugs he's like I'm really hungry I said hey let's go down to eat and the only place there was like a Starbucks I said let's go to Starbucks we go to Starbucks he I like tell me your story how'd you get here as a black guy in Utah there many black people in Utah to start with plus he'd obviously been through this tough life and he was telling me how you know he doesn't have any health care doesn't really qualify obviously and and the free health care he get they're kind of ignoring these cataracts for you know lot of a lot of people can't afford what they need in health care in America so I go a little deeper like how' you end up here he's like well I was born in Houston Texas Tai and I was um a foster kid I was adopted I was in the whole system you know parents rejected him and at he told me around age five he got sent to a family in Utah it's the only black guy in this white family you know and so he was telling me he said yeah I said what was the reason your parents gave you up your real parent and he's like well they were alcoholics I said oh man my dad was an alcoholic too you know and he goes oh really did you used to get chained up too or he said no he said like oh you know what it's like to get chained up too and I was like chained up what so I just started going a little deeper he goes yeah the way that I got put in the Foster you know I was an oant in the Foster system is that finally at age five somebody heard me screaming and came and saw that my parents whenever they would drink alcohol they would chain me to a chair cuz they couldn't afford a babysitter and they would go off and drink and they would get so drunk they would leave them there for 8 hours you know 6 hours 4 hours as a little kid and he said it started as soon as you remember age one or two and finally I guess his parents would put him back like in a closet or something so nobody could hear him screaming and then finally somebody I don't you know mirac miraculously somebody heard him screaming and he showed me like he had like weird marks on like he said he basically lost some function in his arms most of it had come back by the time few years later but and I was thinking oh it's good that like I had an alcoholic bed and I could spin out of control and get so in touch with my emotions that I'm like oh like whoo was me my dad was alcoholic and I didn't you just make excuses for the rest of your life I'm glad for the rest of my life I'm like well my dad was alcoholic but my dad didn't chain me up you can't experience Heaven until you know what hell could have been like so the reason I'm saying don't be so in touch with your emotions I'm not saying you shouldn't connect with your emotions I'm just saying keep it in perspective by comparing yourself I'm not saying you should never moreour like I probably should look back but I don't know exactly what it does but I should probably look back and go you know what Ty you lost out on a greata experience you know my dad went to prison and when he was out he was an alcoholic but you know what I did instead of being super in my feelings is I just I found mentors they were like Father figures to me when I graduated high school Joel salon right after you 18 around right around 18 years old I found a good father he just wasn't my flesh and blood father I went out and found somebody so I knew what it was like to not not really have a good father figure so I went as soon as I was free enough you know I was out of stupid high school and all this stuff that locks teenagers in I went and found Joel Sal and lived on his farm for two years you know that was my first father figure then I went and lived with the Amish for 2 and a half years guy named Sam chup the most stable father figures in the world Amish you know is the nicest guy I was just just doing a barn raising last month that I bought a f near them even now so because I compared myself and that wasn't the first time where people had it worse than me I was never SE in my feelings that I was just destroyed I I met this guy I'm not going to say his name he might be listening and I start as entrepreneur he probably makes about 3 million bucks a year and we got again talking and he's a real emotional dude and he says to me he says die I'm mad as my dad walked out of my life and left my mom at age five and he goes you know I'm still mad every day this is a grown man he's like 30 years old I said bro you you got to stop you're too in touch with your emotions enough is enough you know I need to get this guy to sit down and have dinner with this homeless guy who was chained up I'm like okay so your mom and dad got divorce your dad walked out and probably went on and build a new family okay whoopy [ __ ] do I'm going to be I'm going to be tough right now that's what I told him I said it's enough already I like what Charlie Monger says when things bad happen to you think about them for 3 Days cry weep and then move on and repress the rest of the feelings again totally counterculture what many psychologist said but not all psychologists repression at times is important not all times you shouldn't repress everything all the time but there's no evidence in fact the all the evidence is that human brain is built with some capacity for oppression think about it why is it so common that we repress cuz there's some what's called an evolution functionality or adaptive benefit this guy that was 30 this guy he came out of my far Virginia I said dude enough is enough lots of people don't have dads and you know a lot of dads died in war or di died in the 1300s there were several bbo plagues in the world I think one was in 1300s 1200s another one was in the 1500s rats had these little might you know mites or lice on them that spread this Bo on a plate everybody died whole Villages you'd have one out of three or four people live so when you compare yourself this guy's dad was still alive he could go look him up and hang out with him he was acting like he lived through the Bubonic plague this it's okay man I was just reading the story of Cortez and you know Cortez is the conquistador who went to the Aztecs in Mexico and conquered them he had like 16 horses and a couple hundred men and he killed monuma who had this huge multi-million person Aztec you know civilization kind of a bloody story although the Aztecs were no Saints either they love to you know they would torture babies uh because they believe the tears of babies would bring rain and azte would demand human ritual sacrifices and they would basically put people's hearts out while they were still alive so Cortez had his tough life and so did Aztec and so we live in the mod world and people are but hurt over everything they're like oh I was married and divorced and it didn't work out okay was your heart ripped out by an Aztec demanding that your village give forth you know innocent victims to offer up to the gods they might say Tai this is ridiculous is it really or is it ridiculous to forget that you live in a world that is R if you're religious let's say you're a western religion like Christianity or Islam or Judaism well then you believe in this like dichotomy like there's a devil and there's a God and there's a dark path and and so it's not surprising to you that bad things happen cuz you believe in the devil if you're an atheist then you're more like Civilization patient discontents there's three reasons humans are unhappy the death and dissolution of the body we all get older everything stop working eventually everybody dies of heart failure 100% of people 100 billion people have comeing gone number two forces of nature big hurricanes come kill people tornadoes and then betrayal of other humans these are all normal though see there's a big difference between you you get all in your feelings when you think stuff's not normal men and women have had you know I know men that are so angry at women why well I dated this woman and she ruined my life did you really ruin your life you're still here dude or are you ruining your own life by thinking about it endlessly endlessly move on you need to follow you know there was a guy who one wrote what I think is one of the greatest books ever written many people do it's called All Quiet on the Western Front his name was Eric RoR he was a German soldier who lived through World they wrote a book and it became one of some people say the greatest book of the last you know 100 years depends who you ask but All Quiet on the Western Front I saw Netflix or something just did a a movie on it but he said there is much too little forgetting you only grow old through your memories see little kids fall down and just get back up because they're not so into their emotions they don't psycho anal Phil and Susie push me off the monkey bars and maybe that means I'm ugly person or maybe that means why and cont I saw even supposedly smart people I watched who did I see on social media I a little bit lost respect for this person and they were so butt hurt oh now this will really be controversial shouldn't say I lost respect but Robin Williams okay everybody loves Robin Wes I also love Robin Wes but I don't agree with this talk that I just heard literally T and and it was going he was angry at God and he was like why is the world like this okay what narcissism do we have that we suppose that God was supposed to do stuff exactly in our own benefit you know what I always find funny people are always angry about Injustice to them are you angry about the millions of people right now for sure who are falsely imprisoned are you taking any time out of your day for them no what you mean is you're angry that things don't work out for you you ain't angry about the Injustice of the world now maybe you are maybe you're like Mohamad Gandhi or Nelson Mandela and you're fighting for the poor but all every one of my friends and every human and I meet like this dude who came to my farm and was angry about the fact that his fathered out life was that supposed to be I said bro why don't you have that level of passion about all the injustices happening in your own Community right now now you don't you just have Injustice about things happen to you that's narcissism there's a big difference in charitability altruism truly being a compassionate person and only being compassionate to yourself you know why don't you do okay so you didn't have dad why don't you I want to say to that guy I didn't say it at the moment I should have why don't you you know I became a big brother I joined the Big Brother program like if you all mad that you didn't have a dad then you become a dad to a whole bunch of kids that didn't happen if you're all mad that your relationship didn't work out and you know that your wife left you or your husband left you go work with people who are victims of serious serious problems for you know marriages like they're being there's probably someone on your block right now guarantee you there's some horrible domestic violence or stuff happening where people are beating up their kids but you probably turn a blind eye cuz it ain't really your life you really want to get into your feelings about Humanity do it for all of humanity not just for yourself you see we root our emotional Connections in this fantasy that we're really a empathetic person no you're not you're a narcissist narcissist are butt hurt that's what I said my thing about Robin Liams I respect the guy very genius who am I to totally judge him but for my own self I wanted to say R I got the solution bro I thought you you everybody says Roby Williams is the smartest genius ever no he's not the great Geniuses of History realized we're a blit on we're a pimple on the The Echoes of time at best first off there's a very good chance we are an atom inside of an atom inside of an atom so we're like these little teeny creatures that live inside you know like the Russian cups where it's like the little doll and it gets bigger and bigger and it it could go on for Infinity humans are nothing time is also an illusion most likely many things are illusion in fact well was the noo BR one for 2 years ago local realism is false that means even when you don't look at the Moon it disappears and when you look at the Moon it renders right in front of your eyes so at best and and this is why one thing I don't always agree with the Eastern religions but I do agree with like Buddha you know desire is the root of all suffering so you desire to have the best marriage in the world so when it doesn't work out you have a lot of pain desire that this is a very wise thing I'm not a Buddhist I don't agree with all Buddhism because some desire is healthy but I understand it he was right that's the greatest explanation of your sorrow you have sorrow because you want too much you know you want too much my friend is like no to be happy I the perfect dad and he could have never walked away why do you get that what's the where's the rule book in fact the rule book I see is the opposite bro and what rule book I wanted I would have gone to Robin LS what rule book have you looked at the universe you really think that God or the universe is under some requirement to make you not just Homo sapiens but you to have a a tirelessly beautiful and effortless life I don't see that I don't see that you know one reason people should get a farm one reason I have a farm humans get too into the human species do you care about what about other species you know they call it being uh humanist too here or you know like racist you're too human Focus you can become and that's what made Elon Musk happy he said at age 12 very depressed and he read a book books well you should read more it was called The Hitchhiker's gu Guide to the Galaxy and it made him realize the answer for him was to realize no matter what horrible things are happening in the earth we're just a blip in this universe so he began to focus on space that's why he's wants to build SpaceX and go to Mars because he realizes Robin Liams friend that's mad about Dad walking out there's no there's not even a guarantee that this Earth's going to make it so a little bit less emotions you know there's a reason for example the best way to raise a kid scientists say is not when the kid falls down that both parents run over and kiss the you know it's good when L parent does that and humans evolved out of sexual reproduction it creates two parents not all species are like that ferns don't do that they're just one they're asexual or hermaphrodites or whatever but humans have done better because you got one parent that walks up and goes oh are you in touch with your feelings let's cry together and another parent walks up and goes toughen up stand up wipe off that blood and go back to play because welcome to the universe these are the rules of the universe if you get too in touch with your feelings you get wiped out and we live in a world now because of Technology we have so many things Carl marks was right I'm not a communist but he was damn right on one thing even even Carl marks was right on a few things and he said the problem with capitalism would make people too rich give them too much technology and they'll forget to be Farmers you know in Russia they wanted every ready work in the land working with your hands the Bible says this make it your ambitious to live ambition to live simple and quiet lives working with your hands that's what the Amish do notice the Amish are the happiest people statistically Jared Diamond told me that personally the author of guns German steel one of the most respected scientists who want to pull it surprise for his historical look on Humanity he said oh TI up with omish I studied them they're 500% happier then mainstream Society I'm like I know because they don't give themselves so much time to contemp they don't have time to go to therapist all the time why because they need to go mil the cows I was just one of my Farms with the Amish run my farm we had to make hay so being so in touch with your feelings you just get into this narcissistic Circle that the world revolves around you and the more you start thinking you become like Robin W you start going well the world revolves around me and so it's not working out perfectly they start blaming God which is just wacky thing to do I I don't I I've never quite understood the wacky belief in Anger at God either you don't believe in a god like you're an atheist like my grandma I can see why she was an atheist okay or you'd be like my friend who or like the Amish who are very Christian and whatever happens they go well it's the will of God that's more logical they have tragic things happen to them in fact on the Amish community that um I have my farm and I lived for years uh a group of the Amish nine people went up it's in the news right now took a van to go to a wedding in Wisconsin so they drove all the way up and they had a non-amish driver obviously the Amish don't drive and this Amish uh this non-amish driver wasn't looking and pulled out at a freeway stop and a milk truck so it's a truck carrying fluid milk about 40,000 lb 20,000 kilos uh hit killed everybody on the van flipped it caught on fire one baby a whole family was wiped out I think there was I don't know five seven people father died that one baby came out of that survived miraculously unarmed but all their parents killed and you know the Amish mourn they do mourn for that obviously you should be it was a I'm not saying you n you should have zero emotions that's too extreme over here I'm saying soet societies where over here what the Amish did they mourned about it but they truly believe they have this word called Goosen height which doesn't it's a German word it's an Amish versus they speak sish dialect which means giving up to God so they're not like Robin Lives why would God create a universe where babies are killed by the forces of inertia you know well that's not for you to decide Robin word that ain't for you if you believe in if you're going to say the word God then God just picks what they want to do the force of nature when do you get sad that hundred animal species go extinct every week no you're just thinking about yourself and how the world's outf it reminds you there used to be a cartoon called Calvin and Hobs it was a story about a little boy who had a pretend tiger and I remember C hob says in this he says his mom says oh you can't do this Calvin the little boy and he says why not that's not fair and his mom says to him well sometimes life isn't fair and the little boy in the cartoon says yeah but I want him to be unfair in my favor that's what Robin was that's what my friend who was saying I didn't have a debt oh you want the world to be perfectly fair in your favor you don't really care that much you're not on the Forefront you haven't started your charity right called kids with no fathers no you just care about yourself and you're so in your feelings that you just become increasingly narcissistic and a lot of emotion is just cleverly disguised narcissism do you you just ask yourself the sub bullet mess are you as bothered by the Injustice happening to you like my neighbor who didn't get a BMW but I mean got a BMW but not a Ferrari at age16 for free he saw that as an injustice is that kid as concerned about that as I saw a dude going to death row in America insane Story the dude's on death row he's going to be executed even though the DNA has 100% exonerated him that he he's just a poor dude that was in the wrong place 20 years ago and somebody falsely accused him I don't know if it was what it was M or whatever the DNA now has exonerated the dude but whatever system it is Arkansas or some part of America the judg is like well it's too late we already started okay is that 16-year-old kid going to be protesting is my friend who didn't have a dad is he going to be showing up would Robin Williams had shown up and said you know I had some injustice my life and I don't think it was fair so I'm not only going to protest about my Injustice but I'm going to come here and I'm going to I'm going to call the governor hey my name's Robin Willam you know or my friend hey I'm an entrepreneur what I'm going to do a big social media campaign and I'm going to get you judge and you mayor and you Governor kicked out I'm going to use all my power as a social media influencer to get you disbarred removed no no no no it's like Calvin HS people just are in touch in their feelings when it benefits them and they have no ability to keep it in perspective by comparing themselves for True Injustice if you had been trained to a bed as a little baby uh you had a tough life but you didn't have that tough a life if somebody want to says oh Tai's just literally canc cancelling out people's ability to grieve oh yes I am all right you're right and you'll thank me one day for it because I don't know if you noticed that we live in a somewhat impersonal world so the sooner you just toughen up put on your big boy and big woman pants you're going to live a better life you be or if you want to be super religious you could be like the Amish you good say it was the will of God that the whole van died and only one baby surprised but they adopted that baby that baby went right in to a family who's you know the I think one of the brothers took it and that baby will be raised and made sure the community will make sure that that baby lives as good a life as they can but when that baby grows up the Amish ain't going to lie they're not going to say ah they're going to say your mom and dad died in a car accident they'd all pull punches you know they'll still wait till the kids are appropriate age an more of an adult but we live in a world where everything's so sensitive that all we're doing is further perpetuating narcissism and it's going to come to a place where Society will cease to function it literally so people go as AI a bad thing like well maybe not maybe it's God solution to a narcissistic world that you're going to need to replace it with robots that are a little more logical robots can to be like I did not have that bad of a life yes I did not get a BM a Ferrari at 16 I did get a BMW sounds good yes my father left me at 5 but I'm alive I'm healthy that guy complained about that as a multi-millionaire he has family and kids I'm like I want to say that dude grow the [ __ ] up bro men used to go to war I'm here in the nordics where the Vikings are from you ever flown over you want you want to put life in perspective fly to Iceland from the US over the Arctic Circle it's the I'll tell you enough I'm not a easily intimidated person in my entire life going everywhere in the world I've been to leopard colonies in India I've been to the densest jungle a in the world the Daran Gap in Panama been with Indians and never seen anybody from the outside still with bone air only time I ever been intimidated traveling flying over CTIC you look down there you go if this plane crashes ain't no nothing's down there Vikings used to get in little boats made out of wood in Iceland and Float through that with no GPS no email no FaceTime back to their families n half of them would be dead every time some of them would come back five years later T their wife would have married somebody else but you know what that's our ancestors that's who we descend from so the good news that I'll wrap this up is that the good news is you have the the toughness within you to handle almost anything there's a few things that happen to people that are so painful that the brain basically splits and you get psychotic brace with reality and you get things like schizophrenia with all these things PTSD responses to try to buffer your brain but that is so rare that is so rare most of us is just being overly sensitive I'm glad for the last 40 years you know a little more compassion came into the culture and we got more in touch with our buing but enough is enough is gone too far dive it back ladies and gentlemen compare yourself with what it could have been compare yourself to your ancestors compare yourself to people who have true Injustice it's okay your girlfriend cheated on your boyfriend cheat on your husband CH I know it sucks I'm not saying it won't be a painful moment do a try over it cry about it for three or four days then move on as remark said there's much too little forgetting literally try to forget things that's not repression repression is for another video what I'm saying is you bring it through you cleanse it and it's like a car you have an exhaust pipe out the end to get rid you can't just keep circulating the pain through your body forever I mean you can but you ever met someone like that you want to be them no you want person that's a survival machine you cleanse you have a perpetuating ability to go through trauma cleanse and move on just like your body like I have this scar here got a big cut when I was young cut my artery blood shot out 12y old the scar is there but it's healed over and my hands about as strong as this hand so the body is a self-cleansing machine don't think your brain and emotions aren't that way too all right anyway yeah it's 2 in the morning here tell sink's way ahead of time so do you agree should we be more put put let's do a little poll below leave a comment if we should be more put the word more or less in touch with our emotions all right talk to you soon