【許乃樺老師/符咒/和合術】感情和合術：不被命運限制自己的未來

Hello, everyone. I'm Xu Weilin. Many friends will ask us, can you help me check if my life partner and I are a good match? In fact, when we meet this kind of friends, we usually make fun of them first. The main reason is that the life partner is looking at his life. He is looking at a general direction of life. He is not an absolute value. I can't tell you what's going to happen So at most, it's about whether the life of two people is the same. Are two people just lucky enough to be together? One is lucky enough to be together. Is it just right to be together? But in fact, we can't use the eight characters to get along with this person. We can't use the eight characters to help us find a partner. In terms of getting along, we still have to go through a long-term fusion of two people and the joint efforts of two people to support each other to the end. It's definitely not through an eight character to make a judgment. And the same eight characters have absolutely different fates. For example, one of his eight characters was born in Taiwan. One of his eight characters was born in India or in a more remote country in South Africa. At this time, even if the two people's eight characters are exactly the same, they are both lucky. But at the end, the salary he earns from his luck may be completely different. Some people may be born in a rural tribe. At most, he may be a farmer and do very well. Some people may go to a big company to work. They have the same fate. In the end, his result must be different. So in retrospect, we still have to tell our friends that the eight characters are just a general direction. But we should never be bound by the eight characters. We should not use some fates to set our own life. Because our life is created by our own efforts. The eight characters are the eight characters. We are ourselves. What should we do? We decide our own direction. At this time, I thought of a film called The World of the Gatekeeper. In an old film before, The World of the Gatekeeper was very well made. It was starred by Mr. Jin Kai Rui. When he was a baby, he was surrounded by the crew. Since he was born, there were a lot of cameras surrounding him to observe his life. Until he grew up, he was still surrounded by the whole crew. There were cameras everywhere to shoot the direction of his life. Including his life arrangement, it was all arranged by the director behind the scenes. The director behind the scenes thought which friend he should make friends with and which girlfriend he should date. It was all planned by the director. Today, when he finally grew up, he met a girl he liked. But the director thought he shouldn't marry her. He should marry the girl he arranged. So he planned to let this girl go out. Then he asked the gatekeeper to marry another girl and make friends with her. In the end, the gatekeeper began to realize something was wrong. He began to realize why his life was always so ordinary and repetitive. He was very repetitive. He finally realized what he wanted. He began to doubt if he was really controlled by others. In the end, he wanted to escape from the crew to find the girl he liked. When he was about to walk to the door, the director talked to him sincerely. The outside world is also very hypocritical. Why don't you stay with me? I can give you the best thing. What did the gatekeeper say to him in the end? Whether it's black or white outside, he wanted to take a look. You see, in this film, if our lives are similar or not, if we are always tied by our fate, if we are limited by our own fate, if we are arranged by a director behind the scenes, you can't get out. If we don't talk about fate, if you go out, will you accept the arrangement of others in the end? Or do you want to leave the creation of your own life? I believe most people want to leave. The fate is the same. If the fate gives us a bad fate, it doesn't matter. We can still walk out slowly and live our own life. We don't want to be limited by our own fate. We have to walk out on our own. No matter if we go ahead, whether it's black or white, we can at least do what we want to do, right? So we don't want to be tied by fate. We have to jump out. Then maybe one day you will find that you have gone through this stage. You have gone through this stage. You can observe a lot of beautiful scenery. It's like climbing a mountain. We climb to the top of the mountain at most. Our life is like climbing a mountain. Climb to the top of the mountain. Then you will go down the slope. So if the fate is not good, it doesn't matter. We can walk slowly. We can look along the way. The scenery next to us is also good. In the end, when you climb down the mountain, what you have gained is the scenery next to you, instead of constantly pursuing the peak. When we constantly pursue the peak in our life, it's not a good thing. Sometimes, it may make us more frustrated. For example, Hu Juyuan, a red-collar businessman in his late 70s, started out as a bank robber. In the end, he worked very hard to create his own money. As a result, the political factors of the whole company collapsed. All the companies he ran collapsed in one fell swoop. After the collapse, he died of depression two years later. So what I want to say is climbing to the top. It's right for us to work hard to climb to the top. But we shouldn't always set it as our goal. So when our destiny is different, our destiny is not good, it's okay. We can walk slowly. We can climb slowly. It will always make us reach the peak. When we reach the peak, we have to think carefully and be cautious. The so-called cautious action. We don't want to keep climbing to a higher place. I still have to keep going up. In the end, it may be easy to fall. Although I'm not saying that everyone will fall when they reach the peak. But what we want to say is when we reach the peak, we have to look back at ourselves. We still have to stop right away. Don't climb too fast. You have to work hard. But in the end, what is our goal? We live from birth to 100 years old. It's such a long time. We must not be proud of ourselves because we climbed too high. When we reach the top, we don't give up. There will always be a time when we climb to the top. Walk slowly, climb slowly. Maybe when you climb up, your sense of accomplishment will be higher. That's all for today's video. That's all for today. Thank you.